Gender disapointment

jennypenny1014 · December 2013

Ninamor2jj said:
Now I flagged you bitch jennipenny oops spelt it wrong again maybe you should not reply to people's post period especially since you really don't have anything nice to say.

I have plenty of nice things to say when I feel the post/poster warrants it. I also have plenty of snark for those that deserve it. Perhaps you should stop being such a twatwaffle and GBCB already.

nicole mackenzie · December 2013

Ninamor2jj said:

Ninamor2jj said:
My husband is blaming me for being pregnant with
our third girl. We both hoped we were having a boy, and when we found out it was a girl it broke out hearts because this is to be our last baby. I got over it two days later and came to terms with the fact that as long as she was healthy that's all I cared about but my husband seemed to have stopped talking to me. He just stopped being affectionate, he started sleeping on the couch, and if I would even bring up anything about the baby he would just say uhuh and not speak to me about it again. He finally opened up to me after not talking to me for two weeks and he blames me. He pretty much said what am I suppose to do with another girl? And I should have worked harder to make sure we did everything to make a boy. So blaming me is his thinking. I simply asked him so what are you saying because we are having a girl your not going to love your daughter the same way you love the other 2 and I got no response. I am hurting inside and just trying to see if this will blow over soon. I am due in April and its like my husband is not really there for me and I don't know what to do has anyone experienced this before?
For the ones who said I was looking for sympathy maybe you should read the original post again especially the part at the end that asks if anyone has experienced this before.

What about the whole... " I don't know what to do" part.

That is asking for suggestions on what to do, hence the suggestions to seek counseling and not put up with his behavior.

You said " he blames me" for having a girl and that "He just stopped being affectionate, he started sleeping on the couch, and if I would even bring up anything about the baby he would just say uhuh and not speak to me about it again"

This is not a healthy response to fInding out the sex of the baby. He needs to talk to someone. Like a councelor.

This behavior may not be the norm for him, and I hope it isn't. But that does not excuse his behavior. From your description your husband is being an ass, he may not generally be an ass but right now with the info you gave, he is acting like one.

So as others have said you should not put up with it and should discuss it together like adults or go to a counselor.

Lastly you chose to vent on the Internet in an open forum. People can say what they want and you have to accept that.

What I got from this thread was this;

OP: my husband is being mean to me I don't know what to do!?

Public: yes he's being mean! You should not have to deal with that. Speak to a councelor.

OP: you guys are mean my DH is nice!

I don't really follow your logic. Take a deep breath and either take the advice you opened yourself up for or walk away.

Merry Christmas. I hope your husband got you something nice.

Ariana7886 · December 2013

Wow your husband is ridiculous!! A baby is a blessing from God!!! He should not be angry... He better start thinking things over.

Pollocklady · December 2013

I'm the baby of four girls... My dad joked that my mom couldn't bring me home if I WASN'T a girl. Ha! It's called unconditional love. Sorry to hear of this douche baggery.

JustBeth · December 2013

I will never understand gender disappointment it's a 50/50 chance everyone knows that going in if you want to chose your gender then adopt..your husband needs to grow up and get over it

isamaraguirre · December 2013

Advise?
Hun, tell him exactly how you feel.
Sit him down, tell him not to speak and then tell him how he is making you feel. Talking is the only way to deal with this.
I am sorry he is doing this to you...I hope he gets over this soon.

Dmlove0312 · December 2013

Soo sorry for how your feeling but there's many men and women that would love to have a child and can't he should be grateful to be able to have kids no matter what gender.Just keep your head up and don't worry about it being stressed won't help you or her.

mrscrcalli · December 2013

thomas930 said:
OP you have a PM

So turned on by your authority :x

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