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Robynew28 · January 2014

I just need to vent and be honest, and I don't want to offend anyone (since weight is always a touchy subject!) I am not particularly searching for advice, again, I just want to vent.

I started my pregnancy at 147 lbs. I am 30 weeks today and weigh 200 lbs. I am so grateful that my baby is healthy, but I am in tears thinking about the weight gain. It's a catch 22 because I know it's my fault I have gained so much, but I am so worried about working, caring for a baby full time, and returning to my pre-pregnancy weight. I guess I am overwhelmed and I definitely don't want to be one of those women who just 'let themselves go' after having a baby. Ugh. Anyone else having this struggle?

lvlichelle · January 2014

OH boy.. this post is going to stir things up again..

My MIL gained 75lbs with DH.. My Mom only gained 8lbs with me and I have gained 26lbs so far. Every women is different. If your Dr hasn't said anything about your weight gain then don't stress over it.

AriaAmante143 · January 2014

Aria was here.

amdecker1016 · January 2014

lvlichelle said:
OH boy.. this post is going to stir things up again..

If your Dr hasn't said anything about your weight gain then don't stress over it.

I agree with both of these statements.
I am going to grab my popcorn! Haha

troublejessy · January 2014

As PP said, everyone is different. The only thing we can do is make healthy decisions going forward. A friend of mine gained 90 pounds during her pregnancy and has since lost it and is from what I can tell, back to her pre-baby weight.

Missfunball · January 2014

I've gained 36% of my pre-preggo weight. I am just making sure to eat health and keep moving. Personally I don't worry about after pregnancy, my body WILL change. Ill be atleast a size bigger (hips) I will probably have a couple stretch marks, but I will also have the most precious thing in world...

I'm looking forward to being a mom, and I will do my best to keep my body healthy, but other than that I don't care.

NorBar39 · January 2014

I started at 147, too. I was 180 by the time I was 24 weeks and now i am 32 weeks and am still 180. So just maybe you won't gain much more?? Try to walk and cut out the sweets/soda/coffee drinks. I knew I was eating crap and ever since I stopped I have stayed the same weight for quite a while. I understand your worry/concern. Talk with your ob

nlane0723 · January 2014

Hmmm. Stop eating. Obviously, you aren't suppose to gain any weight while you're pregnant.

amandapthompson · January 2014

This isn't going to go over well. I never comment on these bc I'm a lard ass and they piss me off but I'm in a good mood today so here's some advice.

If you are worried about "letting yourself go" start looking for a gym with child care.
Hell, start going to the gym now. You are supposed to be getting exercise while pregnant anyways. And if you are working on losing the extra, it won't be so hard to get started after. Not to mention l&d and recovery will be much smoother.

Over and out!

Moedowell · January 2014

I gained a ton of weight with my first 2 and was really nervous about it staying with me, but found out a had lots of extra water and lost more than I expected right after ds's were born! Try not to have anxiety about that right now, as long as you try to continue to eat healthy and take care of the growing babe, you'll really be caring more about all the newborn stuff when that happens then your weight. And if it'll make you feel better, make a good plan, or do research now into some good healthy eating, and exercise plans for after the babe is here so you can get back on track!
It'll be ok! Hang in there!

aabems · January 2014

I lurk most of the time & maybe I've missed it but I wonder if anyone is seriously underweight and is worried about the health of their baby .. everyone knows these weight posts do not end well.

inlovewithrugby · January 2014

You have 10 more weeks to go! I wouldn't worry about it too much, try to make healthy choices with your diet and add some light exercise - if you're not already - and try to enjoy the rest of your pregnacy. I'm not sure what type of body you have but everyone is different, some of our breasts have really ballooned, some of us retain more water than others, some women start off smaller than average and go up in weight more than the ones who were average weight or bigger. As a FTM it can be terrifying to see our bodies radically change, but it's all worth it!

rockopera · January 2014

Stop focusing on numbers. Focus on health. Eat healthfully and move. Now and after the baby is born.

If it is "your fault" because you are eating for two adults and indulging every craving, that is not healthy and you need to not do that. If it is "your fault" because you have made pregnancy an excuse to not move as much as possible, stop that.

Balance will be difficult. But you have to focus on health. And not the numbers.

And FYI - throwing out numbers and judgmental language like "let themselves go" is not smart or kind when posting in a community of 7+ month pregnant women.

amandapthompson · January 2014

Blonderedhead781 said:
Pretty much how this post is going to go....

OP: Omg I'm so fattttttt!!!!
BumpMembers: *grabs popcorn* these never end well, watching Larry get fed, etc.
OtherBumpMembers: OP, you're pregnant. Get over it. You are offensive.
OP: Omg! You guise are so mean! I feel bad for your husbands and children! You ought to be ashamed of yourselves! How dare you not tell me I'm not fat and I'm beautiful! This board is supposed to be about support!
SomeOtherDrive-by: I'm going to be a white knight! Quite being haters!!!
BumpMembers: Call outs to OP and white knight. GIF party ensues.

We need better GIF parties

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Robynew28 · January 2014

I don't understand the whole "this isn't going to end well" posts...

And maybe what I needed WAS for some people to tell me, "hey, it's going to be ok" (no matter how they said it).

I appreciate all the words, whether they were advice for getting on/staying on track, or just words of reassurance that I should be stewing over bigger matters...

So, thanks everyone.

I personally think this is ending well.

Andreabills · January 2014

Where in the hell do these people come from?

Momstheword83 · January 2014

Oh dear god....if you're afraid you will let yourself go, then make sure you do something about it.

totalbabydoll4ever · January 2014

These threads, as stated by others always go south, this board seems to be tame though so maybe not. Op, look, you are pregnant, pregnancy = weight gain. Get off the scale, eat better and try not to worry about it until baby comes. There are lots of ways to get exercise with a baby, put it in the stroller and go for a walk, join a mommy and baby fitness class, wear baby, go for a walk and do some squats. I was worried about my weight gain, i don't like approaching the higher numbers, but I sucked it up and changed some bad habits. More water less junk = more maintained weigh gain and a happy healthy baby. There is only so much you can do. My aunt gained 60 lbs with her alb son and 80 with her 10 lb daughter, lost most of it right away, it was water.

Using terms like "letting yourself go" isn't cool! Don't worry about weight! It's just a number, be happy you can grow a happy healthy baby! There are thousands of women who would trade places with you in a heart beat! I know, I was one of them!

southerncharm24 · January 2014

You should eat a cookie.

nlane0723 · January 2014

aenordan said:
You should eat a cookie.

I really want some cookies now.

SomersIsles · January 2014

Is this the week for drive-bys? I feel like there's been so many...

AriaAmante143 · January 2014

LW78 said:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/77228317/#Comment_77228317

THE BUMP NEVER FORGETS!

lalaith50 · January 2014

mmmm... this is what I have been wanting for about 2 days now...

Bwagner91 · January 2014

I started around 155 and am 181 now, I totally understand being stressed about losing the weight on top of everything else. Though I haven't gained a huge huge amount it is most definitely one more thing to add to the list of to dos after labor. Just try to start making healthier choices now so it's one less thing you have to change about your life post partum. Atleast that's my plan

nickied143 · January 2014

Is this real life?

KariB509 · January 2014

totalbabydoll4ever · January 2014

FarmBoysWife said:

Hi OP, Welcome to the bump. My name is Farmboyswife (or FBW so you dont have to type out that monstrosity)

Here on M14 you will find two types of people. OK with the weight posts and those who are not. Since you have failed to lurk you may not realize that there is no god forsaken point in posting weight. But here, I'll try and help you since I just got the weight lecture at my appointment today.

I'm 197.2 lbs as of this morning, standing naked on my scale, post pee and poop. I was dry, my pubes were shaven. My hair is about 15 inches long, if not longer. I'm five feet two and a quarter-inch tall. My boobs are somewhere between DD and whatever comes after that. I wear a size 9 shoe, unless they are swolen then I can get into a 9.5.

I have lost 13 lbs since becoming pregnant with my LMP of May 25th of last year. According to my ticker (which is actuate to my due date via u/s) I'm 33 weeks pregnant.

I've had HG, and have taken zofran from 10 weeks until about 30ish weeks, so that has been my diet. Uncontrollable vomiting all pregnancy.

I hope this helps you figure out how to deal with your last few weeks of pregnancy. I mean.. since we're both pregnant and almost the same weight my advice is most valuable. Vomit your brains out uncontrollably until you cause medical problems.

*I am an internet stranger and my advice may or may not be reliable.

LMAO!!!!

lvlichelle · January 2014

@Blonderedhead781 The pic of the baby on your ticker is kinda freaking me out, lol

totalbabydoll4ever · January 2014

@bunnyfungo I have too! I'll have to join you! lol

amholley1 · January 2014

@FarmBoysWife that response was much more underhand dick than straightforward bitch like your other responses are. Maybe that might be why you didn't get a flag. I felt it to be mild for you. I am also wondering now how much weight your unshaven pubes could have added.

I would also like a few cookies from every lady in this thread that is baking some. Tonight I came home to pancakes and hash browns for dinner, and would love to top off that carb party with some cookies.

Edited: spelling

clo1982 · January 2014

FarmBoysWife said:</ I'm 197.2 lbs as of this morning, standing naked on my scale, post pee and poop. I was dry, my pubes were shaven. My hair is about 15 inches long, if not longer. I'm five feet two and a quarter-inch tall. My boobs are somewhere between DD and whatever comes after that. I wear a size 9 shoe, unless they are swolen then I can get into a 9.5. <br>
I have lost 13 lbs since becoming pregnant with my LMP of May 25th of last year. According to my ticker (which is actuate to my due date via u/s) I'm 33 weeks pregnant.

I've had HG, and have taken zofran from 10 weeks until about 30ish weeks, so that has been my diet. Uncontrollable vomiting all pregnancy.

>
*reliable.

Every bit of this was priceless. I had no intention of reading the updates on this thread but am so glad I did! Bravo!

southerncharm24 · January 2014

bunnyfungo said:

Guise, I've already gained 30lbs this pregnancy. Does that mean I should start my postpartum diet now??

You're totes a fatty.

Lbrueser · January 2014

I don't know why people hate these discussions about weight. I won't believe anyone who acts like they're happy about gaining weight, so why is it so bad to talk about it? People act like bc ur pregnant ur just supposed to be happy about the weight gain or something? Who really is happy about gaining weight? I'm not. I'm so sorry you feel so crappy about the weight gain. It totally sucks. All we can really do is just try and focus on the end result. Gaining weight sucks period. Whether you get a baby out of the deal or not. Hang in there.

nickied143 · January 2014

I made and ate cookies for breakfast, I have no shame.

scorch90 · January 2014

Well, since this post has basically already been hijacked, I'm going to step up on my soapbox briefly about these weight posts. While some of them are just absurd and the OP doesn't try to be careful with her words, many (including this one) don't seem that terrible to me. Sure, I know weight is a sensitive topic and a lot of people have self-image issues, but if that's you: don't open the post labelled "weight"! If the weight posts bother you, just let those of us that aren't easily bothered address the question/vent.
Also, everyone has to have a first time posting, we don't all start as bump forum experts. I personally wasn't going to go near the forums because I, historically, have found them mean and time-sucking (elsewhere). Until I found this one; since you guys seemed nice and helpful and generally light-hearted, I came on in and have stayed, but still don't get on a ton. I see how "drive-by"s can be concerning because they may stir up trouble and then never even check back on their post, but everyone's a "drive-by" at least once.

Okay, I could elaborate more, but I'm stepping down. If that was too high and mighty of me, sorry, but I felt like it had to be said.

Also, @lvlichelle I'm glad someone else thought the baby was super creepy!

jessicaemms9 · January 2014

I think it would be better if you posted how you have gained weight etc and ask advice from STM's on how they lost their baby weight?

scorch90 · January 2014

@Laura8388 I guess I should have worded that a little better. You're right, not everyone is a drive-by at some point, that was incorrect, but if people had jumped down my throat after one of my early posts I would probably have ended up as a drive-by.

(In case something gets lost over the interwebs, ^ that is completely sincere, not sarcastic. The second half of my original post probably should have stayed in my head

)

laurstarx · January 2014

I lost 25 lbs and have only gained about 2-3 lbs back. I'm 28 weeks and not worried because my dictors aren't concerned and babys growth is right on target. Just listen to your doctors

futurecody · January 2014

Pregnancy= weight gain!

Like PPs have said, if you think you are gaining more than you are supposed to, talk to your doc. Doc will be able to reassure you that you are on track for YOU, or be frank and honest with you and tell you to put down the third helping of cookies for the health of you and your baby.

Cookies are delicious. Cravings aren't bad. But if you feel you are over craving, don't make excuses. Try drinking more water, or eating fruit to satisfy that persistent sweet tooth. Keep your belly full of healthy foods and you will crave less junk. If my blood sugar gets low, I find myself reaching for high calorie junk food as my body is screaming "Get this baby some calories and make it snappy!" vs if I eat regular snacks and meals, I'm much better behaved.

I have 0 self control with cravings... So to counteract my sweet tooth, I just make sure I'm exercising 30-60 min a day as often as my work schedule allows it. Nothing too fancy, just some easy cardio and light weights. (I've found this also has helped keep my cankles stay in line as it gets all the blood and fluids moving.) even with "mostly" good eating habits and regular exercise, I'm looking at a big lb gain for myself, not that that should matter to anybody as that's what's best for MY body.

Don't diet, but Start good habits now and it'll hopefully be easier for you post baby.

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"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap and tell them about You, but since I didn't get the chance, would You please hold them on Your lap and tell them about me?

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