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May 2014 Moms
jfletcher3113
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I just need to vent about this but am (hopefully) getting it resolved in a couple hours here.
I apologize in advance for the length.
The most important part first: Our A/S scan showed a healthy and very active baby! We are so excited about that and I loved watching the kick around.
So, to start. My doctor is very, very young. One of the first appointments I had with her she didn't know how to un-zoom the ultrasound machine and needed help from a more experienced doctor. (I am changing doctors Jan. 1 because of an insurance change so this was the last time I see her anyway.)
She gave me THE most uncertain sex determination today that I left feeling upset and it prompted me to call an elective place tonight and get in so we can keep our plans to surprise our families on Christmas. I can't believe I wasn't more vocal and am super annoyed with myself!
At my second tri screening the tech guessed boy. It was very early and obviously she could be wrong. We didn't even tell anybody because we both knew the chances were really still 50/50 but I expected today's scan to have a good determination of the sex. I also realize that nothing is 100 percent until that baby is born.
So today, my doctor says, "I don't see anything. It's a girl."
Wait, what? You don't SEE anything? I have read time and time again that the absence of a penis does NOT mean girl.
So I asked about the three lines. She tries to find them. Then says, "This is where the labia would be. If it were a boy, we would see scrotum here." (pointing to a vacant space.) Would be??? All I could see was blurry images so I couldn't even tell what I was looking at.
She also kept saying how much the baby was moving that it was making it hard for her to do measurements.
I should've been more assertive. Asked for more clarification. What do I do? I say "Oh OK" then leave and cry. WTF?!
Anybody else have a doctor who seemed less-than-certain about your A/S results? I just want to have a more solid "guess" as to what we are having so fingers crossed this elective place will show me a better image!
Silly A/S uncertainty, Update
jfletcher3113
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Well .... I'm glad I got the elective because it seems I was warranted to have that nagging feeling all day like something was off. We are having a boy, not a girl.
I would've been ecstatic with either but I couldn't shake the feeling that my doctor was wrong. Crazy!
During the elective I told the technician I just wanted to see the three lines or some indication it was a girl before we told our families. Well instead, the tech said, "Um, this is not a girl." We saw a penis and scrotum from several different angles. My husband almost fell out of his chair.
I'll be requesting my new doctor check the a/s measurements because, as was pointed out by some of you ladies, I worry what she might have made an error on the vital measurements that were supposed to be taken.
Thanks for the feedback and for letting me vent!
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Orignal post:
I apologize in advance for the length.
The most important part first: Our A/S scan showed a healthy and very active baby! We are so excited about that and I loved watching the kick around.
So, to start. My doctor is very, very young. One of the first appointments I had with her she didn't know how to un-zoom the ultrasound machine and needed help from a more experienced doctor. (I am changing doctors Jan. 1 because of an insurance change so this was the last time I see her anyway.)
She gave me THE most uncertain sex determination today that I left feeling upset and it prompted me to call an elective place tonight and get in so we can keep our plans to surprise our families on Christmas. I can't believe I wasn't more vocal and am super annoyed with myself!
At my second tri screening the tech guessed boy. It was very early and obviously she could be wrong. We didn't even tell anybody because we both knew the chances were really still 50/50 but I expected today's scan to have a good determination of the sex. I also realize that nothing is 100 percent until that baby is born.
So today, my doctor says, "I don't see anything. It's a girl."
Wait, what? You don't SEE anything? I have read time and time again that the absence of a penis does NOT mean girl.
So I asked about the three lines. She tries to find them. Then says, "This is where the labia would be. If it were a boy, we would see scrotum here." (pointing to a vacant space.) Would be??? All I could see was blurry images so I couldn't even tell what I was looking at.
She also kept saying how much the baby was moving that it was making it hard for her to do measurements.
I should've been more assertive. Asked for more clarification. What do I do? I say "Oh OK" then leave and cry. WTF?!
Anybody else have a doctor who seemed less-than-certain about your A/S results? I just want to have a more solid "guess" as to what we are having so fingers crossed this elective place will show me a better image!
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Re: Silly A/S uncertainty, Update
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Maybe I needed to adjust my expectations before I went in there. Totally possible.
ETA: Katemr, yes you're right. I will do that and also let my next doctor know in case they need to redo any of the measurements. Thanks!
It's one thing if you're worried she didn't get all the measurements, but I think you may be reading too much into what she did/didn't say with regards to the sex of the baby. I'm not saying there isn't a chance she's wrong, but I wouldn't be assuming that based off of the words she used or didn't use.
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Also, I don't think you're being silly. I probably would have cried too. I'm glad you're changing doctors. Hopefully the next one will inspire more confidence.
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
Edited: a/a a/s.... My fat thumbs think those are the same thing lol!
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