whats everyones story?

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Im bad, i feel like i have a hard time keeping everyones stories straight. So whats your story?

Im 22, got pregnant at 21 shortly after leaving my abusive and controling xh. Bd was my best friend, we got incredibibly drunk out of our minds and got pregnant woth ds. We hooked up a few other times before i found out i was pregnant.

After i told bd i was pregnant he told me he wanted to be an uninvolved party and got back with his wife he had been estranged from.

I wound up getting back together with my high school sweet heart shortly after. I gave birth to my son bentley on july 23rd with one of my sisters and bf there.

Bd pops up occasionally to try and get me to cheat with him, or most recentley to tell me him and his wife had another kid. But he wont publicly aknowledge that ds is his.

For making it through our story here are some adorable pics of my five month old boy.

20thirteen · December 2013

I still can't get over how adorable he is. I wish I could hold him, LOL.

I'm 29, I was in a 4 year relationship with someone who I was not happy with but didn't know how to end the relationship so I just stuck with it because I'm an idiot. LOL. We got pregnant and when I told him, he kept pushing me to terminate and wouldn't talk to me about any other option, and soon wouldn't really talk to me about the pregnancy at all. He started dating a girl behind my back beginning of December 2012 and on Christmas, he called me and she was the one who dumped me because he didn't have the balls to do it himself. This girl then stalked me for a couple months, would brag about their sex life (I've had sex with him too, there's not much to brag about. Really.), or about how she knew I was pregnant when they started dating but she didn't care. About beginning of May, when I had to take a second STD test (because the girl he left me for is NOTORIOUS for lack of condom use AND before BD would date her, she decided to sleep with a bunch of his friends to... I really don't know what her reasons could possibly be, but if BD wanted sloppy tenths, that's his deal) I told him that all my DD would know about him would be his name and that I wanted him to lose all my contact info. Later that month my BF messaged me out of the blue and we've pretty much been together ever since. Oh, and I allowed BD's mom to be a part of DD's life and she has been totally overbearing, even for a person who is not even living in the same state. I know she's excited and all but she needs to stop asking me to Skype, stop telling me that DD *needs* to be a model, and stop trying to get BD and I back together (because that sure as shit is not happening). BD has seen her 3 times, he actually texted me yesterday to ask me what he should get her for Christmas (kind of last minute) and then asked if she was enrolled in break dancing classes (*chirp chirp* not funny). Good riddance to that piece of shit, I told him whatever he got her, he can mail it to me. He never memorized my address and he didn't ask me for it, so I assume that means I'm not going to get DD's gift from him, which is good, because I don't want to get anything from him anyway.

And I apologize in advance for the size of the pictures, I don't know how to make them smaller.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Roxalot, your daughter is such a cutie! Lurchbaby, i feel the same way. I know tig and emerald are the other two regs. Nicoleee89 was a semi reg before she got banned for calling people on the baby names board cunts

20thirteen · December 2013

Omg, really? I'm glad no one has reported me for swearing but that's epic! Banned for calling people cunts. I love it. LOL! Thanks and yeah, I think there were a couple other regs until they finally popped. I know the first few weeks after DD was born, I barely even communicated with anyone let alone hung out on a message board. Hahaha

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Omg her freakout was epic, it spilled over to second tri boards. I dont think swearing bothers most people. I personally love the word fuck and used it liberally when i was still active on my bmb.

But yeah, her freak out was hilarious. It got brought up she conned her ex into getting her preggo. So i went back and looked at her original post. How did we not call her out?

20thirteen · December 2013

I don't remember her, lol, but if I noticed a discrepancy, I would've called her out on it.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

I had to go back and look, it was in september she said she got pregnant cause she couldnt afford her birth control. When i read that i was like waita box of condoms is like ten dollars

SimpleComplexity · December 2013

Hi ladies.

I met my baby's father not that long ago. We had a friend's with benefits setup that was developing into a dating relationship when I started seeing some things I really didn't care for. I was preparing to break things off when I started feeling a little weird and realized I was pregnant. His behavior really didn't improve and so now we're here.

He has days where he's supportive and asks how I feel and if I want or need something. More days than not though, he's antagonistic, rude, and mean. He makes me feel small. He's also said repeatedly he's broke and can't help financially.

I was told about 9 years ago that I wouldn't be able to have kids so this was a major surprise. Part of me is thrilled that I'm even pregnant. Unfortunately, I'm not exactly ready for the LO just yet, but I'm definitely leaning on my faith to get me through. I'm due 7/7.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

SimpleComplexity said:
Hi ladies.
I met my baby's father not that long ago. We had a friend's with benefits setup that was developing into a dating relationship when I started seeing some things I really didn't care for. I was preparing to break things off when I started feeling a little weird and realized I was pregnant. His behavior really didn't improve and so now we're here.
He has days where he's supportive and asks how I feel and if I want or need something. More days than not though, he's antagonistic, rude, and mean. He makes me feel small. He's also said repeatedly he's broke and can't help financially.
I was told about 9 years ago that I wouldn't be able to have kids so this was a major surprise. Part of me is thrilled that I'm even pregnant. Unfortunately, I'm not exactly ready for the LO just yet, but I'm definitely leaning on my faith to get me through. I'm due 7/7.

Welcome to the board feel free to jump in. We dnt bite

20thirteen · December 2013

Merry Christmas new comer! Or whatever you celebrate

welcome!

SimpleComplexity · December 2013

Thanks ladies and Merry Christmas to you guys.

20thirteen · December 2013

LOL @LAMuehlen I just went to go look at her post and I remember her now. I remember responding to that post after just skimming what she had posted. LOL, I didn't even read the whole thing! Well... I still think its hilarious she got banned for calling people cunts.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

@Roxalot i find it funny too whats funnier is that her whole freakout stemmed from her asking for name suggestions that were unusual gaelic/celtic names and someone suggested padraig then she went bat crap crazy on everyone for not saying her names(lorcan, fagen etc) were the best names ever.

tig594 · December 2013

Hey, I'm a regular! Kind of. Just been MIA since last week due to ice storm, no power, Christmas, DD's double ear infection (and purple poop!), etc etc. My sister and mom are coming from out of state today so they will keep me busy feeling anxious about people being in my space for the next few days. Oh, and the SD has called me over 50 times from jail since he was popped last Thursday even though I had my # blocked and have bitched to the sheriff's office where the jail is that he has a no contact order. Yet he still won't drop his suit against me for joint custody (I talked to him for a minute last night for the first time since November 15). A belated Merry Christmas to all!! I hope we all managed to spoil our LO's a little despite being single parents with douchebag exes!

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

tig594 said:
Hey, I'm a regular! Kind of. Just been MIA since last week due to ice storm, no power, Christmas, DD's double ear infection (and purple poop!), etc etc. My sister and mom are coming from out of state today so they will keep me busy feeling anxious about people being in my space for the next few days. Oh, and the SD has called me over 50 times from jail since he was popped last Thursday even though I had my # blocked and have bitched to the sheriff's office where the jail is that he has a no contact order. Yet he still won't drop his suit against me for joint custody (I talked to him for a minute last night for the first time since November 15). A belated Merry Christmas to all!! I hope we all managed to spoil our LO's a little despite being single parents with douchebag exes!

Damn i thought i mentioned you as one of our regs. Hope your sd drops his case. Belated merry christmas to you too

mommytoconnor · December 2013

I adopted my son thru foster care as a single mom. I am raising my son alone. He has some issues, he was drug exposed at birth and some special needs from this, so it's a real challenge, but taking it day by day and loving my boy.

tig594 · December 2013

Wow. I was getting my foster license when I got pregnant with Aria. I was going to foster-to-adopt one of my aunt's foster kids. Good for you for going through the system. It can be very frustrating dealing with all the red tape and other crap that comes with it. I've met some truly amazing foster kids, though. It's hard not to get too close to some of them and you never really know what the next day will bring.

20thirteen · December 2013

My cousin was adopted as a baby, her mom had drug issues too. What kind of special needs, if you don't mind me asking?

EmeraldCity84 · December 2013

I am 29, 36 wks pregnant. Dated BD for 3 years, broke up for 2, he came to visit me in Seattle (from Ohio where we are both from), wanted to "look for a job out there," and general talk of rekindling things, then when I found out I was pregnant from the week can came to stay with me, he freaked out and will not speak to me. All good though. I do not need him around, and since we don't speak other than my emails to update him on the baby, there is virtually no drama. I do hope he chooses to be involved with his daughter. I ended up moving back to Ohio from Seattle at 22 wks pregnant to be closer to family/friends.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Excited30 said:
'I admit, I'm more of a lurker on this board than anything. Thanks ladies for all your posts and sharing stories I have a 21 month old Dd, and am raising her alone. Married (6yrs), but separated since she was born...husband isn't in the picture at all these days.

Shit dont be a stranger!

rmajbusiness · December 2013

Im 20 weeks today. Been dating bd off and on for about a year and a few months. He has many control issues and is verbally abusive. I decided for my own sanity and health of the baby to end things romantically. I pray we can be great parents together. if not, I'll do as my mom did: be single and raise one awesome kid!!!!

Brittany512 · December 2013

I'm new but he's my long story (sorry in advance

)

I got pregnant with my DD when I was 18 and in the beginning of my senior year of high school. I had her a month after I graduated. Her sperm donor and I were only together until she was 9 months old. He was very emotionally abusive and had (has) anger and drug issues. I took him for child support so he tried to take me for joint custody. He lost only getting supervised visits. About a year ago he tried to claim her on taxes and wanted to pick her up from school (mind you she has no idea who he is) so I filed for an emergency no contact order and we went back to court. Again he made himself look like an idiot and only got supervised visits and he has yet to see her.

I got pregnant with DS1 when DD was 13 months old. I will admit I was in my stupid years (even having a DD and going to college, I still had lots of growing up to do). I found out I was pregnant and kept it to myself for a few weeks, met this SD family and learned that SD lost custody of his son for broken ribs and a fractured skull when the baby was 6 weeks old. I ended whatever it was I was doing with SD, never telling him I was pregnant to protect my DS.

In 2009 I started dating a guy, we were together (on and off) since. I found out I was pregnant in Feb 2011, he broke things off claiming it was a set up, not his, etc etc. When DS2 was born, he realized he was wrong (DS looks just like him) and we started back up in a relationship. He was deployed last year and it took it's toll on him. He came home in Aug 2013. Nov 24, he walked out saying he didn't want responsibilities, commitments, etc. He feels like he's caged living here. We've been doing this dance (things get tough, he leaves and a few months later we get back together) not to mention since our DS was born 26 months ago, he's basically been a dead beat dad even while living with his child.

So that's my story.

*Edited for spelling.*

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Brittany512 said:
I'm new but he's my long story (sorry in advance )

I got pregnant with my DD when I was 18 and in the beginning of my senior year of high school. I had her a month after I graduated. Her sperm donor and I were only together until she was 9 months old. He was very emotionally abusive and had (has) anger and drug issues. I took him for child support so he tried to take me for joint custody. He lost only getting supervised visits. About a year ago he tried to claim her on taxes and wanted to pick her up from school (mind you she has no idea who he is) so I filed for an emergency no contact order and we went back to court. Again he made himself look like an idiot and only got supervised visits and he has yet to see her.

I got pregnant with DS1 when DD was 13 months old. I will admit I was in my stupid years (even having a DD and going to college, I still had lots of growing up to do). I found out I was pregnant and kept it to myself for a few weeks, met this SD family and learned that SD lost custody of his son for broken ribs and a fractured skull when the baby was 6 weeks old. I ended whatever it was I was doing with SD, never telling him I was pregnant to protect my DS.

In 2009 I started dating a guy, we were together (on and off) since. I found out I was pregnant in Feb 2011, he broke things off claiming it was a set up, not his, etc etc. When DS2 was born, he realized he was wrong (DS looks just like him) and we started back up in a relationship. He was deployed last year and it took it's toll on him. He came home in Aug 2013. Nov 24, he walked out saying he didn't want responsibilities, commitments, etc. He feels like he's caged living here. We've been doing this dance (things get tough, he leaves and a few months later we get back together) not to mention since our DS was born 26 months ago, he's basically been a dead beat dad even while living with his child.

So that's my story.

*Edited for spelling.*

Sounds like your bf(xbf?) Has some ptsd issues. My bd has more ptsd issues then he knows what to do with and says some of the samethins about his wife.

But good for you for protecting ds 1 from an abusive daddy

Brittany512 · December 2013

LAMuehlen said:

I'm new but he's my long story (sorry in advance )

I got pregnant with my DD when I was 18 and in the beginning of my senior year of high school. I had her a month after I graduated. Her sperm donor and I were only together until she was 9 months old. He was very emotionally abusive and had (has) anger and drug issues. I took him for child support so he tried to take me for joint custody. He lost only getting supervised visits. About a year ago he tried to claim her on taxes and wanted to pick her up from school (mind you she has no idea who he is) so I filed for an emergency no contact order and we went back to court. Again he made himself look like an idiot and only got supervised visits and he has yet to see her.

I got pregnant with DS1 when DD was 13 months old. I will admit I was in my stupid years (even having a DD and going to college, I still had lots of growing up to do). I found out I was pregnant and kept it to myself for a few weeks, met this SD family and learned that SD lost custody of his son for broken ribs and a fractured skull when the baby was 6 weeks old. I ended whatever it was I was doing with SD, never telling him I was pregnant to protect my DS.

In 2009 I started dating a guy, we were together (on and off) since. I found out I was pregnant in Feb 2011, he broke things off claiming it was a set up, not his, etc etc. When DS2 was born, he realized he was wrong (DS looks just like him) and we started back up in a relationship. He was deployed last year and it took it's toll on him. He came home in Aug 2013. Nov 24, he walked out saying he didn't want responsibilities, commitments, etc. He feels like he's caged living here. We've been doing this dance (things get tough, he leaves and a few months later we get back together) not to mention since our DS was born 26 months ago, he's basically been a dead beat dad even while living with his child.

So that's my story.

*Edited for spelling.*
Sounds like your bf(xbf?) Has some ptsd issues. My bd has more ptsd issues then he knows what to do with and says some of the samethins about his wife. But good for you for protecting ds 1 from an abusive daddy

Yeah, he's got PTSD but he doesn't get the help he needs (he's seen a therapist but that's a whole other story!). So yeah, I guess he's my xbf now.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Brittany512 said:

LAMuehlen said:

Brittany512 said:
I'm new but he's my long story (sorry in advance )

I got pregnant with my DD when I was 18 and in the beginning of my senior year of high school. I had her a month after I graduated. Her sperm donor and I were only together until she was 9 months old. He was very emotionally abusive and had (has) anger and drug issues. I took him for child support so he tried to take me for joint custody. He lost only getting supervised visits. About a year ago he tried to claim her on taxes and wanted to pick her up from school (mind you she has no idea who he is) so I filed for an emergency no contact order and we went back to court. Again he made himself look like an idiot and only got supervised visits and he has yet to see her.

I got pregnant with DS1 when DD was 13 months old. I will admit I was in my stupid years (even having a DD and going to college, I still had lots of growing up to do). I found out I was pregnant and kept it to myself for a few weeks, met this SD family and learned that SD lost custody of his son for broken ribs and a fractured skull when the baby was 6 weeks old. I ended whatever it was I was doing with SD, never telling him I was pregnant to protect my DS.

In 2009 I started dating a guy, we were together (on and off) since. I found out I was pregnant in Feb 2011, he broke things off claiming it was a set up, not his, etc etc. When DS2 was born, he realized he was wrong (DS looks just like him) and we started back up in a relationship. He was deployed last year and it took it's toll on him. He came home in Aug 2013. Nov 24, he walked out saying he didn't want responsibilities, commitments, etc. He feels like he's caged living here. We've been doing this dance (things get tough, he leaves and a few months later we get back together) not to mention since our DS was born 26 months ago, he's basically been a dead beat dad even while living with his child.

So that's my story.

*Edited for spelling.*
Sounds like your bf(xbf?) Has some ptsd issues. My bd has more ptsd issues then he knows what to do with and says some of the samethins about his wife.

But good for you for protecting ds 1 from an abusive daddy

Yeah, he's got PTSD but he doesn't get the help he needs (he's seen a therapist but that's a whole other story!). So yeah, I guess he's my xbf now.

Sounds standard. Bd doesnt want to admit hes got a problem

Gamera3000 · December 2013

I'm another lurker although I really like this board! I'm 36 and I got pregnant with LO after trying out dating an old friend for a couple weeks. We broke up the day after I must have conceived because it turned out "former" heroin addict meant "current user of all drugs" and "temporarily living in his van" meant "homeless for some time". Also his "ex girlfriend" seemed to be his "current girlfriend" who is homeless with him. All this was pretty shocking to me since I have no experience with stuff like drugs and homelessness. It never occurred to me that a long term friend would lie about things like that. VERY stupid of me in retrospect.

Im separated and although my husband and I haven't gotten back together, he's stepped up and is already being a father to LO. BD "isn't sure" LO is his so he hasn't changed his life at all and has been pretty passive aggressive toward me. I've just stopped talking to him. If he makes a stink when my son is born I don't see him getting any real rights.

It makes me sad because I want BD to change and be there for LO, but I can't ignore his actions. My son deserves a stable life.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Gamera3000 said:
I'm another lurker although I really like this board! I'm 36 and I got pregnant with LO after trying out dating an old friend for a couple weeks. We broke up the day after I must have conceived because it turned out "former" heroin addict meant "current user of all drugs" and "temporarily living in his van" meant "homeless for some time". Also his "ex girlfriend" seemed to be his "current girlfriend" who is homeless with him. All this was pretty shocking to me since I have no experience with stuff like drugs and homelessness. It never occurred to me that a long term friend would lie about things like that. VERY stupid of me in retrospect.

Im separated and although my husband and I haven't gotten back together, he's stepped up and is already being a father to LO. BD "isn't sure" LO is his so he hasn't changed his life at all and has been pretty passive aggressive toward me. I've just stopped talking to him. If he makes a stink when my son is born I don't see him getting any real rights.

It makes me sad because I want BD to change and be there for LO, but I can't ignore his actions. My son deserves a stable life.

@Gamera3000 i remember you from previous posts! I feel bad that your bd is such a tool but at least your h(xh?) Is stepping up for your lo thats awesome of him even if you two dont get back together.

jokimoto · December 2013

I've posted occasionally. It was a very busy couple of months for me between school, work and growing/taking care of a tiny human, so sorry ladies for not posting more often.

My story, I'm 29, married for 7 years. My stbxh and I were trying to get pregnant, I had a couple of miscarriages and after my 2nd discovered that my stbxh was having an affair with a fellow teacher at his school. About 3 weeks after I asked him to leave, I found out I was pregnant. He was shocked and in hindsight I think he might of thought that I would lose the baby and that would be that. He did "try" to work things out with me, but I ended up studying abroad for a month in France, during which time he "rekindled" things with his GF. I came back from France and he said he wanted a divorce. LO was born 2 weeks ago today. Stbxh has been over most days to spend time with her. He's actually sitting on the couch with her right now as I type this.

So far, I love being a mom and I feel that in the long run all of this is for the better. Life really does work in very strange ways and as scared as I am to put myself back out there again, I'm excited for the new beginning.

@LAMuehlen your LO is very cute, I love the stripped PJs.

@Roxalot every picture I see of your LO makes me want to squish her, those cheeks

Some pics of my poppy seed.

LoveBug0516 · December 2013

Ignore my married siggy. I am recently separated from MH. We were married over 3 years and moved across country with our daughter in June of this year. In September, he came home one day and said he didn't want to be married anymore, admitted to cheating on me throughout our marriage and told me to move back across country with DD. I was in denial for a few weeks but after one cunseling session out there, I booked my flig, had movers come to pack and ship my stuff and there's that. He was just here for a week for Christmas to spend time with DD and I have such mixed feelings about the whole thing. The whole thi g happened so quickly and abruptly, especially with the move across country in the mix, that I am actually devastated. I don't know how to pick up the pieces or what to do with myself, so I just started counseling for myself to help process it all.

jdias428 · December 2013

occasional poster/constant lurker here. i'm 33, 15 wks pregnant. Dad (28) left around 9 or 10 wks. (this is turning into a bit of a venting session, so I apologize in advance).

BF at the time, I was in LA he was in Brooklyn. Very early on in our relationship he was telling me I was his soulmate, telling his mom I was "the one". It was he who really pressured for the relationship. A few months in, he started to get distant, and we didn't talk for about 3 weeks, as he was saying things moved too fast for him (his fault, remember). I contacted him when I found out I was preg, and he immediately stated that he missed me, wanted me back, i was the love of his life, etc etc.

We were both shocked abt the preg, unplanned. I knew I couldn't get an abortion, and despite him telling me he'd be supportive whatever my choice, he did waiver on pressuring me to abort for some time. I told him I didn't want any money from him, and that if he wanted me it was me+baby, there was no other scenario. When it became clear I wasn't going to abort, he gradually became distant again, and eventually told me he didn't want a relationship with me but wanted to be in the kid's life. Stark contrast to everything else he'd been saying.

He was full of really lovely things to say all the time prior to that point, and in hindsight they were a bit manipulative. But since that proclamation about a month ago, he says nothing. I've not tried to contact him, but twice sent text or email about updates... gender, neg NT, etc. I haven't seen him in 2 months. Still, I have been unable to get over this person entirely. His mother is amazing and a total sweetheart, we get a long great. Which I think makes things difficult for me. She lives in LA, I'm near Boston now (relocated for fam proximity). She's really excited abt the baby, and she would say regularly that she wishes we would work it out. I recently told her we needed to stop talking so I could do better trying to move on. She agreed that was a good idea. This hasn't helped a ton, LOL.

I don't know what will! Time, I know, everyone says. But honestly, with passing time, and passing landmarks, it only makes me think about him more. LIke, finding out the gender, I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since. Like, how could he not care? Then I go through the whole scenario a million times over... this is always in my sleep, it's horrific. I wake up thinking about the situation in the middle of the night EVERY night. And I think about how we talked about our birth plan, and now he won't be there... and I'll likely be alone with a midwife. That's just sad.

I may need a hypnotist at this point. It's torturous. I feel like if he was never supportive of the pregnancy, and never said all these lovely things that I get to replay in my head all the time, getting over him would be so much easier. But I have this idiot hope that he's going to get his shit together and come back. Or at least open dialogue. How is he going to be a father to the child if he refuses to talk to me? I realize, I'm in straight up denial. He outwardly said he doesn't want me. Ugh god, I have never been so pathetic in my life. Fricken hormones making me all naive and hopeful.

Alright. That's me. A work in progress.

CoIvie · December 2013

I was a regular until I had baby girl. Lol.

My story... I'm 21
Her dad was the one who wanted us to be in a "relationship" and he just had to have me back in November of 2012. Then he randomly disappeared. But apologized in Jan of '13 and wanted to come back around me. I kept convo short Jan&Feb even though he wanted me bad. So one Sunday in March I was at home bored and what do I do? Contact him so I can go over and have some fun. Lol smh.

Didn't find out I was pregnant until about 10 weeks. Told him and never heard from him my whole preg. He told someone else he wanted a DNA test... Fine with me even though she's his twin and mine also

I texted him sending pics on a Friday this month. He told us to come by the following Monday. Called Monday and no answer. So I filed CS and here we are

But I love my baby girl. She's 6 weeks old now.

20thirteen · December 2013

I kind of want to push all of you to the "weekly 'aw'" thread and encourage y'all to post some pictures of your babies! And all you preggo's, promise to be a part of that thread when you guys "pop".

@jokimoto cute pictures! And was that a Bears jersey I saw you wearing?

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Roxalot said:
I kind of want to push all of you to the "weekly 'aw'" thread and encourage y'all to post some pictures of your babies! And all you preggo's, promise to be a part of that thread when you guys "pop".

@jokimoto cute pictures! And was that a Bears jersey I saw you wearing?

This, get active people!

Gamera3000 · December 2013

Everyone should post on this forum more! I stopped posting in my birth month forum months ago because so many of the girls there are straight up mean. Everyone is really supportive over here in SP!

20thirteen · December 2013

Oh yeah, I had a legit question about my baby shower and suddenly, every woman on my birth month board felt the need to scream at me. I was like "wow... just... just wow..."

So I just responded as calmly as possible like "and this is why I'm never on this board. Because you ladies are just plain awful." Obviously worded differently.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Roxalot said:
Oh yeah, I had a legit question about my baby shower and suddenly, every woman on my birth month board felt the need to scream at me. I was like "wow... just... just wow..."

So I just responded as calmly as possible like "and this is why I'm never on this board. Because you ladies are just plain awful." Obviously worded differently.

My bmb is pretty snarky and i like a few ladies over there, but i dont feel comfortable talking about single mom problems over there

20thirteen · December 2013

Oh yeah, no. I brought it up once and they were like "I don't know how I would manage without my husband!" and I was like "well, I have to manage without my BD... I don't really have a choice..."

And it always bugged me when they complained that their husbands weren't doing something right or bending to their every whim. I mean, my dad was around to help me, and I was pretty grateful for that, even if he didn't complete a list of chores I made for him (he's also disabled, so he can't do too much at one time). So, I tried to bite my tongue whenever I read those posts. Especially when they went off on me for something they thought was mundane but really isn't for someone who is not married or dating (which I wasn't at the time)

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Roxalot said:
Oh yeah, no. I brought it up once and they were like "I don't know how I would manage without my husband!" and I was like "well, I have to manage without my BD... I don't really have a choice..."

And it always bugged me when they complained that their husbands weren't doing something right or bending to their every whim. I mean, my dad was around to help me, and I was pretty grateful for that, even if he didn't complete a list of chores I made for him (he's also disabled, so he can't do too much at one time). So, I tried to bite my tongue whenever I read those posts. Especially when they went off on me for something they thought was mundane but really isn't for someone who is not married or dating (which I wasn't at the time)

Omg this! I get so friggin annoyed when they are all posting about me time. Wtf is that? I shower with my kid in the bathroom, i dont have someone there for me to have me time. Bf lives two hours away and my sisters have their own kids.

They also dont understand the whole blended family thing. Sorry thats what bf our sons and i are

20thirteen · December 2013

LOL @ "me time". When I get a babysitter, it's so that my bf and I can have "us time". "Me time"? Riiight... My "me time" is the short window of time she naps and I get to take a piss without having to entertain a 6mo old at the same time.

MinnesotaMomma91 · December 2013

Haha bf and is us time is when both the kids are asleep. We still havent dtd haha so when moms on my bmb are talking about it im like hahaha. Were not doing that

Rae1105 · December 2013

So I intro-ed awhile back but then got a promotion and have had hardly any time to post anymore SO I will give you my story again! Beware, it's long. (TWHS)

I'm 24, DS is 5 months old. I got pregnant with him 5 days after my birthday (yeah I know the exact date, that was the kind of relationship I was in). BD was emotionally abusive and I ended the relationship after finding out I was pregnant because the stress was not good for me or the baby. I tried to keep him in the loop and involved, but he blocked all forms of communication with me throughout the whole pregnancy. I filed for CS in March. DS was born at the end of July, and the night he was born BD contacted me trying to get back into our lives. I decided to give him a chance to prove he changed his ways, so he was around for about 2 weeks, until Labor Day. He went back to his old ways when I told him we would not be dating and that I wanted to focus on being parents first and foremost and go from there. He up and stopped answering texts, emails calls everything, He started dating a new girl on 9/13. He called me cussing because we had a Child Support conference on September 18th. He never showed, so I filed without him. He refused to sign it, and requested a DNA test. He got the results and finally signed the paperwork on December 13th. In the paperwork, I set up a modified visitation schedule that says he has to complete phases before general custody goes into effect. He had the first visitation on December 21st and was flirting and cutting up and being really nice and the guy I fell for at first. Yesterday, a friend of a friend sent me the link to his new girlfriends facebook. I pull it up and lo and behold, she is pregnant with his 3rd child. Far enough to know it is a little girl. He still has no idea that I know about it and is STILL trying talk and flirt and what not with me.

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