I gave E a hand tap once over the food-dropping issue. I felt so bad. I don't think it's inherently wrong, but it's not even in my background. It's not how I was raised, it's not how I intended to raise my kids, so it just came out of nowhere for me. Startled the hell out of me. :-(
Ok I'm a mess today. I'm literally at my wits end sitting at 40 weeks pregnant. I'm so much more sore this time around, the constant false labor is killing me mentally, and I hate not being able to play/take care of Wes like I feel like I should. I really do hate complaining about it because I know there are so many struggling with getting pregnant or staying pregnant. But I don't know where else to vent. I apologize!!
Here's the flame part. I have a good friend in L&D who also knows my doctor well. Since I've been having so many painful contractions (that end up fizzling out) and was at 3cm yesterday, the two of them talked and said if by Sunday morning nothing happens, I can go in and have them break my water and that would probably jump start things enough without meds (trying to go med free again). I'm just so tempted to do it but I feel like its just me being impatient.
The mommy wars are ridiculous. Stfu and stop bitching on FB or here about bad moms. I get it wheeler you're into car safety.
You win. Is that what you want?
I apologize to anyone I've flamed over personal decisions you've made about your child. Feed them what you want, drive with them on the hood of your car, let them eat a pound of sugar. I won't say squat. I realize now what a fucking twat you guys must have thought I was being when I would judge.
I have no original FC so I'll piggyback on everyone else's. I pee and brush my teeth in the shower on the reg. Also, Taylor has gotten her fair share of toddler-appropriate hand taps when she throws food off of her high chair. It pisses me off because she smirks at me and thinks it's a game. I don't do it hard, and I never discipline out of anger. If I'm really pissed I walk away and cool down before I lose my cool.
I guess my confession is that I have definitely slapped Will's hand. Not out of anger, but sheer fear that he is going to electrocute himself and blow clear across the room because he thinks playing with electrical outlets is super funsies. I have tried saying no, redirecting...you name it. Nothing works. He still walks his tiny hiney straight to stick his lil' pinky in there.
In my opinion, if he is running toward the street while I take one second to grab his bag out of the car, or removing a knife out of the dishwasher, or sticking his licked finger into an electrical socket...he's gonna get a little slap on the hand. And cry. And I don't feel bad. Because whatever mental anguish he feels for years and years to come because I gave his hand a tiny little slap is nothing compared to how horrible my life would be without him.
To clarify I'm not talking about she was in a dangerous situation. She was not listening about the goddamned cabinets and then throwing huge tantrums when I would redirect her or say no. I would have absolutely hit her out of anger and that's the part I'm shameful of. I lost MY patience. So we went outside where there are no cabinets.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10
BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
Summergirl, I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through such tough times. Please know that we are all always here for you.
We also utilize the "hand tap" when Em is doing something dangerous. We barely do it hard enough to even feel it, but she startles and cries. I let her be for about 5 seconds and then cuddle her close. Maybe I'm sending mixed messages, I don't know. I just can't let her continue to be scared, and I want to reassure her that mommy loves her even if she does need discipline sometimes. I stay firm that those are not good activities and she's not allowed to do them, so hopefully the cuddles don't undo that.
My confession: We still haven't figured out a name for this LO together, but I've been secretly thinking of him as Nicholas. I don't know what I'll do if DH decides he hates that name.
Summergirl, I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through such tough times. Please know that we are all always here for you.
We also utilize the "hand tap" when Em is doing something dangerous. We barely do it hard enough to even feel it, but she startles and cries. I let her be for about 5 seconds and then cuddle her close. Maybe I'm sending mixed messages, I don't know. I just can't let her continue to be scared, and I want to reassure her that mommy loves her even if she does need discipline sometimes. I stay firm that those are not good activities and she's not allowed to do them, so hopefully the cuddles don't undo that.
My confession: We still haven't figured out a name for this LO together, but I've been secretly thinking of him as Nicholas. I don't know what I'll do if DH decides he hates that name.
See, maybe this is why I don't feel as bad for doing the hand-tap. Taylor is impervious to discomfort and pain, I swear. And she's not scared of me one bit. She'll be throwing food, and I'll do the tap and say NO sternly, and she just mean mugs me, holds her food over her tray for a moment, looks me dead in the eye, and drops it. I'm so fucked.
Summergirl, I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through such tough times. Please know that we are all always here for you.
We also utilize the "hand tap" when Em is doing something dangerous. We barely do it hard enough to even feel it, but she startles and cries. I let her be for about 5 seconds and then cuddle her close. Maybe I'm sending mixed messages, I don't know. I just can't let her continue to be scared, and I want to reassure her that mommy loves her even if she does need discipline sometimes. I stay firm that those are not good activities and she's not allowed to do them, so hopefully the cuddles don't undo that.
My confession: We still haven't figured out a name for this LO together, but I've been secretly thinking of him as Nicholas. I don't know what I'll do if DH decides he hates that name.
See, maybe this is why I don't feel as bad for doing the hand-tap. Taylor is impervious to discomfort and pain, I swear. And she's not scared of me one bit. She'll be throwing food, and I'll do the tap and say NO sternly, and she just mean mugs me, holds her food over her tray for a moment, looks me dead in the eye, and drops it. I'm so fucked.
DH thinks she cries because she's angry and frustrated at not getting her way, which could be the case. I just can't help feeling like she needs a cuddle when she gets upset.
She does that thing of watching me while she does something mischievous too. Today it was climbing into/onto things like the baby swing, the washing machine, a chair, and her empty water table. I say no and she just grins. I think we're all screwed!
Re: FC
Here's the flame part. I have a good friend in L&D who also knows my doctor well. Since I've been having so many painful contractions (that end up fizzling out) and was at 3cm yesterday, the two of them talked and said if by Sunday morning nothing happens, I can go in and have them break my water and that would probably jump start things enough without meds (trying to go med free again). I'm just so tempted to do it
You win. Is that what you want?
I apologize to anyone I've flamed over personal decisions you've made about your child. Feed them what you want, drive with them on the hood of your car, let them eat a pound of sugar. I won't say squat. I realize now what a fucking twat you guys must have thought I was being when I would judge.
I guess my confession is that I have definitely slapped Will's hand. Not out of anger, but sheer fear that he is going to electrocute himself and blow clear across the room because he thinks playing with electrical outlets is super funsies. I have tried saying no, redirecting...you name it. Nothing works. He still walks his tiny hiney straight to stick his lil' pinky in there.
In my opinion, if he is running toward the street while I take one second to grab his bag out of the car, or removing a knife out of the dishwasher, or sticking his licked finger into an electrical socket...he's gonna get a little slap on the hand. And cry. And I don't feel bad. Because whatever mental anguish he feels for years and years to come because I gave his hand a tiny little slap is nothing compared to how horrible my life would be without him.
Eats childproof locks for breakfast...
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
We also utilize the "hand tap" when Em is doing something dangerous. We barely do it hard enough to even feel it, but she startles and cries. I let her be for about 5 seconds and then cuddle her close. Maybe I'm sending mixed messages, I don't know. I just can't let her continue to be scared, and I want to reassure her that mommy loves her even if she does need discipline sometimes. I stay firm that those are not good activities and she's not allowed to do them, so hopefully the cuddles don't undo that.
My confession: We still haven't figured out a name for this LO together, but I've been secretly thinking of him as Nicholas. I don't know what I'll do if DH decides he hates that name.
Big hugs. If you need anyone to talk to let me know.
DH thinks she cries because she's angry and frustrated at not getting her way, which could be the case. I just can't help feeling like she needs a cuddle when she gets upset.
She does that thing of watching me while she does something mischievous too. Today it was climbing into/onto things like the baby swing, the washing machine, a chair, and her empty water table. I say no and she just grins. I think we're all screwed!