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kanned0121 · January 2014

Add me to the I love @zever list!!

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BlondieBia21 · January 2014

BubblyDevil said:

I know that must be a gif but all I see is a red 'x'??? And seriously, it's obvious people hate me. Why else claim I'm a mental patient, or some of the other bitchy things that have been said? It honestly makes me wish sometimes that I had taken my life earlier when things were real bad. Go ahead and say more shit, everyone. It's clear you have to be well-liked in order to have support when struggling. I should have just stayed away after I had LO.

Bubbly,

I have reached out to you and offered to try to help you. But now you're taking it too far. I seriously hope that a bunch of STRANGERS on the internet do not seriously make you wish to kill yourself. That is a terrible thing to say. It is not something that I take lightly if that hasn't been made clear. IF that really does happen, then please get help from someone other than us. I have supported you and stood up for you on numerous occasions and now it's gone one step too far. Go ahead and say more shit about no one supporting you, when there's been a handful who have tried to but you've chosen to ignore because the negative apparently means more than the positive.

I do not understand what has been so bad that people have said besides pointing out the obvious that you should be upfront with your H about wanting a new wallet, instead of surprising him with one. (Which is how it was phrased.) You have mentioned that you guys were having problems, getting a divorce even, so why would we sit back and make you think it's okay to lie to him? Some of us, call you out because we genuinely want the best for you.

I could bet A MILLION DOLLARS that if you were having a hard time again and made that clear to the board, you would be flooded with support and people trying to help. Guess what though, trying to help does not mean telling you what you want to hear. Sometimes it SUCKS to be told the truth, but real friends do not just blow smoke up your ass to make you feel better.

People will always have something negative to say and honestly, you've said some strange stuff on here that made me cringe my face like, What? But, we don't know your humor/lack of humor/your demeanor, because all we have is what you type.

If you are still struggling with PPD and have thoughts of suicide, please reach out to someone now. Once again, those comments are not taken lightly by me at all. I care, I wouldn't have wrote this whole damn novel if I didn't. We will see if you choose to pay attention to the negative or can see some kind of positivity.

AND if we are all that terrible to you, don't come back.

girlmama83 · January 2014

It's getting old @bubblydevil. I've never seen you support anyone on here so why should we support yore once a week crazy comments.

You need help and this isn't the place to find it. I wish we knew where you lived because I'm concerned for your child's safety and your pets safety.

MagPie 1986 · January 2014

Bubbly, almost everything you say gets flamed around here and you just have to come to accept that fact. I really think that if anyone else posted some of the stuff you do, it wouldn't get as much flack but, the fact is that we cannot forget some of the things that you've said in the past.

I mean this with the best of intentions. I have a soft heart and I really don't like seeing you get flamed each week. I feel like you just want to be liked and it makes you try harder than you should to get laughs from people which just perpetuates the "flame-cycle."

I'm not trying to white knight. I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just trying to be honest. Maybe a small bumpcation - just a breather - might do everyone some good.

And please don't joke about taking your own life. If you don't think anyone else would care, that's not true. I would. I don't like hearing/reading things like this and I just want you to be happy. You deserve to be! I don't know...now I'm just rambling..... I just feel like I can tell you're hurting and I don't like it

mommabmb · January 2014

Suicide isn't a joke. It's those kinda of comments that make me not like you, Bubblydevil. However, if your self worth is dependent on my liking you, you should probably spend your money on reinvesting in your relationship or your health rather than a wallet.

Whether I like you or not, I hope you get well.

Soleil3 · January 2014

Just going to chime in BD, short answer is this isnt the place for you. Fortunately there are pleny of others, babycenter, cafemom, just google "mom forums" and you have your pick to find a place that suits you. Noone fits in everywhere.

KatyKatMeowz · January 2014

BubblyDevil said:

I know that must be a gif but all I see is a red 'x'??? And seriously, it's obvious people hate me. Why else claim I'm a mental patient, or some of the other bitchy things that have been said? It honestly makes me wish sometimes that I had taken my life earlier when things were real bad. Go ahead and say more shit, everyone. It's clear you have to be well-liked in order to have support when struggling. I should have just stayed away after I had LO.

2 things: 1. This board is clearly not a healthy place for you if the things being said make you feel that bad. I'd never discourage you from seeking support, but maybe this particular place isn't the right place to do it right now. 2. I don't hate you. You say some weird stuff sometimes, but I don't hate you. You're pretty clearly troubled and in need of help. I hope you're able to find what you need and do what's best for you and your family. I truly want a good outcome for you, and a happy, healthy you in the future.

sftbllstr87 · January 2014

KatyKatMeowz said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

Cake is okay, but vastly inferior to pie.

Yea I don't like pie either, well I like pumpkin pie and chocolate cream so maybe texture isn't my problem

PB102012 · January 2014

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.

PB102012 · January 2014

lindsey61811 said:

It's getting old @bubblydevil. I've never seen you support anyone on here so why should we support yore once a week crazy comments. You need help and this isn't the place to find it. I wish we knew where you lived because I'm concerned for your child's safety and your pets safety.

100% agree with this.

MinnesotaMomma91 · January 2014

christy32685 said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.

I dont like cake but ill eat cupcakes for days and im not sure what the difference

PB102012 · January 2014

LAMuehlen said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.
I dont like cake but ill eat cupcakes for days and im not sure what the difference

I always tell myself that when I have the choice I need to choose a cupcake because it's smaller, but I just always end up eating two.

MinnesotaMomma91 · January 2014

christy32685 said:

LAMuehlen said:

christy32685 said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.
I dont like cake but ill eat cupcakes for days and im not sure what the difference

I always tell myself that when I have the choice I need to choose a cupcake because it's smaller, but I just always end up eating two.

I have a baby cup cake maker, i always wind up eating five baby cup cakes in a sitting they are like bite size crack!

Edited for typo

BellaOso · January 2014

LAMuehlen said:

LAMuehlen said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.
I dont like cake but ill eat cupcakes for days and im not sure what the difference

I always tell myself that when I have the choice I need to choose a cupcake because it's smaller, but I just always end up eating two.
I have a baby cup cake maker, i always wind up eating five baby cup cakes in a sitting they are like bite size crack! Edited for typo

There is a bakery in town that makes caramel corn cupcakes. If I ever decide to give up on recovering my waistline I'm going there first and eating until they have to take out a wall to get me out of the shop.

PB102012 · January 2014

@BellaOso what is the Carmel corn cupcake that you speak of and where can I find it?!

MinnesotaMomma91 · January 2014

BellaOso said:

LAMuehlen said:

christy32685 said:

LAMuehlen said:

christy32685 said:

sftbllstr87 said:

I don't like cake!

I really wish this was the case for me! It would save me a whooooooole bunch of unnecessary calories. Sadly, I love cake.
I dont like cake but ill eat cupcakes for days and im not sure what the difference

I always tell myself that when I have the choice I need to choose a cupcake because it's smaller, but I just always end up eating two.

I have a baby cup cake maker, i always wind up eating five baby cup cakes in a sitting they are like bite size crack!

Edited for typo

There is a bakery in town that makes caramel corn cupcakes. If I ever decide to give up on recovering my waistline I'm going there first and eating until they have to take out a wall to get me out of the shop.

That sounds amazing. Suddenley i dont want my apple slices

janneann1127 · January 2014

I'm too lazy to quote but I love cake. Like sometimes I go to weddings just for the cake.

BellaOso · January 2014

@BubblyDevil -
I remember the first time or two that you posted and I thought you were really funny with a dry sense of humor which I deeply appreciate.

I care that you are having a hard time. I genuinely do. I care whether or not your LO and you are okay. I genuinely do.

But, there has to be some give and take. You can't just show up and "drop bombs" you know are going to get a rise out of people and disappear and expect to do that week after week and then get support or be taken seriously. All of us give support, advice, respond to each other etc. You have to do the same to establish the relationship.

I hope you have someone in your life you can talk to. If you feel alone, reach out in earnest to anyone. Even a stranger - but reach out. Don't take your life. You have to put your hand out to get a hand up.

BellaOso · January 2014

christy32685 said:

@BellaOso what is the Carmel corn cupcake that you speak of and where can I find it?!

@christy32685 -
https://www.icingonthecupcake.com/menus/menu/

You are welcome. And I'm sorry, because I am going to be the reason you gain 5 pounds in 1 day, because they are amazing.

I love them. Sooooo much. The snickerdoodle ones are also epic.

We should meet over there at some point.

PB102012 · January 2014

@BellaOso oooohh I have heard of that place but I haven't actually been! I see them on Groupon a lot though. We should make it a date... They would have to cut a hole in the side of the building to get me out of there after!

BellaOso · January 2014

christy32685 said:

@BellaOso oooohh I have heard of that place but I haven't actually been! I see them on Groupon a lot though. We should make it a date... They would have to cut a hole in the side of the building to get me out of there after!

I'm in. They did my dad's wedding. He sent us home with leftovers. (Who the hell has cupcake leftovers???) It was a wonderful weekend. I almost lapsed into a sugar coma. And everyone was like, "You should have another because you are breastfeeding." Ummmm - OKAY!!!

ashleyamberRN · January 2014

Did bubblyDevil SERIOUSLY just do one of her drive by's and throw out SUICIDE and just dip out?!?! God forbid she is doing/did anything harmful, but more likely otherwise that's seriously F'ed up.

Soleil3 · January 2014

I'm a buttercream icing on cake girl.

And I can't say no to a good pie, this local place in my hometown makes the most AMAZING boisenberry pie, I miss it.

sftbllstr87 · January 2014

So maybe my I don't like cake shoulda been a UO yesterday.. If any of you cake lovers have extra ice cream I'm always down for that

Revez · January 2014

Soleil3 said:
I'm a buttercream icing on cake girl.

And I can't say no to a good pie, this local place in my hometown makes the most AMAZING boisenberry pie, I miss it.

Oh my god... Buttercream

tdmklm · January 2014

BlondieBia21 said:
It is ridiculous to me when people use terms like "blow my brains out" to explain being flustered or agitated. It's not cute or funny and I think you should seriously choose better wording.

Thank you. My best friend actually did blow her brains out, so I'm probably more sensitive to it than people whose best friends haven't committed suicide in that particular way.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

tdmklm said:

It is ridiculous to me when people use terms like "blow my brains out" to explain being flustered or agitated. It's not cute or funny and I think you should seriously choose better wording.
Thank you. My best friend actually did blow her brains out, so I'm probably more sensitive to it than people whose best friends haven't committed suicide in that particular way.

I'm the same way. There are certain words/phrases that trigger some deep emotions in me. Always here to chat!

TexasGirl81 · January 2014

tdmklm said:

BlondieBia21 said:
It is ridiculous to me when people use terms like "blow my brains out" to explain being flustered or agitated. It's not cute or funny and I think you should seriously choose better wording.
Thank you. My best friend actually did blow her brains out, so I'm probably more sensitive to it than people whose best friends haven't committed suicide in that particular way.

So sorry about your friend @tdmklm! My father did the same 30 years ago. Poor choice of words.

tdmklm · January 2014

BlondieBia21 said:

tdmklm said:

BlondieBia21 said:
It is ridiculous to me when people use terms like "blow my brains out" to explain being flustered or agitated. It's not cute or funny and I think you should seriously choose better wording.
Thank you. My best friend actually did blow her brains out, so I'm probably more sensitive to it than people whose best friends haven't committed suicide in that particular way.

I'm the same way. There are certain words/phrases that trigger some deep emotions in me. Always here to chat!

Thank you, Blondie.

@TexasGirl81 - sorry about your father.

I guess my confession is that my best friend's suicide left me with PTSD. And I feel terrible that her children - my godchildren - seem to deal with her loss better than I do.

sfeebs13 · January 2014

tdmklm said:

tdmklm said:

It is ridiculous to me when people use terms like "blow my brains out" to explain being flustered or agitated. It's not cute or funny and I think you should seriously choose better wording.
Thank you. My best friend actually did blow her brains out, so I'm probably more sensitive to it than people whose best friends haven't committed suicide in that particular way.

I'm the same way. There are certain words/phrases that trigger some deep emotions in me. Always here to chat!
Thank you, Blondie. @TexasGirl81 - sorry about your father. I guess my confession is that my best friend's suicide left me with PTSD. And I feel terrible that her children - my godchildren - seem to deal with her loss better than I do.

@tdmklm sending you hugs.

Leosmom13 · January 2014

suchgreatheights324 said:
Saturday confession:

Sometimes I really want to reach out to people when I have problems, but they never seem serious enough. Like who cares that I'm lonely when other people are going through health issues?

I feel the same way. Please know that you're never alone. But I do understand how lonely it can be sometimes. I'm always here if you need to talk!

Lorjo2022 · January 2014

christy32685 said:

NikkiD522 said:

So when you co-bathe.. Do you just sit in the tub together? Can you actually get yourself bathed? I think it sounds like a marvelous idea, but im just trying to get the logistics down.

I think I need a lesson on this as well. Feels like it would work well if I figured out how to do it when LO needs a good scrubbing!

DH always bathes DS in the bath. It started that way right after we came home from the hospital and just kinda stuck. They get daddy son time!
DH always showers right before and then he just hops in the tub and I bring him DS. Works great that way.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

suchgreatheights324 said:
Saturday confession:

Sometimes I really want to reach out to people when I have problems, but they never seem serious enough. Like who cares that I'm lonely when other people are going through health issues?

Me.

you. I'm always a message away.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

hstautz said:
@bubblydevil you have to take folks reactions on here with a grain of salt. I get flamed all the time because of stuff I write or how I phrase something. Just remember that people on this forum are that way but if you REALLY need support they will always give it. I'm not part of the clique on here either but maybe if you want to be part of it try reaching out in a PM maybe? Idk how it works. But don't get down on yourself over getting flamed. The good thing about flames is that they always burn out.

What exactly do you mean that we are "that way?" Does that mean we call you out when it's bull shit, yep. Just because some of us, the "clique", you speak about have truly formed relationships and friendships- does not make us the bitches. You will see every single one of us offering support. But guess what, support doesn't always mean blowing smoke up your ass telling you what you want to hear. Everyone is different, some are blunt, some can be blunt, others are soft spoken. You can't lump us all into one group. You got flamed on here because you deserved to. Did you seriously think using the phrase that you used would go over smoothly? I will never hesitate to say something when someone says something like that. Unfortunately, many people use those phrases jokingly but have ONE friend who's actually done it- it's not so funny. If you don't think people should call one another out then I don't think this is the place for you either. Caring about people doesn't only come in supporting their every choice, it is about having their best interest at heart. If I were to post that I started smoking and it's the only thing to help me not do as you said, I would hope someone would call my shit out, put me in my place, and try to help me.
Have a great day.

CaliforniaDream87 · January 2014

hstautz said:
@BlondieBia21 you really can't help being a fucking bitch can you? How can you get defensive over what I jut wrote? I was just telling bubbly not to get down on getting flamed it happens but if she really neede support the ppl flaming her would give it. What the fuck is wrong with you.

@hatautz wow you're really upset huh? A fucking bitch? Blonders? What a peach.

When has bubbly ever supported anyone here? She comes here week after week AW'ing. It's simple. WTF is wrong with YOU?

LokiLahve · January 2014

Oh boy....

CaliforniaDream87 · January 2014

hstautz said:
. Just remember that people on this forum are that way.

@hatautz how is this a compliment exactly?

amarissa85 · January 2014

hstautz said:
@ CaliforniaDream87 yeah I'm a little irritated . I really dont care about being flamed for smoking or a phrase I used to describe whAt I felt. But it pisses me off when someone comes at me for a comment that was basically paying a complement.

Your comment didn't really come off that way though. I can see how it was misinterpreted.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

hstautz said:

@BlondieBia21 you really can't help being a fucking bitch can you? How can you get defensive over what I jut wrote? I was just telling bubbly not to get down on getting flamed it happens but if she really neede support the ppl flaming her would give it. What the fuck is wrong with you.

This is going to go over well.

I don't believe any of what I said deserves for you to call me a fucking bitch, klassy. How could I get defensive? Probably by you saying we are *that way.* OH, but you were just trying to give compliments. If you were trying to give compliments, you should have phrased it a bit different. You were actually making it seem as if you say stuff that doesn't deserve to get flamed but we are all mean girls and flame you. (My interpretation.) Does calling me names over the internet make you feel better? What's wrong with me?... No, what's wrong with you?

If you'd care to read through all of my posts, you will see more support than snark/bitchiness. Just because I didn't agree with your phrases earlier, does not make me a bitch.

I'm actually a really nice person. Thanks, though.

ETA- words are hard.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

hstautz said:

. Just remember that people on this forum are that way.
@hatautz how is this a compliment exactly?
By "that way" I meant being blunt not sugar coating things.

Well "that way" was not interpreted that way. I bet that I'm not the only one who didn't interpret it *that way* either.

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