FFFC

BubblyDevil

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

Soleil3

@roostermemphis I've been licensed for 10 years now, but I haven't worked in about a year and a half

girlmama83

I lied to my boyfriend yesterday and told him all LO and I did was go out to grab a coffee when really we also went to this fancy childrens clothing boutique I've been dying to check out and I spent more than you ever should on a headband.

When I put it on her to wear to a wedding shower on Sunday I'm probably going to tell him it was a gift.

henderson1026

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

this isn't your first confession along these lines... Have you sought help yet?

WildRumpus

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

Honest question....did you WANT to be a parent?

mommabmb

Zever000 said:

My parents home schooled me. My first day of "real" school was university. Because of this I have awful anxiety about making friends and people liking me.
It's so bad that if someone likes a post on Facebook (or "loves it" on TB) I get butterflies I'm so excited. If I get a new job or join a class I get so worried that no one likes me it brings me to tears.

It's really embarrassing...

Do you understand why I thought the Ghandi award was maybe a backhanded compliment? I'm so paranoid abou being liked half the time I question EVERYTHING.

My FC (because let's get real, it's not FFFC), I sometimes let LO stay in the same pajamas all day and sleep in them again at night. If they aren't dirty and he is comfortable and not too hot, I think it's fine.

And... One more. I don't warm LOs wipes even though I know he'd prefer it. I just feel like it would mean he's always expect them warmed and that he'll get used to them cold. My H is annoyed I won't do it.

BlondieBia21

We are having a get together tonight at the IL's and I know it's going to turn into mil trying to "show" lo off like she's some sort of attraction. So to avoid it, I'm bringing my ring sling and wearing her the whole night. I know if one person gets to hold her, everyone will try to so unless I change my mind, I will be the one holding her.

amarissa85

RoosterMemphis said:

Ashesha13 said:

RoosterMemphis said:

I once read that if you shave your baby's head a few weeks after birth, their hair grows in better. I have absolutely no idea if this is actually true, but as a hair stylist, I have obsessed on doing this everyday since delivery.

I also have heard this. I heard thogh that it will make curly hair grow back in straight. So if LO has curly hair and you want it straight for whatever reason- I personally think curly hair is adorable on LOs- you shave it and it will grow back straight.

I would never tought DS's hair. It's awesome and everyone loves his natural faux hawk. Although I've tried getting it to lay flat just using water so I could comb it different ways but as soon as it dries, poof right back up. I love it though and so do most others

Lots of children's "baby hair" is curly. Doesn't necessarily mean they have curly hair. Cutting it has nothing to do with it. It would become straight eventually.

Yep. Jr.'s hair is straight right now but I'm positive that is because it isn't long enough to curl yet. DH has curly hair and I have pretty tight curls as well. When his hair is wet it will curl up. Genetically speaking, I would be shocked if Jr. Doesn't have curls.

sfeebs13

henderson1026 said:

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

this isn't your first confession along these lines... Have you sought help yet?


I was thinking something similar.
Or just plain BSC.

amarissa85

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

This is pretty disgusting. If you need to "hide out" from LO, why did you have a baby in the first place?

RoosterMemphis

henderson1026 said:

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

this isn't your first confession along these lines... Have you sought help yet?


I second this

Soleil3

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

Who is there to catch on, and why cant you just ask/ tell them to take the babe for a bit?

rayandbrit

BlueJewelM said:

I'm a SAHM but I'm sending my 2 year old to "school" for a 1/2 day once a week to get time with DS2. I'm feeling a lot of mom guilt for it. I know he will probably love it but I feel like if I was a "better" SAHM I wouldn't need a break from him.

You'll be so happy you did this! Around that age they need more activity & no one can play with a kid like other kids. I have my older two in a "Mother's Day Out" 2 days a week (I started both around the time they turned 2), and now we all live for those two days! I felt so guilty sending my oldest, then my second, but it gives you bonding time with your NB, gets them out to have some fun, and you'll be pumped to see him when he gets him= everyone wins!

sfeebs13 I totally want to get a perm too. Just some loose waves or something, I have nightmares of my Mom's hair in the early 90s though, and it's been keeping me from pulling the trigger and trying it.

My FFFC would be that I am TERRIBLE, with names IRL, but even worse on TB. I am normally mobile, so I don't get the siggy help to jog my memory. I don't know how all you ladies are able to remember each other, and previous posts, etc. It seems like a super power to me! On here it's manageable, but IRL it's just plain embarrassing, my memory is one of my least favorite things about myself.

MommyAmes2

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

I can't decide if you need professional help....Or if you want attention.

Soleil3

BlondieBia21 said:

We are having a get together tonight at the IL's and I know it's going to turn into mil trying to "show" lo off like she's some sort of attraction. So to avoid it, I'm bringing my ring sling and wearing her the whole night. I know if one person gets to hold her, everyone will try to so unless I change my mind, I will be the one holding her.

Hah Blonders, we just went to a trunk or treat thing with my ILs, and I wore little dude, and my MIL was all "wah no fair, you bring that thing so you can hog him all to yourself" in that tone that suggests shes kidding but not really. I was all...yup.

RK125

BlondieBia21 said:

We are having a get together tonight at the IL's and I know it's going to turn into mil trying to "show" lo off like she's some sort of attraction. So to avoid it, I'm bringing my ring sling and wearing her the whole night. I know if one person gets to hold her, everyone will try to so unless I change my mind, I will be the one holding her.

We're going to a rehearsal dinner tonight and I'm doing the same thing.

MinnesotaMomma91

I got terminated from school for not being there my first day back. In my defense i went to drop ds off with his baby sitter and when i got there she was hung over and high as a kite.

I was not going to leave ds with her and could not find anyone else to watch ds.

In regaurds to the posts about baby hair, ds was doomed from conception. His bio dad and i have the straightest hair, his baby hair is straight and has a mind of his own.

CourtJack

LAMuehlen said:

I got terminated from school for not being there my first day back. In my defense i went to drop ds off with his baby sitter and when i got there she was hung over and high as a kite. I was not going to leave ds with her and could not find anyone else to watch ds. In regaurds to the posts about baby hair, ds was doomed from conception. His bio dad and i have the straightest hair, his baby hair is straight and has a mind of his own.

Who the F is his babysitter??? I assume she's fired now?

BelhurstBride

BlueJewelM said:

I'm a SAHM but I'm sending my 2 year old to "school" for a 1/2 day once a week to get time with DS2. I'm feeling a lot of mom guilt for it. I know he will probably love it but I feel like if I was a "better" SAHM I wouldn't need a break from him.

I totally admit to sending DD1 to preschool so I can get some 1:1 time with DD1. I feel more guilt about the lack of quality time I get with DD2 compared to what DD1 got. We moms... we find a reason to feel awful about everything! 

If it helps, I think it takes a good SAHM to admit when they need a break! 

nnikki10 said:

I occasionally ignore my mil texts. She bothers me more than my own mom. She can be so needy sometimes. It gets exhausting.

I changed my number and refuse to give it to my inlaws. It's been years now. I have no intention of ever giving it to them and will block their number if they ever do get it. 

Leosmom13

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

This is odd. I have honestly never felt the need to trick people into minding LO. I am quite happy to look after him all the time 24/7. I only ask people to watch him when I genuinely need to use the bathroom or shower.

MinnesotaMomma91

CourtJack said:

LAMuehlen said:

I got terminated from school for not being there my first day back. In my defense i went to drop ds off with his baby sitter and when i got there she was hung over and high as a kite.

I was not going to leave ds with her and could not find anyone else to watch ds.

In regaurds to the posts about baby hair, ds was doomed from conception. His bio dad and i have the straightest hair, his baby hair is straight and has a mind of his own.

Who the F is his babysitter??? I assume she's fired now?


Yup. She nwnnied her way through massage therapy school and a griend refered me to her. I did a shit ton of work checking her out. Calling previous employersvand stalking her social media.

I told my friend what happened and she feels aweful cause obviously this chick was a nanny for four years

LokiLahve

@bubblydevil you have mentioned several things along the lines of getting away from LO...I know you've mentioned ppd and are apparently going through rough times (or splitting up?) with your so.
I really hope you have reached out for help other than mentioning things on TB. People here may offer advice, but the amount of issues you have hinted toward on here need professional help IMO.
Not trying to be snarky...please seek help.

LJUTCMommy

RoosterMemphis said:

I once read that if you shave your baby's head a few weeks after birth, their hair grows in better. I have absolutely no idea if this is actually true, but as a hair stylist, I have obsessed on doing this everyday since delivery.

This is a tradition in my DH's culture. Family is pressuring me to buzz it off, but her hair is so full and beautiful already I don't want to.

I don't think it's true. Many Indian, Persian and Middle Eastern babies have this done. I argue that they are genetically predisposed to having great hair anyway. I still think I may come home to a bald baby one day.

LJUTCMommy

Here is my FFFC: I actually like McDonalds McCafe drinks better than Starbucks versions.

However, if I'm going to be drinking it anywhere other than my car or house, I still get Starbucks because I'm ashamed.

MommyBolty

BubblyDevil said:

Sometimes I pretend to have diarrhea just to hide out in the bathroom away from LO. So far no one has caught on yet.

This is not normal behavior. Why not just be honest if you need a minute to yourself... Ask someone to watch/hold the baby while you refresh. There isn't anything wrong with needing a moment to yourself. But lying about being sick... That poor child.

henderson1026

LJUTCMommy said:

Here is my FFFC: I actually like McDonalds McCafe drinks better than Starbucks versions. However, if I'm going to be drinking it anywhere other than my car or house, I still get Starbucks because I'm ashamed.

You should keep a starbucks cup handy and transfer it

BubblyDevil

@henderson1026 I'm in therapy and things are slowly improving.

@Jill9288 I don't know. I know I was happy when I got the BFP, and I cried at the first ultrasounds, so I assume I did.

BabyE143

The first time DH bottle fed LO I was jealous. He changes her diapers and rocks her to sleep but feeding her was my thing (my only thing). From the get go, I tried so hard to give H opportunities to bond with her (he has bath time) that I didn't reserve anything for her and I, feeding her was "our time". I enjoy MOTN feedings because LO and I have that one on one time and I'm not in any hurry for her to STTN.

MommyBolty

My FC is that my DH starts 4 weeks of paternity leave on Monday, and I go back to work. I certainly don't wish bad days on them bc that would be cruel... But I do hope he realizes how much work LO really is. I'm hoping he will appreciate what I've done the past 8 weeks a little more. ...maybe so much that he will decide I can be a SAHM...hey, I can dream!

LJUTCMommy

henderson1026 said:

LJUTCMommy said:

Here is my FFFC: I actually like McDonalds McCafe drinks better than Starbucks versions.

However, if I'm going to be drinking it anywhere other than my car or house, I still get Starbucks because I'm ashamed.

You should keep a starbucks cup handy and transfer it


I am such a loser. This is a great idea! Totally getting one of those reusable Plastic tumblers.

girlmama83

BubblyDevil said:

@henderson1026 I'm in therapy and things are slowly improving.

@Jill9288 I don't know. I know I was happy when I got the BFP, and I cried at the first ultrasounds, so I assume I did.

Notice how you said did, not do.

BubblyDevil

In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much.

I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL.

Anything else I need to explain?

BabyE143

LJUTCMommy said:

Here is my FFFC: I actually like McDonalds McCafe drinks better than Starbucks versions. However, if I'm going to be drinking it anywhere other than my car or house, I still get Starbucks because I'm ashamed.

Love me some frappes!

Leosmom13

BubblyDevil said:

In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much.

I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL.

Anything else I need to explain?

I feel like FFFC was maybe not the right place for you to come if you were looking for support with these issues.

henderson1026

BubblyDevil said:

In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much. I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL. Anything else I need to explain?

Wow.

You don't need to divulge anything here that you don't want to and you don't owe us anything.  But you keep dropping bombs on us and we react.  I'm not telling you to GTFO - but will you be staying around since you are giving up custody?

girlmama83

@bubblydevil

I truly hope that your H is in a better position to raise your son, as you have not made him sound like a great guy recently.

Soleil3

BubblyDevil said:

In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much. I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL. Anything else I need to explain?

From what you've told us about your husband, its heartbreaking that he is the lesser of the evils. I'm glad you are getting help.

CourtJack

 

BubblyDevil said:

In response to everyone, I will be handing over sole custody to H in the divorce. I am seeking help and my doctor and psychologist know how I have been feeling. Therapy and meds can onlydo so much. I tell you all how I feel because it ended badly when I told friends/family IRL. Anything else I need to explain?

I just really hope your son has the support he needs, and that you get well.

MommyAmes2

@BubblyDevil: I just can't help but feel terrible for your LO. I pray your H is a good parent. Makes me sad for the baby.

BubblyDevil

H is an AMAZING daddy. He's the kind of parent I wish I could be.

I'm giving him custody because of that, and he has a good stable job.