I'm a first time mom in my 30s. I see all these 20 something's with babies and I don't know how they do it. This has been such a confusing, frustrating, painful, exhausting experience already - and I feel like I should be able to handle this by my age. Instead I'm a zoo. And have no pregnant friends here and could use some
Re: First timer in your 30s?
I am a FTM and I am 39 (will be 40 when the LO arrives). I am amazed at what I didn't know. You are not alone in that feeling... believe me My DH and I were sort of trying, and I am still surprised that it happened and feel all sorts of different emotions about the whole thing.
I guess... Welcome to the madness
8-}Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow may never come. There is only the miracle of this moment. Savour it. It is a gift.
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Prepping TC - 1/2012 - TTC 4/13 **Prepregnancy diabetic - Hypertension - PCOS - Hypothyroidism** BFP#1 - 11/27/13 -EDD -- 7/26/14 - Lost our little sprite on 1/1714BFP#2 - 6/13/14 -- EDD - 2/12/15 -- 10wk U/S -172 HBM & right on track11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Systemic Lupus Erythematosus
TTC Post Chemotherapy
Unexplained Infertility
DH- SA Normal, Lap on 8/8/13
BFP! 11/7/13 EDD 07/15/14 changed to 07/23/14 after first u/s
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My mom had me, her only, at 40....I'm confident we can do this!
I do still have many days where I think "what the heck am I doing?!" though. This will be a big lifestyle change, but worth it.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
I turned 30 just 5 weeks after I had DD. I also am a special ed teacher for preschoolers with really intense needs. 1 baby was going to be a breeze. Hah! I was an emotional wreck. I couldn't deal with DD crying but as soon as DH would take her I'd snatch her back because I couldn't stand her crying with anyone else. What shocked me was how her crying wrecked me physiologically. I FELT crazy when she would cry. This pg has been a bit easier on me (really sick feeling but only threw up twice this time around) but I'm betting 3rd tri kicks my ass hard.
I would have loved to have been a mom in my 20's but I think being in my 30's has helped me be more confident in my choices as a parent and stand up to others who think they should have an opinion (MIL).
First timer here, I'm 30...will be 31 when LO arrives. I feel totally clueless too...and honestly I've been feeling so sick that it's been hard to "enjoy" feeling pregnant so far. I hope that feeling comes soon!! Just started my 12th week so hopefully the sickness calms down...
I'm sure you will all be wonderful mothers!
Travelling, selfishness and career all took priority until recently and am so happy I got a lot of that out of my system. I definitely feel ready to start this new chapter of my life.
That was then, but right now I can set her on my knee, hold her with one hand and change the nappy with the other hand and I could probably do it blindfolded too, well that's an exaggeration lol but yeah the past 9-10 months have been a real learning curve for me and honestly right now it just comes naturally having done it day in day out for months all by myself. I had no help whatsoever right from the start and although I found it tough I look back now and think wow I really surprised myself how well I coped with absolutely no previous experience of looking after a baby at all.
You cope, you will learn. For the first few months I'd go to bed thinking how badly things had went that day and there were days when I'd just sit and cry but one day something just clicked into place- I bathed her and she didn't cry!, and that one moment made me realise that I can do it and I have done it and knowing I have looked after her all by myself for this length of time feels amazing.
My fiancé and I live together but he didn't help as he was away at work all day and even worked a lot of weekends etc just to try to further himself in his job. It's all paid off now as he has been offered a better job and we are moving to a different city in the new year.
You really do cope, don't be hard on yourself when you get things wrong, you will get things wrong but that's normal everyone does this.
For what it's worth I'm glad I waited until I was in my thirties, I have no desire to go out partying anymore lol.