I wanted to punch my sisters mil last night. After tricker treating dn was over tired and throwing temper tantrums and refusing to leave my side.
She kept yelling at him to be a good boy and stop crying. She then made some comment about how theres something mentally wrong with him under her breath.
I have to admit i did snap at her saying hes a normal tired three year old boy.
Ooh I have a really flammable one this week. Tuesday DS got his 2 month shots and was inconsolably crying (of course). It seemed like way too much effort to strap him into his car seat so I just put him in and sat back with him. We only live literally 30 seconds from the peds office on residential roads where you can't go more than 20mph due to turns, but I have been feeling guilty ever since. He always hates being strapped in as it is- I can't tell if it would have been worse to torture him further on shot day by strapping him in or taking a 30 second ride unstrapped.
Accidents can still happen at 20mph on residential roads.
I know, that's why I feel terrible
You should. I won't flame people for much as far as their parenting goes, until they put their child at risk. That was unbelievably stupid of you to do, 30 seconds or not. A lot can happen in 30 seconds.
Ezra James 08/22/2013 Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies 07/03/2012 08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe or you're all the way grown, my promise to you is you're never alone. You are my angel, my darling, my star...and my love will find you, wherever you are."
DH takes DS downstairs in the mornings so I can get some extra sleep. He gets up earlier than I do anyway and he wakes me if LO needs to eat. I usually run downstairs as soon as I wake up, but today I am pretending I am asleep a little longer to have a little more time to myself. I need a baby break.
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.
I sometimes giggle at lo when she cries. Of course I'm taking care of her, but her face can get ridiculous, SO much personality already.
I did this the other day and because I was laughing so hard I guess it caught her off guard because she started laughing too.
My confession: I played the "one for you, one for me" game with almost every trick or treater last night. And I wonder why I can't get this weight off. I also hid the wrappers so H couldn't see.
I've become "that" person. A friend posted a picture of her wearing her baby and it was so awful it broke my heart. The baby wasn't supported well, she was too low and didn't have room to breathe- it was just terrible (and she's a newborn!).
I'm no baby wearing expert but I feel I've educated myself enough so I did reply to her post (nicely) suggesting she look into other types of carriers. And then today I posted some baby wearing links and info and tagged a bunch of friends (including her) in hopes that she gets the hint. I hope I never see her wearing that thing again!
And for the record- I'm totally ok being "that" person.
My (awful) mil bought me a carrier to use. It was a cheap crotch dangler from walmart. reviews on it actually had people saying their baby passed out it in from the angle the head goes! Anyway...when they were here visiting I used my moby and mil got pissed. I tried to nicely explain why I wasn't using hers and she got pissed and said I was too materialistic. Sometimes people don't get it!
My LO has worn an actual outfit maybe four times over the past four weeks (since I've gone back to work). The rest of the time he just wears a sleeper. My sister takes care of him during the day, along with her own six-month-old. I figure it's just easier for her to not have to deal with multiple layers of clothing and the socks falling off every 30 seconds.
If it makes you feel better, I do this and I'm at home right now. I don't want to deal with those layers of clothes. DD sometimes wears clothes when we go out. It depends on where we're going.
My FFFC: I'm trying to talk DH out of going to the confirmation party for his youngest brother tomorrow since his grandmother has turned it into a "Meet the Baby" for extended family. DH's one uncle, who "feels so close to the baby because he's H's godfather," has joked repeatedly since she was born that the milkman must have been involved since men in the family only have boys. DH's great aunt "really wants to meet DD" but skipped the shower and never called in the 11 weeks since she was born. Yup, they care so much. (On a side note: I don't expect them to, but I keep hearing about how much everyone does care when it's clear that they don't.) DD has to have surgery in a couple of weeks, and I don't want her around people who keep a cold house and wouldn't think twice about going near a baby even if they're sick.
I stopped eating eggs when LO was about 2 weeks old because she had a bad rxn. The eczema on her cheeks never fully went away and got a little worse when the weather got colder and drier so I decided to take out nuts to see what happens. It might have gotten a little better but I also started putting aquaphor religiously. Well it turns out all of the Halloween candy I bought had nuts and I couldn't resist eating a snickers bar or two. Luckily her cheeks look the best they have ever looked today.
I wanted to punch my sisters mil last night. After tricker treating dn was over tired and throwing temper tantrums and refusing to leave my side.
She kept yelling at him to be a good boy and stop crying. She then made some comment about how theres something mentally wrong with him under her breath.
I have to admit i did snap at her saying hes a normal tired three year old boy.
Wow that is so terrible to say that about a child. To say there is something mentally wrong with him? She deserved a punch in the face
Mine is similar to some other posters. Sometimes I actually take lo out in a sleeper. For example, I put him in a sleeper for his two month shots because I wanted him to be comfy. Also, whenever we have a semi long car ride I leave him in a sleeper.
I gave LO a little haircut during her nap yesterday. I'm not proud.
.....but she had split ends and they were talking to me.
E has a full on Baby Joe Dirt mullet, DH keeps threatening to cut it.
Ezra James 08/22/2013 Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies 07/03/2012 08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe or you're all the way grown, my promise to you is you're never alone. You are my angel, my darling, my star...and my love will find you, wherever you are."
I like watching videos of cyst extractions on YouTube. I'm a medical assistant and loved helping in minor surgeries like that. Yes, it's pretty gross, but SO fascinating!
I'm afraid to bring my Halloween decorations down to the basement...because I may come back up with Christmas ones. Usually I hate when people rush Christmas, but with LO this year, I can't wait!
I had to really fight the urge not to play my Christmas channels on pandora this morning
I'm really starting to dislike breast feeding. I'll continue to do it because I have the ability to, it's good for E, and because frankly, I'm too cheap to buy formula when I don't *have* to, but yeah...this is hard work.
This, this, this! A million times over that it's hard work! I don't dislike it, but sometimes I think "what was I thinking?!" But atleast there's not hundreds of bottles to wash!
LO had her 12 week shots yesterday and I cried almost as much as she did.
I'm a total sook when it comes to my girl.
Oh and my husband went out till midnight last night afterwards, leaving me with an upset baby, so I have made a point of waking him for every wake since he got home (which has been a few due to the shots). Normally I would leave him as he has work but he's not getting off the hook just because he was out with his mates.
TTC Since March 2010 - 2 angel babies - BFP December 12 EDD 12 Aug 13
My confession: still haven't started my pills, DH knows, so we've been using condoms... Well we might have dtd the other day and not make a conscious effort to grab one.... It would have really killed the mood to have to get out of the shower. I told DH ill be buying a test in the next few weeks. We do want more, not planning for this soon, but if it happens because that one time, it happens. We're young, stable and wouldn't be devistated for another even this close together. Though as paranoid as I am, that won't be happening again.
I must say my sex drive sucked pp, didn't want it didnt care for it DH just don't touch me, sucked. but im convinced there's a reset button, the only catch is its by having sex. After the first successful time, I can't get enough now.
Im jealous of those staying in bed. My confession i actually asked my mom to bring us breakfast so i didnt have to get ou of bed, she didnt have time though. Ugh had to get up and be productive
Get back in bed for the afternoon! Productive morning= lazy afternoon.... Compromise.
I wanted to punch my sisters mil last night. After tricker treating dn was over tired and throwing temper tantrums and refusing to leave my side.
She kept yelling at him to be a good boy and stop crying. She then made some comment about how theres something mentally wrong with him under her breath.
I have to admit i did snap at her saying hes a normal tired three year old boy.
Wow that is so terrible to say that about a child. To say there is something mentally wrong with him? She deserved a punch in the face
Mine is similar to some other posters. Sometimes I actually take lo out in a sleeper. For example, I put him in a sleeper for his two month shots because I wanted him to be comfy. Also, whenever we have a semi long car ride I leave him in a sleeper.
Dude sleepers are the way to go for dr appointments since you have to get them naked anyways.
Before LO was born, I felt like I finally got my mind wrapped around a healthy lifestyle. I was eating good, tracking everything I was eating, going to the gym 5 times a week, and just started running, and was planning on running a half marathon. Then, I found out I was pregnant, and when I should be the most healthy, I let the pregnancy be an excuse and stopped working so hard at it. Now that LO is here, and I should get my butt back on track to get healthy again, I just can't get my mind to cooperate. Doing all of that took up a lot of time, and frankly it's time with LO that I'm not willing to give up. Eventually I will get back to tracking and going to the gym, but for now I am content just living my life and spending time with my girl.
Also...I've been wearing the same nursing tank top for 3 days.
This dairy free diet is really backfiring on me. I keep finding out about accidentally vegan or dairy free junk food and then eating all of it.
I've been consuming ridiculous amounts of Oreos, biscoff cookies, strawberry pop tarts...
No wonder I still need to drop 12 lbs!
This is me! I had to find something to cure my in curable sweet tooth I got after delivering that didnt have dairy. The golden stuff Oreos are my weakness. I could eat a whole pack in a couple days. I've started splitting packs with my mom so I want eat as many and I have less so I make them last longer. And even though I've got all my pregnancy weight off I know the bad eating is going to catch up to me
This dairy free diet is really backfiring on me. I keep finding out about accidentally vegan or dairy free junk food and then eating all of it.
I've been consuming ridiculous amounts of Oreos, biscoff cookies, strawberry pop tarts...
No wonder I still need to drop 12 lbs!
I eat awful breakfasts to make up for not being able to eat eggs when I get tired of oatmeal. Yesterday I had a blt and today I made sausage biscuits with sausage gravy. I pretty much use all my weightwatchers points before 10 am.
I also leave baby in pj's almost everyday. She is most comfortable in them and it is easiest. I take her out to walmart, target, the mall, in her sleepers. I don't care. And I have a closet full of outfits given to me...what a waste!
Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.
I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.
@jill9288 Great minds think alike, lol. I think we posted at exactly the same time
Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing. So instead, dh has lost almost 20 lbs and weighs less than me, and I feel bad about myself. At least I have an adorable baby who makes all the extra lbs worth it.
I could have written this myself. I need to get on top of it before the holidays.
I also leave baby in pj's almost everyday. She is most comfortable in them and it is easiest. I take her out to walmart, target, the mall, in her sleepers. I don't care. And I have a closet full of outfits given to me...what a waste!
Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.
I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.
I'm not 100% sure on this, but I think that you can work on getting your milk to come back if you want to bf. There is a girl that comes to my bf group that got her milk to come back after a while, I'm just not sure how long it was and how hard it was for her.
Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.
Do you pre-pour bottles? That's what I do to make things easier, especially at night. All I have to do is go downstairs and grab a bottle from the fridge.
I like watching videos of cyst extractions on YouTube. I'm a medical assistant and loved helping in minor surgeries like that. Yes, it's pretty gross, but SO fascinating!
It's totally gross but I love it as well!! I also looked up ingrown toenail.. I had an ingrown toenail at the time so I'm not THAT weird.
@jill9288 Great minds think alike, lol. I think we posted at exactly the same time
Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing. So instead, dh has lost almost 20 lbs and weighs less than me, and I feel bad about myself. At least I have an adorable baby who makes all the extra lbs worth it.
I could have written this myself. I need to get on top of it before the holidays.
Another confession: I am using "worrying about my supply dropping" as an excuse not to diet or exercise, even though I have no issues and a bit of an oversupply.
@jill9288 Great minds think alike, lol. I think we posted at exactly the same time
Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing. So instead, dh has lost almost 20 lbs and weighs less than me, and I feel bad about myself. At least I have an adorable baby who makes all the extra lbs worth it.
I could have written this myself. I need to get on top of it before the holidays.
Another confession: I am using "worrying about my supply dropping" as an excuse not to diet or exercise, even though I have no issues and a bit of an oversupply.
Yep. That too, I think. Except I really am a little worried about it dropping a lot because I had a low supply last time.
I told DH we needed 6 bags of candy knowing we probably only needed 4. I made sure to save the kit kats and twix for last.
In the morning I change LO out of her sleeper right into a fresh one if we're not headed anywhere that day.
My choice to continue BFing is partially selfish...I read that a lot of mothers get the weight loss benefit around 3-6 months. I'm not going to stop now and short myself of that! Also less stinky diapers. I'm glad I can provide for her but the above mentioned things are what get me through tough days when I start thinking how formula would be easier.
S was crying in her car seat in the store one day so I very slightly loosened the straps. I put her back in the car and started down the road having completely forgotten about it. I remembered a couple miles later and promptly pulled over and made sure she was secure. I can't imagine if something had happened...and she was strapped in just not really tight. No way id ever drive without her strapped in at all!
My confession: I'm not sick or feeling bad but LO and I are camped out upstairs in bed doing skin to skin and snuggling All. Day. Long. This is my last Friday before heading back to work and I'm soaking it in damn it. I also have the above mentioned kit Kat and twix bars sitting on the nightstand along with a glass of milk.
LO lives in sleepers morning, noon and night when we're at home!
I hadn't even thought about it, but we leave him in sleepers at home, and even take him out in them. It's much simpler than dealing with socks constantly falling off.
I also leave baby in pj's almost everyday. She is most comfortable in them and it is easiest. I take her out to walmart, target, the mall, in her sleepers. I don't care. And I have a closet full of outfits given to me...what a waste!
Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.
I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.
I'm not 100% sure on this, but I think that you can work on getting your milk to come back if you want to bf. There is a girl that comes to my bf group that got her milk to come back after a while, I'm just not sure how long it was and how hard it was for her.
Wow! I didn't know it was possible. I am going back to work next week, so I don't know how it would work with having to pump instead of nurse most of the time. I will look into that.
My LO doesn't need warm bottles, but she doesn't really enjoy cold bottles...so it takes longer to warm one up than it does just to make a room temp one on the spot. I do prescoop the formula into a bottle and then water into another bottle, so when the time comes, i just dump the water into the formula bottle and mix...it does speed things up. However, she is currently drinking 5oz...so I make a 6 oz bottle (since that is the measurement on the label), and then pour 1 oz into another bottle and save in fridge...Not sure if i am making more work for myself. I thought about making 5oz of water and 2.5 scoops of powder, but I don't want to mess up and give too much/not enough.
Not like making a bottle even takes that long, but with a screaming baby, it can seem like a looong time. Hah.
Ooh I have a really flammable one this week. Tuesday DS got his 2 month shots and was inconsolably crying (of course). It seemed like way too much effort to strap him into his car seat so I just put him in and sat back with him. We only live literally 30 seconds from the peds office on residential roads where you can't go more than 20mph due to turns, but I have been feeling guilty ever since. He always hates being strapped in as it is- I can't tell if it would have been worse to torture him further on shot day by strapping him in or taking a 30 second ride unstrapped.
I don't normally share this with a lot of people, but when I was 10 years old, I was injured badly by a John Deere lawnmower that my dad was driving (I was riding on it in an improper and unsafe way.) I had 15 surgeries and multiple skin grafts, and it wasn't until I was 16 years old that I could walk normally.
My dad harbored enormous guilt for years, and I think it ultimately contributed to my parents' divorce and the break-up of our family. I'm 33 years old, and he still calls me on the anniversary of the accident every single year.
All it takes is ONE bad decision. No matter what, you think that these things aren't likely to happen to you. But they can happen. And if they do, the guilt you live with will never end.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine what you've been through. I work in an ICU at a children's hospital, and can't begin to tell you how many law mower accidents I see each year, most are horrific. I cringe when I hear people making poor safety choices for their children (law mowers, no helmets, not strapping in car seat) you are so right in that it only takes 1 bad decision.
LO lives in sleepers, no shame!
LO is going on a two hour nap in the car seat, we've been home for an hour. I never leave him in this long but he was SO tired and never gets a good nap. I know if I move him it'll wake him up. So....there he sleeps.
Re: FFFC
She kept yelling at him to be a good boy and stop crying. She then made some comment about how theres something mentally wrong with him under her breath.
I have to admit i did snap at her saying hes a normal tired three year old boy.
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
My confession: I played the "one for you, one for me" game with almost every trick or treater last night. And I wonder why I can't get this weight off.
I also hid the wrappers so H couldn't see.
.....but she had split ends and they were talking to me.
Mine is similar to some other posters. Sometimes I actually take lo out in a sleeper. For example, I put him in a sleeper for his two month shots because I wanted him to be comfy. Also, whenever we have a semi long car ride I leave him in a sleeper.
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
I'm a total sook when it comes to my girl.
Oh and my husband went out till midnight last night afterwards, leaving me with an upset baby, so I have made a point of waking him for every wake since he got home (which has been a few due to the shots). Normally I would leave him as he has work but he's not getting off the hook just because he was out with his mates.
I must say my sex drive sucked pp, didn't want it didnt care for it DH just don't touch me, sucked. but im convinced there's a reset button, the only catch is its by having sex. After the first successful time, I can't get enough now.
I've been consuming ridiculous amounts of Oreos, biscoff cookies, strawberry pop tarts...
No wonder I still need to drop 12 lbs!
Also...I've been wearing the same nursing tank top for 3 days.
Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.
I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.
Another confession: I am using "worrying about my supply dropping" as an excuse not to diet or exercise, even though I have no issues and a bit of an oversupply.
In the morning I change LO out of her sleeper right into a fresh one if we're not headed anywhere that day.
My choice to continue BFing is partially selfish...I read that a lot of mothers get the weight loss benefit around 3-6 months. I'm not going to stop now and short myself of that! Also less stinky diapers. I'm glad I can provide for her but the above mentioned things are what get me through tough days when I start thinking how formula would be easier.
S was crying in her car seat in the store one day so I very slightly loosened the straps. I put her back in the car and started down the road having completely forgotten about it. I remembered a couple miles later and promptly pulled over and made sure she was secure. I can't imagine if something had happened...and she was strapped in just not really tight. No way id ever drive without her strapped in at all!
My confession: I'm not sick or feeling bad but LO and I are camped out upstairs in bed doing skin to skin and snuggling All. Day. Long. This is my last Friday before heading back to work and I'm soaking it in damn it. I also have the above mentioned kit Kat and twix bars sitting on the nightstand along with a glass of milk.
My LO doesn't need warm bottles, but she doesn't really enjoy cold bottles...so it takes longer to warm one up than it does just to make a room temp one on the spot. I do prescoop the formula into a bottle and then water into another bottle, so when the time comes, i just dump the water into the formula bottle and mix...it does speed things up. However, she is currently drinking 5oz...so I make a 6 oz bottle (since that is the measurement on the label), and then pour 1 oz into another bottle and save in fridge...Not sure if i am making more work for myself. I thought about making 5oz of water and 2.5 scoops of powder, but I don't want to mess up and give too much/not enough.
Not like making a bottle even takes that long, but with a screaming baby, it can seem like a looong time. Hah.
My dad harbored enormous guilt for years, and I think it ultimately contributed to my parents' divorce and the break-up of our family. I'm 33 years old, and he still calls me on the anniversary of the accident every single year.
All it takes is ONE bad decision. No matter what, you think that these things aren't likely to happen to you. But they can happen. And if they do, the guilt you live with will never end.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine what you've been through.
I work in an ICU at a children's hospital, and can't begin to tell you how many law mower accidents I see each year, most are horrific. I cringe when I hear people making poor safety choices for their children (law mowers, no helmets, not strapping in car seat) you are so right in that it only takes 1 bad decision.
I hope you are healed well, even years later.