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Devastated Again

This time is worse. After having the baby with us at the hotel for 34 hours and bonding. BM had police show up and take the baby from us this evening. Words cannot express the pain. I think we might be done trying to start a family.
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Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


Re: Devastated Again

  • ??? How is that possible? I am so, so sorry. :( Hugs and prayers going out to you.
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  • Oh honey I'm so sorry.
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  • The police?! I would think there are other options other than the police!  I am so sorry! Big, big ((((HUGS)))) coming your way! 

    J&B // Married 9/19/09
    J: 28 // B: 32 

    TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009)
    November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency
    January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles
    February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
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  • My heart breaks for you. Hugs and prayers to you.
    Blessed with 2 amazing little boys. One grew in my tummy and the other my heart.

    06/30/10 my 1st son was born on my birthday. 
    TTC #2 since 05/2011 BFP- Feb 2012, EDD- 11/01/12, m/c- 03/05/12 @ 5w+4d 
    12/20/13 my 2nd son was born and placed in my arms.
    Surprise BFP- Nov 2014, EDD- 8/06/215, mc 12/24/2015 @ 8w+6d
    SURPRISE - BFP- 4/8/2105

  • I'm so sorry. What the heck happened?
  • I'm so sorry
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  • can't imagine what you are going through right now.....heartbreaking.
  • Oh, I am so truly sorry. I wish I could give you a hug.
    TTC since June 2010
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  • NO!!!! Oh my goodness I am completely heart broken for you. How horrible for you to have faced so much in your journey, it's insanely unfair. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and hoping that you have people who can help care for you as you nurse your broken hearts. Again. So so so many internet hugs coming your way.
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  • Oh my gosh, IRR. This is so horrible.
  • Oh, IRR, I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you.
  • I'm so very sorry this has happened to you. *Hugs*
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  • I am so very sorry. My heart is broken for you.
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  • Nothing I can say will help ease your pain but please know that you & your family are in my prayers. Cling tight to your love of each other and may God help you find peace. *Hugs*
  • I am so so sorry.  Words can not help I know but I am thinking of you and you will be in my prayers.
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  • I saw the title of this post and said "no, no, please don't let it be her..." I can't even...eff....dammit. I am so so immensely sorry. This just sucks.
  • I am so deeply sorry.
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  • So very sorry for your loss. I've been thinking and praying for you both.
    Birthmom to A, 1/8- the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

    A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao-Tzu

  • I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

  • So sorry this happened.  I just have no words. :(
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  • I am so sorry . That's terrible.

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  • So sorry... prayers are with you
    Me-37, DH-38
    Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012

    Baby Boy born June 1, 2015

    He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
    And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)

  • I'm so sorry this happened to you.
  • I'm so sorry. I can't believe they called the police.
  • I'm very sorry this has happened to you. Will be keeping you in thoughts and prayers
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  • I am so sorry to hear this!  I can not imagine how difficult this is for you and really wish you and your husband the best for recovering from this. 
    TTC #1 9/11-12/12, 9/12 Dx: Hypothyroid + DOR (AMH .76), IUI #1 & #2 BFN's
    1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
    10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed  5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
    3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
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  • I am SO sorry!! My heart breaks for you.
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  • I am so, so sorry.

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

  • So sorry! I totally get your feeling of "I'm done with adoption!" Im not sure what happened the first time for you but we had our daughter after 2 fell through. I know of another couple who had two fall through as well, one on the way to the hospital and one after they brought the baby home and then had to take her back.  My heart goes out to you!  You are not alone.  
  • Thinking of you this week, IRR!
  • Thinking of you this week, IRR!
    Thanks CS, having a really tough day today.
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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


  • I'm so sorry, and wish I could take all the hurt away.
  • I'm so very sorry. :(


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  • I haven't been on the adoption boards much lately but came over and was so sad to see this. I don't know how anyone can handle what you've been through.  You are so strong and I pray that you get your family some how some day.  I am so sorry..
    Married Since 09/2006, TTC Since 09/2010 
    DX: Unexplained infertility, DH normal 
    3 Femara cycles - Oct, Nov, Dec 2011, all BFNs 
    IVF #1, ER 2/15 (5R, 4M, 4F), ET 2/18, Beta 2/29 = BFN :( 
    Follistim + IUI on 6/25 = BFN 
    Home Study Finalized 8/14/12! Profile Active - 8/17/12! 
    Officially Matched 8/29/12, Our perfect angel born 9/25/12! 
    Biggest surprise ever, unexpected BFP on 4/12/13! 

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  • ((Hugs)) I am so sorry..



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    TTC with nurse practitioner 2013
    2 clomid cycles- both bfn, started seeing RE 2013 
    FEBUARY PLAN-HSG|| March Game plan-FEMARA IUI+TRIGGER 
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  • Wow I am so sorry, I can't even imagine.

    If you ever feel ready again, you might want to look into adopting from Florida. Lots of people come here because our laws are very much in favor of the adoptive parent. Our birth mother couldn't sign TPR until 48 hours after birth, or until she checked out of the hospital whichever came first. Once TPR was signed the only way it could be nullified is if she could prove she was still medicated from birth, or she had been co-erced. Our agency said the only way we won't finalize is if we are found to be abbusive, negligent, or an act of God. I know you are probably not ready to think of this, but just planting the seeds. If the desire is in your heart, I doubt it will go away for good until you have one at home. 
  • I'm so sorry.
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    4/11 Started adoption process for 2 siblings through DCF. 10/12 Found out we are licensed! 12/14 Brought 3 week old identical twin girls home from the hospital.  Could be at least until Summer 1015 til we know if they are forever ours
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