This time is worse. After having the baby with us at the hotel for 34 hours and bonding. BM had police show up and take the baby from us this evening. Words cannot express the pain. I think we might be done trying to start a family.
Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15
The police?! I would think there are other options other than the police! I am so sorry! Big, big ((((HUGS)))) coming your way!
J&B // Married 9/19/09
J: 28 // B: 32
TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009) November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
NO!!!! Oh my goodness I am completely heart broken for you. How horrible for you to have faced so much in your journey, it's insanely unfair. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and hoping that you have people who can help care for you as you nurse your broken hearts. Again. So so so many internet hugs coming your way.
Nothing I can say will help ease your pain but please know that you & your family are in my prayers. Cling tight to your love of each other and may God help you find peace. *Hugs*
I saw the title of this post and said "no, no, please don't let it be her..." I can't even...eff....dammit. I am so so immensely sorry. This just sucks.
After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption! We are so excited to see what the future holds.
So sorry! I totally get your feeling of "I'm done with adoption!" Im not sure what happened the first time for you but we had our daughter after 2 fell through. I know of another couple who had two fall through as well, one on the way to the hospital and one after they brought the baby home and then had to take her back. My heart goes out to you! You are not alone.
I haven't been on the adoption boards much lately but came over and was so sad to see this. I don't know how anyone can handle what you've been through. You are so strong and I pray that you get your family some how some day. I am so sorry..
Married Since 09/2006, TTC Since 09/2010
DX: Unexplained infertility, DH normal
3 Femara cycles - Oct, Nov, Dec 2011, all BFNs
IVF #1, ER 2/15 (5R, 4M, 4F), ET 2/18, Beta 2/29 = BFN
Follistim + IUI on 6/25 = BFN
Home Study Finalized 8/14/12! Profile Active - 8/17/12!
Officially Matched 8/29/12, Our perfect angel born 9/25/12!
If you ever feel ready again, you might want to look into adopting from Florida. Lots of people come here because our laws are very much in favor of the adoptive parent. Our birth mother couldn't sign TPR until 48 hours after birth, or until she checked out of the hospital whichever came first. Once TPR was signed the only way it could be nullified is if she could prove she was still medicated from birth, or she had been co-erced. Our agency said the only way we won't finalize is if we are found to be abbusive, negligent, or an act of God. I know you are probably not ready to think of this, but just planting the seeds. If the desire is in your heart, I doubt it will go away for good until you have one at home.
5/10 - Gideon 6/12 Warren 4/11 Started adoption process for 2 siblings through DCF. 10/12 Found out we are licensed! 12/14 Brought 3 week old identical twin girls home from the hospital. Could be at least until Summer 1015 til we know if they are forever ours
Re: Devastated Again
TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009)
November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency
January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles
February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
5 Angels
Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.
1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed 5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption! We are so excited to see what the future holds.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
5/10 - Gideon 6/12 Warren
4/11 Started adoption process for 2 siblings through DCF. 10/12 Found out we are licensed! 12/14 Brought 3 week old identical twin girls home from the hospital. Could be at least until Summer 1015 til we know if they are forever ours