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July 2013 Moms
kalemi
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Cant care for baby
kalemi
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Some of you may remember I posted a little over a week ago about a massive blood clot I had and was hospitilized for. I had a catheter placed behind my knee that ran up to the top of my thigh. After three days, a stent was placed and I was diagnosed with May-Thurner Syndrome. I was released last Thursday and sent home. I was sent to the er yesterday and still have multiple small clots.
Right now, DS is with my parents 13 hours away and its breaking my heart. My husband is active duty military and is not allowed time off to help me. I cant walk at all and was told my recovery could take up to 6 months. For the time being, I have a friend coming over multiple times during the day to walk our dogs and help me get breakfast, lunch, etc. I can barely take myself to the bathroom. Its been almost 2 weeks since Ive seen DS. Im beyond thankful that my parents have the funds to fly back and forth multiple times a week and are giving him the care I cant currently provide. Im just missing so much. I hear him on the phone cooing and just cry. I want to hold him and cuddle him so much. I get a bunch of pictures every night of what DS did that day, and it somewhat helps. My mom is bringing DS back to me Sunday and will be staying with me until she finds someone to stay with me everyday and help care for me and DS. The only reason my mom didnt stay up here the first place is I have a sibling at home that needs her.
I guess there really is no point to this. Im just upset and missing my son. I feel like the worst mother for missing out these last two weeks. But then what kind of mother would I be If I denied him the care he needs. Ugh. Feel free to disregard this post. I just needed to get it out.
Right now, DS is with my parents 13 hours away and its breaking my heart. My husband is active duty military and is not allowed time off to help me. I cant walk at all and was told my recovery could take up to 6 months. For the time being, I have a friend coming over multiple times during the day to walk our dogs and help me get breakfast, lunch, etc. I can barely take myself to the bathroom. Its been almost 2 weeks since Ive seen DS. Im beyond thankful that my parents have the funds to fly back and forth multiple times a week and are giving him the care I cant currently provide. Im just missing so much. I hear him on the phone cooing and just cry. I want to hold him and cuddle him so much. I get a bunch of pictures every night of what DS did that day, and it somewhat helps. My mom is bringing DS back to me Sunday and will be staying with me until she finds someone to stay with me everyday and help care for me and DS. The only reason my mom didnt stay up here the first place is I have a sibling at home that needs her.
I guess there really is no point to this. Im just upset and missing my son. I feel like the worst mother for missing out these last two weeks. But then what kind of mother would I be If I denied him the care he needs. Ugh. Feel free to disregard this post. I just needed to get it out.
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Re: Cant care for baby
Wishing you the best and a speedy recovery.
Wishing you a fast recovery so you and your little one can be together again
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
D 2.20.2011 & Z 7.16.2013
Wishing you a quick recovery.
TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4
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DS born at 34 weeks with (surprise!) gastroschisis turned short bowel syndrome.
131 days in the NICU, 7 trips to the OR, G-button, daily TPN....
DD's Food Allergies: Peanuts and Rice, Outgrown Dairy!
8/09 Dx PCOS & Hashimoto's
BFP #2 12/13/11. Missed M/C at 11w5d, measured 8w6d. D&C 2/1/12
Never in my arms, but always in my heart.
January. Whatever happens, we will make the best of it.
Thank you everyone.
You and your son have the rest of your lives to spend together, and soon these hard weeks will be a distant memory. You sound like a very strong Mom who thinks of your son first, even though it sounds like physically you are going through hell. He's lucky to have you.
T&P for a speedy recovery.
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