Married October 2009. Me 29 H 28. After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013. Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
CPT: Biggest fear/concern about LO's arrival? 193 votes
um......the delivery or c-section itself. Seriously a full grown baby has to come out of my body soon!
34%66 votes
recovery post birth. There are stiches where now? and you want me to poop?
18%35 votes
breastfeeding woes. Are they getting enough, latching, can I even do this?
11%22 votes
dealing with family. Who's coming into town, who's keeping my other children, I hate my In-laws....
11%22 votes
we are so not prepared! What if nursery isn't finished, and DH is trying to put the carseat in at the last second.
3%7 votes
dreading sleepless nights or just fearing being responsible for keeping a very needy little human alive.
SS here....all of the above are my biggest fears/concerns.
Missing Our July Sparkler BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13 BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
The emotional part of the recovery. I hated the way I felt the first two weeks or so after I had my son and I am praying it doesn't happen again this time around.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
The first three things scare the crap out of me the most because they are all things that depend on MY body. Nobody can do those things for me like birth the baby, recover from delivery, and breastfeed the baby.
ME (34) Secondary/unexplained IF, DH(35) MFI w/varicocele repair DS conceived NTNP; born 1/8/14 TTC 5/15 TI w/Clomid 12/16, 1/17, 2/17 OB ordered SA 2/17 and referred to RE for MFI - Low Count/Motility DH Varicocele repair 6/17. 9/17 SA: count improved TI w/Letrozole 9/17, 10/17 IUI#1 11/17 BFN IUI#2 Christmas day Canceled due to low count/poor sample IVF#1 w/ICSI: 3/18 BCP, Lupron down reg, Follistim 300IU, LDHCG 10units, Lupron 5units, Ovidrel trigger on 3/18. ER 3/21 8 retrieved, 5 mature, 3 smaller no fertilization w/IVF. 3/5 fertilized w/ICSI. Day 5 Fresh transfer scheduled 3/26 or day3 on Saturday if any arrest.
Voted SS - I'm worried about my labour happening too quickly and not getting to the hospital in time or not getting enough antibiotics for GBS during labour!
SS- Very nervous about the delivery this time ..it went so wonderfully last time I feel like there's nowhere to go but to hell..lol
Also nervous about balancing 2 kids..DD is very attached to me and is used to being the center of attention. I feel like I'm more worried about her than the new LO- newborns aren't bad (in my head)..it's the unknown of a toddler with a newborn that has me scared!
My biggest concern is the lack of sleep, not in itself, but the fact that I will still have to be functional enough to deal with older kids during the day regardless of how much of a walking zombie I am. Times like these I pray that my oldest suddenly and randomly starts napping daily, again.
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SS- I'm nervous of DD's reaction to LO. She hates when another kid sits in my lap. She will literally push them out. I have no idea what she will do when baby boy is nursing!
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7
My kids have always been years apart in age. My first 2, 1 was in Kindergarten when the second came. This is the first time I will have a 2 yr old and a nb and I'm terrified of how I will manage them, much less my 3 other children.
SS - I am worried about how DS will adapt to having a new baby. He gets very jealous whenever I have another child in my arms, or even just the dog. He has been the only child for 2 years and the only (local) grandchild to both sets of grandparents who live less than 2 miles away so he is a little bit spoiled and used to being the center of attention.
All of it! But the biggest one not mentioned is something being wrong with the baby, losing it/dying.
-------------- "Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what's inside you, to make your soul grow." --Kurt Vonnegut
I have a fear of the epidural. I'm so afraid of the epidural, I'm seriously thinking about going natural. I rather deal with the pain than the thought of the epidural. Sad, I know.
I fear the epidural and delivery itself. I also fear financially and living situations come next fall when our lease is up, but that's a whole other story.
Recovery was really hard for me after DS was born five years ago, and I'm afraid of how that will go this time. I don't count the recovery from my loss because the emotional turmoil from that definitely made that recovery so much different than normal.
Now that I'm more aware of how chaotic your body becomes after you have a baby [everything from baby blues to hemorrhoids], I will be more prepared for the aftermath. I'm still nervous about it, though, especially with an active 5-year-old.
My biggest fear is that something is going to go wrong during the delivery. I've been irrationally fearful throughout this pregnancy that I was going to lose this baby, and as I'm getting closer to delivering, it's getting worse.
But aside from that, I voted the birth scares me most. Not so much the pain, but that everything will go relatively smoothly, that I'll make it to the hospital in time, etc.
I don't hate my in laws, but my house is always kept up and clean. You can eat off of my floors type clean and my MIL is sooooo messy. I literally obsessed over it at thanksgiving when the pink E. coli ridden juices from the raw turkey were splashing all over the floor when she was getting it stuffed and into the bag. Also, why can't she use spoon rests, not mix things, eat off of the spoon, and reuse it without washing it while knowing others will be eating it, when you're done with measuring cups and spoons, put them right into the sink and not on the counter so all of the crap still on them gets all over the Effing counter! I'm going to make all of the food they will eat before she gets here so she isn't cooking in my kitchen. She thinks she's making spaghetti sauce at my house again. Ha! No way.
Terrified of a really rough recovery and DH's entire leave being wasted with me not being able to do anything. This stresses me more than anything because it'll be 7.5 months before I will see him again.
All. Of. It. Ok maybe not the c-section so much but going into labor early - before the scheduled date. All the other things? YES! Added to that will I be good at it? Will I be a good mom? What if we don't connect like we should?
All of the above, but mostly the inlaws over stepping boundaries and not respecting the space we need. Also terrified of the recovery and never sleeping again I love me so sleep.
Eta- oh yeah and a Catheter they share the s**t out of me
I voted breastfeeding, but honestly its a toss up between that and sleep deprivation. DH got up with me almost every time last time so I could pump while he fed DS, which worked pretty well, since he had a very short commute to work. Now he has a 1.5 hour commute each way, so he won't be able to get up with me at all, and sleeping when baby sleeps is going to be pretty difficult with a toddler around. I'm hoping and praying the BFing goes very differently with this one and that I don't end up EPing again, though if it comes down to EPing or formula, formula is probably going to be the way we go.
Re: CPT: Biggest fear/concern about LO's arrival?
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
DS conceived NTNP; born 1/8/14
TTC 5/15
TI w/Clomid 12/16, 1/17, 2/17
OB ordered SA 2/17 and referred to RE for MFI - Low Count/Motility
DH Varicocele repair 6/17.
9/17 SA: count improved
TI w/Letrozole 9/17, 10/17
IUI#1 11/17 BFN
IUI#2 Christmas day Canceled due to low count/poor sample
IVF#1 w/ICSI: 3/18 BCP, Lupron down reg, Follistim 300IU, LDHCG 10units, Lupron 5units, Ovidrel trigger on 3/18. ER 3/21
8 retrieved, 5 mature, 3 smaller no fertilization w/IVF. 3/5 fertilized w/ICSI. Day 5 Fresh transfer scheduled 3/26 or day3 on Saturday if any arrest.
Carter Robert 7.18.08 | Brynn Sophia 5.24.10 | Reid Joseph 9.10.12 | Emerson Mae 1.27.14
My ILs will attempt uninvited visits. Guaranteed. And I will want to stab them because they will consistently tell me I'm doing whatever wrong.
Also, the idea of trying to do anything post-birth is terrifying to me. I can't even comprehend trying to go to the bathroom with stitches. Just...no.
Partially Complex (my blog)
The first three!!
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TTC #1 since 10/11
BFP #1-10/01/12 | ended in m/c11/19/12
Jan-2013-Cycle 10: Clomid 50mg + Trigger + TI = BFN
Feb-2013-Cycle 11: Benched due to cysts.
March-2013-Cycle 12: Clomid 100mg + Trigger + TI = BFP
4/22/13-Beta#1 33.9-- 4/24/13-Beta#2 117
EDD 12/30/13
And the possibility of a c-section.
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"Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what's inside you, to make your soul grow." --Kurt Vonnegut
Now that I'm more aware of how chaotic your body becomes after you have a baby [everything from baby blues to hemorrhoids], I will be more prepared for the aftermath. I'm still nervous about it, though, especially with an active 5-year-old.
But aside from that, I voted the birth scares me most. Not so much the pain, but that everything will go relatively smoothly, that I'll make it to the hospital in time, etc.
Eta- oh yeah and a Catheter they share the s**t out of me
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP