Am I a name stealer?

Cecilbear · December 2013

So, my sister is not planning on having another baby for at least two more years, but has already called dibs on the name Charlotte (nickname: Charlie). My husband and I are expecting a little girl and we've actually fallen in love with the name Lottie (full name: Charlotte). There are three other names in the running right now, but my DH keeps coming back to Lottie. We have been keeping our baby name list a secret from family after my grandmother told me how much she hated the name Fiona (I love it!).

Anyway. What do you guys think? Would naming our baby Lottie make me a name stealer, even though my sister won't even try for another one for two more years? Would it be terrible if we didn't announce her name until the little one was here? Eep!

aml+japan · December 2013

Why not just full out name her Lottie? Either way, I would discuss it with your sister and assure her you'd be using a different nickname. Better than causing a rift.

sking72 · December 2013

Tough call...people get pretty defensive over names. I'm kinda ticked my friend named her dog our girl's name, but then again, what can I do? There are only so many names in the world

maelic · December 2013

I don't know your family dynamics but I think it's absolutely ridiculous to call dibs on a name before actually having a baby to name, let alone at least 2 YEARS (which means three before the baby is born...) before the potential for a baby girl even exists. She could have another 5 boys!! Ridiculous.

Do what you want, I say.

irisheyez7 · December 2013

I agree with Maelic. She can't call "dibs" on a name she might not ever be able to use...

Cecilbear · December 2013

You ladies are so right and now that I read my original post it sounds kind of silly to me. Sometimes you just need a little perspective, you know? Thank you for that!

LEIGHLOVE09 · December 2013

Hmm I know you can't call dibs but I don't think I couldn't personally do this to my sister without telling her. I would have a talk with her. Maybe her hubby doesn't like it or she'll change her mind in 2 years but I wouldn't just name her it with out talking to her about it.

nikki912 · December 2013

I agree with @maelic

My SiL called dibs on "Joey" for a girl practically the day I met her. I was 19 and didn't give a crap so I just said it was pretty. Now that I'm pregnant and team green im annoyed. i have an aging grandmother named Josephine who i am close to and we really like using family names. Plus Litttle Women is awesome and I love the idea of having a little Jo running around the house.
But as I'm sure can be inferred through her announcing her baby names before she is even dating anyone- SiL is super immature and it just isn't worth the crying fits.

That's why I never talk about names. I run the risk of someone close to me getting it first but I never want to be THAT girl either.

Cecilbear · December 2013

aml+japan, both DH and I really like the idea of having a formal name and a nickname.

imogenisis · December 2013

I agree with AprilMay9. It's something I just wouldn't do to someone that I'm close to. I would definitely talk to my sister about it first.

klscas · December 2013

You gotta watch girl code... 'dibs' has a shelf life. Its not like she's pregnant now... and what if she decides not even to have anymore? A lot can happen in two years. Then you passed up the name you love for nothing . I say go for it, just let her know.

KatieGummow · December 2013

I'd put yourself in your sister's shoes; If you would be upset don't do it, if you wouldn't then talk to her about it and do it.

My sister told me she likes "Harper" so I won't consider it.

Edited: complete sentences makes the world go 'round.

strawberrytree · December 2013

Your sister isn't pregnant now and if she gets pregnant in the next few years, she might have a boy. Or she might change her mind, or her husband might decide he doesn't like it anymore. I would use it, especially since she likes a different nickname than you guys do. Even if you end up with two cousins named Charlotte, Lottie (which I like way more than Charlie btw!) and Charlie are pretty different. I would go for it, but maybe give her a heads up that you're going to use it.

Serenla · December 2013

Fuck your sister, that is stupid.

abbeylanecb · December 2013

I would never do that to my sister and she's 8 years younger than me and no where close to having kids.

bacorrea · December 2013

Eh. I don't think it's that big of a deal. The only reason I say this is because we had a top 3 list of names for girls before my husband and I were even married. Now that I am actually having a girl it is totally different and we picked a whole new name. Because she is your sister I would just tell her. If she is SUPER angry about it then you can decide from there, she may be cool with it though.

DemoDoll · December 2013

I agree that you can't call dibs on a name but you could always casually ask your sister if she still has Charlotte in mind. It is a chance that she doesn't like it now that's it's getting so popular and that she won't even have a girl. I wouldn't blind side her with the name when you give birth.

richiel · December 2013

My given name is Lottie and I am glad it's not a nickname. It might sound vane but I have always loved having a name that no one else has. I hope you go for it.

WhiMiMa · December 2013

If I were you I'd just go with Lottie. I settled on our girl name, Liliana when I was in elementary school (weird, I know!) and, of course, told my sister. I'd have been pretty upset had she chosen to use that name. It wouldn't have caused a rift or anything, but it would have bugged me

baileymama3 · December 2013

It's your sister... If that's the name she has wanted for so long... Let her have it. But I am kinda sensitive about that. Especially since u all just decided you like it. If she had 4 names selected that is one thing, but it's only one... And she is family.

Erikahenderson1 · December 2013

I liked the name Daisy for all sorts of reasons. DH liked it, but we eventually found a name we both LOVE and settled on that. We said IF we ever have another girl we'd revisit Daisy...... I just got a puppy, we named her Daisy lol. All I'm sayin' is 2 years is a loooong time. 2 years ago I loved all kinds of names I can't use today and half of them I wouldn't want to use. I'd talk to your sister about it.

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