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OSUWifey09 · December 2013

cpm1223 said:

One more confession.....I had an u/s on wednesday and got a 3D pic of our LO. I'm kinda freaked out because he/she has super chubby cheek and as horrible as it sounds, the more I look at it, the more I'm thinking "Oh good lord I hope this kid is cute when it comes out"

Even H was like "woah" when we saw the picture...and I said "please don't say that our baby is ugly!" which of course he didn't

I had the same reaction when I got a 3D pic of LO on Monday. I felt so bad thinking, "Crap, I hope she comes out cute like her brothers".

We have a snow day today. I plan on finishing Christmas shopping and eating junk food. My house is an absolute mess, but I just don't care right now. We'll be snowed in until at least tomorrow afternoon, so I'll get my ass in gear and clean...but right now, I'm just going to sit on the floor and shop while DS plays with his trains.

Like peanutmuse, I also prefer my mom and sister around when it comes to thinks like having babies. With both DS and our loss, H wasn't that big of a help...he just didn't know what to do to comfort me [especially with our loss], so he stayed back. My mom and sister were awesome, though, which is why I told H that they'll be in the delivery room again.

JennaRaek · December 2013

I should have just stayed home from work all this week... I have done nothing productive.

goldenB · December 2013

wilburbud said:

goldenB said:

I feel really disconnected from TB lately

Dont goooooooooooooooooooooooo
In all seriousness, I think a lot of us, especially those who have been here since the beginning, can relate. Im sure its because we're all just kind of "done" being pregnant, the same questions are being asked weekly, and we're in this weird holding state until baby arrives. We'll pull through it- together! forever!

haha thanks for the laugh!!
I think you are right, I just need to jump in more (and will definitely make a conscious effort to participate) but recently real life has come in to interfere...apparently I need to do a nursery and get ready for baby and stuff? who knew?

Emily6778 · December 2013

cpm1223 said:

I'm a bit pissed at my MIL & SIL who told me that I "need to bring a robe to the hospital" if I'm going to breastfeed, because H's cousin didn't and she just "whipped out her boob in front of everyone" Part of me wants to whip my boobs out just to make them uncomfortable...I mean seriously, she was just learning how to BF, give her a freaking break or leave the room!

Part of me is wanting to stay pregnant forever so that I don't have to go to the gym and worry about what I look like. I think I'm most worried about never loosing the pregnancy weight (and weight I needed to loose before getting pregnant.)

I heard the Mariah Carey "All I want for Christmas" song today on my way to work and it make me super happy....but I still have no desire to decorate or shop for Christmas.

@cpm1223 If someone told me this, I would purposely not bring a robe and than ask said person to leave the room whenever I needed to BF.

goldenB · December 2013

Also, since I am cleansing my soul through my weekly confession, I should probably also tell you guys that I watched the entire first season of Orange is the new black - in 2 days straight.

so I've been cheating on TB while watching lesbian in-mates cope with the daily struggles of prison life.

I feel so dirty.

alinafed · December 2013

goldenB said:

wilburbud said:

goldenB said:

I feel really disconnected from TB lately

Dont goooooooooooooooooooooooo
In all seriousness, I think a lot of us, especially those who have been here since the beginning, can relate. Im sure its because we're all just kind of "done" being pregnant, the same questions are being asked weekly, and we're in this weird holding state until baby arrives. We'll pull through it- together! forever!

haha thanks for the laugh!!
I think you are right, I just need to jump in more (and will definitely make a conscious effort to participate) but recently real life has come in to interfere...apparently I need to do a nursery and get ready for baby and stuff? who knew?

I know how you feel @goldenB. It was much easier before life got so busy - then in November my only employee quit and work got insane, I had my shower, my mat photo shoot, got diagnosed with piriformis syndrome and have been managing that, and now its the start of Christmastime - I felt way more connected to TB when I was on all the time and able to read all the posts. I am thinking when I have my year of mat leave I will have more time to participate (aside from caring for the baby of course).

PreDempsey · December 2013

@peanutmuse Unity has the same policy as far as sending deliveries less than 34 weeks to Strong, definitely counting down the days until that isn't necessary. With all you've been through so far I hope you have some uneventful and restful weeks a head of you!

peanutmuse · December 2013

@cpm1223 -- the thing that your MIL and SIL told you is the kind of thing that makes me not want to have anyone visit us at the hospital.

sugarland726 · December 2013

peanutmuse said:

PreDempsey said:

@peanutmuse are you at the hospital with the really high level NICU?

@PreDempsey -- No, I'm supposed to to deliver at Highland. I'll have to go to Strong if the baby comes in the next 8 days because they automatically send women there when they go into labor before 34 weeks. But my OB doesn't have privileges at Strong, so I'm hoping that I don't need to do that. I prefer my hospital even with my issues this week. I really think that they do well for "normal" situations -- but it's rare for pregnant women to require surgery and even more rare for them to develop the pseudomonas infection, so I think that they didn't quite know what to do with me.

Of course, if the baby needs the NICU, they will transfer him to Strong anyway. Which is good, but I certainly hope that's not necessary.

I was wondering which hospital you were at. I assumed Highland after your previous comment of the top 10. That really surprises me because they are supposed to be SO good. Both my niece and nephew were delivered there and my sister had wonderful experiences. I'm really sorry it was such a horrible experience. Does your OB have privileges at RGH?

twobluelines · December 2013

I told work I would be working from home today because we are getting a giant tv delivered. My husband is already home though on a mental health day . I was just jealous and didn't feel like getting dressed in anything other than yoga pants.

sugarland726 · December 2013

I've been having ultrasounds each month for LO's enlarged kidney. At 32 weeks LO was measuring at 6.3 pounds, which was way ahead. I'm afraid I am going to deliver a small baby and people will just think I was lying this whole time for sympathy over end of pregnancy pain.

cpm1223 · December 2013

peanutmuse said:

@cpm1223 -- the thing that your MIL and SIL told you is the kind of thing that makes me not want to have anyone visit us at the hospital.

Ugh, I know and I have a feeling H's Dad's side of the family is going to be even weirder about it (bf-ing) but I will not hesitate to kick people out if I need to.

Also, this pretty much sealed the deal about asking MIL to be in the room for delivery...hell effing NO...if she can't handle a freaking boob (Oh also, she's a nurse, has been for 30+ years) then I don't want her there while I'm pushing a baby out of my vagina!

peanutmuse · December 2013

@sugarland726 -- No, she only has privileges at Highland. And honestly, all of my visits to the OB triage there have been great. I truly believe that I was just in a situation that was unusual and that it won't happen like that when I deliver. Because that's what they do best there, haha.

peanutmuse · December 2013

sugarland726 said:

I've been having ultrasounds each month for LO's enlarged kidney. At 32 weeks LO was measuring at 6.3 pounds, which was way ahead. I'm afraid I am going to deliver a small baby and people will just think I was lying this whole time for sympathy over end of pregnancy pain.

@sugarland726 -- I know what you mean. I feel like if I don't deliver early, people will be like 'wtf, why were you out of work?' But I have to remind myself that I'm out of work to prevent pre-term labor. That's the whole idea.

When is your next u/s to check the kidney?

And now I have some perspective on your 6.3 baby. At 32 weeks, my baby measured at 4 lbs 7 oz, which is in the 70th percentile. 6.3 must be off the charts!!

megs12914 · December 2013

@peanutmuse I want my mom there for the c-section instead of my husband but that would not fly with him. She's much better in those situations, like you said.

megs12914 · December 2013

@peanutmuse I want my mom there for the c-section instead of my husband but that would not fly with him. She's much better in those situations, like you said.

@jessicabcairns My bad. Tell him to hate me!

Edited because I posted without reading first.

megngregk · December 2013

I have two more.

1) I told my family that I only want my mother at the hospital during labor and until after LO is born, and that I would let them know when they could come meet Nathaniel. BFF will also be in the delivery room with me, but nobody knows that.

2) This one is random and NBR. It makes me so stabby when I see women wearing their SO's PT uniforms (think the gray ARMY t-shirts), especially in public. It's not a damn outfit, it's a workout uniform that their SOs sweat and roll around in the dirt in. It's freaking gross and trashy, I don't care if it's freshly washed. Put on some real clothes. This may also be an UO because I know there are other military wives on the board (being a military wife and service member myself, I still think it's nasty).

MrsGraham06 · December 2013

I'm testing out a new office chair at work, and it's so comfy I could sleep. At least I have a short day today! 1- boss brought bagels for 9:45 to get us through until 2- company-paid lunch at 1:30 at Olive Garden, then 3- go home from there

[Deleted User] · December 2013

benjaminsmommy16 said:

Tylynngrace said:

I so selfish, I don't want anyone to hold DS but me. Like I even get jealous when H holds him. I don't want my mom or MIL to hold him this weekend but we promised them they could.

I think this is normal for a lot of NICU moms. I felt the same way and have read that other moms do too.

No one is touching Jacob unless its the nurse, DH or me. I told the family that the hospital doesn't allow babies to be picked up by anyone other than the parents. Now my sister keeps saying she can't wait until he gets home so she can hold him, I tried to explain that we will be quarantined for the winter but she thinks it doesn't apply to her. She's in for a rude awaking.

sugarland726 · December 2013

peanutmuse said:

sugarland726 said:

I've been having ultrasounds each month for LO's enlarged kidney. At 32 weeks LO was measuring at 6.3 pounds, which was way ahead. I'm afraid I am going to deliver a small baby and people will just think I was lying this whole time for sympathy over end of pregnancy pain.

@sugarland726 -- I know what you mean. I feel like if I don't deliver early, people will be like 'wtf, why were you out of work?' But I have to remind myself that I'm out of work to prevent pre-term labor. That's the whole idea.

When is your next u/s to check the kidney?

And now I have some perspective on your 6.3 baby. At 32 weeks, my baby measured at 4 lbs 7 oz, which is in the 70th percentile. 6.3 must be off the charts!!

I go back to the MFM on Wednesday. If LO grows at the average 1/2 a pound a week, that could put LO at over 8 pounds at 36 weeks. The growth trajectory has been the same, and we all have big and tall babies in my family, but I am afraid that the ultrasound are off like the stories we hear. But I've gotta be honest, if you saw me, you wouldn't think I've got a little baby in there.

bethughknee · December 2013

@megngregk I still sleep with my baby blanket in my bed. I put it behind my pillow or ball it up and rest my arms on it now since they fall asleep and wake me up all tingly. I also carry a "Mimi" in my purse. It's a knitted dishcloth. I have another friend who has the same issues I do with anxiety and OCD and we both carry one to hold onto when we get really anxious away from home. (Her grandmother made them for us.) I even wore it in my dress on my wedding day. I am VERY comforted by having something to do with my hands so I just stick a hand in my purse and squeeze it. I am seriously just taller version of a toddler masquerading as an adult.

@cpm1223 I am intentionally not bringing a robe to the hospital so that I can ask people to leave when I need to nurse. What gives with these people who think they need to stay in your room as long as they want to? It's YOUR room and YOUR recovery. I'd tell my MIL to get to steppin' if I were you.

Other than that: I have an uncle who is a retired PO and therefore has a conceal and carry permit. I support that he does but he also deals with severe MDD and bi-polar and feels the need to carry a pistol even when he visits with family and also tell people about it in very uncomfortable ways. I'm working up the never to tell my aunt that he is not allowed in my house with that gun anymore. I will either deal with his mental health issues in my house OR him carrying a gun. Since he can't leave the bi polar at home...he needs to ditch the gun when he's around my baby.

MrsGraham06 · December 2013

I don't like walking right now, but I have found that extreme cold makes any discomfort suddenly bearable, and I can suddenly speed-walk with the best of them

Deblondie1 · December 2013

megngregk said:

I have two more.

1) I told my family that I only want my mother at the hospital during labor and until after LO is born, and that I would let them know when they could come meet Nathaniel. BFF will also be in the delivery room with me, but nobody knows that.

2) This one is random and NBR. It makes me so stabby when I see women wearing their SO's PT uniforms (think the gray ARMY t-shirts), especially in public. It's not a damn outfit, it's a workout uniform that their SOs sweat and roll around in the dirt in. It's freaking gross and trashy, I don't care if it's freshly washed. Put on some real clothes. This may also be an UO because I know there are other military wives on the board (being a military wife and service member myself, I still think it's nasty).

@megngregk Agreed! Or when they wear the ABU hats. That being said, I have worn an AF pt shirt to the gym before because it was mine when I was active duty. I'm sure I got some sideeyes but it was all that was clean and it wasn't MH's lol I did my damn time and i paid for that damn shirt. Now the shorts you couldn't catch me dead in lol

Rushley · December 2013

My daughter made cookies at daycare yesterday- one for mommy, one for daddy and one for her. I waited til her nap and ate them all.

Kc101212 · December 2013

megngregk said:

I have two more.

1) I told my family that I only want my mother at the hospital during labor and until after LO is born, and that I would let them know when they could come meet Nathaniel. BFF will also be in the delivery room with me, but nobody knows that.

2) This one is random and NBR. It makes me so stabby when I see women wearing their SO's PT uniforms (think the gray ARMY t-shirts), especially in public. It's not a damn outfit, it's a workout uniform that their SOs sweat and roll around in the dirt in. It's freaking gross and trashy, I don't care if it's freshly washed. Put on some real clothes. This may also be an UO because I know there are other military wives on the board (being a military wife and service member myself, I still think it's nasty).

Guilty of both of these. I lied to MIL and said only DH would be at hospital, my parents and sister will totally be there. His mom is bitchy and mean to me, it's just going to increase my stress and anxiety to have her there and I don't want to deal with entertaining her.

And completely agree, I'd never wear DH's PT uniform - in public or otherwise

Deblondie1 · December 2013

I'm not saying I want to have this baby right now (due to GA) but I am ready to have this baby. I'm tired of meds that make me see spots, tired of drs, tired of laying down, I'm tired tired TIRED! And then I want to bitch slap myself because I should be focusing on how blessed and lucky I am to still be pregnant given my history.

Also, I can't wait to get my tubal. I'm actually looking forward to being sterilized.

megngregk · December 2013

Deblondie1 said:
@megngregk Agreed! Or when they wear the ABU hats. That being said, I have worn an AF pt shirt to the gym before because it was mine when I was active duty. I'm sure I got some sideeyes but it was all that was clean and it wasn't MH's lol I did my damn time and i paid for that damn shirt. Now the shorts you couldn't catch me dead in lol

Haha, this is acceptable because as you mentioned, it's yours and you were wearing it for the purpose of exercising. I will wear my own PTs to work out, too. Wait, I did used to work out, right?

Did you see the article going around on FB about an Army wife wearing her H's ACU tops around in public? When she was called out on it, she told a cashier that she had "served" 4 years as an Army wife and she had every right to wear the uniform. Umm, hell to the no.

ETA: You will not catch me dead in my PT shorts unless I'm actually doing PT with my unit, they are beyond awful!

bethughknee said:

@megngregk I still sleep with my baby blanket in my bed. I put it behind my pillow or ball it up and rest my arms on it now since they fall asleep and wake me up all tingly. I also carry a "Mimi" in my purse. It's a knitted dishcloth. I have another friend who has the same issues I do with anxiety and OCD and we both carry one to hold onto when we get really anxious away from home. (Her grandmother made them for us.) I even wore it in my dress on my wedding day. I am VERY comforted by having something to do with my hands so I just stick a hand in my purse and squeeze it. I am seriously just taller version of a toddler masquerading as an adult.

Me too, it's ok

Kc101212 · December 2013

FFFC makes me realize how much lying I've done while pregnant...

MamaP19 · December 2013

bethughknee said:

@megngregk I still sleep with my baby blanket in my bed. I put it behind my pillow or ball it up and rest my arms on it now since they fall asleep and wake me up all tingly. I also carry a "Mimi" in my purse. It's a knitted dishcloth. I have another friend who has the same issues I do with anxiety and OCD and we both carry one to hold onto when we get really anxious away from home. (Her grandmother made them for us.) I even wore it in my dress on my wedding day. I am VERY comforted by having something to do with my hands so I just stick a hand in my purse and squeeze it. I am seriously just taller version of a toddler masquerading as an adult.

@cpm1223 I am intentionally not bringing a robe to the hospital so that I can ask people to leave when I need to nurse. What gives with these people who think they need to stay in your room as long as they want to? It's YOUR room and YOUR recovery. I'd tell my MIL to get to steppin' if I were you.

Other than that: I have an uncle who is a retired PO and therefore has a conceal and carry permit. I support that he does but he also deals with severe MDD and bi-polar and feels the need to carry a pistol even when he visits with family and also tell people about it in very uncomfortable ways. I'm working up the never to tell my aunt that he is not allowed in my house with that gun anymore. I will either deal with his mental health issues in my house OR him carrying a gun. Since he can't leave the bi polar at home...he needs to ditch the gun when he's around my baby.

@bethughknee - This makes me so uncomfortable for you. I totally agree with telling him (or your aunt) that no guns are okay in your house or around your LO.

peanutmuse · December 2013

bwinston0192 said:

2) Before they gave me the curfew, my dad called me a whore to my face one day (since all my friends were guys, and I would hang out with them after work all the time). He asked me how many guys in general I had slept with. I lied about the number.

Whoa, why did you even answer that question in the first place?! Yikes. @bwinston0192

cpm1223 · December 2013

peanutmuse said:

bwinston0192 said:

2) Before they gave me the curfew, my dad called me a whore to my face one day (since all my friends were guys, and I would hang out with them after work all the time). He asked me how many guys in general I had slept with. I lied about the number.

Whoa, why did you even answer that question in the first place?! Yikes. @bwinston0192

I was thinking the same thing! For one thing my father would never in a million years ask that sort of question, and if he did I would not answer it at all, that's none of his business!

megngregk · December 2013

bwinston0192 said:

cpm1223 said:

peanutmuse said:

bwinston0192 said:

2) Before they gave me the curfew, my dad called me a whore to my face one day (since all my friends were guys, and I would hang out with them after work all the time). He asked me how many guys in general I had slept with. I lied about the number.

Whoa, why did you even answer that question in the first place?! Yikes. @bwinston0192
I was thinking the same thing! For one thing my father would never in a million years ask that sort of question, and if he did I would not answer it at all, that's none of his business!

He literally made me sit in the room until I gave him an answer. I told him that it wasn't his business, that my personal life is my personal life. But with him blocking the doorway, I figured I wouls save time by giving some random answer.

Funny thing is, he's a psychiatrist.

That seems incredibly unhealthy and controlling, especially considering you were an adult. I think that would have put a huge wedge in my relationship with my father.

Deblondie1 · December 2013

megngregk said:

Deblondie1 said:
@megngregk Agreed! Or when they wear the ABU hats. That being said, I have worn an AF pt shirt to the gym before because it was mine when I was active duty. I'm sure I got some sideeyes but it was all that was clean and it wasn't MH's lol I did my damn time and i paid for that damn shirt. Now the shorts you couldn't catch me dead in lol

Haha, this is acceptable because as you mentioned, it's yours and you were wearing it for the purpose of exercising. I will wear my own PTs to work out, too. Wait, I did used to work out, right?

Did you see the article going around on FB about an Army wife wearing her H's ACU tops around in public? When she was called out on it, she told a cashier that she had "served" 4 years as an Army wife and she had every right to wear the uniform. Umm, hell to the no.

ETA: You will not catch me dead in my PT shorts unless I'm actually doing PT with my unit, they are beyond awful!

bethughknee said:

@megngregk I still sleep with my baby blanket in my bed. I put it behind my pillow or ball it up and rest my arms on it now since they fall asleep and wake me up all tingly. I also carry a "Mimi" in my purse. It's a knitted dishcloth. I have another friend who has the same issues I do with anxiety and OCD and we both carry one to hold onto when we get really anxious away from home. (Her grandmother made them for us.) I even wore it in my dress on my wedding day. I am VERY comforted by having something to do with my hands so I just stick a hand in my purse and squeeze it. I am seriously just taller version of a toddler masquerading as an adult.

Me too, it's ok

Ho-ly bananas that lady is crazy! Spouses like that are the reason I distance myself from other dependent wives, unless they are also prior service.

Munchie2.0 · December 2013

to be fair- I was with one guy for 10 years...

1.) After I was legally separated from my ex, I slept with 7 guys in one month.. *I know I am dirty whore*

2.) Of those 7, one was my bosses at my old job.. (he was going through a divorce too) *seriously a dirty whore*

3.) Of those 7, 2 were within 24hrs of each other... One of which ended up being my night in shining armor and is my baby daddy... *not a story we will be telling our children*

4.) After we got married we went back to the same spot we first hooked up at and dtd (a parking lot at a 24hr restaurant) *we need help!*

hahahahaha!

sugarland726 · December 2013

BabyKezar said:

to be fair- I was with one guy for 10 years...

1.) After I was legally separated from my ex, I slept with 7 guys in one month.. *I know I am dirty whore*
2.) Of those 7, one was my bosses at my old job.. (he was going through a divorce too) *seriously a dirty whore*
3.) Of those 7, 2 were within 24hrs of each other... One of which ended up being my night in shining armor and is my baby daddy... *not a story we will be telling our children*
4.) After we got married we went back to the same spot we first hooked up at and dtd (a parking lot at a 24hr restaurant) *we need help!*

hahahahaha!

I love your self commentary on your post.

SunflowersBride · December 2013

I haven't gotten a flu shot yet.

aessary03 · December 2013

BabyKezar said:
to be fair- I was with one guy for 10 years...

1.) After I was legally separated from my ex, I slept with 7 guys in one month.. *I know I am dirty whore*
2.) Of those 7, one was my bosses at my old job.. (he was going through a divorce too) *seriously a dirty whore*
3.) Of those 7, 2 were within 24hrs of each other... One of which ended up being my night in shining armor and is my baby daddy... *not a story we will be telling our children*
4.) After we got married we went back to the same spot we first hooked up at and dtd (a parking lot at a 24hr restaurant) *we need help!*

hahahahaha!

Ha ha I love this. Dirty whores unite! J/k. I was in a sorority so you can imagine the walks of shame I've done! I made some bad choices. No judgment here!

bethughknee · December 2013

aessary03 said:

to be fair- I was with one guy for 10 years...

1.) After I was legally separated from my ex, I slept with 7 guys in one month.. *I know I am dirty whore*
2.) Of those 7, one was my bosses at my old job.. (he was going through a divorce too) *seriously a dirty whore*
3.) Of those 7, 2 were within 24hrs of each other... One of which ended up being my night in shining armor and is my baby daddy... *not a story we will be telling our children*
4.) After we got married we went back to the same spot we first hooked up at and dtd (a parking lot at a 24hr restaurant) *we need help!*

hahahahaha!
Ha ha I love this. Dirty whores unite! J/k. I was in a sorority so you can imagine the walks of shame I've done! I made some bad choices. No judgment here!

Joining the Dirty Whore club! I was married to a friend from high school for a couple of years and we lived in CA together while he was in the Marines. He dealt with pretty bad PTSD and became abusive. I wanted to move home and he wouldn't let me. I cheated on him with his friend. For months. Best ST's of my life till H came along. If anyone ever needs a list of the best places to secretly do it in San Diego, I'm your girl.

ETA: Tag @BabyKezar

moosebaby2011 · December 2013

We just got new bedroom furniture, and it's a platform bed that doesn't require a box spring because it ends up making the bed way too high. It does, however, require a "bunkie board" or plywood to replace the box spring. I ordered the "bunkie boards" without telling DH that plywood was an option. I know that he'd want to do plywood because it is cheaper, but I also know that we'd be sleeping on a super-high mattress (which is a huge PIA for me to climb in and out of) for weeks until DH got around to buying and cutting the plywood.

For me, the option of having the bed delivered, set up, and functional TODAY (since they neglected to bring the bunkie boards with the furniture delivery yesterday) was well worth the additional cost. What DH doesn't know won't hurt him, right?

lolinshag · December 2013

......TMI........

I woke up last night humping the damn body pillow. Had a split second thought about waking up DH to have some fun, but thought "gee that'd be a lotta work" so I rolled back over and just finished myself off. And man is my face red right now! $:\$ ">

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