Unpopular opinions

SuzyQq02 · October 2013

golfergirl08 said:

ziggy903 said:

I have a new one!

We are in the USA. I understand, melting pot, all that good stuff. I don't have a problem with people who immigrate here and have thick accents. I really don't. Most of them are awesome, just like most people in general are awesome.
But I don't think those people have any right to get mad at me when I can't understand them and need them to repeat what they're saying 2-3 times. You're clearly still learning English and have to know that you have a thick accent and are hard to understand. It's not my fault that I can't understand you! I'm trying as hard as I can!

I totally agree with this one.

And also, maybe this is a UO, I don't think I should have to press any button on the phone for English. It should just be the default. Sorry, but even in San Diego, English is still the national language, as far as I know.

the us actually has no national/ official language.

ziggy903 · October 2013

njb750 said:

ziggy903 said:

I have a new one! We are in the USA. I understand, melting pot, all that good stuff. I don't have a problem with people who immigrate here and have thick accents. I really don't. Most of them are awesome, just like most people in general are awesome. But I don't think those people have any right to get mad at me when I can't understand them and need them to repeat what they're saying 2-3 times. You're clearly still learning English and have to know that you have a thick accent and are hard to understand. It's not my fault that I can't understand you! I'm trying as hard as I can!

A woman calls my work at least once a week that has such a thick Indian accent that I cannot understand a word she says! She gets so upset with me because I have to have her repeat things eleventy times. I told her very politely if it frustrates her that much just to email me. That pissed her off too. I can't win.

ETA: so I didn't sound bitchy.

It's so much worse on the phone! Like seriously.. Speak a little slower, and we will get along just fine. But get mad at me for trying to understand you, and I'm going to do what I can to overcharge you. Because you annoy me and I can.
(And Indians are the worst IMO... I don't know if their native language is spoken very quickly or something, but I don't have near as many issues with Hispanics or Asians.)

Kendra Beam · October 2013

ziggy903 said:

ziggy903 said:

I have a new one! We are in the USA. I understand, melting pot, all that good stuff. I don't have a problem with people who immigrate here and have thick accents. I really don't. Most of them are awesome, just like most people in general are awesome. But I don't think those people have any right to get mad at me when I can't understand them and need them to repeat what they're saying 2-3 times. You're clearly still learning English and have to know that you have a thick accent and are hard to understand. It's not my fault that I can't understand you! I'm trying as hard as I can!

A woman calls my work at least once a week that has such a thick Indian accent that I cannot understand a word she says! She gets so upset with me because I have to have her repeat things eleventy times. I told her very politely if it frustrates her that much just to email me. That pissed her off too. I can't win.

ETA: so I didn't sound bitchy.
It's so much worse on the phone! Like seriously.. Speak a little slower, and we will get along just fine. But get mad at me for trying to understand you, and I'm going to do what I can to overcharge you. Because you annoy me and I can. (And Indians are the worst IMO... I don't know if their native language is spoken very quickly or something, but I don't have near as many issues with Hispanics or Asians.)

You think the phone is bad?

I work in the drive-thru at a bank and the speaker is complete crap. I can barely understand you if you DO speak perfect English. But people with thick accents come through there and want to talk as fast as they can into the speaker and not get asked to repeat themselves.

Sorry but SLOW YO ASS DOWN.

RondackHiker · October 2013

Spin off of @ziggy903's UO:

I have hearing loss from an accident. I frequently have trouble understanding people if any of the following are true:
-There's loud background noise
-There's a certain pitch of quiet noise (like some fans/wind)
-I have a cold and am stuffy
-You speak quietly/quickly/with a lisp/indistinctly/with your mouth full
-You're not looking at me (I don't lip read but if you're turned away your voice is harder to hear)
-you've got any accent (that includes southern ones), especially one I'm not as familiar with
-if multiple things are true... Well, shit

In general, people get really pissy and rude and offended when you ask them to repeat themselves. Aaaaand then they speak more quickly. And louder, which often makes them less distinct.

So it's not just immigrants but any jerk who gets annoyed about repeating themselves.

No one wants to hear you speak again for the fun of it. Just do it.

Edit: and the press one for English crap? No.

Happy2beDanish · October 2013

Kendra Beam said:
My TRULY unpopular opinion is that I hate the abbreviations used on this board. Namely DH, DD, and DS. I get that you're saving time, but you couldn't be saving much unless you're just extremely slow at typing, and it's just an irritant to me. But I am clearly in the minority since EVERYONE on this website uses them besides me! lol

Also I don't think Ryan Gosling is very attractive. I like him in "The Notebook" but he has annoyed me in a lot of his other movies ("Drive" to be specific).

Kendra, I agree with you about Ryan Gosling! I am so glad he turned down the role of Christian Grey. When I picture Christian Grey in my head he looks nothing like Ryan Gosling, he's much more attractive!!

Happy2beDanish · October 2013

Edit: Double Post

Kendra Beam · October 2013

car seat said:

I'm just going to put it out there that I've been an expat in a country where I didn't speak much of the language. I picked up more as I went along, and I was awesome at ordering beer. I even learned how to read and write, which was no small feat.
But I was never going to be terribly fluent in that language. I didn't expect people to bend over backwards for me, because it wasn't anyone else's fault or responsibility. But I can empathize with the frustration when people can't understand you. It's hard. I imagine it gets harder and harder as the years tick by, because for older people it can be extremely difficult to adapt to a more clear accent. Language is so engrained, and becomes more so as you age.
So I agree that it's crappy for people to get upset with people who can't understand them, but I also try to keep in mind how hard it must be for that person.

I see your point, but it's one thing to be frustrated, and another thing to be rude and belligerent and act like the person you're talking to is an idiot.

OutOfStep81 · October 2013

SuzyQq02 said:

ziggy903 said:

I have a new one! We are in the USA. I understand, melting pot, all that good stuff. I don't have a problem with people who immigrate here and have thick accents. I really don't. Most of them are awesome, just like most people in general are awesome. But I don't think those people have any right to get mad at me when I can't understand them and need them to repeat what they're saying 2-3 times. You're clearly still learning English and have to know that you have a thick accent and are hard to understand. It's not my fault that I can't understand you! I'm trying as hard as I can!
I totally agree with this one.

And also, maybe this is a UO, I don't think I should have to press any button on the phone for English. It should just be the default. Sorry, but even in San Diego, English is still the national language, as far as I know.
the us actually has no national/ official language.

This fascinates me. I always assumed we did... Anyways, I looked it up and it looks like most of the states have choosen English as their official language, some haven't choosen anything though. Very interesting.

Is English the internation language? I thought it was french at one time, but can't seem to find a definitive answer...

:-??

Kendra Beam · October 2013

inge89 said:

My TRULY unpopular opinion is that I hate the abbreviations used on this board. Namely DH, DD, and DS. I get that you're saving time, but you couldn't be saving much unless you're just extremely slow at typing, and it's just an irritant to me. But I am clearly in the minority since EVERYONE on this website uses them besides me! lol

Also I don't think Ryan Gosling is very attractive. I like him in "The Notebook" but he has annoyed me in a lot of his other movies ("Drive" to be specific).
Kendra, I agree with you about Ryan Gosling! I am so glad he turned down the role of Christian Grey. When I picture Christian Grey in my head he looks nothing like Ryan Gosling, he's much more attractive!!

You know I have never read 50 Shades of Gray, and I only barely know its basic premise/storyline, and even I can't picture him as Christian Grey, lol.

notreal2 · October 2013

Another UO is, apparently I am the only person who would be fine with a sister wife. Another woman banging my husband would be a small price to pay if I didn't have to eat his cooking or mine ever again.

Kendra Beam · October 2013

car seat said:

Kendra Beam said:

car seat said:

I'm just going to put it out there that I've been an expat in a country where I didn't speak much of the language. I picked up more as I went along, and I was awesome at ordering beer. I even learned how to read and write, which was no small feat.
But I was never going to be terribly fluent in that language. I didn't expect people to bend over backwards for me, because it wasn't anyone else's fault or responsibility. But I can empathize with the frustration when people can't understand you. It's hard. I imagine it gets harder and harder as the years tick by, because for older people it can be extremely difficult to adapt to a more clear accent. Language is so engrained, and becomes more so as you age.
So I agree that it's crappy for people to get upset with people who can't understand them, but I also try to keep in mind how hard it must be for that person.

I see your point, but it's one thing to be frustrated, and another thing to be rude and belligerent and act like the person you're talking to is an idiot.

Obviously. But I could see how frustration over years could eventually lead to people feeling rude. I'm not saying that it's right, but I have found over the years that the way I speak back to people who are struggling to be understood can make a big difference. Not always. Sometimes people are just going to be angry at the situation.

Yeah. I agree it's usually worse when they are older and have been in the USA for some time, so they just assume that they are easily understood after however many years they've been here. Then they aren't. It's probably upsetting but still not my fault! If I don't understand you, I just don't.

OutOfStep81 · October 2013

car seat said:

OutOfStep81 said:

SuzyQq02 said:

ziggy903 said:

I have a new one! We are in the USA. I understand, melting pot, all that good stuff. I don't have a problem with people who immigrate here and have thick accents. I really don't. Most of them are awesome, just like most people in general are awesome. But I don't think those people have any right to get mad at me when I can't understand them and need them to repeat what they're saying 2-3 times. You're clearly still learning English and have to know that you have a thick accent and are hard to understand. It's not my fault that I can't understand you! I'm trying as hard as I can!
I totally agree with this one.

And also, maybe this is a UO, I don't think I should have to press any button on the phone for English. It should just be the default. Sorry, but even in San Diego, English is still the national language, as far as I know.
the us actually has no national/ official language.

This fascinates me. I always assumed we did... Anyways, I looked it up and it looks like most of the states have choosen English as their official language, some haven't choosen anything though. Very interesting.

Is English the internation language? I thought it was french at one time, but can't seem to find a definitive answer...
:-??
It's been a few years since I've looked into this, but at that point French was still the most widely spoken language (and I *think* the definition then was that it's an official language in the most number of countries). I believe Mandarin is quickly becoming the language spoken by the most people, but English is found in almost every country in one way or another. I've rarely had trouble getting by in a place where I don't speak the national language because it's easy to find someone who speaks English, most of the time.

This is what I've heard/read about other countries as well... But that also could be due to the number of americans that travel (either for business or pleasure) all over.

I just remember when I was taking French in HS and college that it was referred to as the "international language". Anywho... Languages fascinate me. I would like to have been able to travel more when I was younger and actually live different places so I could have tried to learn that way.

ziggy903 · October 2013

megash113 said:

ziggy903 said:

It's so much worse on the phone! Like seriously.. Speak a little slower, and we will get along just fine. But get mad at me for trying to understand you, and I'm going to do what I can to overcharge you. Because you annoy me and I can.
(And Indians are the worst IMO... I don't know if their native language is spoken very quickly or something, but I don't have near as many issues with Hispanics or Asians.)

I agree with your point - if someone is having a hard time understanding me on the phone, I try to speak slower and enunciate better. The bolded part made me cringe for wording, though...

I really didn't mean it that way, and I'm sorry it came out that way... Just, in my experience, the Indian accent is harder to understand than most others. Indian people are (usually) very nice and great!
(I say usually because.. Well that's how I'd say it about anyone. Most people are nice and great, not all of them!)

notreal2 · October 2013

car seat said:

It's been a few years since I've looked into this, but at that point French was still the most widely spoken language (and I *think* the definition then was that it's an official language in the most number of countries). I believe Mandarin is quickly becoming the language spoken by the most people, but English is found in almost every country in one way or another. I've rarely had trouble getting by in a place where I don't speak the national language because it's easy to find someone who speaks English, most of the time.

When I was much younger, I travelled to Spain. The workers in the touristy areas would wear lapel pins with the flag of the nation whose languages they spoke. For instance, if they spoke spanish and french, they would have a flag of Spain and France on their lapel. I went a whole week, hobbling around with my poor spanish and german, but there were no US flags so I walked around thinking there was no one around who spoke english. It hit me suddenly that they spoke english in Great Britain. In my defense, there was no drinking age, wine was cheap, and I was probably drunk most of the time.

ziggy903 · October 2013

HashtagRainbow said:

megash113 said:

ziggy903 said:

megash113 said:

ziggy903 said:

It's so much worse on the phone! Like seriously.. Speak a little slower, and we will get along just fine. But get mad at me for trying to understand you, and I'm going to do what I can to overcharge you. Because you annoy me and I can.
(And Indians are the worst IMO... I don't know if their native language is spoken very quickly or something, but I don't have near as many issues with Hispanics or Asians.)

I agree with your point - if someone is having a hard time understanding me on the phone, I try to speak slower and enunciate better. The bolded part made me cringe for wording, though...
I really didn't mean it that way, and I'm sorry it came out that way... Just, in my experience, the Indian accent is harder to understand than most others. Indian people are (usually) very nice and great!
(I say usually because.. Well that's how I'd say it about anyone. Most people are nice and great, not all of them!)

So then maybe "Indian accents are the hardest" instead of "Indians are the worst"? Just a thought.

Cosign, says the Indian girl.

I know, I know, that's what I meant but it came out wrong. I wrote too fast and didn't think enough. Will bumblebees make you like me again?

ziggy903 · October 2013

DreamingBabies said:

ziggy903 said:

I really didn't mean it that way, and I'm sorry it came out that way... Just, in my experience, the Indian accent is harder to understand than most others. Indian people are (usually) very nice and great!
(I say usually because.. Well that's how I'd say it about anyone. Most people are nice and great, not all of them!)
I think that part of the reason the accent can be hard to understand stems from where they learned to speak English. If they learned the Kings English, you are, in essence, listening to two accents at once.

Edit: to shorten quote tree

Interesting! I learned something new today!

1ofme4ofthem · October 2013

I hate when a stranger calls me sweetie.

Mazingmommyof6 · October 2013

I have another one....

Spin off from the Sister Wives post...

I think I could be in a poligimist relationship. My ex husband cheated on me for 10 years and I didn't know. What he did with her was not as bad as the fact that he lied all that time. I know, I'm weird.

Edit spelling

abern8 · October 2013

A really UO: I hate mac & cheese. I can't even stand the smell, ever since I was little. It grosses me out.

Mazingmommyof6 · October 2013

abern8 said:
A really UO: I hate mac & cheese. I can't even stand the smell, ever since I was little. It grosses me out.

All kinds or just boxed?

ziggy903 · October 2013

HashtagRainbow said:

ziggy903 said:

HashtagRainbow said:

megash113 said:

ziggy903 said:

megash113 said:

ziggy903 said:

It's so much worse on the phone! Like seriously.. Speak a little slower, and we will get along just fine. But get mad at me for trying to understand you, and I'm going to do what I can to overcharge you. Because you annoy me and I can.
(And Indians are the worst IMO... I don't know if their native language is spoken very quickly or something, but I don't have near as many issues with Hispanics or Asians.)

I agree with your point - if someone is having a hard time understanding me on the phone, I try to speak slower and enunciate better. The bolded part made me cringe for wording, though...
I really didn't mean it that way, and I'm sorry it came out that way... Just, in my experience, the Indian accent is harder to understand than most others. Indian people are (usually) very nice and great!
(I say usually because.. Well that's how I'd say it about anyone. Most people are nice and great, not all of them!)

So then maybe "Indian accents are the hardest" instead of "Indians are the worst"? Just a thought.
Cosign, says the Indian girl.

I know, I know, that's what I meant but it came out wrong. I wrote too fast and didn't think enough. Will bumblebees make you like me again?

@ziggy903 I'm not putting out tonight. [-X

@hashtagrainbow a fitting punishment, but the worst ever

kt_arr · October 2013

megash113 said:

ChiaWombat said:

megash113 said:

Avswolf said:

On the subject if strollers, I think strollers for dogs are the most ridiculous thing I have ever seen. It's a dog.....it's fine walking next to you. WTF?

My dad has a stroller for his cat so it can hang out outside with him. It's HILARIOUS.

Does the cat actually stay in there?

It's like netted? So the cat can't get out. The cat LOVES it. Every evening before dinner, my parents go outside to drink wine on their patio with the cat. I think it's about time they have grandchildren, because they've gotten weird since their kids moved out...

I'm dying. This is hilarious. Does the cat just sit there, hanging out and watching them?

kt_arr · October 2013

megash113 said:

kt_arr said:

megash113 said:

(snipped)

It's like netted? So the cat can't get out. The cat LOVES it. Every evening before dinner, my parents go outside to drink wine on their patio with the cat. I think it's about time they have grandchildren, because they've gotten weird since their kids moved out...

I'm dying. This is hilarious. Does the cat just sit there, hanging out and watching them?

He lies in the sun and meows at birds and tries to get my dad to play with him through the netting. Which he does.

XD I can't figure out which is better; the fact that your dad enjoys it so much or that the cat humors him. This is so awesome.

micaelasmakeup · October 2013

Do I dare read all 8 pages of this? I need top ten'er advice?

tenfour · October 2013

ziggy903 said:

DreamingBabies said:

tenfour said:

Oh I also hate gifs because they make me dizzy and it makes it more obvious that I'm goofing off at work, I think I said that one before though. Can't remember! I also give physical gifts at weddings because I love seeing big giant gift tables filled with gifts. And it feels weird to me to just hand a person my age a check for $200. I mean I do it sometimes when they really don't want gifts I just enjoy giving gifts more than cash. It might be a pain to carry the gifts home but I mean you're getting a gift, off your registry no less, so to complain or not have aplenty cart gifts home would be unfortunate.

...until they don't all fit in your car. and your new husband, who would like to have sex with you for the first time ever, can't because he needs to bring that stuff inside.
give a gift at the shower, no problem. have something sent to their house, fine. but a gift at the wedding is rude and inconsiderate to the couple.
You could have had someone else take the gifts after the wedging for you. Saying it's "rude and inconsiderate" sounds ridiculous and ungracious.

not ungracious, but clearly by your post you were only thinking of YOU (i like to see the gift table piled up, i feel weird giving a card with a check, i enjoy giving gifts more than cash) and not the couple.
how about thinking about the recipient of the gift?

maybe they did a registry but would prefer cash? maybe they're leaving for their honeymoon right after the wedding? maybe they're thinking about their friends and not themselves, unlike you, and don't want to burden them with their gifts?

yes- i could have had my brother or parents or someone else take our gifts home for the night. but that seemed rude to me, since i'm already asking so much of them that day and their duties as parents of the bride or groomsman, etc. stops at some point. i wanted them to go on with their lives after the wedding, not be concerned about my stuff and when they were going to be able to give it back to me.

ETA: if it's truly a cultural thing, that's different. but giving a gift at the wedding just because you like to see the gift table full? think about someone other than yourself for just a minute.

i just want to clarify - but my typo should have said "to not have A PLAN TO carry gifts home is unfortnate". i mean people shoudl expect gifts at weddings, right? When you got married did you really judge if you got gifts instead of cash? i was happy to get anything.

cbear47 · October 2013

golfergirl08 said:

car seat said:

golfergirl08 said:

I was obviously wrong that the US had an official language (when I said as far as I know,clearly that wasn't too far), but I looked it up, and California's official language is English. So at least I wasn't completely wrong about the official language of a place I live. LOL. So my point stands, at least here in Cal.

It's not like I am opposed to other languages, I just think English should be the default.

I am not sure about the international language.

So should these companies you're calling just not offer service in other languages?

I didn't say that at all. There should be as many options for languages as possible. I see your point though. I guess it would have to be clear that English is the default before they go into "press 2 for Spanish, etc."

They give you the option for the most commonly spoken language first so you can skip the rest of the intro... You probably don't have the time (or patience) to listen to all the options in all the other languages they offer services in.

RondackHiker · October 2013

car seat said:

golfergirl08 said:

I was obviously wrong that the US had an official language (when I said as far as I know,clearly that wasn't too far), but I looked it up, and California's official language is English. So at least I wasn't completely wrong about the official language of a place I live. LOL. So my point stands, at least here in Cal.

It's not like I am opposed to other languages, I just think English should be the default.

I am not sure about the international language.

So should these companies you're calling just not offer service in other languages?

That thing that answers the phones is a really simple computer program that can be controlled by pushing buttons on a phone.

It's a computer. It needs you to make a choice for it. You need to tell it which version of the "program" to launch... Spanish or English. "Smarter" programs cost more and are more faulty and harder to repair . So they go with the dumb one that needs to be told what to do at all times... Hence there is no default.

They're not picking on English speakers by making them push a button. It's the way the program works.

iwubrory · October 2013

golfergirl08 said:

And also, maybe this is a UO, I don't think I should have to press any button on the phone for English. It should just be the default. Sorry, but even in San Diego, English is still the national language, as far as I know.

@golfergirl08 I

you! That is definitely not a UO in my family!

Winnieella · October 2013

I am taking a break from cleaning to read all of this...I need someone to help me clean. Any one want to come over and help ? I have ice cream.

iwubrory · October 2013

RondackHiker said:

That thing that answers the phones is a really simple computer program that can be controlled by pushing buttons on a phone. It's a computer. It needs you to make a choice for it. You need to tell it which version of the "program" to launch... Spanish or English. "Smarter" programs cost more and are more faulty and harder to repair . So they go with the dumb one that needs to be told what to do at all times... Hence there is no default. They're not picking on English speakers by making them push a button. It's the way the program works.

Mind blown! Never thought about that before.

RondackHiker · October 2013

Oh and every time my friend hears people complain about pressing one for Spanish (which is just a more--but not quite--politically correct way of saying "learn English, you're in America") she asks when they're going to learn her language, since her people were here first.

She's Native American.

ziggy903 · October 2013

RondackHiker said:
Oh and every time my friend hears people complain about pressing one for Spanish (which is just a more--but not quite--politically correct way of saying "learn English, you're in America") she asks when they're going to learn her language, since her people were here first.

She's Native American.

She seems feisty. I like her.

RondackHiker · October 2013

ziggy903 said:

RondackHiker said:
Oh and every time my friend hears people complain about pressing one for Spanish (which is just a more--but not quite--politically correct way of saying "learn English, you're in America") she asks when they're going to learn her language, since her people were here first.

She's Native American.
She seems feisty. I like her.

She's the best. You should hear her when someone calls her Pocahantas.

Winnieella · October 2013

I don't like Mariah Carry. When her songs come on I switch the station.

iwubrory · October 2013

TyrannosaurusLex said:

RondackHiker said:

That thing that answers the phones is a really simple computer program that can be controlled by pushing buttons on a phone. It's a computer. It needs you to make a choice for it. You need to tell it which version of the "program" to launch... Spanish or English. "Smarter" programs cost more and are more faulty and harder to repair . So they go with the dumb one that needs to be told what to do at all times... Hence there is no default. They're not picking on English speakers by making them push a button. It's the way the program works.

Mind blown! Never thought about that before.
Well now I'm curious to know what you did think was happening?

I just didn't think about it.

Giraffealaff · October 2013

TyrannosaurusLex said:

I hate it when people refer to their baby by name non-stop before it's born. In the right context it's sweet but when it's used too much: "Mommy and Joey went grocery shopping and Joey bounced on Mommy's bladder the whole time - ouch!" No. Stop.

I'm probably more guilty of this then I'd like to admit. Now that we have chosen his name, I don't feel right referring to him as "LO" or anything besides, "my son" or "Kiernan". Granted I wouldn't use it in the context of your above sentence, afterall, I assume that if I go somewhere, the logical thought would be that he's with me too, lol.

Giraffealaff · October 2013

Beachbumm2214 said:

OK, I have another. My hot chocolate is waking me up. It bothers me when parents call their kids "little monsters" or "holy terrors," things like that. I have a cousin who says stuff like this all the time around her boys. I'm fairly sure the reason they don't behave is because she's convinced them that they are, in fact, little monsters. Self-fulfilling prophecies. (And this isn't a FTM "I would never," by the way. It's an observation my mom shared years ago that I've found to be true.)
Lol H's aunt called him and his bro devil children when they were growing up. She's such an evil wench and he is purposely always a dick to her now bc she called them that forever ago. Boys will be boys. ETA: I NEED hot chocolate now!

This behavior is atrocious. It severely damaged my brothers relationship with my mother, and has caused a huge amount of issues in my family.

jenniejuniper1 · October 2013

Ugh, swimming. I hate swimming. Why does anyone want to put up with a heavy, wet, slimey old swimsuit that feels like a friggin' diaper. I don't care how hot it is, I hate swimming, especially in pools (as opposed to the ocean, river etc)

Nasty chemicals, wet drippy hair thats going to slowly dry into a pool-chemical rat's nest, goosebumps after, wet diaper butt, clammy boobs, a bunch of sudden towels and stuff to clean up after.. Not to mention the stupid cost of buying, filling, maintaining, and then later draining a pool so you can paddle from one end to the other and then back again. And again. And again. Wow, it's really blue in here! And there's a dead frog and a band aid at the bottom, who wants to go get em? Oh, and your kid just took a dump over in he shallow end there? Ha, this is fun!!

SWIMMING. IT'S AN EXHAUSTING WASTE OF TIME.

iwubrory · October 2013

Scromlette said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

I hate it when people refer to their baby by name non-stop before it's born. In the right context it's sweet but when it's used too much: "Mommy and Joey went grocery shopping and Joey bounced on Mommy's bladder the whole time - ouch!" No. Stop.

I'm probably more guilty of this then I'd like to admit. Now that we have chosen his name, I don't feel right referring to him as "LO" or anything besides, "my son" or "Kiernan". Granted I wouldn't use it in the context of your above sentence, afterall, I assume that if I go somewhere, the logical thought would be that he's with me too, lol.

You're actually who I thought of when I read T-Lex's post. I use LO's name to DH, family, and some close friends. I don't use her name here though. I don't think that's weird. It's how they all refer to her as well. It was the same way once I found out DS was a boy. On TB I usually just say LO.
ETA: Hmm, my sentences weren't in the correct order. I don't think it's weird to use LO's name with DH and family. I do think it's weird to use the name on TB.

kt_arr · October 2013

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Scromlette said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

I hate it when people refer to their baby by name non-stop before it's born. In the right context it's sweet but when it's used too much: "Mommy and Joey went grocery shopping and Joey bounced on Mommy's bladder the whole time - ouch!" No. Stop.

I'm probably more guilty of this then I'd like to admit. Now that we have chosen his name, I don't feel right referring to him as "LO" or anything besides, "my son" or "Kiernan". Granted I wouldn't use it in the context of your above sentence, afterall, I assume that if I go somewhere, the logical thought would be that he's with me too, lol.

But but but...saying something like "I felt Keirnan moving today" is just...weird, no? Maybe between you and your SO, okay, but to the rest of us, we don't know who you're talking about anymore. It's just not common practice to refer to a baby by name to the public until it's born. You call it the baby, our baby, the little one.... even just he or him. Keirnan makes me think you're talking about your five year old and I'm wondering why you're telling me he's kicking you.

I agree with TLex. I think it's so weird, my mom keeps using the name DH and I picked out all the time. It's sweet, but a little weird because I'm still only using she/her pronouns and "baby".

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