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• Cosmic+Love member

  January 2014

  I'm kind of a closet eater.

  

  "The cleaning, the scrubbing will wait til tomorrow,

  For children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow.

  So, quiet down cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.

  I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep."
  

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• bendicott7 member

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  I pick up LO a half hour later than I would if I got him right after work just so I can get a quick run or workout in each day.
  
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• KQuinonez member

  January 2014

  bendicott7 said:

  I pick up LO a half hour later than I would if I got him right after work just so I can get a quick run in each day.
  

  I need to do this!!!  Once I am home with him I do not feel like leaving.
  

           

    
  

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• Rowcate member

  January 2014

  Not sure if this is flammable but we bedshare as well. My daughter is almost 4 and has only spent a handful of nights in her own bed, she never slept in her crib, and so far my boy has yet to sleep in his crib. I keep promising my H that I will transition them out since 4 people in a bed is uncomfortable but I am lying. I love having one on each side and I personally can't fall asleep without them. We can bedshare until they go off to college for all I care.

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• Soleil3 member

  January 2014

  KatieR2310 said:

  I must confess that my loneliness is killing me now Don't you know I still believe That you will be here And give me a sign Hit me baby one more time My confession I guess is that I've listened to this song twice this morning because the word confession made it pop into my head... Now it's stuck

  I "sang" this for my 8th grade lip sync in elementary school.

  
  

   
  
  

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• BabyE143 member

  January 2014

  Soleil3 said:

  I've kicked my H out of our bed. We DO bedshare, but thats not why. Between his phone, his breathing, and the fact he flops around like a walrus in his sleep and we have a spring mattress, I'm tired of him being the one waking me up lol.

  Lol his breathing! Haha my H whistles through his nose when he breaths. I'm not as annoyed now but when I was pregnant it drove me crazy!! I would wake him up and tell him he was "whistling again" he would get so mad! I don't blame him for that...

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• girlmama83 member

  January 2014

  If I had known how fucked up DB's family was before we started dating, I may not have started.

  
  
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• janneann1127 member

  January 2014

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  I'm frustrated because the baby went from waking up one time per night to waking up 3–4 over the last 2 weeks. He's hardly eating during the day, because he's getting all of his calories at night.

  
  

  My LO is in the same boat!
  
  
  It's like a never ending cycle... If you figure out how to turn it around, let me know. :-)
  
  @kwhite27 thanks for your sympathy. It's just men and their need to "fix it".. If they only knew all they had to do was commiserate, we'd be so much happier. Lol

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• janneann1127 member

  January 2014

  etc35173 said:

  
  

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  I'm frustrated because the baby went from waking up one time per night to waking up 3–4 over the last 2 weeks. He's hardly eating during the day, because he's getting all of his calories at night. DH is helping by getting up for at least one feeding, which is awesome, but when I'm upset and crying out of exhaustion & frustration, he thinks he's helping me feel better by telling me that I'm overreacting and that other people have it way worse, and that we just need to relax.
  I know he is trying to help, but I wish he would just fucking agree with me and shut up! Ugh, I'm tired. Don't mess with me today apparently
  
  DH knows that if he ever wants me to lose my shit all he has to do is tell me to "calm down" I think it is a really passive aggressive way of telling someone they are being irrational or overreacting.  Maybe if Dad did MOTN by himself for a few nights he wouldn't be so quick to dismiss your feelings LOL.  You are a better woman than me!  Good luck with your LO hopefully this phase won't last too long. 
  

  
  It's so true! He actually gets up almost every feed, even if it's just to heat up the bottle so I know he's exhausted too. He truly thinks he's making me feel better. It's so annoying, haha. Or maybe I'm just tired and everything is annoying!
  

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• Marvel1013 member

  January 2014

  Soleil3 said:

  
  

  KatieR2310 said:

  
  

  I must confess that my loneliness is killing me now
  Don't you know I still believe
  That you will be here
  And give me a sign
  Hit me baby one more time
  
  My confession I guess is that I've listened to this song twice this morning because the word confession made it pop into my head... Now it's stuck

  
  

  I "sang" this for my 8th grade lip sync in elementary school.

  
  

  
  
  Lol that is awesome. I pretend I'm good at singing all the time.. DS is my backup dancer.
  

  

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• MommyKristin88 member

  January 2014

  flinton said:

  Dh leaves Sunday for school, so when DD wakes up motn I let him feed/ change her. Shes loving the daddy time and I don't feel so hot right now so I figure its ok.

  You say that as if there is a problem with him doing MOTN feedings or changes.
  

  

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• MitsB707 member

  January 2014

  Soleil3 said:

  I've kicked my H out of our bed. We DO bedshare, but thats not why. Between his phone, his breathing, and the fact he flops around like a walrus in his sleep and we have a spring mattress, I'm tired of him being the one waking me up lol.

  Why haven't I kicked mine out of our bed yet?!  DS would probably sttn if DH wasn't snoring like it's going out of style.  Goal for the weekend:  clean out the guest room for DH!
  

  
  

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• tarapike86 member

  January 2014

  I did CIO last night.....
  With my three and a half year old. It took her 3 hours to go to sleep last night. Crazy girl would not go to sleep

  Tara

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• PB102012 member

  January 2014

  RK125 said:

  This one may get me flamed. I get a little nutty when people post on specific day posts (bitchfest, tmi, etc) later on in the week. It's one thing to reply to something someone said or getting a post to a certain number of pages, but just randomly posting on tmi on Friday (example) makes me twitch.

  Eta: gif fail

  
  

  Last week's FFFC didn't count though right?
  

   

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• PB102012 member

  January 2014

  @KQuinonez aaannnnddd I almost just spit coffee all over my work computer. )

   

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• Soleil3 member

  January 2014

  Cosmic+Love said:

  I'm kind of a closet eater.

  You eat closets ?  

  
  

  Maritza707 said:

  Soleil3 said:

  I've kicked my H out of our bed. We DO bedshare, but thats not why. Between his phone, his breathing, and the fact he flops around like a walrus in his sleep and we have a spring mattress, I'm tired of him being the one waking me up lol.

  Why haven't I kicked mine out of our bed yet?!  DS would probably sttn if DH wasn't snoring like it's going out of style.  Goal for the weekend:  clean out the guest room for DH!
  

  LOL. He's such a good sport about it. I haven't always woken up with him, but I'm in light sleeping mode. And no joke, the other day, he flopped around so much I was in that half dream state and woke up to google earthquakes. 

   
  
  

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• LiylaRae member

  January 2014

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

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• Cosmic+Love member

  January 2014

  Soleil3 said:

  Cosmic+Love said:

  I'm kind of a closet eater.

  You eat closets ?  

  It's why I work in construction. Gotta support the habit.

  

  "The cleaning, the scrubbing will wait til tomorrow,

  For children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow.

  So, quiet down cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.

  I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep."
  

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• girlmama83 member

  January 2014

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I know how you feel.
  
  

  
  
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• Soleil3 member

  January 2014

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  Just keep communication open. It took me a long time to find the balance, it really wasn't until the became a little self sufficient that I got it. Most women seem to get it faster, I didn't, but communicating about it to my H really kept our relationship intact. 

   
  
  

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• Lorjo2022 member

  January 2014

  I don't think this is a FFFC as much as an UO but it's all I've got so far-- I don't like putting DS in his swing or crib when he naps. I'd rather hold and cuddle him. If I'm spoiling him, then so be it! He's not going to let me hold him forever, so I'll do it now. And it drives DH crazy! And I don't get as much done around the house. Ohhh well!

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• LiylaRae member

  January 2014

  lindsey61811 said:

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I know how you feel.
  
  

  Yeah. It sucks Hopefully things will get better but I'm so tired of trying.
  
  

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• TrueBeliever925 member

  January 2014

  I really try hard not to judge other moms on their decisions in parenting... but honestly... smoking around your child is fucking ridiculous. I'm sorry... but you shouldn't have kids if you smoke in the house or the car with them. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• BlondieBia21 member

  January 2014

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I'm having a hard time too. It's been really hard (I know my own choice) to become mom and wife in a matter of 3 months. I don't know how to be "wife." Majority of the time it just seems like we are roommates with a baby. I don't think that's how married life should be, but I don't know how to transition. I try to be wife, but I get no "husband" in return. Now I just do what's best for LO.

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• LiylaRae member

  January 2014

  Soleil3 said:

  
  

  LiylaRae said:

  
  

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  
  

  Just keep communication open. It took me a long time to find the balance, it really wasn't until the became a little self sufficient that I got it. Most women seem to get it faster, I didn't, but communicating about it to my H really kept our relationship intact. 
  
  Thanks. We always try to talk but it usually turns into someone getting upset and arguing. But I agree communication is really important. I'm sure I'll get it figured out eventually. I just feel bad because I know it's mostly my fault, SO is so neglected.
  

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• Soleil3 member

  January 2014

  Cosmic+Love said:

  Soleil3 said:

  Cosmic+Love said:

  I'm kind of a closet eater.

  You eat closets ?  

  It's why I work in construction. Gotta support the habit.

  Ba Dum TSss

  
  

   
  
  

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• LiylaRae member

  January 2014

  pfftyouarenuts said:

  I really try hard not to judge other moms on their decisions in parenting... but honestly... smoking around your child is fucking ridiculous. I'm sorry... but you shouldn't have kids if you smoke in the house or the car with them. 

  I freaked out on some parents the other day because it was freezing outside. We were in the mall parking lot and they put their kid outside of the car and were smoking pot inside of the car while it was freezing out. I tried to keep my cool but I lost it. Not okay at all. I don't care if you smoke pot but honestly to just put your kid outside the car when it's this cold is unacceptable and that's what I told them.
  

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• LiylaRae member

  January 2014

  BlondieBia21 said:

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I'm having a hard time too. It's been really hard (I know my own choice) to become mom and wife in a matter of 3 months. I don't know how to be "wife." Majority of the time it just seems like we are roommates with a baby. I don't think that's how married life should be, but I don't know how to transition. I try to be wife, but I get no "husband" in return. Now I just do what's best for LO.

  Yeah that's exactly how I feel too. Two roommates with a baby. I hope your situation gets better soon!
  

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• kkay1982 member

  January 2014

  Starting the 17 Day Diet today.  I did it before I got married and I really liked it. Chicken is allowed in the first 17 days but I am already trying to justify that it means fried chicken and not grilled chicken. I don't see it going so well this time around.

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• Snowbird7 member

  January 2014

  I ordered three pairs of expensive shoes from Zappos, and justified it by telling myself I'd return the two I didn't like as much.
  
  I kept 'em all.
  

  
  
  
  

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• RK125 member

  January 2014

  christy32685 said:

  RK125 said:

  This one may get me flamed. I get a little nutty when people post on specific day posts (bitchfest, tmi, etc) later on in the week. It's one thing to reply to something someone said or getting a post to a certain number of pages, but just randomly posting on tmi on Friday (example) makes me twitch.

  Eta: gif fail

  
  

  Last week's FFFC didn't count though right?
  

  
  Haha! No it doesn't count! There was a goal in mind!

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• KQuinonez member

  January 2014

  ayanahazel1 said:

  I ordered three pairs of expensive shoes from Zappos, and justified it by telling myself I'd return the two I didn't like as much.
  
  I kept 'em all.
  

  
  

           

    
  

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• TrueBeliever925 member

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  LiylaRae said:

  I really try hard not to judge other moms on their decisions in parenting... but honestly... smoking around your child is fucking ridiculous. I'm sorry... but you shouldn't have kids if you smoke in the house or the car with them. 

  I freaked out on some parents the other day because it was freezing outside. We were in the mall parking lot and they put their kid outside of the car and were smoking pot inside of the car while it was freezing out. I tried to keep my cool but I lost it. Not okay at all. I don't care if you smoke pot but honestly to just put your kid outside the car when it's this cold is unacceptable and that's what I told them.

  Are you fucking kidding me?! I probably would have called the cops. I'm totally not opposed to smoking pot. I used to as a kid but haven't in about 8-10 years. No big deal, but to stick your kids out in the cold because you need to get high in your car? Seriously? That's awesome you said something to them. 

  
  

  (Edit: I'm totally not condoning smoking pot when your kids are around at all. I probably should have added that! :P I probably should add that I'm talking about responsible adults using pot in a safe environment... not being stupid and driving around, etc. Much like alcohol.)

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Lorjo2022 member

  January 2014

  BlondieBia21 said:

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I'm having a hard time too. It's been really hard (I know my own choice) to become mom and wife in a matter of 3 months. I don't know how to be "wife." Majority of the time it just seems like we are roommates with a baby. I don't think that's how married life should be, but I don't know how to transition. I try to be wife, but I get no "husband" in return. Now I just do what's best for LO.

  DH and I have had to deal with this too and I think communication is key. Yes, a lot of our talks ended in a disagreement or one of us mad at the other, but at least we know where one another stands. Being a parent is hard enough but then when it takes a toll on your relationship, it's even harder and everyone suffers.

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• girlmama83 member

  January 2014

  BlondieBia21 said:

  LiylaRae said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I'm having a hard time too. It's been really hard (I know my own choice) to become mom and wife in a matter of 3 months. I don't know how to be "wife." Majority of the time it just seems like we are roommates with a baby. I don't think that's how married life should be, but I don't know how to transition. I try to be wife, but I get no "husband" in return. Now I just do what's best for LO.

  I totally agree about the roommate feeling.
  
  

  
  
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• starshower22 member

  January 2014

  I'm on a work teleconference right now. Clearly I'm paying very close attention...

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• Ktbug613 member

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  First I just want to offer hugs to those of you who said your relationships are suffering a lack of balance. Both being a wife and a mom are hard! I don't have any fantastic advice except to say how much of a difference it can make to make time for your relationship too. However the catch is that it takes effort on BOTH parts. If you ladies are doing all the baby work, all the housework, and possibly even working too its no wonder you can't balance everything and IMO your SOs have no room to complain. The only way I have found to balance everything is with help from hubs. We have time for each other at the end of the night because he helps clean up dinner while I tend to baby or he gets her ready for bed and down for the night while I finish up laundry/dinner ect. Everything gets done with time to relax and we aren't so exhausted. (To be fair though we also have a very easy/independent baby)

  
  

  I have two confessions: First I reported my own work to state board....I will be on the shit list now but I don't care

  
  

  Second: I suck at being a working mom, and I hate every single second of it.
  

  
  

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• kwrecks member

  January 2014

  BlondieBia21 said:

  My confession: I feel my relationship falling apart and I'm not doing anything about it. I have no idea how to balance the "mom" role and the "girlfriend" role so that everyone is happy. And sorry SO but mom role comes first and always will.

  I'm having a hard time too. It's been really hard (I know my own choice) to become mom and wife in a matter of 3 months. I don't know how to be "wife." Majority of the time it just seems like we are roommates with a baby. I don't think that's how married life should be, but I don't know how to transition. I try to be wife, but I get no "husband" in return. Now I just do what's best for LO.

  I'm in the same boat as you guys.  DH works a lot.  He is gone from 10am (right after he wakes up) until 8:30-9pm.  We are in the process of buying the restaurant that he works at, and I fear that things will become even worse once we own the place.  DH and I had a long talk the other day about buying the restaurant because I told him how scared I was of this, and he told me that buying the restaurant will require a lot of work now so that we can set ourselves up for the future.  Which I know is true, but it's hard to justify seeing him less now when LO is little.  We are in desperate need of a night alone without LO and I have been putting it off because I don't have enough frozen BM to last her overnight, and you all know that I am sad about giving her formula, even though she'd be fine.  Now that we've given her formula, I'm not as worried about it, but before I thought there was no way we'd ever get to go away.  He is taking a vacation in 2 weeks and we are going to try to take one night to get away, even if it's just getting a hotel room in our city and trying to get back to where we were.
  

  
  
  
  
  
   
  
   
  
  
  
  
  

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• TrueBeliever925 member

  January 2014

  Ktbug613 said:

  First I just want to offer hugs to those of you who said your relationships are suffering a lack of balance. Both being a wife and a mom are hard! I don't have any fantastic advice except to say how much of a difference it can make to make time for your relationship too. However the catch is that it takes effort on BOTH parts. If you ladies are doing all the baby work, all the housework, and possibly even working too its no wonder you can't balance everything and IMO your SOs have no room to complain. The only way I have found to balance everything is with help from hubs. We have time for each other at the end of the night because he helps clean up dinner while I tend to baby or he gets. Everything gets done with time to relax and we aren't so exhausted. (To be fair though we also have a very easy/independent baby)

  
  

  I have two confessions: First I reported my own work to state board....I will be on the shit list now but I don't care

  
  

  Second: I suck at being a working mom, and I hate every single second of it.
  

  
  

  
  

  I totally agree with your advice. But in regards to your FFFC. I don't blame you for reporting your work. They obviously did something that wasn't right. and I also suck at being a working mom. I desperately wish I was able to SAH. My husband literally sends me pictures throughout the day to get me through  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Coconuthead member

  January 2014

  My partner makes breakfast and coffee for us every morning while I lie in bed and play with LO. I don't feel bad.
  
  Also, I am a dirty lurker sometimes on the baby names board. I know I am not physically or mentally ready for another baby but there is a tiny part of me that wants ALL the babies and the rest of me is having trouble controlling her!

  

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