Circumcision???

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

Okay this is going to be a question/opinion post.
I have a gut feeling that I'm having a boy, I've started to do some research on Circumcision, I've read a few different times that they will have to put the baby under.. For all you second time moms with boys is this true?

And then for all of you ladies...
What are your thoughts on Circumcision? Pros and cons of Circumcision? If you have a boy will you be doing a Circumcision?

If this is to personal of a question, or if you feel offended.. I'm sorry.. I don't really know how touchy of a subject this is for moms. Once again as I've stated on my past posts I love hearing y'all's thoughts

MrsG325 · October 2013

Well- I'm an observant Jew so wed he a Bris. The baby wouldn't be put put and the mohel has everything done and bandages with in a minute. The baby does cry a bit and afterward there is special care for his little wee wee lol. But I've seen about a hundred done and they've all been seamless and quick. I don't know about getting it done in hospital. Friends of mine had it done and didn't mention baby being put out. But I'm not sure.

pdilly2b · October 2013

DH was given a local topical anesthetic. We had it done at the hospital by one of the OBs that has a relationship with my midwife office. I talked for a long while with him about the various methods for doing it and was confident in the method he was trained on. I know many others don't find the benefits compelling, but I do and my family is happy with our choice.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

kendramiroslaw said:
you really like to rile up a crowd, don't you? :P

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

seannasmommy16 said:

kendramiroslaw said:
you really like to rile up a crowd, don't you? :P

I don't mean too

Serenla · October 2013

Let me get my popcorn.

Sarahjess06 · October 2013

My son wasn't put under. However since getting him circ... I've done reaserch myself. I kick myself everyday for doing it. SO wants to circ the next, I do not.

If I find out its a boy it's going to be 20 weeks of arguing....

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

@kendramiroslaw
I just like other peoples thoughts rather then my own

christinanoelle · October 2013

seannasmommy16 said:

@kendramiroslaw I just like other peoples thoughts rather then my own

This topic has already been debated by A14 previously and that didn't go too well. That's why some of us are weary that this discussion is coming up again. But I hope you get some good information to help you make a decision. I would also do some research to help you make an informed decision.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

christinanoelle said:

seannasmommy16 said:

@kendramiroslaw
I just like other peoples thoughts rather then my own

This topic has already been debated by A14 previously and that didn't go too well. That's why some of us are weary that this discussion is coming up again. But I hope you get some good information to help you make a decision. I would also do some research to help you make an informed decision.
I'm sorry. I didn't realize this had Been discussed in the past.. My bad!! I've been reading online and I'm getting a lot Circumcision is bad don't do it kinda stuff.. So it's not really informing me but I guess I'll just wait till I find out what I'm having and ask my doc. Sorry ladies

GoldenGibson · October 2013

This has been discussed before but it's been a little while so understandable if you miss it.

DS is circ'd and he was not put under. I was not able to get out of bed to go with him but it was very fast.

If we have another boy we will circ again.

As far as the screaming during the procedure goes... some babies sleep through the whole thing and some cry. DS screamed bloody murder when he was hungry and I didn't get him latched fast enough. He also screamed bloody murder during diaper changes. Does that mean he was in pain? No. Newborns scream. A lot. The procedure is quick and they numb the area.

Lauraa00 · October 2013

Ooopsbaby14 said:
Having a girl so I don't have a dog in this fight. When we didn't know dh was 100% for circ even though we had seen one being done and he thought it was awful.

I tried to reconcile it in my own mind and came up with this. If my child was born with 6 fingers or toes, I wouldn't hesitate to have the extra removed even though it would fine to live with 6. I would have gone along with circ if dh wanted to do it for only cosmetic reasons.

I would agree with you in the case of additional digits being removed as that is generally outside the socially accepted standard of normal. But to suggest a penis with foreskin is "out of the norm" is really a stretch. I have a tough time with that logic.

I was curious about circumcision and the pros and cons and decided to ask my father who's a family doctor and has performed many. He said, generally babies are not anesthetized and there aren't really any benefits outside of religious or cosmetic reasons. Given the risk for infection and potential for permanent damage, I think I'd stay away from it.

padma55 · October 2013

I would recommend you watch a live (or online) circumcision if you can, research if they are necessary, and then make your decision based on fact and how you felt about watching the procedure.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

padma55 said:
I would recommend you watch a live (or online) circumcision if you can, research if they are necessary, and then make your decision based on fact and how you felt about watching the procedure.

I've watched 2 videos on YouTube...
There were pretty hard to watch, but I can't stand seeing my daughter get shots either so idk

padma55 · October 2013

The rate of circumcision has declined over the past 15 years, leaving circumcision to non-circumcision about 50/50. Any child uncircumsized won't be the odd man in the locker room, that's for sure.

https://www.cbsnews.com/8301-204_162-57599705/circumcision-rates-declining-especially-in-western-states/

https://healthland.time.com/2013/08/22/explaining-the-drop-in-circumcision-rates/

https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/08/22/u-s-circumcision-rates-are-declining/

GoldenGibson · October 2013

padma55 said:
I would recommend you watch a live (or online) circumcision if you can, research if they are necessary, and then make your decision based on fact and how you felt about watching the procedure.

I think can be argued that it is difficult to watch any medical procedure be performed. A c section for instance. Or having wisdom teeth removed. Most medical procedures are not pretty to watch. I agree that doing research and basing a decision on legitimate facts is the way to go, but what is watching the procedure going to do for you??

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

GoldenGibson said:

padma55 said:
I would recommend you watch a live (or online) circumcision if you can, research if they are necessary, and then make your decision based on fact and how you felt about watching the procedure.
I think can be argued that it is difficult to watch any medical procedure be performed. A c section for instance. Or having wisdom teeth removed. Most medical procedures are not pretty to watch. I agree that doing research and basing a decision on legitimate facts is the way to go, but what is watching the procedure going to do for you??

The only thing it's really doing is making me sad.. But I cry every time my daughter gets her shots and that has to be done. So it's not really informing me on it... I think I'll do the Circumcision if I have a boy. DH wants him to have a Circumcision and from everything that I've read so far isn't giving me any points not to do the Circumcision... Please don't rip me apart

joyfullyfound · October 2013

We won't be circumcising if we have a boy. It's just not the norm anymore, and while my DH would like our son's penis to look like his (he's circumcised), we'd like our son to look like his peers. Where we live, there's only one doctor in the whole city who does the procedure and it's crazy expensive.

I do prefer the appearance of a circumcised penis, and although everyone argues against it, they are technically cleaner and easier to care for. That said, for us the cons outweigh the pros, so we're choosing not to circumcise if we have a son.

Lauraa00 · October 2013

Okay, personally I really don't get the rationale that men want their son's penis to look like theirs. I don't stare at my moms boobs wishing ours were alike. There's no extra kinship there. Just... Don't get.

padma55 · October 2013

I would say that medically necessary procedures trump cosmetic procedures. If a cosmetic procedure is hard to watch, and is painful for baby, maybe consider not doing it, regardless of your partner's foreskin.

ckred27 · October 2013

I left up to DH, both my boys are circ'ed. They had a very speedy recovery and when they came back from the op room ( they were gone maybe 20-30 minutes) they werent even crying. No bad circ stories here

cdominique11 · October 2013

My DS wasn't put under when he was circumcised. I cried more than him, lol! They gave him his pacifier and dipped it in sweet water (it calms them) and snip snip. The whole procedure took no more than 5minutes. I don't see anything wrong with it. It will lower his chances of getting bacteria when their older. So if I have a boy he will be circumcised too. The only negative is that insurance won't cover it. My DS's procedure cost $250

cdominique11 · October 2013

You can YouTube the procedure.

nikki912 · October 2013

We didn't and we won't if this one is a boy too. My research led me that way, but I know others who do research decide to circ. It's definitely something to really look into and not default to aesthetics or "just to be like daddy".

jgreig83 · October 2013

I was just thinking about this this morning. DH is circumsized and in previous conversations we thought we would do it if we had a boy too. But now that I am pregnant I am having reservations. I know there can be complications, such as taking too much foreskin and a risk of infection. The first few weeks are going to be stressful enough as a FTM, I am not sure I want to add that risk in there too.

LakotaMerrill · October 2013

If DH and I have a boy we will be going with the option of circumcision. The negatives of not having circumcision I know are a lot more infections just because you have to be so careful about cleaning the penis and pulling the skin back to get "down in there." I know of a lady who's sons skin grew back together and had to get some major cosmetic surgery to fix the issue since he wasn't circumsized. But I also know somebody who decided to get their child circumsized and the doctor doing the procedure messed up and cut off too much skin. There's many pros and cons of this subject, but if we have a boy one day when he is being potty trained and Daddy takes him off the porch to pee I don't want my child to be like "why doesn't mine look like yours?" And then think there is something wrong with his penis since I didn't get him circumsized. I would just hate for my baby to go through all that pain, it's terrible to think about, but we already have our minds made up.

katieharpiceland · October 2013

I don't even think they do it here anymore. Which is good since I wouldn't have it done anyway :-)

J&NL · October 2013

If we have a boy then we will be circumcising. With that being said, I'm not getting into any debates about it.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

mummyofsix said:
OP, do you have a set out list of 'thought provoking' questions to ask for the whole pregnancy? Because you've used up gay marriage, abortion and circumcision just in one week.

I suggest formula/ breastmilk next. Its going to be AWESOME.

It's not something i was planing to do for more then one post but because is going so well I am trying to find more topics to discuss with you ladies cause I love doing this

it's fun to see all of the diffenent opinions and reasons.

ricekez · October 2013

Nope, not circumsizing. I don't see the point and we're not Jewish. But I don't hate on those who choose to have it done.

JennyBeeThree · October 2013

DS is circumcised. If this one is a boy, we will opt for circ. again.

vanvoorhis-101 · October 2013

It depends on the Dr doing the procedure as to what pain relief they use. For my son he was not put to sleep but they did numb him. The Dr used EMLA cream and a penile nerve block on my son and he had no pain. I had it done (mostly) because as a RN I have seen some nasty infected penises of older men. I also wanted him to look like his dad so that was another reason. I understand why some people do not do it, you just have decide what is right for your family.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

Do y'all go in the room while the procedure is done

pdilly2b · October 2013

seannasmommy16 said:

Do y'all go in the room while the procedure is done

We did not per hospital rules. I think that may depend on the hospital/doctor. I imagine if we had waited and had it done in the OB office instead of while still at the hospital, that we would have been present.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

dani+california said:

mummyofsix said:
OP, do you have a set out list of 'thought provoking' questions to ask for the whole pregnancy? Because you've used up gay marriage, abortion and circumcision just in one week.

I suggest formula/ breastmilk next. Its going to be AWESOME.
Coming up next...
-Breast feeding and formula
-Race and religion
-Vaccinations
-Autism
-Gender vs Sex
-Baby shower etiquette
-Gender roles
-Cake

That cake one is going to be a big deal... Every one will be running to the store for cake mix hahaha

pannk · October 2013

Looking at this from a different perspective... DH isn't circumcised (never had any problems or infections) and I really prefer it sexually. It provides natural lubrication and it's way easier and more fun to give a handjob.

Tantan2779 · October 2013

DS1 pediatrician did his, DS2 was done by a urologist. Neither were put under, but given some anesthetic.

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

pannk said:
Looking at this from a different perspective... DH isn't circumcised (never had any problems or infections) and I really prefer it sexually. It provides natural lubrication and it's way easier and more fun to give a handjob.

Woah!! Didn't hold back at all!

csmily51 · October 2013

Delete, as what I said was terribly misunderstood. Good luck to all on their decision making.

pannk · October 2013

seannasmommy16 said:

pannk said:
Looking at this from a different perspective... DH isn't circumcised (never had any problems or infections) and I really prefer it sexually. It provides natural lubrication and it's way easier and more fun to give a handjob.

Woah!! Didn't hold back at all!

.........

Nope! So many people talk about health and locker rooms with this topic but no one really talks about sex. And I think it's important

seannasmommy16 · October 2013

csmily51 said:
Are your husbands circumsized? If so think about your sons future...last thing you want to think about, but loom at it from thwir comfort perspective, they will not remeber it happening, besides birth is traumatic and painful as well but they go through that as well. My DH and I will if it is a boy. This is something I think the guys will have a better insight on then us women and our research. Please don't attack, this is just my opinion.

My husband had it done and I've decided to do the Circumcision on our son if we have one. I don't see any major faults in having it done.

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