I hate the Wonder Weeks. It was so much easier when we were not so informed. I hate looking at my impending doom and dark clouds ahead. Even worse is there is not much you can do about it.
6 month shots today! I couldn't even sleep this is ridiculous to have this must anxiety over shots. LO is so much more aware and I'm so afraid he will think I did it (
I just want a full nights sleep. It's not fair that lo spoiled us and we totally thought he's be sttn forever, then- BAM, just kidding! I think the 4 month wakeful turned into a habit.
The comments about breastmilk not being filling have just started from my family and in laws, and boy they are annoying. My MIL wants me to pump him full of solid food 5 times a day, and acts disgusted that I'm still BFing.
I'm bitching because my kid is growing up...daycare told me this morning that they want to start transitioning him to every 4 hours instead of every 3 because he's leaving 2oz in the bottle every time (and they feel bad having to throw the rest out). So now I have this paranoia/guilt that my milk is going to dry up if I pump any less than 3x at work...we are so close to 6 months, but it's been so easy (sorry that sounded braggy)...I don't want to have the complexity of making a bottle when he gets up at night....I'd really like for him to self wean after he sleeps 12 hours at night so that piece is off the table...I'm a dreamer
The comments about breastmilk not being filling have just started from my family and in laws, and boy they are annoying. My MIL wants me to pump him full of solid food 5 times a day, and acts disgusted that I'm still BFing.
This x a million except its from my daycare. "When are you doing cereal?" And my favorite for thanksgiving, "feed her mashed potatoes and gravy!"
Also, DH's grandma is a psycho. She asked on Thanksgiving if DD was eating solids yet and I said no. We were at the house over the weekend and what does she try to do? Give DD a big spoonful of pudding. I almost had a stroke.
DH told MIL that we started giving LO oatmeal last week (which was his first "solid.") MIL freaked out and yelled "why aren't you giving him rice cereal first? That's what your supposed to do. Why do you two keep trying to reinvent the wheel?" And then proceeded to try and convince him to switch to rice cereal. Sorry, is this a petty MIL post? Oh, well. It annoyed me.
DH told MIL that we started giving LO oatmeal last week (which was his first "solid.") MIL freaked out and yelled "why aren't you giving him rice cereal first? That's what your supposed to do. Why do you two keep trying to reinvent the wheel?" And then proceeded to try and convince him to switch to rice cereal. Sorry, is this a petty MIL post? Oh, well. It annoyed me.
We got a sample of rice cereal in the gift bag that BRU gave us on saturday. My hubby was like "o, rice cereal thats good! We should give that to him". (my mil is always talking about rice cereal) I told him no, i give him the oatmeal instead. He asked me why. I told him that theres arsenic in the rice cereal. That shut down that convo real fast!
Lol! Yeah DH told her about the arsenic and she said she doesn't believe that. Why are older people so obsessed with rice cereal!??
DH told MIL that we started giving LO oatmeal last week (which was his first "solid.") MIL freaked out and yelled "why aren't you giving him rice cereal first? That's what your supposed to do. Why do you two keep trying to reinvent the wheel?" And then proceeded to try and convince him to switch to rice cereal. Sorry, is this a petty MIL post? Oh, well. It annoyed me.
My MIL keeps saying we should give rice cereal for breakfast...I guess because it has the word "cereal" in the name, so it must be intended as a breakfast food.
@wasnotwas my daycare told me the same thing about switching to every four hours. Cue a three day mind fu*k. Then, a few weeks later we are back to every three hours again. Don't give up that pumping session, I'm having trouble making up for the extra bottle
What changed to go back to 3 hours? Do you nurse at home? We are barely making it every three hours at home, so 4 hours seems like a lifetime!!
He did a few good things this weekend but this is the bitch post so.....I was really annoyed at my DH yesterday. I feel like when I have time away from the baby I am running errands and doing things for our home and baby, rarely just for me to do whatever I want for me. When he has me time he is totally checked out and does whatever he wants to do for himself - like running, going to basketball games and going to a sports bar to watch football. I could do the same but then I would feel like nothing was ever getting done and be more stressed. I was so angry at him yesterday.
I know I can talk to him about it but it pisses me off that I have to tell him what to do, often multiple times. Plus his attitude about it sucks. Like I had to remind him the other day not to shake the breast milk. He got an attitude about it and said it was no big deal. I went off on him! He refuses to read about this stuff and rolls his eyes when I try to explain things to him.
And he also made a comment about me feeding DD squash purée for breakfast. I told him he could invent scrambled egg purée....
Went to a baby shower yesterday and a 16 year old girl who just had her baby about a week ago was giving her a bottle of water. I wanted so badly to say something but it's the sister of the girl who the shower was for and I'm afraid of confrontation. It's not much of a bitchfest post but hey.
He did a few good things this weekend but this is the bitch post so.....I was really annoyed at my DH yesterday. I feel like when I have time away from the baby I am running errands and doing things for our home and baby, rarely just for me to do whatever I want for me. When he has me time he is totally checked out and does whatever he wants to do for himself - like running, going to basketball games and going to a sports bar to watch football. I could do the same but then I would feel like nothing was ever getting done and be more stressed. I was so angry at him yesterday.
I know I can talk to him about it but it pisses me off that I have to tell him what to do, often multiple times. Plus his attitude about it sucks. Like I had to remind him the other day not to shake the breast milk. He got an attitude about it and said it was no big deal. I went off on him! He refuses to read about this stuff and rolls his eyes when I try to explain things to him.
And he also made a comment about me feeding DD squash purée for breakfast. I told him he could invent scrambled egg purée....
@kellenhi21 I'm right there with ya sister. I think I made the habit worse by bringing R into bed with me. He was up every.freaking.hour. last night. I'm about to lose my mind!
Also, DH, when I try to tell you there's about 2 inches of ice outside and we need to shovel/chop our way out of the driveway, please wake up and help me. Rolling back over and telling me "it's fine" is a sure way to get nut punched.
PS I was THREE hours late bc of this!! I almost killed him.
I don't have anything majorly bitch-worthy, but can I whine? My house is a complete wreck and I have to clean it top to bottom today and I don't wanna! Plus DH acted like a complete tool this weekend and we got into a huge fight. He always takes it for granted that he has so much more freedom and "off time" than I do, and it's no big deal for him to step out for whatever whereas I always have to make sure I have enough milk pumped and that I'm not gone too long because E will freak out. I think he spent a total of an hour with E combined through the whole week. I SAH so I do ALL the child care because I see that as my "job" and it's twice the amount of effort for me to ask him to do something so I would just rather do it myself. I'm just now realizing that he is getting waaay to comfortable with this and has stopped offering to do things. It's to the point where I'm questioning having more children because I will not be the only one parenting with more than one child and he will be required to step it up on daddy duties. I keep being cool with him doing things and thinking I'm going to get my turn, but my turn never comes. Honestly, I don't really know what to do because I'm so used to being constantly attached to E all the time and I've forgotten what it feels like to be alone. Plus I ALWAYS feel guilty for leaving E with him for "me" time when all I really want to do is spend the weekend catching up on family time or sleep. DH doesn't make it better because rather than encouraging me and saying I deserve "me" time he just waits for me to ask and then just says "sure, go ahead" all pouty-like. I really am going to make an effort to leave her with my mom or MIL this week and go do SOMETHING for me and not feel bad about it.
J is actually sleeping in, on my arm, but still sleeping in and the damn dogs decide now they want to go outside. Not earlier when J was up for a feeding, but now. They're being all loud and whiny, trying to wake her up.
Eta to add that they just woke her up, but at least she's smiling
It's -22F with the wind chill here and blowing snow and has been for over a week, so I've been stuck in the house. I'm got such a bad case of cabin fever. LET ME OUT!!!
Also, we're potentially going to move to another province again, for the fourth time in four years. I'm so sick of moving vans, registering for new licenses, health cards... Not to mention how much of a pain it will be to sell or rent the house--the house we just bought in August, I might add.
I jinxed myself by mentioning I have an irrational fear of throwing up and clowns. One of those two things caught up with me Saturday morning. I came down with a violent stomach flu and was responsible for unknowingly passing it to my two good friends the day before. So I felt sick and guilty.
DH worked nights so I had to take care of B solo while trying to not make him sick. He was super clingy so taking bathroom breaks resulted in screaming tears. He didn't want to be anywhere other than in my arms walking around the house. Plus icebound/housebound. Worst weekend.
My DH went to an amusement park back in August for an entire day leaving me alone with the twins for 15 hours. The deal was that I would get the same amount of time to have my own time away from kids. It's December and I'm pretty sure he's forgotten all about it. I want some me time. But then I feel guilty about leaving the babies.
My DH went to an amusement park back in August for an entire day leaving me alone with the twins for 15 hours. The deal was that I would get the same amount of time to have my own time away from kids. It's December and I'm pretty sure he's forgotten all about it. I want some me time. But then I feel guilty about leaving the babies.
@wasnotwas my daycare told me the same thing about switching to every four hours. Cue a three day mind fu*k. Then, a few weeks later we are back to every three hours again. Don't give up that pumping session, I'm having trouble making up for the extra bottle
What changed to go back to 3 hours? Do you nurse at home? We are barely making it every three hours at home, so 4 hours seems like a lifetime!!
@wasnotwas I have no idea. I posted about it because they called me at work and he finished all his food and it wasn't even 1 o clock. So they asked me to start him on solids, but I would rather go back to the original schedule. At home he was fine nursing at 10 and 2 like they originally told me he was doing at daycare. I would keep him at every three hours, because when we went to every 4, Cal started waking up for a quick feed in the middle of the night.
Thanks! I just called school and his second bottle is in the warmer which means he's only had 6 oz since I fed him at 4:30 this morning...I will end lives if this means more MOTN wake ups
MH has the dreaded man cold. Next time my head hurts and I get stopped up I'm going to stay in bed all day for 2 days and sleep 11 hours each night like him. A-hole.
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Also, DH's grandma is a psycho. She asked on Thanksgiving if DD was eating solids yet and I said no. We were at the house over the weekend and what does she try to do? Give DD a big spoonful of pudding. I almost had a stroke.
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That's my plan, I am just a super duper control freak so any change is like life-altering for 12 hours...it's a stressful way to live
ETA: Thanks for the advice!! (didn't mean to sound ungrateful)
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I know I can talk to him about it but it pisses me off that I have to tell him what to do, often multiple times. Plus his attitude about it sucks. Like I had to remind him the other day not to shake the breast milk. He got an attitude about it and said it was no big deal. I went off on him! He refuses to read about this stuff and rolls his eyes when I try to explain things to him.
And he also made a comment about me feeding DD squash purée for breakfast. I told him he could invent scrambled egg purée....
Also, DH, when I try to tell you there's about 2 inches of ice outside and we need to shovel/chop our way out of the driveway, please wake up and help me. Rolling back over and telling me "it's fine" is a sure way to get nut punched.
PS I was THREE hours late bc of this!! I almost killed him.
Now I have to go out in it to get lunch.
Plus DH acted like a complete tool this weekend and we got into a huge fight. He always takes it for granted that he has so much more freedom and "off time" than I do, and it's no big deal for him to step out for whatever whereas I always have to make sure I have enough milk pumped and that I'm not gone too long because E will freak out. I think he spent a total of an hour with E combined through the whole week. I SAH so I do ALL the child care because I see that as my "job" and it's twice the amount of effort for me to ask him to do something so I would just rather do it myself. I'm just now realizing that he is getting waaay to comfortable with this and has stopped offering to do things. It's to the point where I'm questioning having more children because I will not be the only one parenting with more than one child and he will be required to step it up on daddy duties. I keep being cool with him doing things and thinking I'm going to get my turn, but my turn never comes. Honestly, I don't really know what to do because I'm so used to being constantly attached to E all the time and I've forgotten what it feels like to be alone. Plus I ALWAYS feel guilty for leaving E with him for "me" time when all I really want to do is spend the weekend catching up on family time or sleep. DH doesn't make it better because rather than encouraging me and saying I deserve "me" time he just waits for me to ask and then just says "sure, go ahead" all pouty-like. I really am going to make an effort to leave her with my mom or MIL this week and go do SOMETHING for me and not feel bad about it.
Whine-fest over.
Eta to add that they just woke her up, but at least she's smiling
DH worked nights so I had to take care of B solo while trying to not make him sick. He was super clingy so taking bathroom breaks resulted in screaming tears. He didn't want to be anywhere other than in my arms walking around the house. Plus icebound/housebound. Worst weekend.
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