FFFC

HBirdie · January 2014

My confession is that I've NEVER pumped and I'm terrified of it. I only have a hand pump that the hospital gave me, and people gave me storage bags and bottles as gifts, but they're just sitting there and I don't know what to do with them. I feel kind of pathetic because I just don't (can't) go anywhere without the baby for more than an hour or so. And I don't really even want to quite yet. But I feel like I'm doing something wrong by not pumping. The whole idea just really freaks me out. :-/

Habs2Hart · January 2014

eyris said:
My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over. It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived.

I agree and at the blessing of Lo's dr he is a tummy sleeper. He will not sleep on his back. I actually read a medical journal from New Zealand that stated that sids in tummy sleeping babies increased when the amount of chemicals on mattresses increased. They off gas horribly throughout their life span, not just initially. We have an organic mattress so I don't worry about this. Lo generally sleeps well.

313Meg · January 2014

Mine is that LO cried all afternoon yesterday. He's on a nursing and nap strike. I am so emotional lately and drained. I need a break so so bad, and going to target for an hr alone once every other week is not cutting it.
So after hour 3 of crying, I was trying to soothe him but it still was not working... I looked at him and made crying noises too (bc I was about to start bawling). He stopped crying. I felt like that was cruel but it worked.

eyris · January 2014

Habs2Hart said:

My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over. It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived.
I agree and at the blessing of Lo's dr he is a tummy sleeper. He will not sleep on his back. I actually read a medical journal from New Zealand that stated that sids in tummy sleeping babies increased when the amount of chemicals on mattresses increased. They off gas horribly throughout their life span, not just initially. We have an organic mattress so I don't worry about this. Lo generally sleeps well.

That's interesting. DS sleeps on his tummy due to reflux issues. We have a "green" mattress for him as well, glad we spent the extra $$ on it if that study turns out to be true.

ETA: Our LO's look really similar in our signature pics! Haha

barnratash · January 2014

eyris said:
My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over. It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived.

I totally agree with this. While my DS is a decent sleeper (I think I'm done with the regression fx) I definitely think he sleeps better on his belly. If he's fussing too much ill lay him on my chest and he sleeps wonderfully. I'm sure he'd be fine but I would be too paranoid if I put him on his belly. He's starting to sleep on his side a bit so well when he rolls over what he does.

Habs2Hart · January 2014

I can't find the medical journal I found before (I went on rabbit trails and came across them) but this is the gyst of it: www.healthychild.com/has-the-cause-of-crib-death-sids-been-found/

katdesear · January 2014

Sometimes I let the baby fuss a few extra beats for his middle of the night feeding just to see if DH will wake up. If he's really crying I get up right away. He sleeps in his crib in our room so he's only a step and a half away.

blondii428 · January 2014

HBirdie said:

My confession is that I've NEVER pumped and I'm terrified of it. I only have a hand pump that the hospital gave me, and people gave me storage bags and bottles as gifts, but they're just sitting there and I don't know what to do with them. I feel kind of pathetic because I just don't (can't) go anywhere without the baby for more than an hour or so. And I don't really even want to quite yet. But I feel like I'm doing something wrong by not pumping. The whole idea just really freaks me out. :-/

I was terrified of it at first too! When we were in the hospital and I was having latching issues, one nurse kept pressuring me to pump to get my supply to come in but I was so scared that I would just leave it sitting there nex to me. Thankfully I finally met with an LC that got his latch working perfectly and my supply came in full force. However, once it did I had an oversupply and would get really engorged so I had no other choice than to pump. Now I EP, pump 6 times a day and it's become second nature for me.

bumpuser10024844 · January 2014

HBirdie said:

My confession is that I've NEVER pumped and I'm terrified of it. I only have a hand pump that the hospital gave me, and people gave me storage bags and bottles as gifts, but they're just sitting there and I don't know what to do with them. I feel kind of pathetic because I just don't (can't) go anywhere without the baby for more than an hour or so. And I don't really even want to quite yet. But I feel like I'm doing something wrong by not pumping. The whole idea just really freaks me out. :-/

I would soooooo not pump if I wasn't working. I hate pumping so much. However, if you ever want to leave baby for more than a couple hours and not supplement with formula...I guess it's pretty necessary. I tend to like the excuse that he can't be away from me because he breast feeds though.

cputman200 · January 2014

renee6465 said: My FFC, I pick DS nose and enjoy it. I'm a picker, always have been. Don't come near me with zits on your face if you don't want them popped.

I am a nose picker as well. My fffc is I have picked with LO's finger. Her nose is so tiny and her finger was just the right the size. Eta: fix quote fail.

hmlynch84 · January 2014

HBirdie said:
My confession is that I've NEVER pumped and I'm terrified of it. I only have a hand pump that the hospital gave me, and people gave me storage bags and bottles as gifts, but they're just sitting there and I don't know what to do with them. I feel kind of pathetic because I just don't (can't) go anywhere without the baby for more than an hour or so. And I don't really even want to quite yet. But I feel like I'm doing something wrong by not pumping. The whole idea just really freaks me out. :-/

You have no reason to feel like you're doing something wrong. My niece is 15 months old and my sister has never pumped, she doesn't even own one. She waited until her daughter could go a couple hours without eating to have a babysitter. And just last week left her overnight with her grandma.

If you don't need a freezer stash and aren't ready to leave your baby...eh..no pumping needed.

blondii428 · January 2014

I finally remembered what mine was!

DS has started this new habit of screaming at the top of his lungs anytime he finishes a bottle. Even though he has a full tank, it's the comfort of his bottle leaving that upsets him. I started trying everything to distract him so that he would calm down, and finally realized that Curious George is our fail-safe solution!

I always said that I wouldn't let my child watch TV until age 2 but when he screams that pitiful scream and that's the only way to distract him enough to calm him down, I cave. I have Netflix on my phone so I just whip it out really quick for a minute or so.

JocelynB0911 · January 2014

I use a bundle me for the boys and did with my other two children as well.

jdebaie · January 2014

I had a doctors appointment today that went really quick (DH was at home with DD) but I hid in my car in a McDonalds parking lot with French fries and a book for an extra half hour. I never ever get time to read anymore and I needed a break!

psychgirl33 · January 2014

I have another one that I thought of reading these. A little part of me worries that I'll bond more with DD2 than with DD1. Breastfeeding didn't work with DD1 and she's always been in her own room. DD2 is nursing great and we bed share with her for part of the night most nights. I feel bad for DD1 that she never got that stuff and I worry that those experiences will bond me to DD2 more than I am bonded with DD1. I swear, there is no end to mom guilt...

JocelynB0911 · January 2014

psychgirl33 said:
I have another one that I thought of reading these. A little part of me worries that I'll bond more with DD2 than with DD1. Breastfeeding didn't work with DD1 and she's always been in her own room. DD2 is nursing great and we bed share with her for part of the night most nights. I feel bad for DD1 that she never got that stuff and I worry that those experiences will bond me to DD2 more than I am bonded with DD1. I swear, there is no end to mom guilt...

I have a completely different bond with each of my children. I love them equally but the reasons and bonds are all different. Don't beat yourself up.

psychgirl33 · January 2014

JocelynB0911 said:

I have another one that I thought of reading these. A little part of me worries that I'll bond more with DD2 than with DD1. Breastfeeding didn't work with DD1 and she's always been in her own room. DD2 is nursing great and we bed share with her for part of the night most nights. I feel bad for DD1 that she never got that stuff and I worry that those experiences will bond me to DD2 more than I am bonded with DD1. I swear, there is no end to mom guilt...
I have a completely different bond with each of my children. I love them equally but the reasons and bonds are all different. Don't beat yourself up.

True. This is a very good way to think of it.

And whenever I worry about it I forget about all the bonding stuff DD1 got that DD2 won't (like I got to stay home with DD1 until she was 18 weeks all by herself without having to share my attention).

happybride 276 · January 2014

I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.

janelleashu · January 2014

Last night I ran out to take care of an errand and when I got home my husband told me that he had put LO to bed. When I asked him how it went he said that he had tried to put him down and he had cried a bit and then after he picked him up he went right to sleep. "Basically, he cried it out" is what my husband said. I was like "wait, what do you mean cried it out?" And he replied that he had let LO cry for 15 minutes before he went in and picked him up. My eyes got really wide and my voice got really high and I told him "what?! he's not even 4 months yet!" (LO is 3.5 months). My husband replied "honey, he is going to have to learn eventually," all paternalistic like.
(side note: my H is a Pediatric resident and knows a lot about caring for children. He does not, however, know everything. Sometimes he needs to be reminded of that.)

I was very upset at what H had done. One, I think 3.5 months is too young for CIO. Two, we did not decide as a team to do CIO. and Three, when he just does stuff like that it makes me feel like I can't trust him and that he thinks he knows how to be a parent more than I do.

The FFFC part of this long post is that while I was "cooling off" and waiting until I felt ready to talk to him about my feelings I was writing my TB "WWYD" post in my head. Not only that, I was imagining the responses I'd get. For the record, you all told me to just talk it out with my H and let him know how it made me feel and that future decisions needed to be made as a team. In my mind, you said you'd be upset too, but that you needed to communicate with H to work it out.

So yea, I have imaginary bump sessions.

mrsmoxie · January 2014

Yesterday, MIL sent MH a message saying that she thinks I hate her. I don't hate her, I just question a lot of her life choices and I don't trust her. (She's the mil that stole $10,000 from us) anyway, my husband showed me their conversation when he got home.

She thinks I hate her because I never like her Facebook posts or comment on them. *insert eyeroll* and she thinks I throw away all her gifts for the baby. But they do not fit the baby yet.

Anyway, even though the conversation made my husband angry at his mom for jumping to conclusions, and she wanted him to "confront me," I'm glad she showed him her crazy side. It just made my husband and I a team again. I finally feel good about us again. Thanks MIL for being crazy cakes.

ajbook · January 2014

Today was my first day back to work and LOs first day at daycare, and I didn't miss her. I was anxious/excited to pick her up when the work day was over, but didn't once think about calling during the day to check on her.

redfallon · January 2014

eyris said:
My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over. It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived.

I wish that's all it was. Emily will not sleep on her tummy. When she falls asleep on me, it's on my lap or in my arms on her back. She's not one of those that falls asleep during tummy time.

kennazebrowsky · January 2014

happybride 276 said:
I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.

Ditto and my husband knows about yal. He calls you "oh the pregnant ladies?"

wlux · January 2014

kennazebrowsky said:

happybride 276 said:
I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.
Ditto and my husband knows about yal. He calls you "oh the pregnant ladies?"

My H asks, "where did you hear that? The bump?"

kennazebrowsky · January 2014

whitneylux said:

kennazebrowsky said:

happybride 276 said:
I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.
Ditto and my husband knows about yal. He calls you "oh the pregnant ladies?"
My H asks, "where did you hear that? The bump?"

Shouldn't your real confession be the famous boy toys you dated? We can all keep a secret? :-SS

wlux · January 2014

kennazebrowsky said:

whitneylux said:

kennazebrowsky said:

happybride 276 said:
I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.
Ditto and my husband knows about yal. He calls you "oh the pregnant ladies?"
My H asks, "where did you hear that? The bump?"
Shouldn't your real confession be the famous boy toys you dated? We can all keep a secret? :-SS

I promised to spill the beans..... Stay tuned!

ravenclaw1 · January 2014

All the jammie haters from the UO thread yesterday would have had a shit fit with me this week. My daughter wore fuzzy Halloween PJ's to daycare. It was freezing here (had been in the 80's, sudden drop to the 50's), and they were the warmest things we had.

She looked really cute.

Violet1372 · January 2014

whitneylux said:

I put much more effort in communicating with you ladies on TB and FB than I do with most of my real life friends. It's just easier for me to have you guys and you know what I am going through. I realize this makes me not an amazing real life friend.
Ditto and my husband knows about yal. He calls you "oh the pregnant ladies?"
My H asks, "where did you hear that? The bump?"
Shouldn't your real confession be the famous boy toys you dated? We can all keep a secret? :-SS
I promised to spill the beans..... Stay tuned!

Af1004 · January 2014

OK so I'm late on this FFFC. And it's my 1st. I've been a member on the bump since April and hardly ever post. I read posts and answers most daily but hardly ever post myself. I've learned a lot from you ladies and wish I'd participated more earlier on. I did an intro along time ago but didn't get the courage to post at the time because I'm a ftm and didn't feel I had anything new or helpful to contribute. As time pasted I felt I'd waited too long to jump in but lately I know more have started to join in and hope this is a good time for me to. I've been trying to post the last couple of weeks to slowly get out there but will try to contribute more and more.

redfallon · January 2014

jennameowion said:

redfallon said:

eyris said:
My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over. It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived.
I wish that's all it was. Emily will not sleep on her tummy. When she falls asleep on me, it's on my lap or in my arms on her back. She's not one of those that falls asleep during tummy time.
After reading this (and going on three hours of A. fighting sleep I turned her on her belly facing her seahorse and rubbed her head. She calmed down immediately but I couldn't leave her that way. I gently turned her but she went back to screaming. DH is rocking her now. Sigh.

I'm so sorry

DD would be screaming on her tummy.

VitaLuna · January 2014

jennameowion said:
A late FFFC after a tiring week: I wish I had @ravenclaw1's take it as it is and confidence with parenting. Every night I am googling on help with sleep regressions and crying more than my daughter.

Girl.. Google's not going to help you. You just have to go with it. My DD is having new found sleep issues, too (not that she was ever a great sleeper). This too shall pass!!! I mean, they have to sleep eventually, right? Maybe in elementary school?

ravenclaw1 · January 2014

jennameowion said:
A late FFFC after a tiring week: I wish I had @ravenclaw1's take it as it is and confidence with parenting. Every night I am googling on help with sleep regressions and crying more than my daughter.

Aw, thanks. That's a big compliment! If it helps much, that's just how I am all the time. Makes life a little easier.

tnt7409 · January 2014

Mags04 said:
@psychgirl33. I know what you mean. Getting DS1 to do anything I ask him like getting his coat on because we need to go out is a constant battle. I just don't have the energy to fight with him all the time over getting dressed, eating, etc.

Glad I'm not the only one fighting the fight.

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