During my appt this weekend, my
midwife was like, "Wow! Your weight shot up. What are you even eating?!"
I'm 25 weeks, four days, and I've gained about 35 lbs. I'm eating well, I don't have any crazy cravings I'm indulging in, and I walk about two miles per day. I'm measuring normal, and she's not worried so I'm not worried about what this means for my pregnancy, I just wish my body would, I guess, be nicer to me.
I don't feel like I look like I'm up to 172 lbs, but I am rocking a double chin and a major increase in boobies.
I guess I'm just the type of woman who has a heavy pregnancy? Is that even a thing?
All of this is to say, I wish my midwife had just kept her mouth shut if there isn't something wrong with me.
Re: More on weight gain
I guess everyone is different. My mom gained only 8lbs total while she was pregnant with me (I was 6lbs9oz). DH's mom gained 75lbs while she was pregnant with him (almost 9lb baby at birth). Personally my goal is to stay under 200lbs. I started at 155.
ETA: I forgot to mention.. if you started out under weight you are expected to put on more weight than someone like me who started out about 10lbs over weight should gain less. I am not sure how much you weighed to begin with.
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Thanks to those who gave actual responses.
Wowee that escalated quickly!
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Not to look like a bump stalker (but whatevs)... but this is the 2nd time you've posted about weight... and the first time, lo and behold, it resulted in a plethora of "well i've gained ## lbs" replies. Seems like you're fishing again.
If you're so concerned about weight, maybe you shouldn't have the words Ice Cream in your screenname?
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12141914/fatty-boom-blatty
That's funny Laura!
OP, I was going to say something like "dude, that sucks that your MW made you uncomfortable."
But then you called everyone the c-word which just ain't classy. [-X
Two birds, one stone, I like it.
This whole body changing thing is still nerve racking. I get why, but sometimes i can't help but be sensitive, too!
Or maybe I'm having a heavy pregnancy because I started above 176? Then lost 10 lbs from m/s and stress and drama from two huge losses in my family? But must be a heifer at my 177+++ current weight.
I'm still having that cookie.
I guess i can keep track on how big LO is! Haha
wow a call out of cunts bc of a reaction based on your often repeated weight gain post... nice
But I get it. Weight is a sensitive subject and when you start throwing numbers out there and other people feel like you're saying "XX is too much!" or "I weigh XXX I must be a fatty!" and that's where THEY are, people get a little up in arms.
HOWEVER... the c--- callout was NOT cool. I was fine with the OP until that. :-w
FTR-- I am over the numbers everyone else has posted and IDGAF. I'm eating my second Egg McMuffin (no Canadian bacon, obviously... since I'm a hippie vegetarian). :@)
What I CAN say is that it's really hard work to maintain good self-esteem. Our bodies are changing. For some of us, this is our first pregnancy and the first time that GAINING weight is a GOOD thing. It can be hard to wrap our brains around that. It's also hard to wrap my brain around being cautious about weight gain (I was already overweight, but my OB is not concerned about limiting gain as long as I don't totally overdo it) while my brain is sending me CRAZY HUNGRY RIGHT NOW signals.
Yesterday, I ate tofu, broccoli and rice for lunch. Yummy and filling! Well, it SHOULD have been filling. Half an hour later I wanted to eat again. LIKE NOW. IMMEDIATELY. So I scrambled two eggs and sprinkled some cheese on top. Okay. So I had an extra lunch. An hour later, I'm obsessed with brownies. I WANTED SOMETHING FATTY AND SUGARY. RIGHT NOW. So I ate a brownie very, VERY slowly and enjoyed every bite.
Overall, I am eating well (minus brownie LOL). Yes, some days I eat A LOT. Other days, I feel bloated and eat very little. But it doesn't matter what I do, that number on the scale HAS to go up. I am nervous about the next 3 months. If I gain 1 lb a week until week 40, my total gain will be right around the 35 lb "healthy gain" number my OB mentioned. If I gain 5 pounds more than that, should I freak out? No. If I gain 20 pounds more than that, should I freak out? Well, maybe I SHOULDN'T, but I would be lying if I said I wouldn't be freaked. I just would be. Those are big numbers and weight loss has NEVER been easy for me.
I'm so sorry for the folks who are really struggling with their numbers and the things their OB/midwives say about those numbers. I get it. It's tough.
Maybe we can all try to leave out the actual NUMBERS (to avoid comparing to each other) and just talk about how we're feeling/coping with this new territory? It seems like many ladies are craving support, not comparison. This kind of body image struggle is as new to many of us as baby kicks and round ligament pain and everything else.