I am so sick and tired of seeing those pictures on Facebook where people are holding a sign. For example, "if I get 1,000,000 likes, my dad will buy me a pony." I have seen many, many other types too. I kind of judge the people on my news feed that keep reposting them because they are as annoying as all those stupid Candy Crush invitations. (I finally blocked those invitations after someone sent me 100 or more requests. If I say no the first time, don't keep requesting, damn it!)
Sorry if this is rambling; I didn't sleep well last night and feel so out of it.
I think the BLW book was full of a lot of BS. I do think BLW is an interesting idea, it makes sense. But my 12 year old sister does not have bulimia because she was spoon fed as a baby! And not every person who was spoon fed became a picky eater. Not arguing with the idea of BLW, just Some of the statements in that book were ridiculous.
I'm not super happy that dd1 went back to school today. My fb feed is full of people soooo happy that their kids are finally back to school today after almost 3 weeks off because they were driving them crazy. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy with the routine I get from her having school. But, I would've been thrilled to have had another 2 days of her being home.
I don't get annoyed when I see the people posting that their babies are waking in MOTN. DD1, fabulous sleeper from day 1. DD2, is 3 1/2 and just started sleeping straight through the night about 2 months ago. I see those posts and I feel bad for them. You can't complain to people you see IRL because that will be their response, "They're babies". You don't say. But, you know that at least one other person on here has probably had an all out meltdown out of pure exhaustion because our kids are now about 7 months old and they're still waking how many times a night? It sucks. After going through it for YEARS, I will never say it's annoying. I pray for their sanity.
I think most smokers tend to be massive litterbugs. I seriously walked by a lit cigarette on the ground 2' from the darn butt disposal thingie this morning. Gross.
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
My uo: I don't think home births are a good idea. I get the idea behind it and everything, but it is just such a risk, IMO. I wanted a natural, med-free birth, and I got it! At the hospital! Where if something went wrong, they could help right away! I could just never forgive myself if I had a home birth, something went wrong, or the baby needed help, and didn't get it in time.
(I have always had this uo, but it was reinforced over the holidays when family friends, who had an amazingly perfect/healthy pregnancy, had a home birth and lost their baby. I know of at least 2 other people who have had major problems during a home birth that could have been taken care of at the hospital.)
My UO: I'm a Christian who believes humans evolved from apes. Yup.
+1
My UO: I have started giving DD a bottle of formula before bed because it seems more efficient if she takes a bottle (meaning the time it takes her to drink said bottle and be full vs. nursing) and I'm tired at the end of the day with plenty of chores to do once she's in bed so bottle it is.
My uo: I don't think home births are a good idea. I get the idea behind it and everything, but it is just such a risk, IMO. I wanted a natural, med-free birth, and I got it! At the hospital! Where if something went wrong, they could help right away! I could just never forgive myself if I had a home birth, something went wrong, or the baby needed help, and didn't get it in time.
(I have always had this uo, but it was reinforced over the holidays when family friends, who had an amazingly perfect/healthy pregnancy, had a home birth and lost their baby. I know of at least 2 other people who have had major problems during a home birth that could have been taken care of at the hospital.)
I totally agree. Alex wouldn't have made it if I had him at home. He wasn't breathing and had to be intibated. 75 years ago, neither of us would have made it. It's just not worth the risk.
My UO: stop giving my kid stuff!! We have NO room for it in our apartment and he doesn't need so many noisy annoying toys!
I don't love he constant update on how many times people were up every night, but I understand that it feels better when you can commiserate with others. It also makes me feel better about my LO's sleep.
DS has never (EVER) STTN or come close to it. He is the exact opposite of his sister (who slept like a dream and still does). I don't always post about it, mostly bc I can't form a coherent sentence overnight and then working during the day doesn't always allow me to post, but I always open threads that are sleep related. If there is anything I haven't tried that is mentioned I'll give it whirl. I followed what I did with DD and it just does not work for this little guy. So it's not that I don't complain about it (ha, just ask MH), it's that I don't always have time/energy to do it.
I don't mind the sleep post because I'm still struggling and I like to hear every possible solution.
I like to put brown sugar and cream in my coffee.
Hate cigarettes and football.
My UO is I still treat LO like a newborn, if its cold or rainy we usually cancel plans. It's not like he's gonna melt and we live in Texas so it doesn't get that cold. I'm ridiculous.
I get sick of football too. But even more so, March Madness! The only football I don't mind is our own team. Everything else, can't stand it. March madness I get sooooo sick of, including our local teams playing.
My UO - I can't stand drinking coffee black, and I don't get how people can enjoy that taste. My DH makes fun of me because of how much crap I put in my coffee... he says I turn it into candy (probably true). On a really good day if I'm lucky, my coffee gets the pleasure of floating around with creamer, sugar, swiss miss (with marshmallows of course), caramel pumps, butterscotch schnaps, and every once in a while, a few pumps of white chocolate syrup. Bring on the goodness!!
I can't stand coffee period. It smells and tastes horrible. I'm all for drinking hot tea black, though. No cream or sugar for me!
I think the sleep posts in seperate threads are fine, you can open it if you choose or not open it if you don't want to read about it. But lately, a lot of people have been posting about it in the thread of all threads.
My UO, I don't like to complain about DH, on TB and in real life. He's pretty awesome most of the time and I like to think that I am too. I would be hurt if he went online and complained about me when I wasn't being awesome.
If my DH put it out there that I was being a real bitch that day it would probably be true but would make me feel awful if I found out about it.
My UO, I don't like to complain about DH, on TB and in real life. He's pretty awesome most of the time and I like to think that I am too. I would be hurt if he went online and complained about me when I wasn't being awesome.
If my DH put it out there that I was being a real bitch that day it would probably be true but would make me feel awful if I found out about it.
I have guilt about this often. I feel like I only post about my husband when he's being an ass. But he's actually very sweet and I love him so much. On the flip side it's nice to have a place to vent though because I hate doing it to our friends and my mom who know him IRL.
@nykkolaughs I agree that from what you post it sounds like you have a perfect baby/life, but now I realize that's because you don't post about the crap, and I think that's great. I also try not to post a lot of complaining because that's not my style, I try to be happy with what I have. I'm not sure if any of that made sense, but I wanted to say I can see where @libberlulu was coming from, but it's not like either of you do anything wrong. There just no seeing the whole picture through the internet.
Also, my sis kept taking about natural birth the way you refer to it, and I keep referring to natural as med free. It made for some confusing conversations
@kellenhi21 I'm with you on the home birth thing. When I was pregnant, someone at work said to me "please tell me you're not having a home birth." I told her I wasn't, I was having a c/s but asked why she said that. She had just had a friend, a few weeks prior, who had a home birth, mom had some underlying heart condition that no one knew about, after baby was born something went wrong and they didn't get mom to the hospital in time. Baby is fine, but mom is gone. It was terrible. And exactly why I wanted to be at a hospital when I gave birth!
This just happened to a girlfriend of mine. Her heart condition was related to the pregnancy somehow. But, the baby went home and she spent almost 2 weeks in the hospital. Scary. She's fine now, thank goodness. But, it's easy to see all the ways that could've ended badly.
I think most smokers tend to be massive litterbugs. I seriously walked by a lit cigarette on the ground 2' from the darn butt disposal thingie this morning. Gross.
I always step on lit cigarettes that i see on the floor. Its become a habit. Ive convinced myself that the extra smoke thats coming from them is bad for the environment. We already have enough smoke in the air from the cigarette being smoked. When youre done step on it!
Im in NY and NYC is pretty gross. Litter all over. We have litter fines that arent enforced. I blame the mayor? policemen? I think that if people got tickets it wouldnt be so gross.
In Belmar, NJ you get a ticket if they see you throw a cigarette on the floor. Its so clean there bc they enforce the law.
In NYC people just roll down their window and throw garbage into the street. Cant take it.
Ok, i rambled. Can you tell im annoyed? Lol I could go on for days about this. Maybe i should write a letter to our new mayor!
I'd co-sign that letter! I'm outside the city, but there enough to completely understand where you're coming from. I'm sure the extra smoke is bad for something- environment, people, etc. I just get grossed out at the thought of stepping on someone else's cigarette. I also avoid spit on the ground (EWWW). I know that makes no sense because there's who-knows-what on the ground everywhere... but if I can see it... I avoid it. I'm like the kid avoiding the cracks in the sidewalk!
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
@NicoleReed0324 I agree with you on the venting and I'm not posting that in judgment of people who vent/complain/etc about their DH/SO. I am just really uncomfortable with it personally.
The only time I complained on here about H was last weekend when we were text arguing and I said he was being an ass. Turns out it was a misunderstanding and I was actually the ass. Which made me feel like an even bigger ass for coming here and calling him an ass. Wait, one more for good measure. Ass.
@NicoleReed0324 I agree with you on the venting and I'm not posting that in judgment of people who vent/complain/etc about their DH/SO. I am just really uncomfortable with it personally.
I didn't think you were judging it's just funny you posted it because I was feeling so guilty yesterday. After posting in the valentine post about him I was thinking, if anyone pays attention to what I say they probably think I'm a bitch who will do nothing for my mean husband hahaha
I do usually tell him when I complain about him on the bump though. If we are making up about an argument I say "I told the bump what you did..."
My UO, I don't like to complain about DH, on TB and in real life. He's pretty awesome most of the time and I like to think that I am too. I would be hurt if he went online and complained about me when I wasn't being awesome.
If my DH put it out there that I was being a real bitch that day it would probably be true but would make me feel awful if I found out about it.
Totally agree... I don't really like to complain too much about my family here... I'm always afraid that somebody (whether it's DH, in-laws, etc.) will figure out my SN and see my posts and know they are from me. So I'm always very careful what I write just to be on the safe side. Every once in a while something slips (like the time he didn't tell me about the holes in my pump membranes... gah!), but I typically try not to.
On another note, all of the disliking Vegas posts are very un-encouraging to me. We are going out to Vegas this winter, and I really don't want to go because Vegas has never really interested me (this is our first time going)... everyone keeps saying it's so much fun and one of those places you have to see once in your life... So I agreed to go, and our tickets are now all booked. Trying to stay positive! It'll be "fun", right??!
Love Vegas. I'm not much of a gambler, so I only gambled maybe $50-100 the whole time I was there. But I loved the sites, hanging out by the pool, shows, etc. Be sure to go see Hoover Dam too!
I hate when we say IRL like we aren't in each other's lives. I'm closer with some of the ladies I've met here than with people I see in the flesh. This is my real life.
My uo: I don't think home births are a good idea. I get the idea behind it and everything, but it is just such a risk, IMO. I wanted a natural, med-free birth, and I got it! At the hospital! Where if something went wrong, they could help right away! I could just never forgive myself if I had a home birth, something went wrong, or the baby needed help, and didn't get it in time.
(I have always had this uo, but it was reinforced over the holidays when family friends, who had an amazingly perfect/healthy pregnancy, had a home birth and lost their baby. I know of at least 2 other people who have had major problems during a home birth that could have been taken care of at the hospital.)
I totally agree. Alex wouldn't have made it if I had him at home. He wasn't breathing and had to be intibated. 75 years ago, neither of us would have made it. It's just not worth the risk.
My UO: stop giving my kid stuff!! We have NO room for it in our apartment and he doesn't need so many noisy annoying toys!
Cricket81 The toy giving never stops! My grandmother thought it would be fun to get my boys two huge remote monster trucks that are very loud. She thought it was so funny that they are loud. Little did she know that I would send the toys to her house every time the boys go over there!
I hate when we say IRL like we aren't in each other's lives. I'm closer with some of the ladies I've met here than with people I see in the flesh. This is my real life.
Point taken and you're right. It would be better for me to say on TB and not on TB.
My UO, I don't like to complain about DH, on TB and in real life. He's pretty awesome most of the time and I like to think that I am too. I would be hurt if he went online and complained about me when I wasn't being awesome.
If my DH put it out there that I was being a real bitch that day it would probably be true but would make me feel awful if I found out about it.
Exactly. I see women who are raising babies on their own and would love to have a husband to complain about. It goes the same way for complaining about Ella... With my first husband we struggled with infertility for over two years. I was terrified I'd never be able to get pregnant. When I did get pregnant with Ella I wanted and still want to cherish every moment. I try not to complain because again, there are women that would love to be able to have a baby even if it did keep them up all night. And I'm not saying everyone's complaining vs venting. Just sharing where I mostly come from.
complaining/venting doesn't mean that you don't cherish things. it's all about perception and how you want others to perceive you (general use of you, not specific) in social media.
and I think it's terribly unfair to those who have struggled with infertility (there are tons on this board) to think that they can't complain or vent about their LO because they should just be happy that they have a baby?
I am happy. I love my husband, he's a good guy, a great father. I love my job. I love my baby. But I'm still going to vent when something irks me or I need to get it off my chest.
UO: I dont think "men in uniform" are attractive. Thats not to say there aren't fire fighters, or police, or military men are not attractive. I guess I just don't find them... sexier because their in uniform.
@nykkolaughs, that makes me feel shitty. I am one of the ones who is struggling with MOTN wakings right now, and it personally makes me feel a sense of relief and support when I open TOAT at 3 a.m. and see that I'm not alone. I kind of thought that was the point of that thread: to post random thoughts, vents, good/bad news, funny stuff, advice, whatever you want. I think it's great that you have a filter, hold back your complaints, and try to remain positive, but I don't get why it rubs you the wrong way when others vent and commiserate together. I guess I get that it's repetitive, but when I am not personally struggling with something at one point in time I generally feel sympathy for people who are, rather than become annoyed by their complaints. If anything, I would think you would empathize since you went through the same thing. I guess you're not me though. Feel free to vent once in awhile! We will still see you as the put-together FTM.
I think the thread of all threads, thread is crazy!! Its way to long...I've opened it once and now there are like 600+ new replies. tl;dr. Eta:1.9k new replies. Crazy long!!
My UO: I love the "my baby sleeps like crap" posts because it's nice to know I'm not the only one and you never know which tip will work for you. Also, I hate when people post in those threads and say "you should have done this from day 1" I don't have a time machine, I can't change what I did when she was a newborn, also she was a raging colic monster so I was in survival mode the first 3 months.
Re: UO
My UO:
I think Dr. Sears is a nut job.
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
Dislike the repeat questions but read all the words because I love learning new things from people's experiences.
Don't mind the sleep posts. Again, I love learning new things. Plus I'm living this hell right now when last week I wasn't.
Hate cigarettes.
Take my coffee iced, with 1 sugar and milk.
I don't have an UO yet today.
(I have always had this uo, but it was reinforced over the holidays when family friends, who had an amazingly perfect/healthy pregnancy, had a home birth and lost their baby. I know of at least 2 other people who have had major problems during a home birth that could have been taken care of at the hospital.)
+1
My UO: I have started giving DD a bottle of formula before bed because it seems more efficient if she takes a bottle (meaning the time it takes her to drink said bottle and be full vs. nursing) and I'm tired at the end of the day with plenty of chores to do once she's in bed so bottle it is.
My UO: stop giving my kid stuff!! We have NO room for it in our apartment and he doesn't need so many noisy annoying toys!
Speaking of which, last night sucked.
I like to put brown sugar and cream in my coffee.
Hate cigarettes and football.
My UO is I still treat LO like a newborn, if its cold or rainy we usually cancel plans. It's not like he's gonna melt and we live in Texas so it doesn't get that cold. I'm ridiculous.
I'd rather shop and take my goods home.
If my DH put it out there that I was being a real bitch that day it would probably be true but would make me feel awful if I found out about it.
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
I do usually tell him when I complain about him on the bump though. If we are making up about an argument I say "I told the bump what you did..."
DS1 2-26-07
#4 Due May 2015
IT'S A BOY
I agree with this 1,000,000 %.
So well spoken.
UO: I dont think "men in uniform" are attractive. Thats not to say there aren't fire fighters, or police, or military men are not attractive. I guess I just don't find them... sexier because their in uniform.
SS: 12-13-02 | SD: 12-13-02
DS: 6-8-13 | Sept 15' #2
Hi @JANCANDANCE .
SS: 12-13-02 | SD: 12-13-02
DS: 6-8-13 | Sept 15' #2
I still heart you.
Eta:1.9k new replies. Crazy long!!
Also, I hate when people post in those threads and say "you should have done this from day 1" I don't have a time machine, I can't change what I did when she was a newborn, also she was a raging colic monster so I was in survival mode the first 3 months.