FFFC

llybeck

I'm not working today and I need entertainment, let's hear 'em!

llybeck

I missed reading the UO thread so I have to say we have "Sweatpants Sunday" in our house. Sweatpants all day at home, to the store, wherever. And honestly we wear them throughout the week because why not? They're comfy and warm. And DD rocked sleep and plays to daycare a few days this week. She's a baby, she doesn't care and I don't understand why anyone else would.

Also, I only give DD a bath about twice a week. She screams bloody murder the whole time and we've tried everything we can think of. I tried to do it daily for a week to see if she'd start liking it or at least get used to it and it was a terrible, terrible week.

Violet1372

I am pretty positive DD has been in the same sleeper for going on day 3? I think it might be time to change her outfit. 

Violet1372

twolittlewheels said:

 I'm entirely too excited about Teen Mom 2 starting up again. I can't wait for some trashy teen drama. I need the excitement in my life.

I am so excited for teen mom 2. But I do feel terrible for Leah. That is so sad that one of thee twins is going to need a wheel chair =((

kennazebrowsky

This week has been hell the mon through fri gave made me feel like I could quit my job move to an island and live like Swiss family Robinson style.

Lol all kidding aside it's been a rough, exhausting and insanely busy week. I can't wait to be home in leggings all weekend. I need a drink and vacation.

PrettyInPearls23

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

psychgirl33

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

This kind of horrified me!  My confession: I've never spent more than $25 on make up and I've never bought more than 2-3 things per year.  I pretty much only buy the eyeliner I like (and I just buy 1 a year because they last so long), I get my mascara from my mom when she gets the Clinique gift, and then usually I'll buy 1-2 other frivolous make up items. 

No judgement, I'm just not a big make up person so that number sounds so high!!

psychgirl33

Confession: Some days, I really don't care for my toddler.  I love her to pieces.  She's so amazing and wonderful most of the time.  But there are honest to god times when I just don't like her.  Recently it's been when she's up for 2 hours in the middle of the night for no reason.  FFS, the baby just started sleeping pretty well again and now the toddler is up!  Ahhhhhhh!!  I don't even know how people with more than 2 do it because 2 is already kicking my butt!

renee6465

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

I'm super jealous. I have an obsession with make up and will spend gobs of money in it and not think twice. I actually would have probably spent some of my own money in your situation because there was in store credit and gift cards involved which in my mind doesn't count.

My FFC, I pick DS nose and enjoy it. I'm a picker, always have been. Don't come near me with zits on your face if you don't want them popped.

stephl3055

BIL called last night and asked if he and MIL could come over tomorrow to see LO.  I told DH to tell them we will come to their house (they live 5 minutes away) because I didn't feel like cleaning ours and making it presentable. 

Shanmarie1083

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

Inquiring minds want to know... did you get the Naked 3 pallet?

Shanmarie1083

I refuse to put J&J products on my kids skin, but I just love that classic baby smell... so I rub a tiny bit of the lotion onto the back of her sleeper or whatever top she's wearing. It's just a thin layer so not enough to mess up the clothes, but just enough that she smells all yummy. 

Not sure if that's a confession or a genius idea 

:-B

PrettyInPearls23

psychgirl33 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

This kind of horrified me!  My confession: I've never spent more than $25 on make up and I've never bought more than 2-3 things per year.  I pretty much only buy the eyeliner I like (and I just buy 1 a year because they last so long), I get my mascara from my mom when she gets the Clinique gift, and then usually I'll buy 1-2 other frivolous make up items. 

No judgement, I'm just not a big make up person so that number sounds so high!!

You'd be even more horrified to learn that $180 only bought me 6 things!

I wear make-up every day, but I've always been a drugstore make-up kind of girl. That is, until I got the Urban Decay Naked Pallette for my birthday and it came with a sample of their eyeshadow primer and B6 face "prep spray". Oh my gosh...I'll never go back to cheap cosmetics again!

PrettyInPearls23

Shanmarie1083 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

Inquiring minds want to know... did you get the Naked 3 pallet?

They didn't have it But I did get the Naked 2 one. I just got the original Naked for my birthday in November...I'm an UD newbie and now I can see what all the hype is about!

Mags04

@psychgirl33. I know what you mean. Getting DS1 to do anything I ask him like getting his coat on because we need to go out is a constant battle. I just don't have the energy to fight with him all the time over getting dressed, eating, etc.

Shanmarie1083

PrettyInPearls23 said:

Shanmarie1083 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

Inquiring minds want to know... did you get the Naked 3 pallet?

They didn't have it But I did get the Naked 2 one. I just got the original Naked for my birthday in November...I'm an UD newbie and now I can see what all the hype is about!

It's been so hard to find. My local Sephora had them in stock at Christmas, but must have ran out after the holidays with people spending xmas/gift card money. I have both of the older naked pallets plus a few of their other pallets and I love them all, I just don't know if I can justify spending another $60 on more eyeshadow. Especially since I don't work anymore and hardly go out places that require a full face of makeup these days. 

PrettyInPearls23

Shanmarie1083 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

Shanmarie1083 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

Inquiring minds want to know... did you get the Naked 3 pallet?

They didn't have it But I did get the Naked 2 one. I just got the original Naked for my birthday in November...I'm an UD newbie and now I can see what all the hype is about!

It's been so hard to find. My local Sephora had them in stock at Christmas, but must have ran out after the holidays with people spending xmas/gift card money. I have both of the older naked pallets plus a few of their other pallets and I love them all, I just don't know if I can justify spending another $60 on more eyeshadow. Especially since I don't work anymore and hardly go out places that require a full face of makeup these days. 

I have a $50 Ulta GC that I've been holding onto in the hopes I can find Naked 3 sometime.

kimberlymacrae

I ditched my "yearly exam" yesterday. I am not quite ready for all that jazz again. I hate having fingers up in there and I know I will have to get one again when I get my BFP so... meh.

psychgirl33

Mags04 said:

@psychgirl33. I know what you mean. Getting DS1 to do anything I ask him like getting his coat on because we need to go out is a constant battle. I just don't have the energy to fight with him all the time over getting dressed, eating, etc.

OMG...the coat battle!  UGH.  So infuriating!  I love her, but this age is very trying!

psychgirl33

PrettyInPearls23 said:

psychgirl33 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

This kind of horrified me!  My confession: I've never spent more than $25 on make up and I've never bought more than 2-3 things per year.  I pretty much only buy the eyeliner I like (and I just buy 1 a year because they last so long), I get my mascara from my mom when she gets the Clinique gift, and then usually I'll buy 1-2 other frivolous make up items. 

No judgement, I'm just not a big make up person so that number sounds so high!!

You'd be even more horrified to learn that $180 only bought me 6 things!

I wear make-up every day, but I've always been a drugstore make-up kind of girl. That is, until I got the Urban Decay Naked Pallette for my birthday and it came with a sample of their eyeshadow primer and B6 face "prep spray". Oh my gosh...I'll never go back to cheap cosmetics again!

I do get the value in buying more expensive make up.  I use Stila eyeliner, but have heard that I should try the UD ones.  I've thought about buying some.  Maybe this is the year I'll try out a few new things. 

I actually wear make up every day, but just moisturizer with SPF, eyeliner, and mascara most days.  My skin doesn't like anything else on it. 

happybride 276

We are no longer using crazy ass MIL as temporary day care and I am so thrilled (minus finding over a grand to pay for a day care center). We need the bottles we have over there and will eventually need the PNP so we have to go over there this weekend. The truth is that "we" don't have to go, but I want to go so I can tell her no when she tries to watch DS again. I also want to tell her no she can't hold our son because her other grandchild has been around them with strep throat. I should not take pleasure in her misery, but I do. She has caused me so much pain and excluded me from things that I am looking forward to seeing karma bite her back.

wlux

I've learned so much from you ladies on this forum. I constantly challenge my husband's baby/doctory knowledge. 

(I usually win the arguments)

edit: of course he has a vast knowledge of things that I could never understand and he is a great surgeon but he couldn't tell me the first thing about starting solids or why we shouldn't use certian stuff.....

noelani42

I really want to just bring the baby to Mil's like its a work day and take a hookie day and sleep and watch movies all day...problem is my mat leave drained all but 6 of my 60 sick days and I'm not sure I should be using one for that

jlp0528

starscream said:

Mine is long: I am going to admit, out loud, that even though my son is greedy my breast milk supply sucks. There. I said it. Now, he has been on a nursing strike for almost a month now and I hate pumping because I get almost nothing. I sat there for 50 minutes last night pumping and I got a total of 7 drops. I cried. DH asked if I would stop pumping if he asked me to stop. My confession is I am thinking about taking him up on the offer that way I don't feel like I quit on DS. Breastfeeding is the sole cause of my PPD/PPA issues so I don't know if quitting will make me feel better or worse.

Girl do what's best for you and homeboy. I totally get the PPD/PPA From bf frustrations. Take care of you!

noelani42

I have another one: I found a peanut butter without soybean oil that I like- I bought one jar for work, one for home...Oreos have soy lechitin, which my LO can handle, so I', dipping oreos in PB like nobody's business!!!

JocelynB0911

sabrinakurtz said:

I have another one: I found a peanut butter without soybean oil that I like- I bought one jar for work, one for home...Oreos have soy lechitin, which my LO can handle, so I', dipping oreos in PB like nobody's business!!!

I'm judging you. Omg judging you so hard right now.

psychgirl33

starscream said:

Mine is long: I am going to admit, out loud, that even though my son is greedy my breast milk supply sucks. There. I said it. Now, he has been on a nursing strike for almost a month now and I hate pumping because I get almost nothing. I sat there for 50 minutes last night pumping and I got a total of 7 drops. I cried. DH asked if I would stop pumping if he asked me to stop. My confession is I am thinking about taking him up on the offer that way I don't feel like I quit on DS. Breastfeeding is the sole cause of my PPD/PPA issues so I don't know if quitting will make me feel better or worse.

This is how I was with DD1.  I spent all of my time worrying about my supply and trying to get anything to feed her.  FWIW, when I quit, it was such a relief.  And I really was able to start enjoying her.  But that's not to say that I don't still feel guilt and sadness over it.  Even to this day I do.  I know for certain that quitting was the best thing for me and for her, though.  I hope you feel better soon regardless of how that's achieved!

psychgirl33

starscream said:

Thanks ladies for all of the support. We have supplemented since day 1, I blame the NICU stay for that. Our routine was that he would nurse, get tired of it, and then I bottle feed him; I had been chugging along with that. But since the nursing strike, he gets 0 breast milk because I get damn near nothing pumping. I have tried everything, fenugreek pills (I am surprised you cannot smell the maple syrup on me through this post), tea, warm showers, looking at him/smelling him, lactation cookies, and none of it works. I recently got one more suggestion so I am going to try that and hope it works. He's a healthy and happy baby, and definitely not underfed, it just sucks when I had my heart set on breastfeeding and it just doesn't work out, ya know?

If you don't mind trying a pharmaceutical option, I've had a lot of success with domperidone this time around.  I take 4 pills 3x a day.  It's not ideal, but when I tried to wean off of them my supply literally completely disappeared.  I get mine from Canada (inhousepharmazy.biz).

MegStark

kimberlymacrae said:

I ditched my "yearly exam" yesterday. I am not quite ready for all that jazz again. I hate having fingers up in there and I know I will have to get one again when I get my BFP so... meh.

I also ditched mine. No judgement here.
BUT BFP?? Are you trying already??!! Go you.

wlux

I have another one.

I am married to a clothes horse. Seriously, my H has 3 closets in our house. (I have one). I got a couple gift cards from people because they didn't know what size I am after baby. I am going shopping today after I take LO to her 4 month well baby even though my H is off this weekend and could help while we are out.

 He can't go into a store without looking for himself and buying something.... I just want it to be about me and not be guilted into using one of my cards on him like I always do because I can't find things that fit me these days.

This was also one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He loved to shop. 

jackdaniels13

Yesterday I went to walmart and bought some cheap curtains and rod for my office window (window from the hall).  I am so sick of sitting in the file room pumping and I would like to be more productive at work (as in enjoy TB and FB at my desk) while doing so.  Hope Boss man is cool with this when he gets back in town on Monday.

mmdd20

whitneylux said:

I have another one.

I am married to a clothes horse. Seriously, my H has 3 closets in our house. (I have one). I got a couple gift cards from people because they didn't know what size I am after baby. I am going shopping today after I take LO to her 4 month well baby even though my H is off this weekend and could help while we are out.

 He can't go into a store without looking for himself and buying something.... I just want it to be about me and not be guilted into using one of my cards on him like I always do because I can't find things that fit me these days.

This was also one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He loved to shop. 

I can totally relate to this, my DH is a total clothes horse as well. He shops way more than I do and he also has been reaping the benefits of my weight gain because now, I shop for him. I work for a clothing company/lifestyle brand and am seriously shopping in the employee store for him weekly to get my shopping fix.

Shanmarie1083

mdesmet20 said:

whitneylux said:

I have another one.

I am married to a clothes horse. Seriously, my H has 3 closets in our house. (I have one). I got a couple gift cards from people because they didn't know what size I am after baby. I am going shopping today after I take LO to her 4 month well baby even though my H is off this weekend and could help while we are out.

 He can't go into a store without looking for himself and buying something.... I just want it to be about me and not be guilted into using one of my cards on him like I always do because I can't find things that fit me these days.

This was also one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He loved to shop. 

I can totally relate to this, my DH is a total clothes horse as well. He shops way more than I do and he also has been reaping the benefits of my weight gain because now, I shop for him. I work for a clothing company/lifestyle brand and am seriously shopping in the employee store for him weekly to get my shopping fix.

My husband is the same. He has way more clothes than I do. He is actually a really stylish guy, which was one of the first things I noticed about him when we first met.  

kimberlymacrae

@MegStark:   I feel bad for ditching mine because I know when I get my BFP I will go into my OB's and he'll guilt me for ditching but I totally hate all the fingers up there (and he's a really good exam giver, fast and quick!) but I seriously take the rest of the day off because I get myself so worked up. Guh. Over it. But yeah we're TTC ... it's a full-time job.

database6

I have no problems BFing and no supply issues, but I want to quit at 6 months.  It's just hard, and I know I should feed her until she is older, but I don't want to.  I do love the just us time though.  My DH wants me to BF until she is a year old, and I don't know how to tell him I don't want to, it just sounds so selfish.

happybride 276

psychgirl33 said:

starscream said:

Mine is long: I am going to admit, out loud, that even though my son is greedy my breast milk supply sucks. There. I said it. Now, he has been on a nursing strike for almost a month now and I hate pumping because I get almost nothing. I sat there for 50 minutes last night pumping and I got a total of 7 drops. I cried. DH asked if I would stop pumping if he asked me to stop. My confession is I am thinking about taking him up on the offer that way I don't feel like I quit on DS. Breastfeeding is the sole cause of my PPD/PPA issues so I don't know if quitting will make me feel better or worse.

This is how I was with DD1.  I spent all of my time worrying about my supply and trying to get anything to feed her.  FWIW, when I quit, it was such a relief.  And I really was able to start enjoying her.  But that's not to say that I don't still feel guilt and sadness over it.  Even to this day I do.  I know for certain that quitting was the best thing for me and for her, though.  I hope you feel better soon regardless of how that's achieved!


I hate all of this. It's so sad that BFing has caused so much stress. I understand supply issues. I have struggled from day one and it is stressful. I am so sorry. There should be no guilt in feeding your baby as long as it's not lollipops. Hugs to you both!!

eyris

starscream said:

Thanks ladies for all of the support. We have supplemented since day 1, I blame the NICU stay for that. Our routine was that he would nurse, get tired of it, and then I bottle feed him; I had been chugging along with that. But since the nursing strike, he gets 0 breast milk because I get damn near nothing pumping. I have tried everything, fenugreek pills (I am surprised you cannot smell the maple syrup on me through this post), tea, warm showers, looking at him/smelling him, lactation cookies, and none of it works. I recently got one more suggestion so I am going to try that and hope it works. He's a healthy and happy baby, and definitely not underfed, it just sucks when I had my heart set on breastfeeding and it just doesn't work out, ya know?

You're totally not alone.  My milk never actually came in.  I started pumping when E was 4 days old because I still had nothing and he had to be hospitalized for jaundice.  After about 7 weeks of pumping every 2 hours, I could get about 1oz every 3 hours.  After sitting on the couch pumping while E cried in his RnP, I just decided it wasn't benefiting either of us to keep trying.

I tried all the things you did, too.  The real kicker was that with his reflux he held down formula way better than my breast milk.  It was so disheartening to watch him spit up whole ounces of that liquid gold I was working so hard for!

I would feed him a bottle at night and he would go right back to sleep while I sat on the couch pumping and crying.  It was awful.  It was a relief to stop but I also felt guilty.  Honestly, 2 months later I STILL feel guilty.  I have to stay away from most of the breastfeeding posts on here because I start to wonder if I really tried hard enough, did I make the best choice, etc.

Your little guy will be just fine no matter what you decide and it's important to do what's right for your mental health, too.

jaydamuhindra

starscream said:

Thanks ladies for all of the support. We have supplemented since day 1, I blame the NICU stay for that. Our routine was that he would nurse, get tired of it, and then I bottle feed him; I had been chugging along with that. But since the nursing strike, he gets 0 breast milk because I get damn near nothing pumping. I have tried everything, fenugreek pills (I am surprised you cannot smell the maple syrup on me through this post), tea, warm showers, looking at him/smelling him, lactation cookies, and none of it works. I recently got one more suggestion so I am going to try that and hope it works. He's a healthy and happy baby, and definitely not underfed, it just sucks when I had my heart set on breastfeeding and it just doesn't work out, ya know?

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with supply issues. I want to also recommend something that worked for me. It's called Milky. It's a ready-made herbal tea supplement and you can get it at destination maternity or you can find it online at needbrands.com. It is strawberry flavored and comes in a small bottle. You have to drink 2 a day. It has seriously saved my supply! I don't know if it will work for you but it has worked wonders for me.

jlp0528

happybride 276 said:

psychgirl33 said:

starscream said:

Mine is long: I am going to admit, out loud, that even though my son is greedy my breast milk supply sucks. There. I said it. Now, he has been on a nursing strike for almost a month now and I hate pumping because I get almost nothing. I sat there for 50 minutes last night pumping and I got a total of 7 drops. I cried. DH asked if I would stop pumping if he asked me to stop. My confession is I am thinking about taking him up on the offer that way I don't feel like I quit on DS. Breastfeeding is the sole cause of my PPD/PPA issues so I don't know if quitting will make me feel better or worse.

This is how I was with DD1.  I spent all of my time worrying about my supply and trying to get anything to feed her.  FWIW, when I quit, it was such a relief.  And I really was able to start enjoying her.  But that's not to say that I don't still feel guilt and sadness over it.  Even to this day I do.  I know for certain that quitting was the best thing for me and for her, though.  I hope you feel better soon regardless of how that's achieved!

I hate all of this. It's so sad that BFing has caused so much stress. I understand supply issues. I have struggled from day one and it is stressful. I am so sorry. There should be no guilt in feeding your baby as long as it's not lollipops. Hugs to you both!!



What @happybride 276 said. I hate that many of us have experienced such horrible stress, anxiety, depression, etc. from breastfeeding. It really makes me sad. It's maddening. Love to all you mamas struggling through this!

eyris

My FFFC is that I keep thinking so many of the babies on this board would sleep fine if they were put on their bellies.

I'm not advocating unsafe sleep practices, but when I see posts where someone says their baby will only sleep on them, it seems obvious then that the baby is sleeping fine when he's on his tummy but once he's placed on his back he won't sleep well.

Almost every baby I've ever known sleeps on his belly once they can roll over.  It's just too bad they can't figure this whole SIDS thing out because putting a baby to sleep in a way that he's not comfortable to sleep is just making moms crazy and sleep deprived. 

313Meg

Shanmarie1083 said:

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I spent $180 in Macy's gift cards and in-store credit on Urban Decay products yesterday.

Inquiring minds want to know... did you get the Naked 3 pallet?

I got it and love it!!