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?'s:babymoon and when to tell work

2 questions for you ladies today.

1 -Are any of you planning on a babymoon? If so, where are you going and how far along will you be at the time?  I would like to go somewhere in December before Christmas holiday.  I will be estimated 20 weeks at that time.  I hear 2nd tri is the best time to go.

2- When do you think it's appropriate to let work know about being pregnant?  I'm not sure when to tell....all I know is that in my contract it does specify if I have decided to quit I do need to give 6 months notice which seems like a loooooong time.  I'm not planning on quitting, just maternity leave.  I was initially thinking of letting them know at 20 weeks but thought then maybe that would be "too late" ...?

Also, I graduated yesterday from RE!!!! I was measuring 8w1d and the little gummi bear had a HB of 167.  I'm so excited that I've also graduated from PIO- now onto chronic vag discharge from the endometrin x 2 weeks!

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  • I'm not sure if we are doing a babymoon this time.  Last time, MH had a business trip in Malaysia when I was 24 weeks.  I met him over there and considered that our babymoon.  It was a good time to go, I was finally over feeling sick and food aversions, but not huge yet.

    Last time I waited to tell my boss until I was 16 weeks.  I didn't tell my coworkers until 20 weeks, when it was obvious that I was KU.  This time I will probably tell at 12 weeks.  I'm in a much more understanding and caring environment, plus I'm SO SICK so I'd like to give them an excuse for my slacking.

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  • Congrat's on graduation! I told my co-workers when I could no longer hide it, it really depends on the relationship you have with your boss/co-workers & your comfort level. No babymoon here but 20 weeks sounds like a good plan :)
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  • I am trying to wait until after a big rush at work. I think I will be about 18 weeks. It depends on how much I am showing though. 

    Congrats on graduating! My RE let me choose between staying on PIO or switching to endometrium. I chose to stay on PIO. If you get to choose I wouldn't suggest switching! 

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    We didn't babymoon. :( We waited too long, so around 20 weeks would be good timing.

    I checked with HR and they didn't specify a timeframe, so I waited until I was showing.  I didn't tell my work until 7 months, but we just acquired a company and I wanted the dust to settle before I made any big announcements.

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  • I am going to Barbados in a few weeks and will be in week 19. I've told a few people at work and just told my supervisor yesterday. She's announcing it at our team meeting tomorrow. I'm in my 16th week

  • My boss knows because I let her know about my treatments. Then I told her when I was spotting a couple weeks ago and missed a bunch of work. I think I will officially tell her and my colleagues when I possibly can't hide it anymore. 

    We are planning on a babymoon, for sure. I think we are going to go somewhere warm in December before the holidays. I'll be about 18-20 weeks depending on when we go. Somewhere my DH can scuba dive and I can lay on the beach. We've actually been planning this trip for a several years, but due to money, moving, miscarriage, and fertility treatments, it kept getting pushed back. I'm so happy we can finally go.
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  • We babymooned when I was 17 weeks. I am not working currently, but I honestly don't think I could have waited until 20 weeks. I was showing enough around 14 weeks that I couldn't have hid my pregnancy in work clothes, only baggy sweatshirts!
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  • We went on a baby moon to Ireland when I was around 25/26 weeks.  I have had a pretty uneventful pregnancy and wasn't too big at this point so it worked out well for us.  The plane ride was a little rough sitting in one spot for so long, but manageable. 

    I told work around 14 weeks because both myself and one lady that I manage are due the same week - which means we are both out on leave during the busiest time of our year - so I wanted to give my boss/group plenty of heads up.  

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  • I think we will do a babymoon, but due to my teaching schedule it may not be possible to do a trip until I'm about 27/28 weeks. Do you all think that's too late? We are planning to go to Mexico with some good friends...probably Sayulita and/or Punta Mita. :-)

    I have no CLUE when to tell work. Probably at the end of October when I am after the 12 week mark. I am hoping to take a long leave May-November, so they will need to plan ahead and likely adjust my pay for next year accordingly since I will take some unpaid leave.
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  • Congrats on graduating!!

    I told work at 12 weeks.  I was starting to not be able to hide it already and I just gave up. 

    As for a babymoon, we are having one, but it was a pre-planned trip to Europe because I'm in a wedding in December.  Time-wise it works out perfectly for us, but I maybe would prefer a nice warm beach over the December drizzle of London :)  But hey, that's a first world problem and I should get over it.

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  • 1 -Are any of you planning on a babymoon? If so, where are you going and how far along will you be at the time?

    We're not planning a baby moon. There's just too much going on. We went on vaca to FL at 15 weeks so I guess that counts. We're going camping this weekend which is a yearly thing for us. Other than that. I'm 22 weeks and don't want to travel much.

    2- When do you think it's appropriate to let work know about being pregnant?

    I told work at 12 weeks. I think whatever makes u feel comfortable.

    Congrats on moving on to OB. Beware, you do not have as many u/s as with the RE. But they take good care of you. Best of luck!!!!
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  • Thank you for all the kind words and input :)

    I think right now maybe i'll tell around 14 weeks?

    As for babymoon - I can't stand long plane rides(nothing more than 4 hours) so I was thinking maybe mexico?

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