FFFC!

SLaBM2B · September 2013

@brandilc84 I misread the helicopter post... I thought you were saying he did it in front of the kids lol! My bad tree. But I still don't think you have any right to call her nasty or say ur side eyeing her judgement as a mother. What does having sex with her sleeping child in bed who woke up and smiled have anything to do with her ability to be a good parent? Are you a perfect parent? Have you ever done something questionable as a parent? Just bc you wouldn't do it doesn't give you the right to call her nasty & think she's making poor parenting decisions

WasNotWas · September 2013

My concern with all the sex with the baby in the room thing was the lady who said the kid smiled because of the bouncing...I'd be worried about bouncing him off! But that might just be my style ::winky face::

SLaBM2B · September 2013

Lol @willman2585

SLaBM2B · September 2013

CarolynL8 said:

I personally couldnt get it on with the baby even awake in the room let alone in the bed with us. It freaks me out as it is that he stares at my crotch when im going in the shower. Lol Granted, he has no idea what hes looking at but its still weird! Funny. But weird! I couldnt imagine giving the hubby a bj or having sex with him in bed with us. ETA... To each their own!

But if you did give ur H a BJ while J was in the room I wouldn't say you're nasty or a bad mom

HeartLikeMine3 · September 2013

I'm just going to stay in the neutral zone on this hot topic but I do have to say thank you ladies for this wonderful weekend entertainment SPICY

WasNotWas · September 2013

SLaBM2B said:

CarolynL8 said:

I personally couldnt get it on with the baby even awake in the room let alone in the bed with us.
It freaks me out as it is that he stares at my crotch when im going in the shower. Lol
Granted, he has no idea what hes looking at but its still weird! Funny. But weird!
I couldnt imagine giving the hubby a bj or having sex with him in bed with us.
ETA... To each their own!

But if you did give ur H a BJ while J was in the room I wouldn't say you're nasty or a bad mom

Why are we giving BJs? I thought that was a pre-marriage thing...

SLaBM2B · September 2013

Only durin the 6-8 w PPP

WasNotWas · September 2013

WasNotWas · September 2013

measton8809 said:
Wait we're not supposed to give BJs once we're married? Is he not supposed to go down town either?

Pssshhhhtt. He can go to town all he wants, but he knows better than to give just to receive. He gets things warmed up and then we can have sex. If I give a BJ then the show is over. I've convinced him that this logic is sound.

WasNotWas · September 2013

PinkPuffyHeart2 · September 2013

We've DTD with the dog in the bed before.

ETA:

costa2011 · September 2013

SLaBM2B said:

measton8809 said:

My daughter started noticing the tv more. I told my husband that we need to be more aware of when she can see it and make an effort to turn it off. I have not changed anything yet. I'm making no effort. Also. I'll go there. Lilly has bad reflux. We have her on Enfamil AR with the rice cereal in it but we also bought rice cereal to use just in case. Both were the recommendation of her doctor. When I asked about the unnecessary calories and arsenic in the rice he said that the calories aren't a concern because Lilly is in the 15% for weight. As far as the arsenic he said the amount is so minute that it wouldn't effect her. We haven't used the cereal yet but if theAR didn't work, we would. And one last one I won't give Lilly Tylenol until the very second the doctor said she needed it. I don't have it in the house. I will however pop ibuprofen for every ache and pain for myself.

My doc also suggested a teaspoon of rice cereal in Rad's bottle for reflux. I haven't had to use it, but to me it seems better than putting him on medication (only b/c he doesnt have it that bad - I understand for kids who have it really bad).

Also, Radley has noticed the TV too.. he especially notices it during UFC & Bellator fights (and TUF since the season just restarted). Do we change the channel? No. Do we encourage him to be an MMA fighter, yes.

DD notices the TV all the time now. Spoke w/ pedi about it, it's fine still at this age. No long term lasting effects. All they know is they see moving colors and it's entertaining. I'm still limiting her though.

And DD has also been getting a teaspoon of rice cereal in her bottle before bed. She's had reflux I feel forever. Just when we thought we could stop propping her mattress too...had to go back to doing that. I rather give her rice cereal in her bottle ANYDAY than have her on a medication that may not be necessary.

costa2011 · September 2013

Ok, I missed this yesterday so for my one FFFC...

I let DD taste some of the things I eat or drink. Plain vanilla ice cream, apple juice, apple sauce, mashed potatoes.

It's just a little taste on her lips and it's so awesome to watch her reactions. No harm done, tons of smiles all around.

costa2011 · September 2013

GingerBabyTX said:

YellowLily2013 said:

Also, I don't sterilize bottles or pump parts. Eh, I feel like they are getting clean enough with the hot soapy water.

I wasn't doing this either, but then when I got an infection (MRSA of all effing things) and an abscess from the clogged duct, I was WISHING I'd sterilized them more often. Not even sure that's what caused it, but it's the first thing that came to my mind. NOT flaming!! Just saying!

We don't sterilize either. I was specifically told by my pediatrician...yes ladies, for real...that if you have city water, you do not need to sterilize and washing w/ hot soapy water is good enough. It's well water that's concerning. I took it and ran with it, one less than I have to do in my day.

JinglesChic · September 2013

42Butterflies said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty? FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.

MrsAuby · September 2013

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

JinglesChic said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty?

FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.

Yea, I was about to say, Riley watches me from across the room and watches me walk around!

JinglesChic · September 2013

42Butterflies said:

42Butterflies said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty? FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.
Dude. Chill. I never expressed or pushed any beliefs and I did say that I didn't care. About either issue. Really, if you wanted to DTD with 10 people and your kids in the same room, I really don't care. I'm the last person to judge anyone, point fingers, and say "you are wrong." Plus this is the Internet. With strangers. If you were my best friend I'd tell you how I really felt. I was merely pondering how a group of people could get upset over one thing but completely ignore something else that seemed to me like it should come wrapped in a flame resistent suit. And based on your response, I assume you have been flamed before.

By your word choice you made it clear that you were judging. No I haven't really bee flamed on here about that before, but I have had to defend my position many times. I don't see what is flammable about it. I didn't do anything illegal and since my children never knew about it when we were practicing, I didn't make a poor parenting choice. In my eyes it's as if I said I was gay. You love who you love and you can't help it. And frankly, the world would be a better place with more love in it.

TheTamedShrew · September 2013

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

JinglesChic said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty?

FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.
Dude. Chill. I never expressed or pushed any beliefs and I did say that I didn't care. About either issue. Really, if you wanted to DTD with 10 people and your kids in the same room, I really don't care. I'm the last person to judge anyone, point fingers, and say "you are wrong." Plus this is the Internet. With strangers. If you were my best friend I'd tell you how I really felt.

I was merely pondering how a group of people could get upset over one thing but completely ignore something else that seemed to me like it should come wrapped in a flame resistent suit. And based on your response, I assume you have been flamed before.

By your word choice you made it clear that you were judging. No I haven't really bee flamed on here about that before, but I have had to defend my position many times. I don't see what is flammable about it. I didn't do anything illegal and since my children never knew about it when we were practicing, I didn't make a poor parenting choice. In my eyes it's as if I said I was gay. You love who you love and you can't help it. And frankly, the world would be a better place with more love in it.

Do what you wish (not judging), but try not to compare polyamory to homosexuality. It's not even remotely the same thing.
To imply that you have been persecuted or prejudiced against (the way homosexuals have been) for your CHOICE to have relationships outside of your marriage is ridiculous and a bit off putting, IMO. What you do in your MARRIAGE (see, that thing that a lot of homosexuals can't legally have)
is your choice, but not something you "can't help". People aren't born needing more than one sexual partner. That is absolutely a choice. Recognize and appreciate the difference.

And yes, I went ahead and opened that can'o'worms...
I was bored while being stuck under my growth spurting, ravenous child.

WasNotWas · September 2013

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

JinglesChic said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty?

FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.
Dude. Chill. I never expressed or pushed any beliefs and I did say that I didn't care. About either issue. Really, if you wanted to DTD with 10 people and your kids in the same room, I really don't care. I'm the last person to judge anyone, point fingers, and say "you are wrong." Plus this is the Internet. With strangers. If you were my best friend I'd tell you how I really felt.

I was merely pondering how a group of people could get upset over one thing but completely ignore something else that seemed to me like it should come wrapped in a flame resistent suit. And based on your response, I assume you have been flamed before.

By your word choice you made it clear that you were judging. No I haven't really bee flamed on here about that before, but I have had to defend my position many times. I don't see what is flammable about it. I didn't do anything illegal and since my children never knew about it when we were practicing, I didn't make a poor parenting choice. In my eyes it's as if I said I was gay. You love who you love and you can't help it. And frankly, the world would be a better place with more love in it.

SLaBM2B · September 2013

@jingleschic I'm curious.... Did y'all get married in a church? With that question out of the way, I don't quite understand why someone would get married when they want to bang other people. Marriage, to me and many of us, is a sacred commitment. A commitment of 2 ppl (unless you're into polygamy). Now, what two people is (sadly) debatable. I believe marriage should be of any 2 consenting adults no matter what the orientation. Others believe its only for a man & woman. Anyway, I'm sure you know that.... Like @jo27key said, do not compare being whatever you are to being gay. It's so not even close to being the same thing. And hey, if you man is okay with you being married to him and banging other dudes on the side, fine, I just pray your kids never find out. They will either think their mommy is a ho, or worse, they will decide to do the same thing when they are older and obviously not care about the sacred value of marriage.

CindyRelluh · September 2013

SLaBM2B said:

brandilc84 said:

KateNP2013 said:

brandilc84 said:

KateNP2013 said:

Sex is better post-baby and we have it everyday. Yes...DD is in the room and sometimes she is asleep and sometimes she is awake. Once she was in the bed and smiled at us.

Mmk- I know it's flame free Friday or whatever, but I think there is an exception to the rule...this would be one of them! I think this is disgusting and totally inappropriate! Really makes me side eye your judgement as a mother. How is this even remotely okay to do?
It's one thing if you LO is sharing a room with you at the moment, and they are sleeping in their bed....go ahead get it on, or if they wake up while you are in the middle, go ahead and get yours, but really?? How the hell did you guys even get in the mood when your LO is laying right next to you, awake, and smiling at you??
GROSS!
I am not one to get on here and flame anyone either- it's not my style, however...this is totally flame worthy- and I am actually surprised that no one else flamed you already!

Just to clarify, she was sleeping the one time it happened. She woke up, looked at us and smiled. NBD. It is not like she is going to have any memories of it.

Why even get it on with your man in the same bed your LO is sleeping in, in the first place though? Like- you can't take it to the couch? Move your LO to their own bed? Take it to the shower? On the floor? There was no other spot to DTD, other then the same bed your LO was sleeping in?
I know your LO won't remember it, (thank GOD) it's just the mere fact of it that makes it totally inappropriate.

OH FFS @brandilc84 why are you so ass hurt by her and her H having sex with LO in bed? Ever hear of bed sharing? Do you think the parents put their kids on the floor when they do the deed? Her LO won't remember shit. You're sitting here talking about your H doing the helicopter in one post, then calling her nasty & side eyeing her

judgement as a mother in another? Get off your high horse honey. NONE of us are perfect parents.

Yeah I really think this is ridiculous. I can't handle how prudish people are.

mrskait13 · September 2013

JinglesChic said:

42Butterflies said:

42Butterflies said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty? FTR, I don't care about either.

Well mine is based on the belief that you can love more than one person at the same time and all parties involved were 1. consenting adults and 2. not at all witnessed by children. Polyamory is different than swinging, and even if it was the same, please don't push your beliefs on mine, no matter how "beautiful" they may be.

P.S. a baby sees more than just 2 feet away at this stage. That's why they can track you as you move around the room.
Dude. Chill. I never expressed or pushed any beliefs and I did say that I didn't care. About either issue. Really, if you wanted to DTD with 10 people and your kids in the same room, I really don't care. I'm the last person to judge anyone, point fingers, and say "you are wrong." Plus this is the Internet. With strangers. If you were my best friend I'd tell you how I really felt. I was merely pondering how a group of people could get upset over one thing but completely ignore something else that seemed to me like it should come wrapped in a flame resistent suit. And based on your response, I assume you have been flamed before.

By your word choice you made it clear that you were judging. No I haven't really bee flamed on here about that before, but I have had to defend my position many times. I don't see what is flammable about it. I didn't do anything illegal and since my children never knew about it when we were practicing, I didn't make a poor parenting choice. In my eyes it's as if I said I was gay. You love who you love and you can't help it. And frankly, the world would be a better place with more love in it.

This is where you are ENTIRELY wrong. Practicing Polyamory is NOT comparable to being homosexual and if you think that you are incredibly selfish. you are able to marry whom you want. You are CHOOSING to have multiple partners. A Gay man or Lesbian woman cannot even make the choice to marry ONE partner.

Whatever you want to practice in your life is your choice, however there will come a time when your children will catch on to what is going on around them (No matter how "sneaky" you are). And they will tell there friends, trust me, and then you will have to deal with the crappy repercussions because you "can't help who you love".

kacelle · September 2013

brandilc84 said:

KateNP2013 said:

Sex is better post-baby and we have it everyday. Yes...DD is in the room and sometimes she is asleep and sometimes she is awake. Once she was in the bed and smiled at us.

Mmk- I know it's flame free Friday or whatever, but I think there is an exception to the rule...this would be one of them! I think this is disgusting and totally inappropriate! Really makes me side eye your judgement as a mother. How is this even remotely okay to do?
It's one thing if you LO is sharing a room with you at the moment, and they are sleeping in their bed....go ahead get it on, or if they wake up while you are in the middle, go ahead and get yours, but really?? How the hell did you guys even get in the mood when your LO is laying right next to you, awake, and smiling at you??
GROSS!
I am not one to get on here and flame anyone either- it's not my style, however...this is totally flame worthy- and I am actually surprised that no one else flamed you already!

CarolynL8 said:

This is me all the time. I have also admitted to being polyamerous, so I have had a boyfriend and husband before - with both of them knowing and being cool with it.
So people are butt hurt about DTD with babies around that can barely see farther than 2 feet, yet no one points out this beauty? FTR, I don't care about either.
If the baby is in the bed next to you i think its in the 2 ft range unless the baby is on the edge of the bed which would be a whole other issue!

We bought a king-sized mattress to put on the floor so we could bedshare with DD early on (she now sleeps on a crib mattress next to our floor bed). So IF we were to have sex with her on the same bed, she could safely be a few feet away from us--and not feel anything, considering that it's memory foam. Haha.

kacelle · September 2013

costa2011 said:

Ok, I missed this yesterday so for my one FFFC...
I let DD taste some of the things I eat or drink. Plain vanilla ice cream, apple juice, apple sauce, mashed potatoes.
It's just a little taste on her lips and it's so awesome to watch her reactions. No harm done, tons of smiles all around.

Actually, that can do some pretty significant harm to a baby's system as they can't digest those foods--not to mention that it could be particularly dangerous allergy-wise.

mrskait13 · September 2013

We bought a king-sized mattress to put on the floor so we could bedshare with DD early on (she now sleeps on a crib mattress next to our floor bed). So IF we were to have sex with her on the same bed, she could safely be a few feet away from us--and not feel anything, considering that it's memory foam. Haha.

Dont you love memory foam?!

kacelle · September 2013

mrskait13 said:

We bought a king-sized mattress to put on the floor so we could bedshare with DD early on (she now sleeps on a crib mattress next to our floor bed). So IF we were to have sex with her on the same bed, she could safely be a few feet away from us--and not feel anything, considering that it's memory foam. Haha.
Dont you love memory foam?!

It's been so nice! So I play devil's advocate and suggest that it could be totally not weird to have sex in the same giant bed as a sleeping baby.

mrskait13 · September 2013

costa2011 said:

Ok, I missed this yesterday so for my one FFFC...
I let DD taste some of the things I eat or drink. Plain vanilla ice cream, apple juice, apple sauce, mashed potatoes.
It's just a little taste on her lips and it's so awesome to watch her reactions. No harm done, tons of smiles all around.

Actually, that can do some pretty significant harm to a baby's system as they can't digest those foods--not to mention that it could be particularly dangerous allergy-wise.

Can you enlighten me how you will determine what your child is allergic to when you do start giving them food?

kacelle · September 2013

mrskait13 said:

costa2011 said:

Ok, I missed this yesterday so for my one FFFC...
I let DD taste some of the things I eat or drink. Plain vanilla ice cream, apple juice, apple sauce, mashed potatoes.
It's just a little taste on her lips and it's so awesome to watch her reactions. No harm done, tons of smiles all around.

Actually, that can do some pretty significant harm to a baby's system as they can't digest those foods--not to mention that it could be particularly dangerous allergy-wise.

Can you enlighten me how you will determine what your child is allergic to when you do start giving them food?

Not sure if you're asking in seriousness or not, but the signs of a food allergy in infants include (from webmd):

Hives or welts, Flushed skin or rash, Face, tongue, or lip swelling, Vomiting and/or diarrhea, Coughing or wheezing, Difficulty breathing, Loss of consciousness

From what I'm told, an allergy usually doesn't present itself the first time a child is exposed to it--it takes multiple exposures (from my scientist husband, so he's taking the fall if this is wrong--haha). So a parent could casually offer a small taste of a dairy product to a tiny baby, assume the baby wasn't allergic, and not monitor the child closely at the next exposure. Dangerous stuff.

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mrskait13 · September 2013

the way you made it sound was that you wont offer your child some foods for fear of allergy.

I was implying, how could you determine they were allergic before letting them try them out.

PERSONALLY, i don't give my son any sort of food yet. however next month (at 4m old) per the recommendation by his pedi, we can start him on stage 1 foods. A lot of babies in here range from 4 - 3 months. I don't find her post flame worthy because her child might be closer to that 4m marker. she isn't giving her child a spoonful of foods. she dabbing it on their lips to watch a reaction. imo there was FAR worse things you could be doing as a parents than letting your child experience some new tastes and sensations.

IF someone was giving their child spoonfuls of food & like... steak to chew on I might side eye them. but the small dab, meh.

kacelle · September 2013

mrskait13 said:

the way you made it sound was that you wont offer your child some foods for fear of allergy.

I was implying, how could you determine they were allergic before letting them try them out.

PERSONALLY, i don't give my son any sort of food yet. however next month (at 4m old) per the recommendation by his pedi, we can start him on stage 1 foods. A lot of babies in here range from 4 - 3 months. I don't find her post flame worthy because her child might be closer to that 4m marker. she isn't giving her child a spoonful of foods. she dabbing it on their lips to watch a reaction. imo there was FAR worse things you could be doing as a parents than letting your child experience some new tastes and sensations.

IF someone was giving their child spoonfuls of food & like... steak to chew on I might side eye them. but the small dab, meh.

Nah, we were pretty laidback with solids with DD #1 and I'm sure we'll be the same with LO. We allowed her to have the common allergen foods until careful monitoring when she was ready for them (neither of us have any food allergies). But we did wait until the 6 month mark (later, actually, because she couldn't handle it even then)--she definitely wasn't ready for any sort of solid food before then (tongue thrust reflex). What I've been reading in the past couple of years seems to suggest that doctors are pushing for 6 months rather than 4 now because the babies' digestive systems aren't quite ready until then. I'm sure that varies from baby to baby though.

JinglesChic · September 2013

My wording came out wrong yesterday and I apologize. I was tired and stressed with a bunch of things, including DS and his stitches yesterday. I in no way was trying to trivialize homosexuals right to get married. Communication, especially when there's only writing on the fly isn't my strongest area.

There is different types of polyamory with poligamy being one of them, which I wholeheartedly support. If someone wants to be family, it shouldn't matter who or how many so long as they all are in agreement. Why should it be two people only? They are not hurting anyone else by becoming a larger family unit. I don't expect that this thinking will ever become mainstream, but there are a lot more poly people out there than people realize. They don't like to come out though for fear of social stigma in people not understanding what it's really about.

To answer the other questions (since I've always been open about it), we started before we got married, taking breaks with major life events like marriage and kids, and we never had the fidelity clause written in our original vows. We eloped first for us and then got married in the church for our family. We practiced a primary/secondary type relationship so our love was first before the others and we were polyfidelous (we only had sex with our spouse and partners while we were with them).

The biggest reason why we stopped was because DH's girlfriend tried to break us up. We felt that we needed to concentrate on us and although the set up didn't work for us doesn't mean that it won't for anyone else. The other reason is because I am a Christian and struggle with both sets of beliefs systems. If I'm honest though I truly miss practicing poly. I felt complete when I had my DH and BF and even liked DH's GF for most of their relationship. Just because he loved her too didn't mean that he loved me any less. It isn't a finite amount of it.

Most of my immediate family knows we were poly, so I'm sure one day my kids will too. I'll be honest with them just like I always am and let them know it's okay who they love and how they love as long as all parties involved consent.

SLaBM2B · September 2013

zigspective said:

@JinglesChic, I don't agree with your lifestyle, and I hope you weren't married in a church and were so bold to blatantly disrespect and disregard the sacrament of marriage.

Oh blarg. Whatever someone chooses to do with their marriage is a-ok as long as all parties involved agree to the arrangement. They could be having Caligula style orgies with goats*, it doesn't affect you and your beliefs, which is actually what the "sacrament" of marriage is. Heck, Christianity as a whole can't even decide if marriage is actually a sacrament so how about we leave someone's marriage to themselves and their own chosen deity. And while we're on the topic... this comment?

I just pray your kids never find out. They will either think their mommy is a ho, or worse, they will decide to do the same thing when they are older and obviously not care about the sacred value of marriage.

Far more disgusting than a poly relationship. Truth hurts, doesn't it?

TheTamedShrew · September 2013

I think the issue with polyamory is the fact that you feel the need to hide it from your children "unless they ask about it", and then claim that you are hiding it because society isn't open minded enough. I don't agree that society should be widely accepting of this type of practice because I think it raises too many possible disruptions to, not only the sanctity of the marriage commitment, but the family structure itself. I do not honestly believe this is a healthy practice to bring up children in, and I don't see how it could possibly work for any stable family. The OP clearly stated that it did not end up working for her family. This whole "spread the love" ideology that is tied with it is terribly flawed and a complete crock of baloney if you ask me.

And don't even get me started (although it seems I already have)on polygamy because the fact that it is tied in with the ancient misogynistic views prevalent in certain religious doctrines is disgusting to me. You don't see women going around with five husbands, and then defending it by going around thumping their bible scriptures do you? Just gross...

I'm not going to throw around angry words or accuse jingles of being a bad mother because I don't think that at all, but I have yet to see any family survive and thrive in this lifestyle once children are in the picture. It's challenging enough for me to keep the romance alive in one relationship now, much less two or three. Feel free to prove me wrong.

Can I add that this is Monday and the FFFC is still going? Nuts!

tiffletons518 · September 2013

jo27key said:

I think the issue with polyamory is the fact that you feel the need to hide it from your children "unless they ask about it", and then claim that you are hiding it because society isn't open minded enough. I don't agree that society should be widely accepting of this type of practice because I think it raises too many possible disruptions to, not only the sanctity of the marriage commitment, but the family structure itself. I do not honestly believe this is a healthy practice to bring up children in, and I don't see how it could possibly work for any stable family. The OP clearly stated that it did not end up working for her family. This whole "spread the love" ideology that is tied with it is terribly flawed and a complete crock of baloney if you ask me. And don't even get me started (although it seems I already have)on polygamy because the fact that it is tied in with the ancient misogynistic views prevalent in certain religious doctrines is disgusting to me. You don't see women going around with five husbands, and then defending it by going around thumping their bible scriptures do you? Just gross... I'm not going to throw around angry words or accuse jingles of being a bad mother because I don't think that at all, but I have yet to see any family survive and thrive in this lifestyle once children are in the picture. It's challenging enough for me to keep the romance alive in one relationship now, much less two or three. Feel free to prove me wrong. Can I add that this is Monday and the FFFC is still going? Nuts!

All of this!! And, also jingles had mentioned missing having a bf in addition to her husband. If you are happiest in your marriage when you aren't only with your husband, then maybe poly isn't what will make you happy. Maybe a different husband would.

FordFalcor · September 2013

This is the thread that never ends
It goes on and on my friends...

I still think doing the hibbety dibbety with kids IN the bed is squicky. As for the other stuff in this thread.. ::slowly backing away::

SLaBM2B · September 2013

jo27key said:

I think the issue with polyamory is the fact that you feel the need to hide it from your children "unless they ask about it", and then claim that you are hiding it because society isn't open minded enough. I don't agree that society should be widely accepting of this type of practice because I think it raises too many possible disruptions to, not only the sanctity of the marriage commitment, but the family structure itself. I do not honestly believe this is a healthy practice to bring up children in, and I don't see how it could possibly work for any stable family. The OP clearly stated that it did not end up working for her family. This whole "spread the love" ideology that is tied with it is terribly flawed and a complete crock of baloney if you ask me. And don't even get me started (although it seems I already have)on polygamy because the fact that it is tied in with the ancient misogynistic views prevalent in certain religious doctrines is disgusting to me. You don't see women going around with five husbands, and then defending it by going around thumping their bible scriptures do you? Just gross... I'm not going to throw around angry words or accuse jingles of being a bad mother because I don't think that at all, but I have yet to see any family survive and thrive in this lifestyle once children are in the picture. It's challenging enough for me to keep the romance alive in one relationship now, much less two or three. Feel free to prove me wrong. Can I add that this is Monday and the FFFC is still going? Nuts!

I vowed I would liven this board up when I came back to work... I think I'm doing an okay job so far ;-)

And, I agree with all the words.

SLaBM2B · September 2013

Where is my "taking a bow" GIF @willman2585 ?

WasNotWas · September 2013

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