WG: have you had any honest discussions with DH about how he is making you feel, or is it not something you can do right now?
I have not. I have tried, but he says off the wall shit and then doesn't remember it later. Because his kidneys are functioning at such a low rate (4% functioning as of yesterday) his blood and everything is essentially toxic. I am trying to remember that he is not himself right now and he isn't trying to be mean or hurt me, he is just sick. We can talk when he gets better and is in his right mind.
Okay this is completely sincere, I promise I wouldn't cross this line if I didn't care because I am assuming you're going to take everything I say as an attack.
4%? That is crazy. Are they still saying he can't get on the transplant without losing weight? (Has he lost any?) How long can you go on 4%? Is that both kidneys or just one?
God, I leave for three hours and this place is taking a turn for shit-show-ville.
Somebody give me a truth!
What action from you past would put you in jail if law enforcement ever found out?
I used to drive home more intoxicated than I should have been in the recent past. DH used to do it too. We actually had to have a conversation about it when I was pregnant and agree that all shenanigans of that nature would end when Kate was born...and it has. I'm not talking driving black-out drunk, but definitely tipsy and borderline drunk. I'm really ashamed I ever did it and I'm damn lucky I never got caught.
Added: I used to smoke pot too in college, but that's not nearly as damaging IMO.
Biggest bump mistake was using the r word I think.
Someone just used this IRL recently and I did a double take, but I'm finding some people truly weren't raised to think it's offensive.
I think my biggest bump mistake was getting involved in the "I can't believe some people don't do Santa" discussions. @redneckmomma25, if I'm remembering correctly, you're in the no Santa camp, so I apologize if I came off all wrong or like my version of Christmas is the only way. We do church and a ton of other Christmas traditions too, but I guess I'm just a fan of the jolly old guy in the red suit.
WG: have you had any honest discussions with DH about how he is making you feel, or is it not something you can do right now?
I have not. I have tried, but he says off the wall shit and then doesn't remember it later. Because his kidneys are functioning at such a low rate (4% functioning as of yesterday) his blood and everything is essentially toxic. I am trying to remember that he is not himself right now and he isn't trying to be mean or hurt me, he is just sick. We can talk when he gets better and is in his right mind.
Okay this is completely sincere, I promise I wouldn't cross this line if I didn't care because I am assuming you're going to take everything I say as an attack.
4%? That is crazy. Are they still saying he can't get on the transplant without losing weight? (Has he lost any?) How long can you go on 4%? Is that both kidneys or just one?
He is very lucky that he has lasted this long on 4% it has decreased from when he was in the hospital right after LO's bday. It is crazy, but he is lucky right now, but it is catching up with him very quickly. He has lost weight, not enough, but a majority. It is both of his kidneys. Because of his functioning decreasing and because of his lack of weight loss he will actually be starting dialysis on the 13th of January. Dialysis will clean his body of all of the toxins and hopefully he will feel better VERY quickly and be able to get on losing the rest of the weight so he can get on the transplant list.
Did I miss how that was crossing a line? The only thing I can come up with is if you don't believe me..... but I would hate for anyone to think I have been lying or would lie about my DH like that.
For anyone that wants a truth: if you were forced to change your child's name what would you change it to?
I wouldn't change his first name because he is absolutely a Liam but I wish I would have gone with his middle name being Thomas instead of Dean. I want to change it all the time.
Truth for anyone who wants it: favorite bump scandal and whose side were you on?
Mine was Kristy v. people who aren't "tree huggers" or environmental conscience. Not that it was a scandal, per say, but I would always get fired up right along with Kristy...not that I would post that much back then.
Another truth for whoever wants to answer: where did you lose your virginity. Do you regret doing it with whoever you did?
I deeply regret it. It was so dumb. I am not sure if I have ever told anyone how I lost it. Went to a party. I was dd. Brought this "friend" home and spent the night. He was wasted and was coming on to me. I allowed it. He fell asleep in the middle. I don't know why I did it. If was stupid and I have always regretted if and felt guilt about it. I was 19.
Another truth for whoever wants to answer: where did you lose your virginity. Do you regret doing it with whoever you did?
Ugh. At my parent's house. I regret totally the dude it was with. I wish I would have waited until my first really super serious boyfriend. At the time though, I was stupid and thought that I did love the idiot. It wasn't until I was actually in love that I realized how totally dumb I was. Ce'st la vie.
WG: have you had any honest discussions with DH about how he is making you feel, or is it not something you can do right now?
I have not. I have tried, but he says off the wall shit and then doesn't remember it later. Because his kidneys are functioning at such a low rate (4% functioning as of yesterday) his blood and everything is essentially toxic. I am trying to remember that he is not himself right now and he isn't trying to be mean or hurt me, he is just sick. We can talk when he gets better and is in his right mind.
Okay this is completely sincere, I promise I wouldn't cross this line if I didn't care because I am assuming you're going to take everything I say as an attack.
4%? That is crazy. Are they still saying he can't get on the transplant without losing weight? (Has he lost any?) How long can you go on 4%? Is that both kidneys or just one?
He is very lucky that he has lasted this long on 4% it has decreased from when he was in the hospital right after LO's bday. It is crazy, but he is lucky right now, but it is catching up with him very quickly. He has lost weight, not enough, but a majority. It is both of his kidneys. Because of his functioning decreasing and because of his lack of weight loss he will actually be starting dialysis on the 13th of January. Dialysis will clean his body of all of the toxins and hopefully he will feel better VERY quickly and be able to get on losing the rest of the weight so he can get on the transplant list.
Did I miss how that was crossing a line? The only thing I can come up with is if you don't believe me..... but I would hate for anyone to think I have been lying or would lie about my DH like that.
No.. I believe you. I just figured you'd think I don't really care, because I do. Ah.. well I hope dialysis helps him. My best friends lung function is at 18% and I thought that was scary. 4% is extremely scary.
Re: That Thing
Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz
Added: I used to smoke pot too in college, but that's not nearly as damaging IMO.
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Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz
Bringing up my issues with our dog.
Who do you eye roll at the most on S12?
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2 Losses | 10/2010 @ 5w | 9/2013 @ 10w4d
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Katherine Quinn | 9.16.2012 | 38w4d
Ryan Lanman | 9.12.2014 | 40w
2 Losses | 10/2010 @ 5w | 9/2013 @ 10w4d
Little Sprout Blog
Dexter 08/31/2012~Summer 07/25/2011~Jack 10/21/2008~Aaron 08/12/2007
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2 Losses | 10/2010 @ 5w | 9/2013 @ 10w4d
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Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
Katherine Quinn | 9.16.2012 | 38w4d
Ryan Lanman | 9.12.2014 | 40w
2 Losses | 10/2010 @ 5w | 9/2013 @ 10w4d
Little Sprout Blog
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz
Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz
I really wanted to name DD Rory but everyone hated it. I would change it if I could.
Give me all the truths!
Katherine Quinn | 9.16.2012 | 38w4d
Ryan Lanman | 9.12.2014 | 40w
2 Losses | 10/2010 @ 5w | 9/2013 @ 10w4d
Little Sprout Blog
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
To an asshat in TN and I mega regret it. He was sleezy and I should have known better.
Liam Dean | 09.11.12 | 6lbs 13oz