Is your DH/SO as baby crazy as you?

rlyttle · December 2013

Sometimes I feel that my DH wants another baby more than me. The first time around I had baby fever big time and he was on the fence. This time we are totally opposite. What is your DH/SO's baby fever level? Today DH leaned over to me and said "I really want to make another baby with you. I think about it a lot". He is so sweet, but its weird how the tables have turned!

MmmPopcorn · December 2013

My husband isn't totally baby-crazy, but he is more excited about TTC than I expected. We're officially starting TTC in Feb., but I had a slightly longer LP than normal last cycle and took a few HPTs just to make sure. When I got BFNs, he sat me down and told me that even if the timing hadn't been all that convenient, he would have been happy to get a BFP earlier than expected. I was really surprised by that, and his reaction has only made me even more baby-crazy.

ADH0906 · December 2013

He's not, but he's also a very reserved and private person. I think if anyone was a fly on the wall in our house, they'd think he wasn't very interested in having kids soon. But I know him well enough to know that his small actions speak very loudly. He would not, however, ever outwardly express the baby fever I have.

ngolimento · December 2013

My DH is way more excited than I am. I'm still worried about the whole 'pushing out a bowling ball' thing. He does melt my heart occasionally by saying "I hope our baby is like you". *swoon*

rlyttle · December 2013

My DH is way more excited than I am. I'm still worried about the whole 'pushing out a bowling ball' thing. He does melt my heart occasionally by saying "I hope our baby is like you". *swoon*

Aww how sweet!! Believe me, labor is easy. What comes next is the hard part!!!

peggels24 · December 2013

He definitely wants a baby but I don't think he thinks about it as much as I do. I think he's also afraid of upsetting me and making me feel bad about losing our first pregnancy. But he constantly talks about when we have kids

jamjoyful · December 2013

DH rarely talks about his feelings. He doesn't express his emotions towards BFN but I do know it bothers him. I think having DD makes it easier for him this round.

Ducktale · December 2013

He is as "baby crazy" as me but just different about it. He does bring it up regularly (suggesting a name, something he is looking forward to doing with a baby/child, etc.) but it's not like he has a secret Pinterest board or anything. In the past, when we've had min

Pintobean39 · December 2013

My husband was in the beginning. My first pregnancy he was ecstatic, when we had an us that showed the heartbeat he made the dr do the us again so he could video it. He sent the video to everyone and that's all he talked about. After I lost that baby it hit him hard but he was on bored with the charting and asked me all the time what my chart looked like.

Second pregnancy he had tears in his eyes when I told him he was so excited, then I lost it shortly after. 3rd pregnancy he never said much the whole time and was very quiet when I lost it. So now we just don't talk about it anymore.

amberhoothoot · December 2013

The first time around it was definitely DH who was more excited, and was crazy happy when we got a positive with DS.

This time around, it's me who wants it more. We talk about it often... but it doesn't have the same feel as before the CP. Now we talk about the current cycle as opposed to the future child. It helps to think of it like that.

Josie400 · December 2013

I've had baby fever for about a year now. We decided to stop preventing in March, but get used to charting in the meantime. At first I nervous he wouldn't ever get excited, but I learned he just had a lot of fears and after a good talk he seemed to start getting excited. He seems to continue to grow more excited with time.

rlyttle · December 2013

I agree that a loss, or losses are a game changer. BUT, after my 2 losses I think my DS has realized how much he wants another and I have realized how much I can be happy with what I already have.

abbyful · December 2013

Before DS was born, my husband was always "i'm okay with having kids, but I'm also okay if we don't", he had no strong feelings either way.

Now that DS is here, he is totally smitten by him! He's looking forward to having another one!

mak7788 · December 2013

I just came to find out that my H is more excited than I originally thought. At first when I'd get bummed over AF he'd be like "oh well next month, I don't really care if it doesn't hapen right away." well I sat down with him a moth ago and told him if he wanted to put ttc on hold while he attempts to find a job that pays more and save a little more. And he said no that he doesn't want to wait anymore and wants to keep trying. Shocked the hell out of me.

Lizbeth2462 · December 2013

DH is really excited and very optimistic, whereas I'm more nervous about potentially having trouble TTC and realistic (pessimistic?) about how long it could take. I appreciate his enthusiasm and it's very sweet how excited he is to be a Dad, but then it's like I don't want him to be let down if it doesn't happen right away. One thing that's good though is that because he wants it so badly, he's totally down for BD ED to give it the best shot-- and has started taking his own supplements to boot!

Hegi627 · December 2013

I had a mini breakdown on Thursday watching Big Bang (it went like this - that's it! I'm done! Why is every person on this planet pregnant but me? Sheltons sister can get knocked up but I can't?! Fuck you, CBS! Fuck you Missy! I'm done!) and hubs sat me down and told Mr that he loved me and he was sorry and got me laughing, which is what I needed. He is not good at showing emotion, but that convo showed me how invested he is in this. It was sweet. He is excited to have kids, but babies freak him out. I like to tease him that our children won't walk out of the womb, they will be babies first

mana8503 · December 2013

H is definitely more baby crazy than me. I'm scared of change and being a good parent. H has 2 kids already so this isn't new ground for him. He tells me all the time I'm gonna be great because how I am with his kids.

Don't get me wrong I want kids, I love kids, it's the needy babies that scare me. I want to get pregnant, but it's easier for me to stay calm after a few months of TTC while he's getting impatient.

MrsMac613 · December 2013

My DH is excited but cautious. He talks about baby names and when we have kids we will do this or that. He definitely holds back though because he doesn't want to be too disappointed if it doesn't happen soon.

MusicFanatic · December 2013

I would say he's middle of the road. I tend to be more expressive, so I make my excitement more known. He's definitely on board (obviously, or we wouldn't be TTC), but he's more quiet of his feelings. He does ask my temps, when I get a + OPK and all that.. because he tries to stay involved, even though he probably has no clue what any of it means. So he's excited, but quiet about it.

jjsmommy0714 · December 2013

H is definitely more baby crazy than I am. My brain tends to look at the little stuff, "but babe, we live in a two bedroom house" and "but babe, you won't be out of school until May 2015." He tends to have a "it happens when God is ready for it to happen, not when we are ready for it to happen," kind of attitude toward everything ever since I went off of the mini pill.

kleigh926 · December 2013

DH has always been slightly more baby crazy than me. We had trouble getting pregnant, so that made him even more impatient. He was ready for me to be pregnant again 3 months after I had DD (as you can imagine, I most definitely was NOT). Now she's 10 months old and we are trying again for #2. He wants to be a young dad to all our kids, plus he wants to have them all close together in age so they can play and be buds. He grew up with a lot of cousins around his age, and our kids aren't likely to have cousins very soon since our siblings aren't anywhere near having kids yet. So I guess he hopes our kids will at least have each other, haha.

hullabalou · December 2013

DH is significantly older than me, and has wanted kids for much longer. I never wanted kids until I met him and we talked about it, but since I decided I did, I have caught "the fever." I think we are about even, though. We both want a baby.

lesleyn21 · December 2013

With Ds we both wanted one. Then that was it I isn't wanted 1 and had to "talk him into" only wanting one. We finally agreed on one. But he always would mention more. Then we decided we both wanted another. He was excited at first then nervous about making Ds jealous or felt replaced. Once those fears were gone he got excited again. I may talk about it a little more then he does but he seems just about as excited as I am lol

Nenetouti · December 2013

We are currently building a house and DH insisted that we wait until the house is finished to TTC, which will be in march. However I cant really wait that long, I've had baby fever for almost a year now. so we have agreed on starting in january. He is very nervous about it but I know he would love to have a child.

WolFox · December 2013

DH would have knocked me up years ago if I had let him...

vrj0522 · December 2013

@Pintobean39 - I am so sorry. Hoping things get sorted out for you guys!

DS caught us both off guard but I would say we were both equally excited. This time around, I feel like I am a lot more excited even though I know that he really wants another one. He rarely talks about it although he's always asking where I am on my cycle (I think it's mostly the chance to HIO so much that he's after, lol).

nikiz628 · December 2013

He is more now than he was when we started TTC DS. I love that he is able to enjoy it this time around. He was so nervous before DS, mostly because he didn't think he would be a good dad. But he really is an amazing dad!!

AppleGrapeMSTK · December 2013

When I was pg with DS, I got up early one morning to POAS. It was pos, and I cried and shook and vomited. DH was in the bedroom waiting for me to come out, fingers crossed on both hands. This time around, I'm more crazy- like I cry every time I walk by frilly lil newborn baby dresses. He's still optimistic, though, like, "We'll need at least a five bedroom when we move into our own house to make room for all the kids."

Ineedmorecoffee · December 2013

We are both pretty baby crazy

jenmcD11 · December 2013

My H is very excited, but his eyes glaze over if I mention temps or OPKs. Also, I think he is starting to feel a little bit of performance anxiety over his small, yet important role in the whole thing.

victoria+james · December 2013

DH wants a baby... but I am baby Crazy. But with each passing cycle DH gets more and more upset about the BFNs... its hard to watch :-(

snooks721 · December 2013

I think DH and I are pretty much even. We both really want it but at the same time we both would be completely fine if it doesn't happen right away (this is only our second month trying)

ALHickok1 · December 2013

My husband is off the wall baby crazy. I'm very much looking forward to expanding our family, but he is much more excited than I am. Every time we see a baby on the streets he gets these huge puppy dog eyes and just has to point out how cute it is, how tiny it is, how he can't wait, and that we could possibly be holding our 2nd in 9 months. He's completely gaga over the idea. I've started asking his if his ovaries ache when he sees a baby.

kef21287 · December 2013

I am way more baby crazy than DH. I've had baby fever since since our wedding in April but we agreed to wait to TTC until after our honeymoon in September. He wants a baby, but he is much more relaxed about it and "it will happen, when it happens"

lilliemom · December 2013

We had originally planned on waiting until he got on full time at his current job so we were a little more financially secure so it wasn't really on the table until recently, but when I decided I was ready to try I talked to him about it and he was totally ready and excited about it. I don't think he's ever gonna be interested in how charting and all that works, but he'll be an amazing dad and he's baby crazy just in different ways than I am. He likes to talk about how he'll teach our boys (which he's convinced is all we'll have) how to play football, while I'm the one that has to be pulled out of the baby clothes section when we go shopping lol. But yea, I think we're pretty equal on baby fever level!

ClaireHuxtable · December 2013

My H is on board. Initially, he was hesitant, because of our ages. He's very supportive and a good sport about the whole TTC thing. I wouldn't say he matches my level of enthusiasm, but he would be so happy if we got pregnant.

RogueZymosis · December 2013

SO is not pregnancy crazy but rather baby crazy. He's very excited to take care of baby. I'm excited to get pregnant then take care of baby when it's born.

Jenniebug7 · December 2013

He is more excited than me I think. He is the oldest sibling and the only one who doesn't have kids yet, so he's more than ready. I took a pregnancy test about a month ago and it was a BFN and he hugged me and said its okay, maybe next month. There are days I'm all for it, then other days I'm nervous!

MultitaskingmMom · December 2013

Since we are TTC for #2, he is in a different place than he was the first time. He has gotten all of the nerves out with DS and at least knows what to expect this time. With DS, my DH was terrified of the idea of a newborn.

wishiwaspreggo · December 2013

We both obviously really want a baby but I don't know how "crazy" I am just yet. I'm still pretty mellow because on average it takes 3-6 IUIs before one is successful and I've had 2 so far that I'd consider legit IUIs. And even if I'm infertile, I have C who can carry too. I worry about C, though, because her pain tolerance is ridiculously low. Like she cut her finger and started crying hysterically. She burned her hand a little on the stove and was wailing like someone set her damned hand on fire.

Whereas I have an incredible threshold for pain. I could stab myself in the arm and only worry if I saw too much blood pooling around me. I'll get bruises and cuts I don't notice until I look in the mirror. And burns? Lord, I've spilled boiling water and oils on my hands and arms, even got my legs a couple times and squeaked when it happened but shook it off and kept cooking.

Then again, get me into a dentist's or optometrist's chair and I shake like a leaf. I HATE having my mouth and eyes messed with. But anything else? No problem.

ETA: and don't even get me started on what C's like when she's sick. It's like the entire world is collapsing and she says things like "I'm dying!" or "I'm NEVER going to get better!" and whines and whines and whines... she waffles back and forth about carrying because she wants to have a baby but doesn't want to suffer the pregnancy or labor. If it were financially possible, I'd happily do IVF with her eggs and carry on her behalf. Then the babies would be biologically "ours" in a sense.

EmeJay · December 2013

My SO isn't very baby-crazy. He wants kids of course, but he wouldn't mind waiting 5 years to have them. He's game to go through all doctors apointment, but he doesn't mind taking breaks as well.

As for me, I'm less and less into it. At first I was scared/excted. Then I was impatient. Now, I'm a little indifferent.

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