Would you / Did you replace everything for a second child if they were different sexes?

Luckie519 · November 2013

We got rid of several things once DS had outgrown them and if they took too much space to store. We got rid of our high chair, Bumbo Chair, changing table and infant car seat. We still have most of the larger things - stroller, pack n' play, rock n' play, dresser, rocking chair and crib.

This LO is a girl and for the most part, I plan on using a lot of DS's things. Of course, we will getting girl clothes and I do want to get a travel system that is for a girl (we need a car seat anyways). Other than that, we plan on using DS's things, even though they are more boy colored (green and browns). We need a few things like a play mat and other small things we do not have or got rid of, that we will buy.

Anyways, a coworker of mine made a comment the other night about me having to go out and buy all new stuff. I told her that I really didn't play on replacing everything. She literally gave me a look like I was the worst parent ever and then went on for about 5 minutes about how she would never use boy stuff for a girl. So, it got me thinking, am I wrong to do this? Do I need to go replace everything? I just don't see the need IMO. Maybe I missing something though. Just wanted you ladies opinions on this.

ETA: This is our last child, so we won't have to worry about another child and what the sex would be.

KatieGummow · November 2013

I wouldn't. I did register for all gender neutral items though. What a waste of money!

monkeybutt61612 · November 2013

Your co-worker sounds like a complete idiot. The best part of already having a kid is not having to buy much!

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

Your coworker is crazy and apparently made of money.

thomas930 · November 2013

We bought all our gear in neutral colors/prints so that it could be reused. We only have to replace an expired car seat and possibly a swing if I decide I want one since our last one broke.

MapleLeafMama · November 2013

We bought gender neutral stuff for DS because we were on team green then.

We will re-use everything except the carseat, which has now expired. That we are buying new. The only thing new baby girl will have is bed sheets, facecloths, bottles and of course clothes.

Sisimama10 · November 2013

Nope. Same bedding (mostly neutral but this baby boy will have to suck it up and use some girly sheets too), same stroller, same bumbo, same high Chair etc.

Holljade · November 2013

I think you're being practical. I don't see and issue with it at all.

I MIGHT get a new pack and play for baby boy but I might not. I think I'll get a blue bumbo instead of using our pink one, but all the big stuff is staying the same.

BiggerinRealLife · November 2013

I'm a first-time mom, but I'm completely intending to use all of our stuff for our second child, especially if it's a different sex. Everything your coworker said smacks of gender stereotyping, which I'm not at all into. I understand wanting to replace everything if it's really important to you that your girl identifies with the color pink and your boy identifies with the color blue, but they're babies. They're not going to know the difference between colors, and they're not going to grow up complaining that their childhood blanket was a color other than "what their gender was supposed to have." Plus, green and brown are very gender neutral colors in my opinion. And plus also, I personally cannot see producing that much waste by throwing everything out and getting all new stuff. But that's just me. You're not a terrible mother. You're a smart consumer.

MrsEmilyS · November 2013

All the big things we registered for are gender neutral so all we need to get is boy bedding and clothes. Your coworker is stupid.

ksulli · November 2013

All we'll replace is bedding (we got pink to feminize our neutral nursery) and clothes. We got mostly green/brown/yellow/blue with DD since we didn't know what we were having. I think your colleague is crazy.

Luckie519 · November 2013

ksulli said:

All we'll replace is bedding (we got pink to feminize our neutral nursery) and clothes. We got mostly green/brown/yellow/blue with DD since we didn't know what we were having. I think your colleague is crazy.

We also plan on getting new bedding. I forgot to mention this. I am glad to know everyone (so far) does not think I am a bad mother.

rainy369 · November 2013

The baby won't care.

homediva · November 2013

Haha, half of my childhood pics I'm wearing boy hand me downs so I would say your girl is doing pretty good to get new clothes!!

jenskurn · November 2013

If this is a boy we will only be replacing the nursery stuff and the travel system. The PnP is the only gender specific item we have from DD anyway and oh well... For how little we use it I'm sure it will be okay

Sisimama10 · November 2013

Oh yeah we're doing different clothes! DS will not be wearing DD's hand me downs. But he may very well sleep on a Cinderella sheet and like it!

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

We will be reusing everything. It's all gender neutral. A boy would only need new clothes.

tidymonster · November 2013

We did this round 1. DD is 8, and DS is 6. Having to start fresh this time, but all we bought when DS was born was another crib, an infant seat, and a double stroller - for the gear. We didn't even have to buy another crib, looking backwards. Other than that, we still used everything from DD. I wish we had some of the stuff now. All we have left now is the pack n play and cribs. Hahaha.

Good call on reusing what you have! Your coworker sounds like they're made of $$$$.

Luckie519 · November 2013

AprilMay9 said:

Using the wrong colors can cause gender confusion or make them catch the gay.

lol

RebeccaY1 · November 2013

We registered for all gender neutral items, which was easy since we're team green. I know I'd like another child so I wanted to be able to re-use items. It just doesn't make sense to repurchase items if I don't need to. The only items I want to repurchase are clothes. It wouldn't matter if I have two boys, two girls, or a boy and a girl, I would want to purchase new clothes for each child.

tcwink · November 2013

This baby girl will be introduced to the color blue, cars, trucks, and planes at a very young age;). The only thing she's getting new is clothes and bottles;). We inherited a pink Bumbo from a friend when we had DS so even he had a girly item.

AcaAwkward · November 2013

This little guy will get new bedding / nursery stuff (DD is keeping all of the things in her nursery -- it's all "big girl" appropriate until she really has a huge opinion on it) and clothes (although he will rewear a bunch of DD's PJs)...that's it. We intentionally bought everything gender neutral... I think folks who do otherwise are missing a few screws.

ETA: when I said "nursery stuff," I mean decor. We are reusing the same crib, etc.

maelic · November 2013

Yeah, watch out. I've heard stories of baby girls refusing to ever fall asleep in a crib with blue/green bedskirts and spitting up after nursing on a nautical print boppy.

Also, more alarmingly, little boys shitting glitter after coming into contact with Tinkerbell sheets.

The danger is real, protect your children.

myschlove · November 2013

If this baby was a girl there's a lot of things is reuse (we have a boy). I don't mind the blue car seat, blankets, Bumbo etc. and even some clothes I'd reuse (gender neutral pjs, onesies). But honestly the majority of his clothes I would get rid of and get girl clothes

MamaFantastic · November 2013

we will reuse everything that feasibly can be reused, and i still will put her in many of her big brother's clothes even though they will look like boy clothes. i don't care if she has an outfit with orange, green and blue helicopters on it... i like the outfit!

we will buy some necessary new things (pacifiers, replacing the old bottles, etc) and i will likely lean toward buying more girl-oriented colors for those things, since the rest of her stuff will be gender neutral or boyish.

i bought awesome stuff the first time around - high quality, reusable stuff - and i plan on using it again and then passing it along to another new mom so it can continue to get used and loved. boy/girl... who cares! if it's good stuff, it's good stuff. pink isn't important!

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

@MamaFantastic I love it! I know I will want to buy boy clothes if this LO is a boy, but I guarantee I will still be digging through DD's old clothes to see if there are any goodies to be found in there. I know she's got a lot of cute neutrals/boy-leaning outfits.

ETA: I do the same thing with her bottles/accessories when I have her in her more "boyish" outfits. I give her a pink bottle when we go out or stick a bow in her hair or something. I don't like correcting people.

J&NL · November 2013

I got rid of everything we had for DD so I will be buying all new things. However, I know what I need and don't need so that helps.

MamaFantastic · November 2013

i know J&NL's daughter is like.... 10 or 11... so that spacing would probably compel me to get rid of stuff too. i saw she just mentioned that very same thing in another post earlier today, so i am totally speaking on her behalf (sorry for stealing your mic, @J&NL !)

i'll tell you what... i can't WAIT to purge all of our bulky baby stuff! storing the infant seat, swing, pack n play, tons of old clothing and baby toys is a pain when we don't have abundant storage room in our house. it's taking up an entire full size closet right now!

Luckie519 · November 2013

LalaMama81 said:

Why did people get ride of things? Did you think you weren't having more kids?

In our case, we had limited storage space. So we got rid of things that were not too much to replace or could do without for a while or forever. We knew we were waiting 2-3 year to get pregnant again and then it would be a bit before the baby would need a high chair. Also, with the changing table, we knew we could just put the pad on the dresser. In the case of the infant car seat, we traded it in at BRU to get a bigger carseat for DS.

beautifulstr13 · November 2013

We will reuse DS's dresser but repaint it. We had to get a new crib because DS's cracked. We will reuse all the toys, high chair and some neutral baby items. We made the mistake of buying very boy themed travel system and pack and play. We are also using Liam's pack and play to store some large toys. We were also unhappy with his travel system and want to replace it. So she will be getting something new.

Advice to all the FTM, buy gender neutral!

teachingmama11 · November 2013

Like you, there are some things that we got rid of or didn't have for DS that we now want, but those are the only things (other than clothes) that I will be "replacing". I plan on using the things we had for DS for this baby, even if we do find out we are having a girl. This is part of why I registered for mostly neutral big items when I was pregnant with DS. It sounds like your coworker likes to waste money!

abbeylanecb · November 2013

We are getting a new stroller/carseat with this baby but it has nothing to do with her being a girl. After two boys 15 months a part I don't feel comfortable using our car seat again. I will be buying everything gender neutral even though this is our last. I hate an overload of pink/blue.

leighbball · November 2013

We will reuse just about everything. Aside from clothes if LO is a girl this one will get a few girly bed sheets. Everything else will be from ds.

sweetpeace13 · November 2013

That lady sounds ridiculous. Disregard anything she says

AmberLiz99 · November 2013

If we have a digl this time we will re-use pretty much everything from ds except the clothes that obviously say things like "daddy's little man" or something like that

we got gender butral big items like bouncy seat, etc. and I don't mind generic clothes kn girls. I'll need a few girly outfits and things, but I will re-use a tone if it's a girl!

kalmte214 · November 2013

I've registered for gender neutral items for almost everything. Some might be seen as more boy-ish (ie, teal and brown) but we plan on using them for any future child, boy or girl.

Calla123 · November 2013

We bought gender neutral everything for dd. we will be using everything again for baby #2. W even have a ton of gender neutral clothing in newborn and 0-3 month. This baby is looking to be a whole lot cheaper.

jsoubel · November 2013

I absolutely would not buy new just so it's pink. What a ridiculous waste of money. Use that money on the few things you do need to replace and then whatever is left over on a maternity massage for you.

deidremaria · November 2013

I never understood why people made SUCH a big deal about the second child of a different gender using what the first one did. I wouldn't put pink clothes on my son but I really don't see a problem with a little girl in a green and brown high chair or whatever. It's not like the baby will know and their self esteem will be affected. Your co-worker is shallow.

J&NL · November 2013

LalaMama81 said:
Why did people get ride of things? Did you think you weren't having more kids?

Well, in my case, I wasn't sure if I was having anymore kids considering I was going through a divorce while I was pregnant with DD. Tragic, I know but luckily things changed for me and here we are.

J&NL · November 2013

MamaFantastic said:
i know J&NL's daughter is like.... 10 or 11... so that spacing would probably compel me to get rid of stuff too. i saw she just mentioned that very same thing in another post earlier today, so i am totally speaking on her behalf (sorry for stealing your mic, @J&NL !)

i'll tell you what... i can't WAIT to purge all of our bulky baby stuff! storing the infant seat, swing, pack n play, tons of old clothing and baby toys is a pain when we don't have abundant storage room in our house. it's taking up an entire full size closet right now!

Lol this made me laugh. She's 3. If I had a 10 or 11 year old then I would've had her when I was 14 or 15

I just got rid of all of it because it was taking up space and I wasn't sure if or when I would have another one!

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