Edit: sorry, I m slow and you responded while I was typing. I wish you the best with your treatment, and I'm sorry for all you're going through. I truly hope this can somehow turn out well for all of you
In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much.
I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL.
Anything else I need to explain?
Damn. Talk about an FFFC. I feel sad for the baby involved in all of this. From what you've told us your H sounds like a peach.
Had our precious baby girl, Little Miss E, on August 14, 2013♥143 → I.love.you.♥
LO had a goopy eye on Tuesday morning. I put my breastmilk in it a few times that day. Next morning it was even goopier and a little red, I still just used BM at every diaper change after cleaning it out. It didn't get any better though I was feeling pretty guilty that I had let it go 2 days like that before taking her to the doctor yesterday.
But as soon as the doctor walked in he asked "have you tried using your BM yet?" That made me feel a little better!
But I still feel guilty now that I used the meds for half a day and it already looks better... poor baby!
In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much.
I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL.
Anything else I need to explain?
Just so you know we are all genuinely concerned for your well being and especially the well being of your child. I'm truly sorry you're having such a rough time, it breaks my heart.
All of this. I hope that time (and therapy) will bring you the ability to heal and, if you choose, to play a positive and active role in your LO's life in the future.
I'm considering not starting BC at all. We ideally want to start trying when S is 1. Considering the fertility mess we went through to get pregnant the first time, I think it would be a blessing to get KO naturally. Yes, being pregnant again SO soon would suck...but the end result is well worth it. MH is in camp BC until S is 1....decisions, decisions. I tell myself that it probably wouldn't happen anyway...hell we went 5 years on no bc before starting iui. But Murphy's law always seems to get me.
I made a chocolate cake a week ago, it started getting dry so I decided to throw it away... I definitely ate a huge piece while walking over to the trash with it. I just can't say goodbye!
In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much.
I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL.
Anything else I need to explain?
Just so you know we are all genuinely concerned for your well being and especially the well being of your child. I'm truly sorry you're having such a rough time, it breaks my heart.
This. I hope for your LO things will be ok. Also, like a pp said, FFFC is probably not the best place to divulge information like you have. And you're not required to tell us anything. You opened those doors @bubblydevil
I once read that if you shave your baby's head a few weeks after birth, their hair grows in better. I have absolutely no idea if this is actually true, but as a hair stylist, I have obsessed on doing this everyday since delivery.
My uncles from Mexico and does this to his daughters. They all have amazing thick, long hair. But he does it at 3 and 6 months. So it could be true. I'm debating doing it.
I bet their hair would have been thick and long anyway, mine is and my mother didnt shave me. I'm thinking it would be itchy for them when it grows back, even with clippers. I have considered trimming it cuz it's getting long and funky in the back.
I have another one. I dont know if its flamable or not but i just stream lined a rock star thats been in my fridge for two months. I hate the stuff but im out of coffe and im watching my nephews while my sister and bil are at her first ob appointment.
I side eye "label whores". Don't get me wrong I like nice things. However, I don't care what brand it is. I'm talking the "oh, I won't wear that unless it's Chanel". Like I full on roll my eyes at those people. I like fashion even if it comes from Target (pronounced tar-jee for all you fancies).
I side eye "label whores". Don't get me wrong I like nice things. However, I don't care what brand it is. I'm talking the "oh, I won't wear that unless it's Chanel". Like I full on roll my eyes at those people. I like fashion even if it comes from Target (pronounced tar-jee for all you fancies).
My 5 year old is quite fashionable (and super handsome too ), he's defiantly rockin some target clothing!
I'm a SAHM but I'm sending my 2 year old to "school" for a 1/2 day once a week to get time with DS2. I'm feeling a lot of mom guilt for it. I know he will probably love it but I feel like if I was a "better" SAHM I wouldn't need a break from him.
You'll be so happy you did this! Around that age they need more activity & no one can play with a kid like other kids. I have my older two in a "Mother's Day Out" 2 days a week (I started both around the time they turned 2), and now we all live for those two days! I felt so guilty sending my oldest, then my second, but it gives you bonding time with your NB, gets them out to have some fun, and you'll be pumped to see him when he gets him= everyone wins!
I side eye "label whores". Don't get me wrong I like nice things. However, I don't care what brand it is. I'm talking the "oh, I won't wear that unless it's Chanel". Like I full on roll my eyes at those people. I like fashion even if it comes from Target (pronounced tar-jee for all you fancies).
Agree! Don't get me wrong I think designer clothing is beautiful, but a real measure of someone's style is when they look amazing in Target (or similar) clothes! Dressing in high end fashionable clothes doesn't mean shit if you don't have STYLE.
I side eye "label whores". Don't get me wrong I like nice things. However, I don't care what brand it is. I'm talking the "oh, I won't wear that unless it's Chanel". Like I full on roll my eyes at those people. I like fashion even if it comes from Target (pronounced tar-jee for all you fancies).
Agree! Don't get me wrong I think designer clothing is beautiful, but a real measure of someone's style is when they look amazing in Target (or similar) clothes! Dressing in high end fashionable clothes doesn't mean shit if you don't have STYLE.
I agree, it's all about HOW you wear it, less about WHO you're wearing. That being said, if I had tons of money, I'd probably wear only "name brand" because I think it's generally better quality, lasts longer, and seems to fit better. For now though, I'm happy being "creative" with what I can get.
DD #1 4 years old (09/22/09)
DD #2 2 years old (08/17/11)
DD #3 born 08/29/13
I once read that if you shave your baby's head a few weeks after birth, their hair grows in better. I have absolutely no idea if this is actually true, but as a hair stylist, I have obsessed on doing this everyday since delivery.
My uncles from Mexico and does this to his daughters. They all have amazing thick, long hair. But he does it at 3 and 6 months. So it could be true. I'm debating doing it.
I bet their hair would have been thick and long anyway, mine is and my mother didnt shave me. I'm thinking it would be itchy for them when it grows back, even with clippers. I have considered trimming it cuz it's getting long and funky in the back.
I've buzzed my head plenty of times. Itchy? Your scalp is a lot different than your pubic region. Lol.
The thing about it is that it takes everything off the head and allows it grow back all together making it seem thicker. Who knows. Just an interesting thing to do with LO.
@LJUTCMommy why the hell are you ashamed of liking something better than what is considered "popular?" IMHO Starbucks sucks ass and I'd rather have a $1.50 7-11 coffee than drink that overpriced burnt shit they call coffee. /rant
I know! I feel like such a loser. It's just that I associate McDonalds with uneducated, unhealthy, and sedentary lifestyles. I don't want to be judged that way.
I wish I could just be one of those people who doesn't care, but unfortunately, I'm not.
I side eye "label whores". Don't get me wrong I like nice things. However, I don't care what brand it is. I'm talking the "oh, I won't wear that unless it's Chanel". Like I full on roll my eyes at those people. I like fashion even if it comes from Target (pronounced tar-jee for all you fancies).
Along these lines, I hate when people where monogram LV or Chanel stuff with the logo. First off, if you're that desperate for everyone to see your designer accessories, I side eye you.
Secondly, depending on what else you're wearing, I might assume its counterfeit.
Thirdly, why are you turning yourself into a billboard? I love designer stuff, but I don't like being conspicuous about it. I think it's trashy.
I love my plain black leather Burberry bag, but I don't need it covered in plaid just so everyone knows it's Burberry.
*This post is using the general "you", not calling out anyone specific.*
LO woke and refused to feed (after nursing well all through the night,) at 5:20 am. She went back to sleep at 6:30 am after a pumped bottle. The crazed part is that I keep sneaking into the room she is currently sleeping every 30 - 45 min and picking her up and getting her to latch for a few minutes. Then she goes right back to sleep.
This has been been going on for a little over 4 hours.
I bought a bottle of pink champaigne to use in my little sisters 21st birthday cake next weekend. I am seriously, seriously considering opening it, calling my girlfriends over and drinking it all today.
@LJUTCMommy why the hell are you ashamed of liking something better than what is considered "popular?" IMHO Starbucks sucks ass and I'd rather have a $1.50 7-11 coffee than drink that overpriced burnt shit they call coffee. /rant
I know! I feel like such a loser. It's just that I associate McDonalds with uneducated, unhealthy, and sedentary lifestyles. I don't want to be judged that way.
I wish I could just be one of those people who doesn't care, but unfortunately, I'm not.
@sfeebs13 I've also considered a loose curl perm. My hair is super thick and such a pain to fix, it's literally been in a ponytail since LO was born, minus the day of his nb pics. It's got a little curl to it naturally but is too heavy to hold it when it dries so I'm worried that the perm will be pointless. Also I had a BAD perm experience as a teenager that has scarred me.
@CaliforniaDream87 DS is a pretty good looking fella and most of his clothes are hand me down and consignment. We are all about some cheap clothes in this house!
And I would take a Dunkin Donuts coffee over Starbucks any day!!
As hard as FF was for me at first I LOVED knowing that DH would be able to have another way to bond with LO. I don't need things/activities that are just mine right now. DH and I switch off on everything (bath, bedtime, MOTN feedings) and I like that it's equal. Now as he gets older there will definitely be daddy things and mommy things so I'm not worried about it now.
My FFFC, I totally use DH's love of DS to my advantage to spend money on him. DH and I typically run purchases through eachother before making them and he's yet to put up a fight for me shopping for DS. He's even ok with me throwing down money on camera accessories with the reasoning of taking better pictures.
Re: FFFC
Edit: sorry, I m slow and you responded while I was typing. I wish you the best with your treatment, and I'm sorry for all you're going through. I truly hope this can somehow turn out well for all of you
Had our precious baby girl, Little Miss E, on August 14, 2013 ♥ 143 → I.love.you. ♥

Also, I've watched more TV in the past 8 weeks than I have in years. Sorrynotsorry.
But as soon as the doctor walked in he asked "have you tried using your BM yet?" That made me feel a little better!
But I still feel guilty now that I used the meds for half a day and it already looks better...
Mommy to J: Born 5/11/2010 & B: Born 8/26/2013
All of this. I hope that time (and therapy) will bring you the ability to heal and, if you choose, to play a positive and active role in your LO's life in the future.
I tell myself that it probably wouldn't happen anyway...hell we went 5 years on no bc before starting iui. But Murphy's law always seems to get me.
This. I hope for your LO things will be ok.
Also, like a pp said, FFFC is probably not the best place to divulge information like you have. And you're not required to tell us anything. You opened those doors @bubblydevil
Call me heartless but something's shouldn't be repeated, and it seems there is a new *shocker* every damn week.
Over it in every way.
Also @RoosterMemphis, looks like Alabama's daddy has thick hair, maybe she will get it?
I needed to hear this! THANK YOU!
DD #2 2 years old (08/17/11)
DD #3 born 08/29/13
The thing about it is that it takes everything off the head and allows it grow back all together making it seem thicker. Who knows. Just an interesting thing to do with LO.
I wish I could just be one of those people who doesn't care, but unfortunately, I'm not.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Mocha Frappes are my weakness!
Secondly, depending on what else you're wearing, I might assume its counterfeit.
Thirdly, why are you turning yourself into a billboard? I love designer stuff, but I don't like being conspicuous about it. I think it's trashy.
I love my plain black leather Burberry bag, but I don't need it covered in plaid just so everyone knows it's Burberry.
*This post is using the general "you", not calling out anyone specific.*
LO woke and refused to feed (after nursing well all through the night,) at 5:20 am. She went back to sleep at 6:30 am after a pumped bottle. The crazed part is that I keep sneaking into the room she is currently sleeping every 30 - 45 min and picking her up and getting her to latch for a few minutes. Then she goes right back to sleep.
This has been been going on for a little over 4 hours.
@CaliforniaDream87 DS is a pretty good looking fella and most of his clothes are hand me down and consignment. We are all about some cheap clothes in this house!
And I would take a Dunkin Donuts coffee over Starbucks any day!!
As hard as FF was for me at first I LOVED knowing that DH would be able to have another way to bond with LO. I don't need things/activities that are just mine right now. DH and I switch off on everything (bath, bedtime, MOTN feedings) and I like that it's equal. Now as he gets older there will definitely be daddy things and mommy things so I'm not worried about it now.
My FFFC, I totally use DH's love of DS to my advantage to spend money on him. DH and I typically run purchases through eachother before making them and he's yet to put up a fight for me shopping for DS. He's even ok with me throwing down money on camera accessories with the reasoning of taking better pictures.