Good morning ladies. I come to you from the first tri board in need of help. I got my BFP on Saturday. I'll be four weeks tomorrow.
My SO and I decided last march we wanted to start trying once summer came. In May we stoped using the pill.
Yesterday I told him the big news and he's not happy at all. He says he's not ready to be a dad, that he can't have a kid right now. He says all he can think about is how his life is over.
I feel like I'm going to die. We did this together! He participated in this!
I'm hoping that if any of you went through this, you can share with me how things are turning out. Thank you.
Re: SO is not happy.
I would say give him some time, he will come around. He just has to figure out all his emotions (which is not easy for most men in the first place). My husband literally almost passed out in our bathroom when we found out. He was silent for about two days before he came around. Now he's excited (we are due in 4 weeks). Give him time, stay positive, and don't nag him about it. Let him figure it out. He will come around.
Baby GIRL due 12/26
He is sounding very selfish right now. This isn't about him anymore, its about the three of you. He made the adult decision to try for a family, he cannot just up and say he isn't ready when it actually happens.
I hope a little time and some honest conversation between the two of you will help. Tell him how his reaction made you feel, tell him that you both entered into this and that he shouldn't be surprised that its happening. If need be seek some professional help if he refuses to accept what is happening.
Praying you have a H&H 9 months and praying your SO wakes up and realizes that he has to help you now and that this is not about him anymore.
This is probably none of my business but can I ask your ages? His reaction just sounds so immature and I am just curious how old he is. I know all men can be extremely immature no matter their age, I am just curious
Connor - 12/15/10 Abby - EDD 11/29/13
Sorry that was a bit long, just hoping your SO comes around...just wanted to share that my husband is baby crazy (has always wanted children) and he didn't show a lot of emotion till after the pregnancy.
Connor - 12/15/10 Abby - EDD 11/29/13