It's unfortunate that some women cannot come on here for advice and support. One simple topic got turned into something huge for no reason and I guess some women have nothing to do but to criticize each other on their keyboards. I'm sure I am going to hear about deleting what I said previously too but it was becoming too much and no I am not afraid or what I said or how I feel about it I just want all this unesscary arguing and rude comments to stop already
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wow you're calling me ridiculous but look at how you can go off on someone you don't even know? I can't throw my own baby shower to celebrate becoming a mother and would like the ppl I love to celebrate with me? Who said I can't buy a crib and diapers? what's more inappropriate is me expecting someone to throw me one and expecting other to pay for it! I don't expect gifts especially expensive ones you're judging me for the wrong reasons smh
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this is a good idea, thank you!
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I just explained why I am doing this - why should I feel bad about wanting to celebrate my first born? why should I feel bad about throwing it myself instead expecting someone else to throw it for me? Especially when my close friends and family do not have the kind of money to be doing that anyways... we can call it what you like if the word "shower" freaks everyone else out
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First off I am not bitching that no one can throw me one I am perfectly fine with that and do not expect no one to, I can afford to throw one just nothing extravagant that is what this whole post is about. As mentioned before if this upsets you for whatever reason then you do not need to post anything. I am not rude to you so I would appreciate the same respect. Thanks
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Also, being your first child, excited and what have you doesn't excuse your tacky gift-grabby behavior. You are delusional to think that somehow that excuse would fly.
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Except there is... Lets go over exactly what is wrong with throwing your own shower:
1) It's rude to throw a party where you are the guest of honor & gifts are expected. Showers are gift giving events by definition. You are essentially inviting other people to buy you things.
2) No, the party is not for the baby. It's to honor your entrance to motherhood. You are the guest of honor & all the gifts, by definition, are to help you rear your child.
3) A Meet The Baby or Sip n' See would make the baby the guest of honor. Big difference.
Again, you are not entitled to a shower. It is an honor that should be hosted by someone for you. Just because you don't have friends or family able/willing doesn't make it permissible to throw your own.
So call it whatever you want. If you are getting gifts to help you with baby then it's a shower no matter what cutesy or new name you call it.
Be an adult & prudent with that 2K. Think of the baby clothes, diapers, wipes whatever you could buy with it. Shit, you could put some aside for baby's first birthday. 2K is a lot to spend to invite people to give you things.
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haha I agree thank you!
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Also, you don't know what my life is like. My life has so much substance that I didn't need to throw my own showers. I have dear, devoted friends/family that honored me with four of them. Probably because I don't act like a twatwaffle.
I think it's pathetic to throw your own gift giving event because you don't seem to have friends that WANT to honor you with a shower. What does that say about a person that no one wants to spend time/money on them? Yeah, it says a lot...
Also, my bitchy comes out for a pretty good reason. If someone is acting like an entitled, bratty child then yeah. That's a good reason. Also passive aggressive attempts to call me out are a good reason to bust out the bitch.
I own my bitchiness, cupcake. What about you?
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My mistake. I just reread your OP. I thought your family had offered to throw a shower for you, instead of offering to help with the one you're throwing. In the case of no one offering, I have to agree with @MrsMuq and @PrimRoseMama, you just don't have one then. You do realize that by having a shower, you are expecting things from those who attend -- you're expecting gifts. If all you're interested in is inviting close family & friends, save your money and have a sip n see.
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And I personally don't give a crap about your little blog post. The fact that you have nothing better to do in life but come on here and belittle others because they are not like you is not very "polite". You obviously have no room to teach others about "tact" or "etiquette". So, as far as I'm concerned your just a tacky women with nothing else in life. "
@savvysweet : you obviously aren't savvy or sweet. You must very much care about the quality of my life because you took the time to act like a passive aggressive douche & comment on how pathetic I must be.
No, gift-grabby & graciously accepting the honor of a party where you are generously given gifts are two very separate things. Then again, your lack of class is so painfully evident that it doesn't surprise me in the least that you fail to recognize this very prudent fact.
I have so much in life because, unlike you & OP, I tend to act like an adult & look outside myself. It's obvious that this is a foreign concept to you. How sad.
I'm not flaming someone because they are not like me. I'm flaming you (@savvysweet) and OP because you aren't looking outside yourself & to the comfort of your guests. You are so caught up with this "me me me" and "I deserve this!" Mentality that it never occurs to you that you come off sounding like an entitled selfish person that is incapable of tact.
So, yes you are getting flamed, but your complete lack of self awareness makes it impossible for you to grasp why. Get a clue & grow up.
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wow you're calling me ridiculous but look at how you can go off on someone you don't even know? I can't throw my own baby shower to celebrate becoming a mother and would like the ppl I love to celebrate with me? Who said I can't buy a crib and diapers? what's more inappropriate is me expecting someone to throw me one and expecting other to pay for it! I don't expect gifts especially expensive ones you're judging me for the wrong reasons smh That's your whole problem! A shower is a gift, not a right!! No one has to throw you a shower, or give you gifts. You don't throw your own shower. Enough said.
these boards are supposed to be for advice and support from women who are in each others shoes no to start criticizing someone for something you are against - I am sorry that this is something I would like to have the experience of and am not asking someone to do it for me! We can call it something else if it would make you feel better??? For now maybe you should consider not saying anything at all if you have nothing nice to say in the first place
I just explained why I am doing this - why should I feel bad about wanting to celebrate my first born? why should I feel bad about throwing it myself instead expecting someone else to throw it for me? Especially when my close friends and family do not have the kind of money to be doing that anyways... we can call it what you like if the word "shower" freaks everyone else out these boards are supposed to be for advice and support from women who are in each others shoes no to start criticizing someone for something you are against - I am sorry that this is something I would like to have the experience of and am not asking someone to do it for me! We can call it something else if it would make you feel better??? For now maybe you should consider not saying anything at all if you have nothing nice to say in the first place
You posted a message on a public forum on the internet.
Srsly? You're bitching no one can throw you a shower, and that you can't afford to throw your own, but gosh golly, you just are so excited and want to have the "Experience" of a baby shower!!
Sorry for not blowing glitter and rainbows up your tuckus. You'll find most of the ladies here will agree with me, though.
don't you have something better to do than look at this post every 5 seconds? grow up please - I will not argue with you back and forth for someone that cannot be open minded and likes to do nothing but judge and ridicule people for no apparent reason
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Thank you so much for this!! It is pretty sad that this is the way it is, but unfortunately everyone cannot be open minded, non-judgmental, or as easy going as us. A part of me wants to delete this post just for the non-sense that some women keep going on and on about. If they don't like it why spend so much time talking about it? I guess going hard core on their keyboard is something they live for haha
but honestly thank you so much! congrats to you as well!!
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Throwing your own shower is a bad idea. Especially if you are already on a tight budget. It's not bitchy to actually take into consideration concerns outlined in the OP. Nobody offers a shower & it would be expensive if you throw your own? You don't get one. End of story.
Act like an adult & put your money elsewhere.
This generation of "me me me" "I deserve it right now" is so disheartening. What happened to folks being able to accept an honor & acting like big girls if no one honors them?
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Regardless of what you do, I'm not invited and you're not asking any of us for money or a gift, so I don't really care! There are different customs and social norms all over the United States and the world. Do what you're comfortable with, the worst that could happen is nobody shows up.
P.S. I hope your mom does okay with her surgery.
A- 09/2006 I- 04/2010 N- 04/2012 M & G- 01/2014
I hope my mom is okay also but we are all staying positive to keep her strong! Thank you again!!
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LOL!!
"Hey everybody! I'm throwing a party for myself so you can give me presents and bring me food because I am soooo special!!"
@savvysweet. I think it's rude if you do choose to host your own shower to skip the unwrapping of gifts. You come off as greedy and selfish. People as boring as it may be want to see you open their gifts.
Again, here you go with the entitlement thing. You feel entitled to support. Nope. Folks disagree & this being a public forum are free to express themselves as long as it doesn't violate TOU. We are not required to agree, post nice things, skip a post, or anything else if we don't feel like it. Welcome to the Internet.
You & @savvysweet don't seem to be able to grasp that you aren't the center of the universe. Seriously, look into practicing self awareness. You are still going about what YOU want. It's all about you.
Part of being a mature adult is learning that you can't always get what you want just because you a) want it b) want it now.
So yeah, deleting your OP was pointless.
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