those who post and don't respond/follow-up

Re: those who post and don't respond/follow-up

• Mcsweets member

  November 2013

  Haha ... yes indeed.
  

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• PinupMomma08 member

  November 2013

  Yerp.

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• jandt2009 member

  November 2013

  I am guilty of this! I'll be honest, I get scared I will be posting too much so I wait too long. I also worry that I am going to sound like an idiot in my replies so I hesitate posting. This isn't because of anything on here making me feel this way. I'm just super self conscious. I really do appreciate people's advice and support!

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• amandapthompson member

  November 2013

  I am bad about this!

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• ladyglittersparkles member

  November 2013

  I may be gulity as well...i get distracted at work.... dang it

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• CMLand05 member

  November 2013

  Stop being so sensitive. It's an open forum. People might just want opinions or comfort. How rude of you... Do you know what is happening in their lives? How busy or stressed or whatever else? C'mon to each their own...

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• YankeePeach08 member

  November 2013

  i think it is most frustrating when people ask a question and everyone responding could use more info, but the OP never returns to fill in gaps. 

  
  

  Also, when a ton of people respond it is common courtesy to let everyone know what you are going to do.3

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• PinupMomma08 member

  November 2013

  CMLand05 said:

  Stop being so sensitive. It's an open forum. People might just want opinions or comfort. How rude of you... Do you know what is happening in their lives? How busy or stressed or whatever else? C'mon to each their own...

  
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• CMLand05 member

  November 2013

  I think that sometimes people just want to know someone is having a similar time with whatever it is. I think once they have that then they relax. Maybe they just asked the question to get it off their chest? People deal with things so differently.
  
  This isn't a workplace. This isn't walking into a room full of women. For some, this is a place where they can finally ask things without being judged. It's no different than other chat forums.
  
  I always try to follow up. I don't treat this like a place of strangers etc, but for some with no place and no support I can understand their ride by posts.

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• CMLand05 member

  November 2013

  Perhaps. Perhaps.

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• PinupMomma08 member

  November 2013

  But to never be seen or heard from again?

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• SassyFlats member

  November 2013

  Welp.... you guys never have to worry about that with me! If I don't come back to my own post, somebody tag me to make sure I didn't get hit by a bus or something.

  
  

  'Cause I loooooooooove me some follow-up!  <:-P

  
  

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• sopranoali member

  November 2013

  I think (hope?) people just don't realize you should introduce, answer other posts, etc. before expecting to have all this rapport that somehow falls from the sky.
  
  Yeah it's a discussion board on the internets but it is nice to recognize handles and get to know the ladies.
  
  Also, if one more person asks how much weight we've gained I'm going to go batshit insane. None of your damn business just talk to your doctor about it. Also a special fuck you that you never came back to say "oh this is why I'm wondering" or "well I've gained this much".... I already feel bad enough that I fart uncontrollably when I get up from the couch without seeing that I'm nearing the 200 lb mark.

  

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• sopranoali member

  November 2013

  Seeing and thinking about it a lot, that is.

  

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• PinupMomma08 member

  November 2013

  SassyFlats said:

  Welp.... you guys never have to worry about that with me! If I don't come back to my own post, somebody tag me to make sure I didn't get hit by a bus or something.

  
  

  'Cause I loooooooooove me some follow-up!  <:-P

  
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• SmittyPants member

  November 2013

  Meh. I'm likely guilty. I'm a SAHM so if my toddler starts to have a meltdown, or needs me, or throws food, or hits the dog, or runs into a wall, or has an itch on her finger that makes her cry, I need to attend to it. I often forget whatever the hell it was I was doing prior to her crisis. We're all busy in our own way and if we don't follow-up, oh well. I don't think people do it to be intentionally rude, it just happens.

  

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• ladyglittersparkles member

  November 2013

  I think I lied
  I think I don't post and go
  Sometimes it's just a little time in the day btwn posts

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• YankeePeach08 member

  November 2013

  CMLand05 said:

  Stop being so sensitive. It's an open forum. People might just want opinions or comfort. How rude of you... Do you know what is happening in their lives? How busy or stressed or whatever else? C'mon to each their own...

  #1. Nothing about my OP was "sensitive" (nor do I think my posts or replies are typically "sensitive")

  #2  Nothing about my OP was "rude"

  #3  My OP was a simple question

  #4  If someone comes on here with "what should I do" type posts and women take the time to offer a solution it is simple courtesy to respond with thanks and/or follow up. This wasn't really intended for the "how much weight have you gained" or "let's compare symptoms" posts.

  
  

  In conclusion I think you are a bit more riled up then my OP was:

  

  
  

  
  

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• KariB509 member

  November 2013

  I think I'm good about responding to posts that I create but I'm not so good about responding when I've left a comment on someone else's post and then someone responds to my comment. I don't always go back to the post after I've commented. It'd be nice if TB notified you when someone quotes you or if you're always linked (@) when someone replies to you specifically inside another post.
  

  
  

    

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• SassyFlats member

  November 2013

  YankeePeach08 said:

  In conclusion I think you are a bit more riled up then my OP was:

  
  

  Oh, hot damn..... I love that man! *fans self* @-)

  
  

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• CMLand05 member

  November 2013

  Lol I'm completely chill. You asked and got responses. Mine doesn't agree with yours so I get a list response and another meme? Sweet!

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• cdnmomma member

  November 2013

  I had the experience of being the only one who responded to a post and although poster was back on tb she never acknowledged that I had responded. Bad enough BUT what makes it worse is that she then later had the audacity to say in another thread that was about something similar that she had asked the same question the week prior and no one answered. Wtf?!? So i then pointed out to her that I had in fact responded and yet again she ignored me. Seriously?!?

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• YankeePeach08 member

  November 2013

  CMLand05 said:

  Lol I'm completely chill. You asked and got responses. Mine doesn't agree with yours so I get a list response and another meme? Sweet!

  TBH your response was not "chill" and you didn't get a meme b/c you disagreed with me, you got one b/c you went a little coo-coo out of now where.

  

  
  

  
  

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• benevolentforce member

  November 2013

  I agree this is irritating, and it's also part of the reason I don't start many threads. I'm not around enough to give it the follow-up that I think is not only courteous, but also due to the ladies who take time to provide thoughtful responses.

  
  

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• YankeePeach08 member

  November 2013

  for some reason when people I recognize/"know" or people that contribute a lot to the board do it, it's fine. When the randoms do it I get all stabby.

  
  

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• clo1982 member

  November 2013

  @yankeepeach08 I started reading your response then saw the picture of that beautiful man and never made it any further.

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• cdnmomma member

  November 2013

  Oh no I'm one of those! I don't know how to change my avatar or anything else

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• YankeePeach08 member

  November 2013

  kirotea said:

  Ditto. Extra stabby if you haven't changed your avatar (still one of the stock Bump ones) AND there's nothing in your signature.

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• htn1763 member

  November 2013

  I think if people take time out to help me I can at least take 3 seconds to post a thanks. Even if you post and run, you come back to read the responses, right? 3 seconds people. 

  
  

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• Andreabills member

  November 2013

  kirotea said:

  
  

  YankeePeach08 said:

  
  

  for some reason when people I recognize/"know" or people that contribute a lot to the board do it, it's fine. When the randoms do it I get all stabby.

  
  

  to put it in meme form  

  
  

  
  

  Ditto. Extra stabby if you haven't changed your avatar (still one of the stock Bump ones) AND there's nothing in your signature.
  
  I don't have anything in my siggy (that I knew of) but I am mobile so it doesn't matter to me. I did manage to log on to a computer one day and change my avatar, but that's as far as I ever got.
  
  

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• ajastal member

  November 2013

  Wow! Some of us have lives! Our world doesn't revolve around The Bump! To post or not to post...who the fuck cares? Get the fuck over it? There are a lot of bullies on here! It makes people NOT want to post in fear of how rude some of you bitches are! What happened to the simple ness and excitement of having our babies? I think a lot of you are forgetting what this birth club is supposed to be about! If you don't like a post shut the fuck up and don't respond! Why do you have to get so pissed at people for a simple question they may have? Get over it and let's focus back on having our babies!

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• Andreabills member

  November 2013

  ajastal said:

  Wow! Some of us have lives! Our world doesn't revolve around The Bump! To post or not to post...who the fuck cares? Get the fuck over it? There are a lot of bullies on here! It makes people NOT want to post in fear of how rude some of you bitches are! What happened to the simple ness and excitement of having our babies? I think a lot of you are forgetting what this birth club is supposed to be about! If you don't like a post shut the fuck up and don't respond! Why do you have to get so pissed at people for a simple question they may have? Get over it and let's focus back on having our babies!

  Overreaction much?
  
  Also, have you actually spent ANY time on this board? We are ridiculously tame and nice? Who's been a bully?

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• ajastal member

  November 2013

  You must b one of them?

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  November 2013

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• sopranoali member

  November 2013

  https://giphy.com/tags/just-stfu/

  

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• Andreabills member

  November 2013

  ROFL! This must be a punchy night for all of us, Larry is as close to nourished as he is going to get on this board!

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• sopranoali member

  November 2013 edited November 2013

  :-q

  

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• fish8412 member

  November 2013

  Who cares.  I am surprised at how many people have enough free time to scrutinize this website and its users.  

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  November 2013

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• amandapthompson member

  November 2013

  Holy crap. Drama on our board!!!

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