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imakeeff0rts · September 2013

michelle7482 said:

I FF because I want to, not bc of medicine, latch problems, breast issues or anything else. I have no desire to BF whatsoever and appreciate that I am not 100% responsible for feeding my child, that DH or family can give a formula bottle at any time. I'm impressed that so many of you are so committed to BF, but I just never felt that way and never felt guilty about it either.

You know what? You SHOULDN'T feel guilty. Period. Any anyone that tries to make you, or any other mother that FFs for whatever reason, deserves a swift kick in the baby maker.

Also - I'm going to reiterate more about how much I fucking hate this place. We live in military housing. We live on a post where most of the women are pregnant. However, the housing company "forgot" to tell people that the water company was working on lines and that you're not supposed to drink/cook with the water for 24-48 hours after they've worked on it. My water has had a slight yellow tint since yesterday. WHAT THE FUCK HAVE I BEEN DRINKING? This is probably why I've been feeling like shit and my husband's giant flipping wound hasn't healed well.

Mrs.AllyH · September 2013

auroraloo said:

Mrs.AllyH said:

I know that US measurements can be very inaccurate at this point (38.3) but I totally cried when the tech told me she's at the 86%. It was only one measurement that was off, the belly, but it was off by 3 weeks! The rest were right on time or behind a little... I just wonder what the OB is going to say next week. I still have my MP, she hasn't dropped and I haven't felt a single contraction; all things I know could change any minute. But I am really afraid that she's going to recommend scheduling a c-section early.

FWIW, DD was measuring over 7lbs at my last US at 37 weeks, and was told she'd be over 9 lbs by 39 weeks. She was born at 40w3d and was only 8 lbs 5 ounces. And her head was/is teeny. 3 pushes and she was out. One stitch. Try to relax, and don't let her schedule you for a CS you don't want or need. (If you need it, that's obviously different)

Thanks. I appreciate ithe reassurance:) I just wish my OB weren't out of town so that I could have had the "what this means" conversation today and not stress out over the weekend! Thankfully LO's head is measuring on time- so hopefully all will go well in the end. Thaks again

DaisylovinMama · September 2013

Oh my gosh I So understand this!! We used to live overseas and the expectation from guests is to do just that feed them provide tea or coffee and dessert as well as a shower. I'm not kidding. It used to drive me batty when most days we were simply trying to feed our own family and adjust to life with 2 new babies. Ugh

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

@DaisylovinMama

Hold the phone. Did I read that right? People expected you to let them shower in your home? I'm not even sure what to say about that.

Do people not understand that you just either pushed a human (or two) out of your vag or had them forcibly removed via major abdominal surgery? That's 100 different kinds of effed up.

DaisylovinMama · September 2013

imakeeff0rts said:
@DaisylovinMama

Hold the phone. Did I read that right? People expected you to let them shower in your home? I'm not even sure what to say about that.

Do people not understand that you just either pushed a human (or two) out of your vag or had them forcibly removed via major abdominal surgery? That's 100 different kinds of effed up.

Yup! No joke, I understand we were foreigners in a different country with actual indoor plumbing but I remember shaking my head many times, thinking I just don't get it

erink7211 · September 2013

DaisylovinMama said:

@DaisylovinMama

Hold the phone. Did I read that right? People expected you to let them shower in your home? I'm not even sure what to say about that.

Do people not understand that you just either pushed a human (or two) out of your vag or had them forcibly removed via major abdominal surgery? That's 100 different kinds of effed up.
Yup! No joke, I understand we were foreigners in a different country with actual indoor plumbing but I remember shaking my head many times, thinking I just don't get it

Whaaaaat?!?!? Oh hell no! despicable me gif photo: whaaat despicable me minion gif tumblr_leiun3zcrv1qe94gj.gif

leahaustin · September 2013

I am soooo sick of people telling me when I will go into labor...."Oh it won't be anytime soon because you don't look uncomfortable enough..." or "You will definitely go late."

First of all, are you physic because I am pretty sure not even my OB knows when I will have my LO for sure.

Second of all, I don't want to think about when my LO will come. I just want to enjoy my last days or weeks of pregnancy and let her come when she comes! Ugh...

OK, I am done now. lol.

Jenmarie279 · September 2013

If someone would have asked me just days ago about being ready for the baby to come out I would have said some BS about being content with waiting until my due date. Now, I am so ready to not be pregnant. Of course I want LO to stay as long as she needs to, but seriously, these pointless contractions every night are getting old.

MJHershey · September 2013

DaisyZH said:

OliveMom3 said:

I HATE when people come to see the baby empty handed, overstay their welcome and/or expect to be fed. I find it rude and I judge them. Any tips for gently suggesting this doesn't happen? I'm not one to be super direct and order someone to bring something or eating in front of others and not offer them food. I don't mind saying "baby is tired and we both sleep at the same time" to get them to leave, but sometimes they don't get the message and I hate being pushy.

We had a big problem with some guests after DS was born. One person arrived at 5 pm when DS was home for a few days, did not call ahead, and proceeded to stay until 11 pm. I actually had put on my pajamas, we were telling them that we needed to get to bed, every hint in the book was dropped and did not work. They just sat there holding the baby, and on this occasion and another when they came to visit they expected to be fed and ate the dinners that others had been kind enough to drop off for us.
My DH and I are not confrontational people, but we have a plan this time. We are telling everyone up front that we need to keep DS on a schedule and so are only having visitors until his bedtime. Also we are asking that people call first before coming. We googled polite ways to get people to leave and if hints do not work our absolute last-ditch response will be to stand up, say "Well thank you so much for coming, it was so nice of you" and to start gathering their coats for them. We got this from Miss Manners, although I so hope it doesn't come to this.

I so don't understand how some people don't have enough awareness to get hints and make their way out. Granted I have a good friend that always overstays and I have to be blunt with her. So sorry you had this experience.

imakeeff0rts · September 2013

DaisylovinMama said:

@DaisylovinMama

Hold the phone. Did I read that right? People expected you to let them shower in your home? I'm not even sure what to say about that.

Do people not understand that you just either pushed a human (or two) out of your vag or had them forcibly removed via major abdominal surgery? That's 100 different kinds of effed up.
Yup! No joke, I understand we were foreigners in a different country with actual indoor plumbing but I remember shaking my head many times, thinking I just don't get it

Yeah...there's no way I'd let that happen short of baby having a poosplosion on someone.
Not. Happening.

mkb5g5 · September 2013

These last couple of weeks I've been having thoughts and regrets about what the hell I got myself into by marrying and having a baby with DH. Don't get me wrong I'm excited for LO and I love DH more than ever. But it's not him it's the ILs and I can't help but keep thinking this is my child's family and who he will grow up knowing. My family isn't a whole lot better so I feel bad for having these thoughts but that doesn't stop them.

CutieBean79 · September 2013

I'll be 39 weeks tomorrow and I am done. I confess that I never thought I'd make it to my due date so I'm not content to wait for it. DD1 was born at 38w5d and I thoroughly expected to go safely early again. Stupid? Maybe. But I don't care that I "signed up for 40 weeks" - I'm in pain and an emotional mess, not to mention I'm a completely useless mom right now. Get this baby out.

HBirdie · September 2013

Every day when I come on here, I skim the titles and try to find the 'real' topics and discussions among all the birth stories and AW baby posts. Don't get me wrong, I'm soooo happy for everyone who is having healthy babies. I'm just tired of reading the same things over and over again, especially when so many of them are usernames I don't recognize. Sometimes I make myself open a few to comment on just for the sake of doing it and being supportive.

Bamgal25 · September 2013

imakeeff0rts said:

The AF, Navy, and Marines train their pilots (or some of them) on nice posts near beaches. The Army, however, had to be the rebels and punish their aviators and send them to Alabama. I swear, if I see one more love bug, I'm going to burn this state to the ground.

I know there's an Alabama girl floating around here somewhere - sorry. I just. Ugh. It's nothing personal.

Also, I wish there was some kind of system to keep stupid people from having children. The level of stupid that has been going on here over the last few days makes me weep for humanity.

Aw, sad day. Am I the Alabama girl you're referring to? And I don't take it personally... I love living in Alabama but I understand a lot of people don't, especially if you didn't grow up in the south. Where are you from originally?

Also, I'm with you on restricting stupid people from procreating. Some people don't deserve to have kids.

SweetPeaK26 · September 2013

CutieBean79 said:
I'll be 39 weeks tomorrow and I am done. I confess that I never thought I'd make it to my due date so I'm not content to wait for it. DD1 was born at 38w5d and I thoroughly expected to go safely early again. Stupid? Maybe. But I don't care that I "signed up for 40 weeks" - I'm in pain and an emotional mess, not to mention I'm a completely useless mom right now. Get this baby out.

My dd2 came at 38/2, which was yesterday for me this time around. I had a total meltdown last night because I thought we'd go even earlier this time (simply based on the crazy amount of bh I've had since may). I just feel like my body isn't working right this time around, and I'm so stinking miserable.

mrsmoxie · September 2013

mkb5g5 said:
These last couple of weeks I've been having thoughts and regrets about what the hell I got myself into by marrying and having a baby with DH. Don't get me wrong I'm excited for LO and I love DH more than ever. But it's not him it's the ILs and I can't help but keep thinking this is my child's family and who he will grow up knowing. My family isn't a whole lot better so I feel bad for having these thoughts but that doesn't stop them.

Don't feel bad. I feel like I could've written this myself. Luckily we live 5 hours from our families. If we lived close, we both know our marriage wouldn't last, that's how much arguing goes on between us when his family comes to visit.

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

@HBirdie: I totes agree. I go down the forum page and I am like "wtf is this?" "wtf is that?"... "Induction, mucus plug, blah blah blah"

mkb5g5 · September 2013

FutureMrs07282012 said:

mkb5g5 said:
These last couple of weeks I've been having thoughts and regrets about what the hell I got myself into by marrying and having a baby with DH. Don't get me wrong I'm excited for LO and I love DH more than ever. But it's not him it's the ILs and I can't help but keep thinking this is my child's family and who he will grow up knowing. My family isn't a whole lot better so I feel bad for having these thoughts but that doesn't stop them.
Don't feel bad. I feel like I could've written this myself. Luckily we live 5 hours from our families. If we lived close, we both know our marriage wouldn't last, that's how much arguing goes on between us when his family comes to visit.

I would love to live 5 hours away. Unfortunately we live less than 5 minutes away from both of our families.

HBirdie · September 2013

mkb5g5 said:

FutureMrs07282012 said:

mkb5g5 said:
These last couple of weeks I've been having thoughts and regrets about what the hell I got myself into by marrying and having a baby with DH. Don't get me wrong I'm excited for LO and I love DH more than ever. But it's not him it's the ILs and I can't help but keep thinking this is my child's family and who he will grow up knowing. My family isn't a whole lot better so I feel bad for having these thoughts but that doesn't stop them.
Don't feel bad. I feel like I could've written this myself. Luckily we live 5 hours from our families. If we lived close, we both know our marriage wouldn't last, that's how much arguing goes on between us when his family comes to visit.
I would love to live 5 hours away. Unfortunately we live less than 5 minutes away from both of our families.

I have two sets of in-laws (yay, lucky me...) and they're both literally three blocks away (in opposite directions). I'm with you, I sooooo wish they were further.

JocelynB0911 · September 2013

I wish mobile bump would show you who started the thread so I would know who had their baby. Too many new people that I don't recognize/ have no relationship with to honestly care about their birth story. There I said it.

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

We can fix that by announcing birthstories with usernames in the subject line! Or a secret code like "*$% Baby Time"

happybride 276 · September 2013

As much as I am ready to have this baby, I feel like there is nothing I candy to help my dilation issue. So instead of walking, having sex, eat pineapple, and all these other OWT I have decide to eat what I want and rest. Why should I try to push things along to just be more uncomfortable than I am now?

happybride 276 · September 2013

We can fix that by announcing birthstories with usernames in the subject line! Or a secret code like "*$% Baby Time"

Or maybe the should post intro and birth story. I am so glad I am not the only one who has been wondering who the hell everyone is that posts lately.

mkb5g5 · September 2013

I've officially decided to give up wearing underwear! I'd rather be free and jiggle than be in anymore pain. There I said it!

HBirdie · September 2013

Another from me. I slept in super late because I didn't sleep last night, which isn't that big a deal... I got up just a little before DH came home for lunch. While he was here, we chatted and played a card game, then when he left, I crawled back into bed and just laid there with my eyes closed. for five hours. Not sleeping, but not doing anything else either. I feel so guilty for wasting a whole day, but my car is in the shop so I'm stuck at home, the weather is just gross enough to deter me from going for a walk, and I didn't feel like sorting baby clothes or working on my quilt. What a sloth.

HBirdie · September 2013

kimberlymacrae said:

@HBirdie: I totes agree. I go down the forum page and I am like "wtf is this?" "wtf is that?"... "Induction, mucus plug, blah blah blah"

@kimberlymacrae: Your comment reminded me of this:

kimberlymacrae · September 2013

Oh jeeze that is funny. I might be in the need for some funny-kitty-gif-soup.
Oh man... the "I am uncomfortable and having irregular contractions... labor?" Thread just now almost put me over the edge.

happybride 276 · September 2013

I wish there was a way to block the random drive Byers that want a ton of support and for us to hold their hand when they have not introduced themselves or made any effort what so ever

happybride 276 · September 2013

kimberlymacrae said:

Oh jeeze that is funny. I might be in the need for some funny-kitty-gif-soup. Oh man... the "I am uncomfortable and having irregular contractions... labor?" Thread just now almost put me over the edge.

It did put me over the edge. WTF is being used far too often in my life lately.

kje120 · September 2013

CutieBean79 said:
I'll be 39 weeks tomorrow and I am done. I confess that I never thought I'd make it to my due date so I'm not content to wait for it. DD1 was born at 38w5d and I thoroughly expected to go safely early again. Stupid? Maybe. But I don't care that I "signed up for 40 weeks" - I'm in pain and an emotional mess, not to mention I'm a completely useless mom right now. Get this baby out.

I was the same way. DS1 was born at 37w6d and I was so bummed when I made it to 39w with this one. I don't blame you for being "done".

4Angel5 · September 2013

I colored my own hair this week, bitched about my boss to a coworker who is friends with her, and hollered at my 11-yr old when she stubbed her toe and wanted sympathy - the only reason she stubbed her toe was because she was refusing my help with the homework she "just couldn't figure out"... I think she's just as hormonal as I am. I explained to her later that I figured our hormones were clashing and I was wrong to yell, but I still wasn't going to give her sympathy for stubbing her toe when it happened out of her own spite! The next few years will be interesting to say the least.

barnratash · September 2013

My coworker just found out today that she miscarried and I'm feeling horribly guilty about being pregnant. I know I can't do anything about it but I feel bad since we've been talking about how our kids will only be 8 months apart and how great it will be. And then every single customer comes in and asks how much longer I have, etc and I want to tell them all to stfu for my sake and hers.

TKtravels · September 2013

Forgive me, I've got my cranky pants on tonight.

I am so effing sick of people projecting their thoughts and feelings regarding pregnancy (and specifically being at the end of pregnancy) on to me. I've now taken to either ignoring people or being a complete bitch to them when they start getting all "oh, you must be so anxious and so uncomfortable because this is all so new to you.." and I don't feel the least bit bad about it. I'm actually not that uncomfortable, and the only anxiety I'm feeling is coming from family members who last bore children in the 1960's and insist on trying to play fun little quiz games with me to see if I know how to handle various L&D things, or issues that one may face with an infant.

Also, I'm delighting in writing my thank you cards for my last shower (last weekend). It was thrown by H's family, who view me as being frivolous and wasteful for following accepted etiquette in American culture (H's family is from another country, and despite the fact that many of them have been here for longer than I've been alive, they really resist certain aspects of acculturation). I'm usually all for respecting cultural differences, but when you opt not to send thank you cards (or other widely-accepted markers of the dominant culture) because you're so cheap, and then judge people who do follow this practice, I think you're rude and tacky. I can't wait until our kids are old enough to hold a pen/pencil because they will definitely be trained at a young age to write their own thank you notes.

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