Not wrapping gifts?!

shaina925 · October 2013

I'm going to a baby shower tomorrow and on the invitation was a little rhyme about not wrapping the gift so the mom to be could be free to eat and mingle. Isn't the whole point of a shower to watch the mom open the gifts and everyone oohs and ahhs?? I also had a very hard time tying the things I bought her in a ribbon, I hope my card doesn't fall out!

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2010weddinggal · October 2013

I would wrap each indvidual peice, then put it in a box and wrap the box

shaina925 · October 2013

Lol seriously! I do not get it. My mom said she's sure there will be plenty of wrapped gifts there anyways. I followed the rules, only because it made me feel green and I saved two bucks on not having to buy a bag HAHA

ELauren88 · October 2013

I hate that this is a "thing" people are doing. Drives me batty. What else were they expecting to do at a SHOWER??

EastCoastBride · October 2013

I honestly hate this. This reeks of "buy me stuff but I can't be bothered to open it". If people don't want to OPEN gifts, then don't have a GIFT giving event. Just have a party so that you can "mingle".

Depending on who the shower was for, this kind of request might actually deternine if I even go to the shower.

shaina925 · October 2013

Just got back. It was an over the top shower with a candy bar, decor, ect. However I found it to be super boring. The woman who was running it did a nice job and all, but I did a ton of sitting around. It was a huge shower, too and the gifts barely all fit on the room they have to display them. Some people did wrap there's, either they didn't get the memo or they frankly just didn't care. It would have been nice to have more exciting things then someone walking around with a jar of m&ms asking us to guess how many. There was a raffle where I Didn't even know they started because no one made the announcement. And they did guess how big the mother to be's belly was which was completely disorganized. I would have actually enjoyed watching her open the gifts but it definitely would have taken a awhile since there were about 100 or more people there. At one point I got up because I was so bored and went with a friend to look at all the gifts, that's probably the part of the shower that I enjoyed the most. ,my shower will be so fun

EastCoastBride · October 2013

See, what you described - no fun. I'd rather sit down w/ my friends and be able to chit-chat while the MTB opens her gifts. I enjoy showers like that. I don't mind some games, but it almost sounds like they were using games to take place of the gift opening. For those who dont' like games... they'd probably have preferred a gift opening!

shaina925 · October 2013

Right, but also the games sucked!!

ktlucas · November 2013

I am having a display shower, did the same for wedding shower. I've been to many baby/wedding showers in my life and absolutely love the display shower (when done right). It's boring watching someone open gifts, half the people don't pay any attention anyway. By displaying unwrapped gifts on a table people can see what you are receiving. All of my guest are traveling over an hour for the shower. This allows me time to spend with each and every guest that I don't see often. I also been to a display shower that was amateur and turned out tacky. My mother & mil are both crafty so the wedding shower display looked gorgeous. I am an eco-conscious person so wrapping to me is such a waste.

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ktlucas · November 2013

Bliss+Berry said:

ktlucas said:

I am having a display shower, did the same for wedding shower. I've been to many baby/wedding showers in my life and absolutely love the display shower (when done right). It's boring watching someone open gifts, half the people don't pay any attention anyway. By displaying unwrapped gifts on a table people can see what you are receiving. All of my guest are traveling over an hour for the shower. This allows me time to spend with each and every guest that I don't see often. I also been to a display shower that was amateur and turned out tacky. My mother & mil are both crafty so the wedding shower display looked gorgeous. I am an eco-conscious person so wrapping to me is such a waste.

Regardless of how crafty your Mom and MIL are and how well they displayed your gifts, putting stipulations how gifts are given to you (on an invitation no less) is rude. The purpose of a shower is gifts and if you don't want to open gifts at a shower then you shouldn't have one. Period. I don't care how classy you think it is, you can bet your ass there was more than a handful of guests who think it's tacky and rude and will be talking about it behind your back.

Edited: spelling.

Actually you couldn't be more wrong. I received more compliments from my guests about the display because it was more intimate. My family & friends know how eco-conscious I am, so they knew it suited me. Sorry not everyone wants to seat around doing nothing while MTB opens gifts.

I love how these women on the boards react so "positively" to others opinions & thoughts. You can attack me for having a difference of opinion, thats fine, just shows how rude you are.

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neverblushed · November 2013

Yeah -- I really dislike that tradition. I'd be inclined to have my gift delivered and save the day for something I actually WANTED to do.

Samiantha101 · November 2013

I hate wrapping gifts. I don't really like watching people open wrapped gifts. I can't imagine thinking about the idea enough to request gifts not to be wrapped. Nuff said

cakergirl · November 2013

ktlucas said:

Bliss+Berry said:

ktlucas said:

I am having a display shower, did the same for wedding shower. I've been to many baby/wedding showers in my life and absolutely love the display shower (when done right). It's boring watching someone open gifts, half the people don't pay any attention anyway. By displaying unwrapped gifts on a table people can see what you are receiving. All of my guest are traveling over an hour for the shower. This allows me time to spend with each and every guest that I don't see often. I also been to a display shower that was amateur and turned out tacky. My mother & mil are both crafty so the wedding shower display looked gorgeous. I am an eco-conscious person so wrapping to me is such a waste.

Regardless of how crafty your Mom and MIL are and how well they displayed your gifts, putting stipulations how gifts are given to you (on an invitation no less) is rude. The purpose of a shower is gifts and if you don't want to open gifts at a shower then you shouldn't have one. Period. I don't care how classy you think it is, you can bet your ass there was more than a handful of guests who think it's tacky and rude and will be talking about it behind your back.

Edited: spelling.

Actually you couldn't be more wrong. I received more compliments from my guests about the display because it was more intimate. My family & friends know how eco-conscious I am, so they knew it suited me. Sorry not everyone wants to seat around doing nothing while MTB opens gifts.

I love how these women on the boards react so "positively" to others opinions & thoughts. You can attack me for having a difference of opinion, thats fine, just shows how rude you are.

So how does this work.... Do you just ignore the gifts the whole time and pretend they arent there? Or do you hold them up one by one and and tell who it's from? Or is it like a silent auction where everyone just walks around the table and oohs and ahhs?

RebeccaY1 · November 2013

I would be disappointed if I went to a shower and the gift I got wasn't opened. I often make very personalized scrapbooks for the mother to be. It's not that I care about showing off the scrapbook, but I spend hours and hours making the thing and spend a ton of money on it. I'd like to see the mothers face when it's opened. The scrapbooks I make are totally finished pages with spots to glue in photos of their little ones, and even include the glue. I imagine that those that knit homemade blankets, quilts and clothing would also want to see the person open their gifts.

Even if you don't make homemade gifts, I still want to see the presents opened. It's interesting to see what everyone got.

ktlucas · November 2013

No gifts are not ignored at all. For my bridal shower, I picked up & looked at every single gift on the tables. Stickers labels were placed on gifts that the guest did not have a tag on so we know whom it was from.

For the scrapbook comment, I received a couple of very personal gifts. An aunt handmade us a quilt, which was draped on its own chair. My other aunt handmade my garter out of pieces of neckties from my deceased grandfather & three uncles. Nothing went unlooked or unappreciated!

ktlucas · November 2013

CFox815 said:

ktlucas said:
No gifts are not ignored at all. For my bridal shower, I picked up & looked at every single gift on the tables. Stickers labels were placed on gifts that the guest did not have a tag on so we know whom it was from.

For the scrapbook comment, I received a couple of very personal gifts. An aunt handmade us a quilt, which was draped on its own chair. My other aunt handmade my garter out of pieces of neckties from my deceased grandfather & three uncles. Nothing went unlooked or unappreciated!

You looked at every gift that was bought for you?!

How gracious of you.

Of course I did. Same as if I unwrapped them. Just because I chose to do things different than the "norm" doesn't mean that I'm ungrateful

RibbitGrl930 · November 2013

It just amazes me how people think unwrapping gifts takes up SOOOOOO much time. At my largest shower, thrown by our church, I don't think we spent more than 45 minutes opening all the gifts (and there were A LOT) and i was moving a touch slow. 45 minutes is NOT that long. And if they're afraid of guests being bored, just serve the friggin' cake then. That's what my friend's mom did at her baby shower and i was not at all bored or put out.

ktlucas · November 2013

CFox815 said:

No gifts are not ignored at all. For my bridal shower, I picked up & looked at every single gift on the tables. Stickers labels were placed on gifts that the guest did not have a tag on so we know whom it was from.

For the scrapbook comment, I received a couple of very personal gifts. An aunt handmade us a quilt, which was draped on its own chair. My other aunt handmade my garter out of pieces of neckties from my deceased grandfather & three uncles. Nothing went unlooked or unappreciated!

You looked at every gift that was bought for you?! How gracious of you.
Of course I did. Same as if I unwrapped them. Just because I chose to do things different than the "norm" doesn't mean that I'm ungrateful
-------------------------------------------------- Oh, okay. Even now you don't see how tacky that is? Got it.

No, I clearly didn't get the tacky memo on it. To each their own!

ktlucas · November 2013

Well it's a good thing you're not one of my guests. I will enjoy my unclassy, tasteless, tacky shower.

twinkletoes3126 · November 2013

I go to a shower to give a gift and watch the person open it. I attended a shower once where the mother to be did not open gifts and I was horrified.

ktlucas · November 2013

CFox815 said:

Well it's a good thing you're not one of my guests. I will enjoy my unclassy, tasteless, tacky shower.
Yes, enjoy it! Who cares about your guests feelings? It's all about you, right?

Why yes it is, I am the MTB.

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ktlucas · November 2013

Bliss+Berry said:

ktlucas said:

CFox815 said:

Well it's a good thing you're not one of my guests. I will enjoy my unclassy, tasteless, tacky shower.
Yes, enjoy it! Who cares about your guests feelings? It's all about you, right?

Why yes it is, I am the MTB.

Holy fucking entitlement. Wow.

I see my sarcasm has failed you yet again.

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Meery82 · November 2013

@ktlucas, what's up with the bins on the floor in the second picture?

ktlucas · November 2013

Meery82 said:

@ktlucas, what's up with the bins on the floor in the second picture?

Don't worry about, you obviously don't give a fuck anyway.

Meery82 · November 2013

ktlucas said:

Meery82 said:

@ktlucas, what's up with the bins on the floor in the second picture?

Don't worry about, you obviously don't give a fuck anyway.

Whoa!! Must be something pretty fuckin stupid if you're going to get that defensive.

Meery82 · November 2013

@ktlucas, aren't you the one stalking Bliss+Berry? What's with that creepy shit?

RibbitGrl930 · November 2013

@ktlucas, aren't you the one stalking Bliss+Berry? What's with that creepy shit?

I think I did see Bliss giving her the sexy-eye before. Maybe kt just fell under her spell.

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