I think this thread got blown way out of proportion. Yes, it would be rude to insist that the aunt throw the shower earlier. But I don't think it makes you "gift-grabby" to admit here on TB that it would be more convenient to have the shower before the baby. All you can do when someone offers to throw you a shower is say thank you and either accept or decline. So it seems like a pretty easy decision to accept SIL's offer and decline Aunt's offer.
If the snowbirds can't make it, I would casually mention to MIL that you'd love to have everyone over to meet the baby at a later date. Let her spread the word so that the snowbirds don't feel left out, and then worry about planning that get-together after the baby is born.
Then maybe have the shower when the baby is around 8 weeks old. I have had three c/s and you should be fine at that point. Even if you aren't, then they would understand if you sat for the majority of the time.
If you do have PPD or baby blues, then getting out of the house would be a nice change.
Remember, people have showers once the baby is born all the time. His aunt is being very nice and generous to do this for you and is trying to welcome you into their family. Not one of my ILs offered to do a baby shower for me. However, she wants her sisters to be in attendance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I agree with this. It's not ideal but doable. And you can always have a shower with your side before just make sure this isn't a surprise to the Aunt. With my first I ended up having a c-section and subsequent complications and couldn't return to work/full mobility till almost 3 months. But, by that time (if thats the case for you) you'll be ready to get out probably and like others said, you'll have everything the baby NEEDS most likely already to get you by till then.
I have not gone through this entire thread, but I can tell you that between recovering from bedrest, severe preeclampsia and a c-section plus having a premature, iugr baby with multiple health issues, it would have been quite some time before I would have been up for a shower after birth. You just never know if that might be you. Personally, I would just decline the shower.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
Oh goodness, please, no. Throwing your own shower-essentially asking people to bring you presents-is the worst possible option here. Showers are not a right. They aren't the only way to celebrate your baby. And throwing your own shower is as tacky as it gets. Just. NO.
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
LOLOLOLOL. And the thread goes on.
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In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
Please tell me this was supposed to be written in sarcasm font...
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In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
Showers are NOT to celebrate the baby. They ARE to welcome you to motherhood. You shouldn't be throwing your own welcome party - someone needs to throw it for you. If nobody offers to, you simply don't get one. You WILL survive without one.
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
In order to avoid any drama, I am throwing my own shower. If you decide to throw one for yourself, go for it! Truly, your aunt can suck it. This is about you and celebrating the arrival of your baby. Throw your own shower of you and your husband are comfortable with it
You're throwing your own shower and whoever doesn't like it can suck it? Mad klassy, yo.
This thread is boring. The drama & cattiness on TB 4 years ago was far more entertaining.
I keep hearing everyone was nicer then. That's no fun.
No no, every few posts someone was berating someone else about something small or utterly ridiculous. As long as it wasn't you caught up in it, it made for good entertainment.
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I agree with this. It's not ideal but doable. And you can always have a shower with your side before just make sure this isn't a surprise to the Aunt. With my first I ended up having a c-section and subsequent complications and couldn't return to work/full mobility till almost 3 months. But, by that time (if thats the case for you) you'll be ready to get out probably and like others said, you'll have everything the baby NEEDS most likely already to get you by till then.
I agree. It's not necessary to give off a whiny and bratty impression.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
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Oh goodness, please, no. Throwing your own shower-essentially asking people to bring you presents-is the worst possible option here. Showers are not a right. They aren't the only way to celebrate your baby. And throwing your own shower is as tacky as it gets. Just. NO.
I call troll.
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You're throwing your own shower and whoever doesn't like it can suck it? Mad klassy, yo.
I keep hearing everyone was nicer then. That's no fun.
No no, every few posts someone was berating someone else about something small or utterly ridiculous. As long as it wasn't you caught up in it, it made for good entertainment.