- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
1st Trimester
People announcing on FB right away and I'm dying to tell people!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: People announcing on FB right away and I'm dying to tell people!
That's why I used statements like "food for thought" etc. In no way was that a blanket statement. I was just offering some insight into what my experiences were when that happened to me. There is a reason people who have experienced loss wait. It can make an already bad situation worse, and recognizing that does not make you an avoider of the "exciting" or "adventurous." Nice slippery slope though.
At 11 1/2 weeks I MC. I was glad for all the support I got but so glad I didn't announce on fb.
We have not told anyone (outside of this board lol) but tonight we deiced we will discuss it with our therapist (yes we started counseling earlier this year bc we knew we wanted to start a family but wanted to do it strong from the get go. ITS AWESOME!!!). He will be the 1st live person we have talked to.
We are waiting until the 1st appointment Nov. 25th to call our mothers who are out of state.... and if it weren't for the holiday that week, we would likely keep it sealed until 13th week BUUUTTTTT....
1) This will be the 2nd baby in my very extended family... but my nephew is 12! So its like 1st all over again since we are all grown ourselves now. (needless to say we have been asked repeatedly for over a year "When are you two giving us a baby?" lol).
2) With my nephew being the exception, we are all adults 25+. Thanksgiving is a PARTY. A huge throw down 3 cases of wine, eat from 10am-11pm, play music & 42 & drunk charades. There is absolutely no way I can pull off saying "I'm not drinking... trying to cut carbs."
3) The hosts, my Aunt and Uncle, are like surrogate parents to all of my extended cousins and myself. My Uncle has been in and out of the hospital for the last several months (currently IN) and I feel the need to tell him ASAP for fear that he may not be with us much longer.
So for those reasons, we are telling our parents after the appointment, and the rest of my family a few days later. That will put me in my 9th week. (fingers crossed).
I will likely discuss it with my boss before Christmas break as our office gets almost 2 weeks off, I would like to come in and work a few of those days so I will have the comp time to put toward my maternity leave. I will likely ask that this stay private until after the New Year when we annouce on FB and tell our colleagues.
I can't stop thinking about HOW to tell the fam though... the traditional charades game would be fun but I would have to pull off not drinking for a full 8hrs before then (not possible) so I think I am going to do it early before the cooking starts with a group photo while phone is on video (everyone say "We're Pregnant!" plus - I would have video of my uncles reaction to keep FOREVER).
I'm afraid of this! We're just about to tell my BIL, and I'm afraid he'll say something right away on FB about being a first time Uncle. My Husband forget to write "Don't tell anyone" in his card... But yea, there would be hell to pay if someone did that to me!
DS #1 born January 2010. DS #2 due June 2014.
In all our stages we intend to make it VERY CLEAR to whomever we are speaking, that WE will be the only FB posters or phone calls made until January and not to say a word on FB until after they see our post.
I have been very vocal about my stance on this with my family in the past. Particularly one cousin who blurted to everyone her sister was preggo immediately, and of course... she MC'd. I was angry with her that it wasn't her news to share, but she waived me off. This cousin is on the DO NOT TELL list and will be named along with 2 of my aunts at Thanksgiving because they either cannot be trusted or likely will think it is public knowledge if they hear it from someone else.
Announce it whenever you feel comfortable. One of my friends announced when she was really early and she always said that it's her body and her life and if she announced it early and then had a miscarriage, then she'd announce that as well. No shame in it, was her view.
But everyone's different and you have to do what you feel right no matter what anyone else is doing.
I'm glad I waited because people talking about your pregnancy gets very tiresome by the end! I know you're excited now, but trust me, you will be over it by 30 weeks or so!