FFFC

kwrecks

lkobriant said:

LO lives in sleepers, no shame! LO is going on a two hour nap in the car seat, we've been home for an hour. I never leave him in this long but he was SO tired and never gets a good nap. I know if I move him it'll wake him up. So....there he sleeps.

I hate leaving LO in her carseat too, but if she's sleeping and sleeping good, I don't want to disturb a great nap by taking her out. 

kwhite27

BlondieBia21 said:

I find a disgusting joy cleaning out lo's neck rolls. 8->

Haha. For me it's the toe jam!! Love picking it out of her itty bitty toes.

WheeLinTheSky3

pb&jojo said:

kwrecks said:

pb&jojo said:

I also leave baby in pj's almost everyday. She is most comfortable in them and it is easiest. I take her out to walmart, target, the mall, in her sleepers.  I don't care. And I have a closet full of outfits given to me...what a waste!

Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.

I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.

I'm not 100% sure on this, but I think that you can work on getting your milk to come back if you want to bf.  There is a girl that comes to my bf group that got her milk to come back after a while, I'm just not sure how long it was and how hard it was for her.

Wow! I didn't know it was possible. I am going back to work next week, so I don't know how it would work with having to pump instead of nurse most of the time. I will look into that.

My LO doesn't need warm bottles, but she doesn't really enjoy cold bottles...so it takes longer to warm one up than it does just to make a room temp one on the spot. I do prescoop the formula into a bottle and then water into another bottle, so when the time comes, i just dump the water into the formula bottle and mix...it does speed things up. However, she is currently drinking 5oz...so I make a 6 oz bottle (since that is the measurement on the label), and then pour 1 oz into another bottle and save in fridge...Not sure if i am making more work for myself. I thought about making 5oz of water and 2.5 scoops of powder, but I don't want to mess up and give too much/not enough.

Not like making a bottle even takes that long, but with a screaming baby, it can seem like a looong time. Hah.

get a formula container (target, walmart, BRU, BBB, etc) you can pre scoop the formula into the container, pre measure the water, and mix quickly.  I bring a container of prescooped formula (3 bottles worth) and three bottles of pre measured water upstairs every night.  I only end up using one but I can make it in about 30 seconds and never leave my room. Try that?

PB102012

Two more....

If one more person says "just bring her" when they want us to come out to late dinners, happy hour, loud get togethers, I am tempted to fall off the grid completely. She doesn't do well with loud houses, and staying up past her normal bed time. YOU are not the one that has to deal with a screaming baby, so please stop acting like its easy to do, unless of course you have done it.

Last one- I told DH that I prefer the Carters store in a town 25 mins south of our house, when in fact there's a Trader Joe's nearby and I want more Chardonnay and cookie butter and don't care what Carters store we go to.

pb&jojo

Kristin030 said:

pb&jojo said:

kwrecks said:

pb&jojo said:

I also leave baby in pj's almost everyday. She is most comfortable in them and it is easiest. I take her out to walmart, target, the mall, in her sleepers.  I don't care. And I have a closet full of outfits given to me...what a waste!

Also, I FF and have since day 2 in the hospital. I really had no reason to stop except for that she was jaundiced and I thought it would help, and I was really stressed out about BFing from the start. I regret quitting so soon. I should have given it more of a fight obviously for the health benefits, but mostly because of the convenience of just being able to whip out the boob! Anytime we go anywhere I am packing water, formula, bottles...if she is screaming in the middle of the night, I have to go downstairs and put together a bottle.

I think (and i have no first hand experience with the BFing) that BFing is def. challeneging and harder in the beginning, and FF is easier in the beginning and just gets to be a pain. From what i see of my BFing friends who are a few months in, it is like 2nd nature for both them and LO....Wish I would have stuck with it.

I'm not 100% sure on this, but I think that you can work on getting your milk to come back if you want to bf.  There is a girl that comes to my bf group that got her milk to come back after a while, I'm just not sure how long it was and how hard it was for her.

Wow! I didn't know it was possible. I am going back to work next week, so I don't know how it would work with having to pump instead of nurse most of the time. I will look into that.

My LO doesn't need warm bottles, but she doesn't really enjoy cold bottles...so it takes longer to warm one up than it does just to make a room temp one on the spot. I do prescoop the formula into a bottle and then water into another bottle, so when the time comes, i just dump the water into the formula bottle and mix...it does speed things up. However, she is currently drinking 5oz...so I make a 6 oz bottle (since that is the measurement on the label), and then pour 1 oz into another bottle and save in fridge...Not sure if i am making more work for myself. I thought about making 5oz of water and 2.5 scoops of powder, but I don't want to mess up and give too much/not enough.

Not like making a bottle even takes that long, but with a screaming baby, it can seem like a looong time. Hah.

get a formula container (target, walmart, BRU, BBB, etc) you can pre scoop the formula into the container, pre measure the water, and mix quickly.  I bring a container of prescooped formula (3 bottles worth) and three bottles of pre measured water upstairs every night.  I only end up using one but I can make it in about 30 seconds and never leave my room. Try that?

Awesome. Just ordered one of those containers online.  :-) Thanks :-)

Michelle N

I shut the lights out last night at 8pm. For no reason other than I wanted to keep the rest of the candy to myself. 

BlondieBia21

I also laugh every. single. time. Lo toots. I have to remind myself that someday I can't laugh at them because she will have to learn good manners and that makes me kind of sad. But until then, I will laugh. )

Marvel1013

@blondiebia21 it's hilarious when they toot. I could have mistaken LO for a 50 year old man this morning, she was letting them rip with no shame

Coconuthead

I am eating snickers as a complete part of this balanced breakfast.

BuckyC

Every year I stock up on half-price Halloween candy. I'm a teacher, so I like to have a stash to use as prizes for the occasional game in class. I went out this morning to pick up a few bags knowing full well that I don't go back to work until mid-January and that I will eat all the candy on my own before then. Add me to team Why Can't I Lose This Baby Weight?!?!

TurtleMomma

I let LO comfort nurse. A lot. I love the endorphin high it gives me.

MommyKristin88

I wish I could blame candy for my weight issues. My problem is laziness. I'm too lazy to work out as often as I should, I'm too lazy to cook so we eat out constantly, and I'm too lazy to find healthier alternatives for some of the things I crave (oreos, butterfingers, and orange soda). I need help! :-(

My confession: I plan to do very little this weekend. I miss my kids. Being back at work is taking all my time away from them. I want to just stay home and relax as much as possible. Unfortunately, we have a b-day party to go to on Sat and one on Sun, but luckily those won't take all day!

V&G101808

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

EmR22

I see no problem with LO napping in the car seat after being out and about. It restrains them just like a RNP, a swing, or a carrier. As long as they are not in these contraptions 24 hours a day I see no problem.

LJUTCMommy

TurtleMomma said:

I let LO comfort nurse. A lot. I love the endorphin high it gives me.

I am just starting to get this endorphin high and I effing love it! I wish LO would comfort nurse more. She's a wham bam thank you ma'am baby.

Or I wish that I could get the same effect from pumping.

LJUTCMommy

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

I am so sorry. IMO, EP moms work really hard to provide their milk for their babies--much harder than me. Honestly, if I had to EP I don't know if I could do it. I totally understand your frustration and I salute you!

Also, when I know people are going to judge or give me horrible advice I just lie.

For example:

Some idiot: "Is dd STTN?"

Me: "Yes."

AACaHa13

@lokilahve... Where did you read about the weight loss benefits around 3-6 months? I Would like to read about that! Very motivating to me because I am really hating my body these days.

LokiLahve

AACaHa13 said:

@lokilahve... Where did you read about the weight loss benefits around 3-6 months? I Would like to read about that! Very motivating to me because I am really hating my body these days.

Oh geez I don't remember. I read A LOT. I do try to stick to reputable sources like Kelly mom or LLL so it likely wasn't in some random person's blog or anything. I'll see if I can find it and will post a link if I do.

@AACaHa13
Edit: I think this was it....if not the exact article it briefly covers weightloss in different months.
https://www.llli.org/llleaderweb/lv/lvoctnov97p115.html

nnikki10

I still sleep with my boppy pregnancy pillow and ill prob but another when this one goes flat.

rayandbrit

My FFFC, I don't like when people give no information in their bump post titles. For example, a post title like: "what should I do about this?" Especially when I click it and it's something I have zero interest in or input on... At least give me a genre or a little more info, like "what should I do about this diaper rash?"

Can I close it in about two seconds, yes, does this make me the laziest person ever... probably.

TurtleMomma

Maritza707 said:

Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing.

I, too, am terrified of doing anything that might fuck with my supply.

My sister has dropped 21+lb in the last 8 weeks and brags about it all the time. When I asked her how she was doing it, she replied the name of some crazy diet pill she's invested a jillion dollars on. She said, "You should try it!". I shrugged and said I couldn't because I was BFing (I can't afford it anyways). She rolled her eyes and said, "It's totally BFing safe, quit making excuses!" Uhm... no.

LJUTCMommy

TurtleMomma said:

Maritza707 said:

Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing.

I, too, am terrified of doing anything that might fuck with my supply.

My sister has dropped 21+lb in the last 8 weeks and brags about it all the time. When I asked her how she was doing it, she replied the name of some crazy diet pill she's invested a jillion dollars on. She said, "You should try it!". I shrugged and said I couldn't because I was BFing (I can't afford it anyways). She rolled her eyes and said, "It's totally BFing safe, quit making excuses!" Uhm... no.

Over 21 lbs in 8 weeks seems unsafe anyway. Is she sure it's not one of those diet pills that has secret trace amounts of meth or cocaine?

I wouldn't take anything like that, bf or not.

AACaHa13

I confess that today is a hard day and that I just need a break. 

Also, It bothers me so much when Christmas stuff is out the day after Halloween. Its just too soon! Thanksgiving is overshadowed by all the Christmas crap and it sucks because thanksgiving is one of the best holidays!

Critter015

I feel like DS spends at least 5 hours a day in his bouncer. He spends another 2 on his playmat. I would love to wear him and hold him more, but he still eats pretty much every 2 hours day and night and I'm exhausted. Plus I have DD to take care of. I'm also resentful because DH thinks I hold him all day and refuses to hold him when he gets home from work and now DS freaks out if anyone but me holds him.

I choose DD's meals based on how messy they are. She still eats 95% of her food with her hands and then combs them through her hair. This means a lot of time I choose less healthy options just so I don't have to give her multiple baths a day.

magdalina.h

ktbear9512 said:

Ooh I have a really flammable one this week. Tuesday DS got his 2 month shots and was inconsolably crying (of course). It seemed like way too much effort to strap him into his car seat so I just put him in and sat back with him. We only live literally 30 seconds from the peds office on residential roads where you can't go more than 20mph due to turns, but I have been feeling guilty ever since. He always hates being strapped in as it is- I can't tell if it would have been worse to torture him further on shot day by strapping him in or taking a 30 second ride unstrapped.

Yay! We truly have a stupid confession. I bet you could tell what would have been worse if something had happened. Strap your damn kid in.

MitsB707

TurtleMomma said:

Maritza707 said:

Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing.

I, too, am terrified of doing anything that might fuck with my supply.

My sister has dropped 21+lb in the last 8 weeks and brags about it all the time. When I asked her how she was doing it, she replied the name of some crazy diet pill she's invested a jillion dollars on. She said, "You should try it!". I shrugged and said I couldn't because I was BFing (I can't afford it anyways). She rolled her eyes and said, "It's totally BFing safe, quit making excuses!" Uhm... no.

That's so annoying! I wouldn't risk it either. I'm just happy I've been able to go almost 3 months already and have just enough for daycare. Sigh..

I hope your sister realized that as soon as she's off those pills, she'll likely gain it all back. Magic pills never work for long.

magdalina.h

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

Alexis had milk transfer issues too. I decided to have her try latching last weekend and now we nurse when I'm home. I EP'd for a year with Lucas and that was really hard. I'm kind excited that I don't have to pump as much when I'm home.

BellaOso

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

I EPed with my first too and always felt "judged" when people said, "Are you breastfeeding?" and I said, "I'm pumping milk for her." They looked at me weird. One even said, "Is that as good?" Ummmm FU lady.

EPing is hard and time consuming - you get mad props in my book for doing it. I know how much time and dedication it takes.

V&G101808

magdalina.h said:

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

Alexis had milk transfer issues too. I decided to have her try latching last weekend and now we nurse when I'm home. I EP'd for a year with Lucas and that was really hard. I'm kind excited that I don't have to pump as much when I'm home.


Thats awesome that she took to it again. I tried for a few weeks but LO just didn't want to. In that time I successfully nursed him maybe twice.

I feel like I could have tried more but when he was in a fit of hunger there were no having it- he wanted that bottle now!

Now with work it seems harder. I may try nighttime nursing again though. It would be great if we could at least do that.

Lorjo2022

kwhite27 said:

BlondieBia21 said:

I find a disgusting joy cleaning out lo's neck rolls. 8->

Haha. For me it's the toe jam!! Love picking it out of her itty bitty toes.

No shame! I like getting those boogies!

Michelle N

Critter015 said:

I feel like DS spends at least 5 hours a day in his bouncer. He spends another 2 on his playmat. I would love to wear him and hold him more, but he still eats pretty much every 2 hours day and night and I'm exhausted. Plus I have DD to take care of. I'm also resentful because DH thinks I hold him all day and refuses to hold him when he gets home from work and now DS freaks out if anyone but me holds him. I choose DD's meals based on how messy they are. She still eats 95% of her food with her hands and then combs them through her hair. This means a lot of time I choose less healthy options just so I don't have to give her multiple baths a day.

I don't like this. Your DH refuses to hold his son? WTF. 

I also don't like that you don't put your DD's health first... if your baby is sitting or laying 7 hours a day, you don't have time to give your DD a sponge bath? 

Michelle N

I must be a super bitch today, because normally I'm not mean on the boards. But Critter's post bugged me, and someone else posted in a different thread that as a reward, the kid would get alone time with mom or dad, since they were craving the attention. Uh, what? Good behaviour or not, your kid deserves it. So I guess another confession is I am super-judge-y today. 

MissyCee

I'm currently eating some Kraft Mac and Cheese for lunch. I don't care what the box says, the serving size is 1!

Lorjo2022

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

I say kudos to the EP! I pumped once a day for about 2 weeks to get a freezer stash going and that was enough for me! I still pump when DH wants to feed LO but atleast DH is home to tend to him, otherwise it's kinda hard juggling both LO and the breast pump. So again, kudos to you @V&G101808! No judgement here!

EmR22

@michellen I posted about a reward of getting alone time with mom and dad. With 4 kids each individual kid does not always get alone time with each me and DH as often as they would like. Does that mean they don't get attention? No. We all snuggle in our bed, we read books together, we do art projects together but these things are being done as a family. My point was that as you add another child sometimes the older ones feel lost in the shuffle and need EXTRA attention just for them. 

Snowbird7

Katie6202 said:

ktbear9512 said:

Ooh I have a really flammable one this week. Tuesday DS got his 2 month shots and was inconsolably crying (of course). It seemed like way too much effort to strap him into his car seat so I just put him in and sat back with him. We only live literally 30 seconds from the peds office on residential roads where you can't go more than 20mph due to turns, but I have been feeling guilty ever since. He always hates being strapped in as it is- I can't tell if it would have been worse to torture him further on shot day by strapping him in or taking a 30 second ride unstrapped.

I don't normally share this with a lot of people, but when I was 10 years old, I was injured badly by a John Deere lawnmower that my dad was driving (I was riding on it in an improper and unsafe way.) I had 15 surgeries and multiple skin grafts, and it wasn't until I was 16 years old that I could walk normally.

My dad harbored enormous guilt for years, and I think it ultimately contributed to my parents' divorce and the break-up of our family. I'm 33 years old, and he still calls me on the anniversary of the accident every single year.

All it takes is ONE bad decision. No matter what, you think that these things aren't likely to happen to you. But they can happen. And if they do, the guilt you live with will never end.

Thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine what you've been through. I work in an ICU at a children's hospital, and can't begin to tell you how many law mower accidents I see each year, most are horrific. I cringe when I hear people making poor safety choices for their children (law mowers, no helmets, not strapping in car seat) you are so right in that it only takes 1 bad decision. I hope you are healed well, even years later.

Thanks, Katie, I appreciate it. I am sometimes reluctant to share the story with people because I'd hate for them to view my dad in a certain light. It was just a simple, one-time mistake. A very unfortunate one, but just a mistake all the same. I am permanently healed now and can walk normally, thanks to a lot of really awesome nurses, physical therapists, and one fantastic surgeon. And thank you for choosing a profession in taking care of injured children; I know that can't be an easy job. But believe me, it makes a huge difference and has a profound impact on a lot of lives!

TeacherMom210

AACaHa13 said:

Also, It bothers me so much when Christmas stuff is out the day after Halloween. Its just too soon! Thanksgiving is overshadowed by all the Christmas crap and it sucks because thanksgiving is one of the best holidays!

I feel the exact same way! I decorate for Thanksgiving and won't put my Christmas stuff out until the weekend after Thanksgiving.

Lilmrslay

V&G101808 said:

I've got another one: I get really aggrevated when people ask if I'm nursing LO.  I feel like EPers are sort of the forgotten bunch of moms.  We have the best and worst of both worlds and many non-moms (or even older moms) just don't understand...

I get defensive explaining why I chose to go this route and I feel like people judge me for not trying harder to correct LO's milk transfer issues.

I know 99% of the time people are not really judging me but I can't help but feel that way...

I give you full props for EPing.

I pump once a day just for a stash and it's not my favourite thing to do by any stretch of the imagination. I give you full credit for committing to doing it for your LO. It takes more time and effort than it does for me to pop my LO on and off. How can anyone judge how dedicated you are?

And when people ask if he's breastfed, I would just say yes. After all, his food is coming from the breast, he just drinks from a 'glass' rather than straight from the tap ; )

jbbolton

My confession. I had a crazy week and haven't been on TB in several days, but couldn't wait to read FFFC since I woke up!!'

HermansWife

Sundae13 said:

BellaOso said:

LJUTCMommy said:

Maritza707 said:

@jill9288 Great minds think alike, lol. I think we posted at exactly the same time Mine: I wish I could go on a super strict diet and lose the rest of this pregnancy weight. I am really scared to because I'm terrified of my supply going down and not being able to bf. Eating healthier and being more active is doing nothing. So instead, dh has lost almost 20 lbs and weighs less than me, and I feel bad about myself. At least I have an adorable baby who makes all the extra lbs worth it.

I could have written this myself. I need to get on top of it before the holidays.

Another confession: I am using "worrying about my supply dropping" as an excuse not to diet or exercise, even though I have no issues and a bit of an oversupply.

Yep. That too, I think. Except I really am a little worried about it dropping a lot because I had a low supply last time.

I pumped the most oz I have in a while today. The difference?? More calories than usual yesterday. That's the only thing I changed.

I noticed the same thing. The lesson I'm learning? Eat More Chocolate!