Sometimes I think that life would be easier in the 1950's because there seemed to be less obligation for women beside, maintaining a household and taking care of the kids. I know that's stupid to think, but I'm pretty sure it stems from a recent desire I am having to be a SAHM, which isn't going to happen.
ETA: Another UO, You bitches be snarky :P
“Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person.” — The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
My UO, I hate Daylight Saving time and can't wait until standard time resumes in a month.
I think if you have a pumpkin colored vehicle, you should be legally obligated to decorate it like a pumpkin once a year or be required to repaint it a boring color like silver.
Cold pizza is what they will serve for breakfast in hell.
Sometimes I think that life would be easier in the 1950's because there seemed to be less obligation for women beside, maintaining a household and taking care of the kids. I know that's stupid to think, but I'm pretty sure it stems from a recent desire I am having to be a SAHM, which isn't going to happen.
ETA: Another UO, You bitches be snarky :P
Except for the whole being powerless to leave an abusive marriage, even more rampant sexism than now, and the fact that staying home was really the only option, not the only obligation.
I think no one should ever have to wake up before 8am. And morning people are the devil.
hey man, we're nice and get shit done for you!
Lol I'm sure that's true.. I have to get to work extra early (7am) 2 days a week. And those 2 days a week I STILL get MS. That's where most of my hatred for morning stems from.
ehh, that's understandable. how about you sleep until 8 and i'll make us something for breakfast?
RondackHiker Probably the reason why it's a UO and not a PO.
Yeah... But if you wanted you could stay home now. It just seems strange to want to return to a time when there were less choices because you want to make a choice many woman make now.
Neither of these are probably that unpopular, but they both super annoy me. In list form:
1.) Do not update your facebook status when you are in labor. I get there is often a lot of down time during labor before stuff gets crazy or even that painful. However, just put the technology down and live in the moment. Namely it weirds me out.
DD was overdue and people were HOUNDING me on FB about when I was going to have that baby already. I checked in when I was about 15 hours into it and there was yet another post. 'I haven't seen you online today, I bet you're having a baby!'
I updated my status to say, 'I promise I'll let you all know when there's something to tell.'
Come on, people. Let me tell you when something's up instead of stalking FB like a creeper.
That's freaking creepy.
I thought most people would rather not think about their friend's cervix.
Neither of these are probably that unpopular, but they both super annoy me. In list form:
1.) Do not update your facebook status when you are in labor. I get there is often a lot of down time during labor before stuff gets crazy or even that painful. However, just put the technology down and live in the moment. Namely it weirds me out.
DD was overdue and people were HOUNDING me on FB about when I was going to have that baby already. I checked in when I was about 15 hours into it and there was yet another post. 'I haven't seen you online today, I bet you're having a baby!'
I updated my status to say, 'I promise I'll let you all know when there's something to tell.'
Come on, people. Let me tell you when something's up instead of stalking FB like a creeper.
That's freaking creepy.
I thought most people would rather not think about their friend's cervix.
seriously. i like the people that just put up a photo AFTER. i don't care when you go to the hospital. i don't care about anything else. and if i could get out of telling my family anything until after baby is already born, i would.
It really annoys me when moms make it their mission that their baby reach milestones fast. Like you're bragging that your 4 month old is eating all kinds of solid foods or six month old just LOVES ice cream, and they are getting SO big. Good job mom!!
Or wow, your 8 month old is walking already?? He/She is going to grow up to be SUCH a good walker. They'll be the best walker in their class. That's awesome!
(All of this was the same mom)
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seriously. i like the people that just put up a photo AFTER. i don't care when you go to the hospital. i don't care about anything else. and if i could get out of telling my family anything until after baby is already born, i would.
Yup. We didn't want to tell anyone we were there, because we had no idea how long it would take. Good thing, it was 30 hours. We went in Friday night and I delivered early Sunday.
Before it was even late enough to call people we had time to settle in with her, go to the breastfeeding clinic, and snap a few pics. Then we made calls to the important people, and when that was done we posted an update on FB. There was no prior mention at all on FB that I had even gone in to labour. Sorry guys. I don't need you picturing me pushing a human out of my vag while it's happening.
remind me later, to add "don't put ANYTHING on fb until well after i do" on my list of things to do/not do for my family.
honestly, it's not my family i'm worried about, it's MIL.
I didn't mind raisins in my trick or treat bag as a child.
There is a movement in my county to get people to give out pencils, stickers, small junky things instead of candy. I'm kind of maybe considering it.
Is this movement started by the egg farmers or the toilet paper manufacturers? (I assume hoodlums still throw this things at houses and haven't moved on to other things.)
@laurlaurlaur - I'm a stickler for gift etiquette, too!! At my wedding, I pissed a lot of people off when I refused to put our registry info on any of the invite stuff. I get that "that's what's done these days," but to me it just seemed grabby and selfish.
My UO is that I don't particularly like Gifs. I usually scroll right past them because they annoy me.
@laurlaurlaur - I'm a stickler for gift etiquette, too!! At my wedding, I pissed a lot of people off when I refused to put our registry info on any of the invite stuff. I get that "that's what's done these days," but to me it just seemed grabby and selfish.
My UO is that I don't particularly like Gifs. I usually scroll right past them because they annoy me.
i think it's one thing to put registry info in the wedding invite(tacky) but it's okay in the shower invite. just something small though, the last one i received was in good taste IMO because it was just at the very bottom "Mandi is registered at Buy Buy Baby" in small print.
I hate when people use DH, especially when they are complaining about something shitty their H has done. He's not very "dear" if he's acting like an ass.
Ditto on this. Bonus points if they were slipper socks. Regular socks were fine too because then we had races sliding on the hardwoods.
This makes me think of The Ref. I looked and there is not gif for it. Sad. Christine Baranski saying, "Slipper socks, MEDIUM." is one of the highlights of my holiday season.
S/O that, it drives me crazy in general when people post on Facebook pages after babies are born -- "WELL?" "Pictures???" etc. This has been happening all week to friends of mine who had a baby a week ago Tuesday. (Neither parent has posted to Facebook since before the birth.) I happen to know the barest details -- the baby was in NICU at least until yesterday. I don't know if he's home yet. I sent a text to my friend (the dad) to say we're thinking of them and hoping all is well, but I didn't fish for info, and I'm not going to spam their Facebook pages. If people haven't shared news like that, there's a reason, whether it's just wanting privacy for privacy's sake, or because they're dealing with a challenge. Either way, MYOB. I also feel this way about people who fish for pregnancy announcements. "MYOB" is a big thing with me.
Exactly. If I haven't called you or shown you pictures, there is a reason. I think FB makes people who are just acquaintances think they are close friends.
OK, I have another. My hot chocolate is waking me up.
It bothers me when parents call their kids "little monsters" or "holy terrors," things like that. I have a cousin who says stuff like this all the time around her boys. I'm fairly sure the reason they don't behave is because she's convinced them that they are, in fact, little monsters. Self-fulfilling prophecies. (And this isn't a FTM "I would never," by the way. It's an observation my mom shared years ago that I've found to be true.)
OMG yes. I'm not a FTM so I can say I would never, hahaha. But seriously, don't talk shitty about your kids in front of them. It's a. effing rude (imagine if it was...oh, your MIL talking about how she didn't like your behavior at dinner last night as you're standing next to her), and b. no wonder kids think they are wild - that's what you keep telling them they are.
Last one. I judge any woman who says she is not a feminist, and double judge one who treats the word like it is the foulest of profanity. And triple judge someone who is the parent of a daughter who feels that way.
I can't stand it when someone calls their SO (not married) their husband or wife. NO you have not made that commitment . I am not saying they are not comitted to each other. I just stood in front of family and friends and promised to love and cherish this person forever. We took that step in our relationship, you have not yet. I find it to be a slap in the face. I know it doesn't take away from my marriage, but it pisses me off.
@laurlaurlaur - I'm a stickler for gift etiquette, too!! At my wedding, I pissed a lot of people off when I refused to put our registry info on any of the invite stuff. I get that "that's what's done these days," but to me it just seemed grabby and selfish.
My UO is that I don't particularly like Gifs. I usually scroll right past them because they annoy me.
i think it's one thing to put registry info in the wedding invite(tacky) but it's okay in the shower invite. just something small though, the last one i received was in good taste IMO because it was just at the very bottom "Mandi is registered at Buy Buy Baby" in small print.
I would never give a physical gift for a wedding. It's gifts for showers and cash in a card at the wedding.
That's probably a very inoffensive way to put registry info to the guests. I remember BRU used to give out these little cards with registry information that you were supposed to stick in the envelope. Those irked me.
we didn't get many physical gifts(even for the shower, most people just gave us money... i don't get it either) but we did get some at the wedding, and it was annoying to my brother to have to load up our car with them and then to my husband to have to take them out of the car afterwards.
i do what you do- gift at the shower, card with money at the wedding. it's less hassle for everyone.
I can't stand it when someone calls their SO (not married) their husband or wife. NO you have not made that commitment . I am not saying they are not comitted to each other. I just stood in front of family and friends and promised to love and cherish this person forever. We took that step in our relationship, you have not yet. I find it to be a slap in the face. I know it doesn't take away from my marriage, but it pisses me off.
What about same-sex couples who can't legally get married? (Devil's advocate here )
I totally thought about that as I was posting too. Lol I am all for same sex marriage. I think they have their own set of rules because of the way that situation is treated. If their husband or wife is a different person every other month then no they don't get to say it. Lol and it should be the same for people who abuse the i do.
I can't stand it when someone calls their SO (not married) their husband or wife. NO you have not made that commitment . I am not saying they are not comitted to each other. I just stood in front of family and friends and promised to love and cherish this person forever. We took that step in our relationship, you have not yet. I find it to be a slap in the face. I know it doesn't take away from my marriage, but it pisses me off.
What about same-sex couples who can't legally get married? (Devil's advocate here )
Or people who are common law married? Or people who don't believe the government should have a say in marriage and who wed (sans license) in a church or who exchange vows on their own? Or people who do the courthouse route with no one along?
My UO: Very little kids + technology = not the devil. Not even close.
My kid could count to 10 (and would recognize numbers), knew her ABCs and had a very broad vocabulary by 1 1/2.
By 2 1/2 she is starting to learn to read. Part of it is genetics, part is working with her, but I think the bigger part is that I loaded up an old iPhone with learning games and let her go nuts.
I'm with you. We are just getting into apps, any you care to recommend??
Oh I also hate gifs because they make me dizzy and it makes it more obvious that I'm goofing off at work, I think I said that one before though. Can't remember!
I also give physical gifts at weddings because I love seeing big giant gift tables filled with gifts. And it feels weird to me to just hand a person my age a check for $200. I mean I do it sometimes when they really don't want gifts I just enjoy giving gifts more than cash. It might be a pain to carry the gifts home but I mean you're getting a gift, off your registry no less, so to complain or not have aplenty cart gifts home would be unfortunate.
Oh I also hate gifs because they make me dizzy and it makes it more obvious that I'm goofing off at work, I think I said that one before though. Can't remember!
I also give physical gifts at weddings because I love seeing big giant gift tables filled with gifts. And it feels weird to me to just hand a person my age a check for $200. I mean I do it sometimes when they really don't want gifts I just enjoy giving gifts more than cash. It might be a pain to carry the gifts home but I mean you're getting a gift, off your registry no less, so to complain or not have aplenty cart gifts home would be unfortunate.
...until they don't all fit in your car. and your new husband, who would like to have sex with you for the first time ever, can't because he needs to bring that stuff inside.
give a gift at the shower, no problem. have something sent to their house, fine. but a gift at the wedding is rude and inconsiderate to the couple.
I can't stand it when someone calls their SO (not married) their husband or wife. NO you have not made that commitment . I am not saying they are not comitted to each other. I just stood in front of family and friends and promised to love and cherish this person forever. We took that step in our relationship, you have not yet. I find it to be a slap in the face. I know it doesn't take away from my marriage, but it pisses me off.
What about same-sex couples who can't legally get married? (Devil's advocate here )
Or people who are common law married? Or people who don't believe the government should have a say in marriage and who wed (sans license) in a church or who exchange vows on their own? Or people who do the courthouse route with no one along?
If you have made a commitment in front of your family or made it known that you are taking that step in your relationship with or without the state papers then so be it. I am not against love. It's people who are engaged or not to be married (by the state) that call each other husband/wife when not married. I don't think someone that doesn't need the papers but has already made that commitment in their own ritual or however they choose to go about it doesn't have the right.
This all makes so much more sence in my head!!
If you want to get married by the state standards and have that piece of paper wait until you are married to call them husband or wife.
Now my own opinion is pissing me off. I think I might be sounding more like an asshole then anything.
I can't stand it when someone calls their SO (not married) their husband or wife. NO you have not made that commitment . I am not saying they are not comitted to each other. I just stood in front of family and friends and promised to love and cherish this person forever. We took that step in our relationship, you have not yet. I find it to be a slap in the face. I know it doesn't take away from my marriage, but it pisses me off.
What about same-sex couples who can't legally get married? (Devil's advocate here )
Or people who are common law married? Or people who don't believe the government should have a say in marriage and who wed (sans license) in a church or who exchange vows on their own? Or people who do the courthouse route with no one along?
If you have made a commitment in front of your family or made it known that you are taking that step in your relationship with or without the state papers then so be it. I am not against love. It's people who are engaged or not to be married (by the state) that call each other husband/wife when not married. I don't think someone that doesn't need the papers but has already made that commitment in their own ritual or however they choose to go about it doesn't have the right.
This all makes so much more sence in my head!!
If you want to get married by the state standards and have that piece of paper wait until you are married to call them husband or wife.
Now my own opinion is pissing me off. I think I might be sounding more like an asshole then anything.
That last part of your statement is pretty accurate.
What someone calls their SO doesn't impact you at all. What someone calls their SO or the steps they've taken has nothing to do with how committed that couple is.
You just sound incredibly judgey about something that really has nothing to do with you. So someone says DH and they don't have a pretty piece of paper to back it up. Who cares? You don't get to judge how committed other couples are.
Oh I also hate gifs because they make me dizzy and it makes it more obvious that I'm goofing off at work, I think I said that one before though. Can't remember!
I also give physical gifts at weddings because I love seeing big giant gift tables filled with gifts. And it feels weird to me to just hand a person my age a check for $200. I mean I do it sometimes when they really don't want gifts I just enjoy giving gifts more than cash. It might be a pain to carry the gifts home but I mean you're getting a gift, off your registry no less, so to complain or not have aplenty cart gifts home would be unfortunate.
...until they don't all fit in your car. and your new husband, who would like to have sex with you for the first time ever, can't because he needs to bring that stuff inside.
give a gift at the shower, no problem. have something sent to their house, fine. but a gift at the wedding is rude and inconsiderate to the couple.
You could have had someone else take the gifts after the wedging for you. Saying it's "rude and inconsiderate" sounds ridiculous and ungracious.
not ungracious, but clearly by your post you were only thinking of YOU (i like to see the gift table piled up, i feel weird giving a card with a check, i enjoy giving gifts more than cash) and not the couple.
how about thinking about the recipient of the gift?
maybe they did a registry but would prefer cash? maybe they're leaving for their honeymoon right after the wedding? maybe they're thinking about their friends and not themselves, unlike you, and don't want to burden them with their gifts?
yes- i could have had my brother or parents or someone else take our gifts home for the night. but that seemed rude to me, since i'm already asking so much of them that day and their duties as parents of the bride or groomsman, etc. stops at some point. i wanted them to go on with their lives after the wedding, not be concerned about my stuff and when they were going to be able to give it back to me.
ETA: if it's truly a cultural thing, that's different. but giving a gift at the wedding just because you like to see the gift table full? think about someone other than yourself for just a minute.
Neither of these are probably that unpopular, but they both super annoy me. In list form:
1.) Do not update your facebook status when you are in labor. I get there is often a lot of down time during labor before stuff gets crazy or even that painful. However, just put the technology down and live in the moment. Namely it weirds me out.
DD was overdue and people were HOUNDING me on FB about when I was going to have that baby already. I checked in when I was about 15 hours into it and there was yet another post. 'I haven't seen you online today, I bet you're having a baby!'
I updated my status to say, 'I promise I'll let you all know when there's something to tell.'
Come on, people. Let me tell you when something's up instead of stalking FB like a creeper.
This is why I haven't been telling people the exact date I'm due. It's slipped a couple times but I just say beginning of February-everyone assumes its near valentines day not at the very beginning. DH's cousins got hounded daily on FB when they went overdue, and I'm not responsible for my actions if I start getting hounded haha.
I never said you have to have that paper to say your husband or wife.
I retract my post. It's not coming out right and I give up.
...but you did. you said that you made that commitment in front of your friends and family and that makes you a special snowflake who can look down upon those who have decided to take a different route in their lives.
go re-read your original post. you definitely said that if you're not legally husband and wife, you shouldn't refer to your SO as such.
Re: Unpopular opinions
I think many (not all) store bought Halloween costumes look really cheap and are ridiculously over priced.
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
This is not an opinion, this is fact.
My UO, I hate Daylight Saving time and can't wait until standard time resumes in a month.
I think if you have a pumpkin colored vehicle, you should be legally obligated to decorate it like a pumpkin once a year or be required to repaint it a boring color like silver.
Cold pizza is what they will serve for breakfast in hell.
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
DD was overdue and people were HOUNDING me on FB about when I was going to have that baby already. I checked in when I was about 15 hours into it and there was yet another post. 'I haven't seen you online today, I bet you're having a baby!'
I updated my status to say, 'I promise I'll let you all know when there's something to tell.'
Come on, people. Let me tell you when something's up instead of stalking FB like a creeper.
That's freaking creepy.I thought most people would rather not think about their friend's cervix.
TTC: 8/11 BFP: 5/13 EDD:2/2/14 Born 1/13/14
Exactly. If I haven't called you or shown you pictures, there is a reason. I think FB makes people who are just acquaintances think they are close friends.
Last one. I judge any woman who says she is not a feminist, and double judge one who treats the word like it is the foulest of profanity. And triple judge someone who is the parent of a daughter who feels that way.
I am all for same sex marriage. I think they have their own set of rules because of the way that situation is treated. If their husband or wife is a different person every other month then no they don't get to say it. Lol and it should be the same for people who abuse the i do.
I'm with you. We are just getting into apps, any you care to recommend??
This all makes so much more sence in my head!!
If you want to get married by the state standards and have that piece of paper wait until you are married to call them husband or wife.
Now my own opinion is pissing me off. I think I might be sounding more like an asshole then anything.
What someone calls their SO doesn't impact you at all. What someone calls their SO or the steps they've taken has nothing to do with how committed that couple is.
You just sound incredibly judgey about something that really has nothing to do with you. So someone says DH and they don't have a pretty piece of paper to back it up. Who cares? You don't get to judge how committed other couples are.
I retract my post. It's not coming out right and I give up.
Etiquette is too tame for us. We are obviously chicks who put out. Lets talk some sex in here bitches.
Sex where you could get caught is awesome, but kissing is gross.
Golly gee do I not want to work today.