Birth certificate question

daniann333 · September 2013

AFwifelife said:

snugglesbuggs said:

I am seprated and having a baby with my boyfriend. I want to put my Maiden name instead of my married name on our son BC. Some have told me I would have to put my married name and list my soon to be ex on BC. I will not do this to my child.

You do have to put your legal name on the certificate so if that's your married name, then that is what will be printed on the certificate. You don't have to list your ex as the father if he isn't. In Texas at least, even though I'm married and DH is the father, I had the option to leave him off the certificate.

This is not the case in all states. In Michigan, if you are married, your husband goes on BC until the divorce is final.

jessntim3 · September 2013

I'm not going to argue with the internet mob! I have decorators coming for my nursery so I have more pressing matters to tend to. Hsve fun ladies!

Amcdonnel1028 · September 2013

I really hope this is MUD for the child's sake..

hollowway · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
There is no family! He doesn't have children with his wife, she never could give him any which is part of the reason his lost interest in her. His family will be with me. I'm making him happy and fulfiliing all of his needs, he will not leave or cheat on me.

@jessntim3 ... Wow. His wife suffers from infertility and possibly suffered multiple losses (I'm assuming since she "couldn't give him children" and you think you have the right to break up their marriage with a child he won't even claim as his!? You are a level of pathetic and selfish I can't even begin to describe. And your sugar daddy (because he isn't when enough of a respectable man to be called a boyfriend) is worse for "losing interest" in his wife because she's had difficulty getting pregnant. I'm sure she will be THRILLED when ahead finds out that her husband knocked up some golddigging hussy, rather than exploring all their options of having a family (surrogate or adoption) and fulfilling his promises to her. You know "for better or worse, sickness and health"...

Homewrecker.

daniann333 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

I don't need to defend my relationship to any of you. Also his wife is not my priority, my child and myself come first and foremost.

If this were truly the case and you were putting your child before anyone, this would not even be a question. Move on....he is married...he is NOT leaving....he is hiding you by not wanting to be on BC or he is ashamed....YOU ARE THE OTHER WOMAN. There is no white fence at the end of this fairy tale. Actually think about your child and how are you doing to tell them about their dad....oh I slept with a married man. Think of this as a clean break......let him go

dnt27 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
I'm not going to argue with the internet mob! I have decorators coming for my nursery so I have more pressing matters to tend to. Hsve fun ladies!

LOL. Did he pay for that too? I hope you can sleep at night knowing you're fucking a married man, having a married mans child, and the fact you are the other woman. You are a disgusting piece of trash. I actually hope you and him end up together, because his wife deserves so much better.

rbtrumpet · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

There is no family! He doesn't have children with his wife, she never could give him any which is part of the reason his lost interest in her. His family will be with me. I'm making him happy and fulfiliing all of his needs, he will not leave or cheat on me.

you will just believe anything, won't you???

This man is a liar and a cheater.

But since you won't listen to reason and good advice, then I say you should definitely let him do whatever he wants. If he doesn't want to put his name on the birth certificate, then by all means, let him leave his name off until it's the "right time." It's only you and your child's welfare at stake...

But if keeping him happy and keeping your little expense account filled is all that matters to you, then you should definitely do everything he says!

alexisjo88 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

I'm not going to argue with the internet mob! I have decorators coming for my nursery so I have more pressing matters to tend to. Hsve fun ladies!

You can't argue because you know you are wrong. I bet if you gave him an ultimatum, a time limit if you will, he would not leave his wife. He would also take back the car, the house and the account would dwindle down to just child support. And sure you could threaten to tell his wife, but that's just going to solidify hate for you, so yea it's a lose-lose situation.

How about you come back from your snoody fantasy world, put on some big girl panties and leave his cheating ass. And yea, once a cheater always a cheater, no matter what you can pop out of your va-jay-jay. He married his wife because he loved her. With you, he just made the mistake to knock you up.

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mmm50 · September 2013

@jessntim3 Your naivete is driving me crazy. But I will pose it to you this way:

The decision on whether or not to put him on the birth certificate is not just about his wife finding out about you and the baby. It has a ton of implications down the road WHETHER YOU REALIZE IT/ACCEPT IT OR NOT and whether or not you should do it depends a ton on the entire circumstances involved.

Suppose Tim- who according to you gives you enough money that you live a good life- gets hit by a drunk driver a week after the baby is born. I would think you would want your child to be included in the wrongful death suit. By that point it would be harder to show he's the father when he's not around for DNA anymore. But without a verification of paternity, his legal heirs-- probably just his wife unless he's fathering children all over without you knowing it (I wouldn't put it past him)-- would be entitled to any wrongful death award money, life insurance, assets, etc. You and your LO could be SOL if you don't start looking out for the two of you rather than worrying about what Tim wants and the timing.

jessntim3 · September 2013

I must've missed this nonsense earlier but our child is not an accident or mistake. We both planned for this pregnancy. This is something we as a couple wanted and as with anything we made it happen. We both are thrilled so in no way is he ashsmed. My child will be what makes him a father and a real man. He always wanted this and I am the woman who gave it to him. So yes for that reason I am proud.

hollowway · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
I must've missed this nonsense earlier but our child is not an accident or mistake. We both planned for this pregnancy. This is something we as a couple wanted and as with anything we made it happen. We both are thrilled so in no way is he ashsmed. My child will be what makes him a father and a real man. He always wanted this and I am the woman who gave it to him. So yes for that reason I am proud.

There's a word for children born into a situation like yours... It starts with a B. But rather than using it, I'll use a nicer word. Illegitimate. Especially since he won't even claim the child as his by signing the birth certificate.

Illegitimate.

CMireles2 · September 2013

Honey... You say he will never cheat on you? HES STILL WITH HIS WIFE! He's fucking another woman, you know the woman he promised to have and to hold forever?!

How can you live with yourself? This thread makes me want to cry for his wife... Not to mention kiss my husband and thank him for being such an amazing husband with his little flaws and all!

I hope this isn't real and you've been watching mistresses too much.

Mailmans Baby Momma · September 2013

MUD. If not MUD, please go get you some ethics and morals.

EmJ&B · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

I must've missed this nonsense earlier but our child is not an accident or mistake. We both planned for this pregnancy. This is something we as a couple wanted and as with anything we made it happen. We both are thrilled so in no way is he ashsmed. My child will be what makes him a father and a real man. He always wanted this and I am the woman who gave it to him. So yes for that reason I am proud.

I also call MUD

But if not . . . how will your child make him a father and a real man? Does the baby's birth come with a set of morals and ethics for its parents? Because, at this point - especially if he's not going on the birth certificate, - he's just a sperm donor.

dnt27 · September 2013

You need a fucking intervention or something. I didn't know it was possible for people to be this stupid.

Gatorsgirl731 · September 2013

You are not Anastasia Steele, he is not Christian Grey, and this will not end in a happy ever after in the Red Room of Pain.

Your gross.

Oh and most states won't let YOU put his name on the BC. It's a legal document that HE has to sign.

Elreid · September 2013

Obviously your just in it for the money and sex, not for the baby, so you might as well leave him to be happy with his WIFE and make him pay child support. You still get money, he gets his wife, whom he will never leave btw, and you get to be alone and happy with your baby and money. And on the days your so called "boyfriend" has the baby I hope you realize what a shitty person you are and I hope your baby is happier living with their father and step mom! That child deserves a family. You are so selfish to bring a child into this world and into this kind of situation and you didn't even think of how it would affect the child!!! Who the fuck do you think you are?! Grow up, realize he's not leaving, prepare to have your child hate you(and for good reason) and forget about ever being in a good and healthy relationship if the one your in is what you think is right. You will live your life alone, honey!

mcgeeva · September 2013

The very sad thing about this post is you really think your in a good situation. Good luck with that - he won't be leaving his wife and you will be cheated on next. Great example to set for your child. It's going to suck when Karma hits you in the face. Once a cheater - always a cheater. One day I hope you don't have your child come crying to you because her husband has been sleeping with some dirt bag like you. Trust me..what goes around always comes around.

mcgeeva · September 2013

And if you had common sense you would add him to your bc. Because if my husband ever did this to me (which thankfully he has love for me and morals and would never want to) I would take every penny he had. So think again - when his wife finds out - she will get everything she wants due to him being a pos

sfshorter · September 2013

GOBLU1274 said:

fluttergirlmoonchild79 said:

jessntim3 said:

He will get a divorce once the time is right. There are too many factors to consider doing it now. I'm in no rush so I don't see why you all are. I am quite the kept woman, new car, very nice home in an upscale neighborhood and he has set aside an expense account forme. All of these things are in MY name so I am not worried about his wife having any control over my finances. If we wait to put him on the birth certificate it will just be until after the divorce. In the meantime we will continue our relationship and lives as normal. We spend plenty time together, vacations, trips and such so I'm sure spending time with our child will be a non issue. So there will be no question of "where is Daddy?"

You know who else has nice cars and houses and expense accounts? Prostitutes. Best of luck to you. I'll just keep my husband because we actually have a relationship most hope for - love, respect and HONESTY!

The problem with being a kept woman is that you are banking right now on your "assets." Those assets include your vagina, tits, and your face, all of which, if you are lucky enough to live long enough, aren't going to be assets anymore. Vagina destruction coming up soon enough! Along with the tits. He will get tired of you, as he obviously married his wife for a reason and hasn't left her, he must have a stronger emotional connection to her than you. Your traits that he uses you for are swiftly fleeting and soon he will leave you and move on to some other girl that will believe his lies for the chance to be "kept."

It is so much more rewarding to be loved by a man because of who you are and your heart and love for him. It is also so much more rewarding to earn your own way, or play a part in helping him be successful. All you are doing is contributing to the destruction of one home and the lives of innocent children. That is nothing to be proud of or brag about. I hope for your child's sake that you can open your eyes and find some self worth and get out of this situation. Find a way to keep yourself before he's not willing to do it anymore.

hlb622 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
I must've missed this nonsense earlier but our child is not an accident or mistake. We both planned for this pregnancy. This is something we as a couple wanted and as with anything we made it happen. We both are thrilled so in no way is he ashsmed. My child will be what makes him a father and a real man. He always wanted this and I am the woman who gave it to him. So yes for that reason I am proud.

At least you're right about one thing here, OP. He is most definitely not a real man. Real men don't cheat on their wives and knock up the first chick that's willing to put out. I keep flashing forward to 20 years from now when your LO is crying over a homewrecker like you or you realize you've raised a man that's exactly like his father: a deceitful, manipulative POS.

And P.S., you said he'll never cheat on you and the blatant ignorance of that comment literally made me spit out my water. So naive. It's almost impressive.

amberrrjade · September 2013

Spoiler: He's not leaving his wife. Before you can tell me I'm mean, you're right. I hate the other woman. And, no, (to my knowledge) I have never been cheated on, I just have no respect for you. Get a lawyer with that expense account he set up with you. I'll keep wishing for your relationship. While I'm at home. With my husband.

Amcdonnel1028 · September 2013

I just can't even..

This is so disgusting.

amberrrjade · September 2013

I CAN NOT WAIT UNTIL HIS WIFE FINDS OUT AND SUES THE SHIT OUT OF HIM AND THEN HE HAS NO MONEY AND YOU HAVE NO MONEY!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA

Also, I hope you realize that you are just a "high class" prostitute. Everyone has pretty much already said everything I would have if I got here sooner... but just ew on you. I feel so bad for his wife, so so so bad. You are seriously just... no words! Also, you need to pop out of Denial land and get a lawyer, because once he can't keep up with his wife and your shamily, he's peacing out.

OH AND!!!! How is going to be a great dad when he's married to someone else who doesn't know his child exists? I hope you're not having a girl, because just think, one day this could happen to her. Wouldn't it break your heart if some man was fucking another women behind your daughter's back and then find out it was because she couldn't bare him a child? Doesn't that make you sick to your stomach thinking that could happen??? And I hope you don't have a son because you'll probably just teach him it's okay to treat women people like filth.

KevsLove · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
I don't need to defend my relationship to any of you. Also his wife is not my priority, my child and myself come first and foremost.

Sorry honey, you're only half right. You've proven that YOU come first, not you child if only because you're willing to go along with his "keep my name if the BC" bullshit.

Also, your actions and words have proven you're a whore, at least own it rather then try to defend your whoring around...

KevsLove · September 2013

:-&

hollowway · September 2013

Pretty sure OP putter the HO in Homewrecker.

jessntim3 · September 2013

I'm done with this post so there is no need for any further comments. This topic is now DEAD!

jessntim3 · September 2013

CLOSED

amberrrjade · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

I'm done with this post so there is no need for any further comments. This topic is now DEAD!

Just like your "relationship" or should I say financial agreement.

ETA: that's a weak gif. Fail.

KevsLove · September 2013

jessntim3 said:
I'm done with this post so there is no need for any further comments. This topic is now DEAD!

Awwww, you're cute. Hockey puck dumb, but cute... Well maybe not cute... Too bad you can't DD anymore.

Any bets as to when she'll comment again?

amberrrjade · September 2013

rczamora said:

jessntim3 said:

CLOSED

Unlike your legs?

hollowway · September 2013

Pretty sure OP put the HO in Homewrecker.

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JennyCupcakes01 · September 2013

I'm sorry, but this IS rather disgusting on both parts.

I hope that baby is healthy and lives a beautiful life, but you two seriously need to nut up and confess to the wife and get shit in order. There is no way he's going to be able to keep that baby a secret AND be a providing father at the same time.

Plus, his wife needs to know what trash he is now so that she can move on and live a better life herself.

deltagirl79 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

There is no family! He doesn't have children with his wife, she never could give him any which is part of the reason his lost interest in her. His family will be with me. I'm making him happy and fulfiliing all of his needs, he will not leave or cheat on me.

You suck. MUD or not, this is shitty to say. You suck a lot.

ac1259 · September 2013

jessntim3 said:

I don't need to defend my relationship to any of you. Also his wife is not my priority, my child and myself come first and foremost.

obviously his wife isn't your priority or you wouldn't be screwing her husband. I really don't get how a woman could do that to another woman in good conscience and act like it's nothing.

LeaLea123 · September 2013

I wonder if this guy really does have kids with his wife and he's also lying to you. Have you snooped into his past? I feel sorry for you and your LO. It would be awful to live your life.

pmarie33 · September 2013

Or.....
His wife is in on it. You know because she couldn't make him a real man. Then together, they will take that child away from your sorry ass. It could happen.

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