Silly A/S uncertainty, Update

jfletcher3113

Well .... I'm glad I got the elective because it seems I was warranted to have that nagging feeling all day like something was off. We are having a boy, not a girl.

I would've been ecstatic with either but I couldn't shake the feeling that my doctor was wrong. Crazy! 

During the elective I told the technician I just wanted to see the three lines or some indication it was a girl before we told our families. Well instead, the tech said, "Um, this is not a girl." We saw a penis and scrotum from several different angles. My husband almost fell out of his chair. 

 I'll be requesting my new doctor check the a/s measurements because, as was pointed out by some of you ladies, I worry what she might have made an error on the vital measurements that were supposed to be taken. 

Thanks for the feedback and for letting me vent! 

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Orignal post: 

I just need to vent about this but am (hopefully) getting it resolved in a couple hours here.

I apologize in advance for the length.

The most important part first: Our A/S scan showed a healthy and very active baby! We are so excited about that and I loved watching the kick around.

So, to start. My doctor is very, very young. One of the first appointments I had with her she didn't know how to un-zoom the ultrasound machine and needed help from a more experienced doctor. (I am changing doctors Jan. 1 because of an insurance change so this was the last time I see her anyway.)

She gave me THE most uncertain sex determination today that I left feeling upset and it prompted me to call an elective place tonight and get in so we can keep our plans to surprise our families on Christmas. I can't believe I wasn't more vocal and am super annoyed with myself!

At my second tri screening the tech guessed boy. It was very early and obviously she could be wrong. We didn't even tell anybody because we both knew the chances were really still 50/50 but I expected today's scan to have a good determination of the sex. I also realize that nothing is 100 percent until that baby is born.

So today, my doctor says, "I don't see anything. It's a girl."

Wait, what? You don't SEE anything? I have read time and time again that the absence of a penis does NOT mean girl.

So I asked about the three lines. She tries to find them. Then says, "This is where the labia would be. If it were a boy, we would see scrotum here." (pointing to a vacant space.) Would be??? All I could see was blurry images so I couldn't even tell what I was looking at.

She also kept saying how much the baby was moving that it was making it hard for her to do measurements.

I should've been more assertive. Asked for more clarification. What do I do? I say "Oh OK" then leave and cry. WTF?!

Anybody else have a doctor who seemed less-than-certain about your A/S results? I just want to have a more solid "guess" as to what we are having so fingers crossed this elective place will show me a better image!

MrsT2008

Well, she didn't sound very uncertain to me but if you're worried, at least you have the elective.

gypsymystic

That's real professional of her. Glad you are changing doctors soon. Hope you find out the baby's gender before Xmas!

sws684

Oh my!! Check in with doc #2. And elective to be safe maybe to keep reveal plans.. It's interesting with the "would be" .. No labia, no scrotum? I'd feel weird about it I think.

Katemr1146

That sucks that you don't feel confident about her sex determination...but if she seemed that incompetent I'd be worried she didn't measure everything else appropriately. I might call and complain if she really seemed that inexperienced.

jfletcher3113

I guess I was hoping it'd be more like the ones my friends/family have had: here's the labia/penis it's a girl/boy and sent them off with pictures. She kept saying she didn't see anything so it was a girl.

Maybe I needed to adjust my expectations before I went in there. Totally possible.

ETA: Katemr, yes you're right. I will do that and also let my next doctor know in case they need to redo any of the measurements. Thanks!

SNOakes

I would be more worried that she didn't get correct measurements of the baby. I've never done an elective but they don't show that do they? I'm sorry it wasn't what you expected...and have the right to expect

SNOakes

Sorry, I swear that hadn't been mentioned when I was typing.

TheBeeCharmer

Sorry you didn't have the experience you wanted. If she said she got the measurements that is probably good, but I agree with wanting another scan before Christmas. Girls should be as obvious as boys, not just "I don't see anything". Good luck!

MrsT2008

jfletcher3113 said:

I guess I was hoping it'd be more like the ones my friends/family have had: here's the labia/penis it's a girl/boy and sent them off with pictures. She kept saying she didn't see anything so it was a girl.

Maybe I needed to adjust my expectations before I went in there. Totally possible.

ETA: Katemr, yes you're right. I will do that and also let my next doctor know in case they need to redo any of the measurements. Thanks!

With both my first pregnancy and this one, the tech never showed/pointed out anything when she was determining the sex.  She'd look, ask one more time if we wanted to know, and said "it looks like a girl!" both times.  And no pictures of the goods either - just profile shots.

It's one thing if you're worried she didn't get all the measurements, but I think you may be reading too much into what she did/didn't say with regards to the sex of the baby.  I'm not saying there isn't a chance she's wrong, but I wouldn't be assuming that based off of the words she used or didn't use.

Miles2Go

Katemr1146 said:

That sucks that you don't feel confident about her sex determination...but if she seemed that incompetent I'd be worried she didn't measure everything else appropriately. I might call and complain if she really seemed that inexperienced.

This is what I thought reading your post as well.
Also, I don't think you're being silly. I probably would have cried too. I'm glad you're changing doctors. Hopefully the next one will inspire more confidence.

danagmauro

My tech showed me 3 "lines" that looked for like 3 spots from a butt angle it didn't look like girl goods to me but she's the expert and there were def no balls or a p so I left confident. People make it seem like you'll see a straight up vagina but that didn't happen here

jfletcher3113

Thanks for all the feedback! I'm going to update this next.  

Miles2Go

Glad you got the elective! Welcome to team blue!!

busterbeagle

Wow, that is crazy! I'm glad you are going to get your measurements redone just to be safe. Congrats on your boy!

talkthewholetime

Holy crap! That's crazy! Congrats!

Katemr1146

Congrats on your boy!!! Glad to hear you're getting the A/S re-done!

GRC6713

Girl get those a/s measurements re-done! Congrat on team blue!!!

Edited: a/a a/s.... My fat thumbs think those are the same thing lol!

ykristos

Wow, glad you followed your gut, and I hope you feel much more confident with your new doctor. Congratulations!  

Lild09

Glad to hear that your elective worked out ! If your guy is anything like mine there is no doubt he is a boy, he was spreading his legs and showing the whole package too ( including scrotum) ultrasound tech said yup no doubt that's a boy in there yay for team blue and for getting some of your concerns addressed! I would also check with the other doc to make sure everything is ok once you see them in the new year.

danagmauro

Wow!!!! Congrats on baby boy never argue w a mothers intuition

RedInLove

My a/s was done by an u/s tech, not a doctor. The doctor reviewed the images, etc., but the hour+-long scan was done by a tech, including measurements, checking off all the anatomy parts they wanted to see (she even got a good shot if the nostrils to me, LOL!), and then the list was double checked by a second tech to make sure they had everything. Then I got dressed, and met with the doctor in her office.

I'm glad you trusted your gut! I'd def be bringing that up with the doctor at the earliest convenience. I'd be worried that something was missed or seen incorrectly as well!