I have to vent here cause DH and my mil are kinda one-sided with the issue. My bil likes to watch his porn. He used to watch it down at our house in the living room for some unknown reason. We all kept walking in on him so he stopped. He's been going down to his moms now. In her living room now. She's got 2, a front and back living room. I took dd with me to her house to do the update on my phone-she has wifi there- and when we came in, she was talking away, her carrier was making noise with the toy on it etc. basically he could hear us come in. I started the update and dd fell asleep on my lap. While she's sleeping, I hear moaning coming from the other living room. Loudly. Dd is sleeping ok, then suddenly, one of the damn moans woke her up screaming. So I yelled at him to take it to the bedroom or put it away now. I told mil and DH, they said would talk to him but I don't think they have. Should I tell him it needs to stay in the bedroom now with dd here or just let them handle it? It really frustrated me that he woke her up with that..downside is that he does live with us but I don't want J to walk in on that when she gets older. Not sure how to approach this situation. When i vent to DH, he just says he will handle it...but I don't think he really does.
Re: Woke my baby up....long vent
I guess call ahead?
CJ 05/29/2013
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
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Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
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Now I feel weird. Ewwwwww
I talked to DH more about it today and he said he'll take care of it, especially when I got upset today. The down side is that DH has always been super protective over his brother.
It wasn't on long before it woke dd up so it wasn't like I was sitting there listening to it. I yelled at him after she was awake. It's just a weird situation I hate. I think the reason he goes to the living room when were gone is that he has no tv in his room. Like I said, I know this sounds unbelievable but I just needed some outsider input on this and how to approach it. I've never been in a situation like this. Sorry ladies.
TTC since 03/2011
BFP#1 spontaneous conception! 4/28/12 natural MC on 5/9/12
IUI#1 with clomid and trigger on 9/12/12
BFP#2 on 9/26/12 EDD 6/5/13
Beta #1 143 14dpo Beta #2 343 16dpo Beta #3 920 18dpo
Please, Please, Please stick baby!
Baby Mackenzie born 5/28/2013!
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
Doesn't this man have a computer or a smart phone or something not in his mom's living room? He has to use the family DVD player? What?
Also, I have never done anything with a dude that made him moan loud enough to wake a baby.
I also agree that the BIL sounds like a whack job or sex addict, but I strongly disagree that sex addicts/weirdos/whatever the BIL is are all pedaphiles. I wouldn't want my kid to walk in on him jerking off, but not because I would be afraid of him hurting her. I don't want my child seeing that because its inappropriate. Calling him a pedaphile or sex offender seems a bit unnecessary in my book. He is totally gross but what he is doing is a far cry from illegal!
P.S. I'm not calling OP's BIL a sex offender, although he seems to be made from the same cloth. I'm just responding to JessicaKS.
Sorry this came out sounding like mud. Maybe not the best vent to post on here, I was just blown away and frustrated. Thanks for all the advice/input
Houses. It is also disgusting that the entire family knows about this and condones this type of behavior.
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I feel I need a shower after reading this. GROSS!
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