UO Thursday...

cammyisagirlsname · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

esf60 said:

Mary is a place holder? Matthew? A place holder for what? Maybe the significance is that they like the name... Not sure I get it.

That is what had me confused. I guess @txmamatobe is saying that there is no significance to the name and it just is there to take up space??

It's like my middle name. Ann. No significance. My mom just liked the way Jennifer Ann sounded.

MamaHanna · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

MamaHanna said:

A "filler" name is like Ann or Mary for a girl and David or Mathew for a boy. Names that have been used about a million times that have no signifacance to the person but are just there kind of as a "place holder." My LO's middle name is going to be Margaret which is a very common filler name but it has meaning to me because it was my grandma's name.

Oh. I've never heard of that. I just figured people picked names because they liked the name or it had a meaning to them....Hmmm... I never considered people were like, "Well, this is the only thing that will fit here...Might as well use it." To me, that means nothing to a person. A name is part of your identity. It is part of who you are.

Yep. My middle name is Christine, no real meaning to it. My mom just thought it flowed well with Kaitlyn. Same thing with my brother Joseph Ryan...we don't know anyone named Ryan and she really did not even like the name that much but it sounded nice with Joseph.

Edit- The reason why I called it a "place holder" is because there is no reason to have a middle name.

74dragonfly · August 2013

My UO is I don't like siggy challenges. I never have. I don't see the point of changing all the time. I'm also on mobile most of the time and can't see siggys anyway.

MissyC979 · August 2013

I hate when people use the phrase "you're special" in a derogatory way. I don't think it's any better than saying "you're retarded." I think most people know that using the word "retarded" is hurtful and not appropriate, but I don't think saying "you're special" is any better.

nicholssquared · August 2013

nicholssquared said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

nicholssquared said:

Actually, I have a UO. I don't like PSL. Or starbucks. There, I said it.

ETA: And I don't get why there are like 3 or four threads circulating about them. Seriously? Who cares that much?

Come on now... You can't relate to being super excited that a beloved seasonal food is now available again? Even if you don't like PSL or Starbucks, surely you can at least understand the concept of being excited about them. It's like the craze at McDonalds when the McRib and Shamrock shakes come around. I don't like either of those things, but I don't side eye people who get excited about them.

Hmm...I'm seriously going to give this some thought now. I don't really like fast food, but maybe I could think of a "seasonal" food that I get excited about. Mainly, I just like food...all the time. Maybe that's why I don't get the appeal?

Several different threads AWing over if it's available in their area yet or not? I can't think of a single food I'd get that excited about. Sorry, it seems as if people are obsessed.

There's another one!

Lawren · August 2013

Mary Kay women are a little crazy. When I see them I run the other direction. I don't want to sell your make-up.

TXmamatobe · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

Cashingn2 said:

@SweetSouthernMomma08 regarding your comment

The whole thing has me confused and now wondering if people think LO name is a filler name...

The problem is that you care what people think. Your boy has a great name and other's opinions if it aren't important. It's your decision.
Awwww...You're too sweet. I think LO has an AMAZING name...DH, and everyone else we've told, love it. So, I'm cool with it. But, you are right. I do care too much what other people think.

And just for the record…I didn’t mention ANY names in my original comment. Your idea of what might be considered a filler name and mine may be completely different. I would never speak out against any name that someone has chosen for their child – not my style. No one should be made to feel that the name they have chosen is ‘not good enough’ and you should be proud of what you have chosen.

I have one of the most generic names in the universe probably but compared to the alternative that my mom liked in the 80’s, I think I lucked out. I could have been Stevie Jane (still a girl) – Good Lord.

MissyC979 · August 2013

Cashingn2 said:

I guess my UO is that calling my daughter by her name makes it seem more real. I don't do it often but I do on occasion. My DH always calls her Anja and I think it's sweet.

Same here. Using his name makes him feel more real to me and I think it is helping DH and DS connect with him more. I love when DS talks about the baby and uses his name.

Mrbatesisinnocent · August 2013

onewayticket said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.
I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...

This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.

My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.

nicholssquared · August 2013

Re: Names just because you like them.

I will say that my name is 100% my mother just liked it. No other significance. And I really don't like my name. I can't say whether that's coincidental or causal, but maybe if I had been given a family name, or a name in line with my families heritage, even if I didn't like it, I'd at least be able to understand why she picked it. I feel like my name has zero appeal, so I won't understand why she picked it and it does frustrate me sometimes.

To add insult to injury, both my sisters got beautiful, Italian-inspired, named after family names. She had them a decade+ later, she had probably grown up a little bit. Still, I'm a little miffed.

Also, it bothers me because I'm going to want to encourage my children/grandchildren to not name their children after me. And that's a little sad, too.

But, I feel like I can judge my mother's name choices because they affect me. Would I jump all over someone who wanted to name their daughter with my exact name if I didn't know them. No, I wouldn't - it may be really significant to them. I just give the benefit of the doubt.

mightymousy · August 2013

nicholssquared said:
Actually, I have a UO. I don't like PSL. Or starbucks. There, I said it.

ETA: And I don't get why there are like 3 or four threads circulating about them. Seriously? Who cares that much?

I was just coming on to post this too, I'm sick of threads about pumpkin spiced lattes!

lollipoppoop · August 2013

Mine stems from my sister who called me last night to say she was pregnant with her 4th child. She is already on welfare. She proceeds to tell me that she was using the pull out method and didn't think she could get pregnant because she never got that way before. I am sorry but that is not a method of birth control and you have had 3 other kids so you know how babies are made. I hate when people try to act like their baby was an accident and its not their fault but yet that was their "method" of preventing.

TXmamatobe · August 2013

Mrbatesisinnocent said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.

I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...
This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.
My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.

I eye roll a lot of the shit I read on the weekly edition of this thread – that’s perfect since it’s called unpopular opinion Thursday. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

MamaHanna · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

MamaHanna said:

Yep. My middle name is Christine, no real meaning to it. My mom just thought it flowed well with Kaitlyn. Same thing with my brother Joseph Ryan...we don't know anyone named Ryan and she really did not even like the name that much but it sounded nice with Joseph.
It feels akward to say I'm sorry...But, I am. To me, a name is supposed to mean something. Or at least it is something you really like. And to know that my name meant nothing to my mother, that would make me feel like a part of me means nothing to her, if that makes sense (it sounds really dramatic to me, but i can't figure out how to word it better...).

I get it. I always thought it was weird that she even bothered to give me a middle name if she really did not care what it was an just randomly picked something.

Hey it could be worse! My poor BIL has a middle name with a lot of meaning to his family. Problem being that the Aribic version was Betrose and they thought that was to hard so they went with the english-Peter. Some how between my MIL being totally out of it after the birth and my FIL's lack of english reading/wrighting skills his name is now Isaac Beater...yes Beater...like "He is a wife beater." Not the best name for a buff 6 foot tall middle eastern guy!

RMR13 · August 2013

Mrbatesisinnocent said:

onewayticket said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.
I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...

This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.

My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.

It's only a filler name if there is no meaning behind it. My middle name is Marie because it sounds nice,making it a filler name. If it was for my grandma Marie(who doesn't exist) it would not be a filler name.

n8swife · August 2013

I hate the movie "The Goonies. "

BAM. I said it. I've been holding that in for years.

lollipoppoop · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

n8swife said:

I hate the movie "The Goonies. " BAM. I said it. I've been holding that in for years.

I fell asleep during it...and haven't felt the need to try to watch it again.

Oh Em Gee! that is my favorite movie of all time lol

utlawgirl · August 2013

KFiori1 said:

I don't like calling the baby by its' name before it arrives. I don't know why, I just feel like it's weird. With DS and DD we had a name picked out as soon as we found out the sex (nothing for this baby yet) but I still referred to the baby as he or she, not the name.

ITA with this. That's part of the reason I don't share names before the birth. Maybe superstitious a little bit? Mostly, it just skeeves me out a bit.

natleilynn · August 2013

n8swife said:

I hate the movie "The Goonies. " BAM. I said it. I've been holding that in for years.

I've never watched it. DH flipped when he found out.

To be fair, I'd also never seen the Wizard of Oz until college. DH found out I'd never watched it, staked it out on TBS and we spent one Friday night watching Wizard of Oz. He's severely traumatized by my childhood, apparently.

bwade007 · August 2013

nicholssquared said:
My mom calls the baby "Baby Gaga." It makes me stabby. Not to mention I think she specifically tries to put her hands on my belly when I'm not expecting it, knowing that I loathe that. No boundaries...

When my DH and I went to visit my ILs about a month ago, my MIL would kiss my stomach EVERY time we passed each other. When we were getting ready to go to the airport to fly home at the end of the visit, I was already sitting in the car when she sneak attacked me and said she had forgotten to kiss the baby goodbye. I ended up at the airport with lipstick on the stomach area of my shirt...

I'm so happy that she is so excited about the baby, but boundaries would be so nice.

bishesbcrazy · August 2013

bwade007 said:

nicholssquared said:
My mom calls the baby "Baby Gaga." It makes me stabby. Not to mention I think she specifically tries to put her hands on my belly when I'm not expecting it, knowing that I loathe that. No boundaries...

When my DH and I went to visit my ILs about a month ago, my MIL would kiss my stomach EVERY time we passed each other. When we were getting ready to go to the airport to fly home at the end of the visit, I was already sitting in the car when she sneak attacked me and said she had forgotten to kiss the baby goodbye. I ended up at the airport with lipstick on the stomach area of my shirt...

I'm so happy that she is so excited about the baby, but boundaries would be so nice.

Oh hell naw....I think with that first kiss, she would've known that it wasn't okay.

nicholssquared · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

Seriously. I actually just had a moment of panic.....I'm about to see MIL and my mother next week. I'm definitely looking pregnant...........I'm not sure if they'll keep their hands to themselves. I am okay with certain people touching the bump. Others, keep your freaking distance. And I'm 99% sure, they both fall into that second group. I am not even a big fan of hugging my mother. And, now she is going to want to touch.....Oh snap. Thanks for that reminder ladies.

My advice: Set boundaries clearly and right away. If they're not respected, respond with violence.

bishesbcrazy · August 2013

lrachelle80 said:

RE: filler names. Both my FN and MN have no significant other then my mom liked them and thought they were pretty, but they are both fairly unusual/unique names, so no one would ever guess that in a million years. I'm not named after anybody or anything special. She just like them and thought they flowed together well. On the other hand, this little one's middle name will probably be what most would consider a filler name at first glance, but it will definitely be after someone – Ann, Marie, Elizabeth, Catherine… All names of important women in my life. I guess my point is, unless you know for sure they just picked a name for the hell of it, there's no way of knowing judging based on just the name alone. I personally much prefer at least one of the names to have some special significance… But there's no problem in just choosing one you think is pretty or just like either!

Soozerella said:

So filler names are okay for first names but not middle names?

I agree with both of these statements. I know my FN and MN have no significance whatsoever and it never bothered me. My parents liked the names. No biggie. DD and DS have middle names that have significance (they honor DHs late father), but their first names don't, we just like them.

notkateanymore · August 2013

What the hell is wrong with you Goonie haters??

Gapeach83 · August 2013

n8swife said:
I hate the movie "The Goonies. "

BAM. I said it. I've been holding that in for years.

How dare you this is the worse uo ever

(

As for filler MN mines Lyn most think its filler. There are ton of us even on here most spelled Lynn. Mine is from my grandmother Evelyn. I don't hate it but does get annoying that everyone has the same MN especially in our generation.

bishesbcrazy · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

nicholssquared said:

My advice: Set boundaries clearly and right away. If they're not respected, respond with violence.

I sorta luck out...I'm only in either place for a few days. So, I should be able to survive. But, I do have to go back to my parent's house in October and possibly November. But, I will only be there for a few days at a time. Everyone else is pretty good about not touching. Or barely barely touching. Like, they reach and say, aw your showing, touch my shirt and remove their hands. lol.

And, as cute as I look today in my shirt, I'll probably NOT take this one to either place. It looks very nice, but because it has a tight band at my hips, I look very pregnant...And I have a feeling, that might = touching.

I'm not a touchy feeling type of person either (besides with DH and DD) so my family knows not to get all up on me, but DH's family is unreal.

When I was about 16 weeks, I just randomly started touching my stomach and DH's grandmother was next to me and she instantly reached over and was like "is the baby moving" I looked at her like she was crazy and said, "no, i was just touching my stomach."

I don't mind letting people touch my stomach if they ask, but those who just start rubbing their hands all over my stomach, yeah, they get a few words from me...basically along the lines of "oh, can I start rubbing my hands all over your body too."

bwade007 · August 2013

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

Seriously. I actually just had a moment of panic.....I'm about to see MIL and my mother next week. I'm definitely looking pregnant...........I'm not sure if they'll keep their hands to themselves. I am okay with certain people touching the bump. Others, keep your freaking distance. And I'm 99% sure, they both fall into that second group. I am not even a big fan of hugging my mother. And, now she is going to want to touch.....Oh snap. Thanks for that reminder ladies.

Last Christmas when they were visiting, I would get in bed at the end of the day, and the whole family thought that it was ok to come stand at the foot of the bed and talk to me while I was in bed. (They would come in individually, not as a unit. That would have made me lose it.) Finally when his sister did it, I just started yelling, "Boundaries!! Boudnaries!! You people need boundaries!" Slightly awkward, but I got my point across because then my FIL would stand in the hallway and yell at me from there.

lollipoppoop · August 2013

Soozerella said:

What the hell is wrong with you Goonie haters??
I somehow feel like to hate the goonies you must have never had an awkward or dorky phase. Or are in denial that you did.

My ex boyfriend used to work with Chunk at Chilies

northport6 · August 2013

UO: I hate when people ask me if I'm "excited."

I'm a lot of things about this baby, but "excited" isn't one of them. In fact, I don't think I've been "excited" about anything since I was 12 and my dad came home with a princess phone for my bedroom. But if you say anything less than an enthusiastic "yes" then people look at you like you're nuts and destined to be a bad, confused, overwhelmed mother. I'm not excited. I am however, content, calm, centered, prepared and ready to dedicate myself to the task of raising a family. So suck on my lack of excitement, bitches.

Mrbatesisinnocent · August 2013

Cashingn2 said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.

I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...
This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.
My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.
Aren't most UO's kinda judgy? I've determined that's the point of these. Sometimes, I really like getting to be a bit judgmental without being too harsh

True enough. Most are, and then there are the inane post like "I dislike mangoes", which is truly more of an opinion, but people rarely care about those posts.

blainethetrain · August 2013

Mine is that I'm getting irritated by people complaining about family and friends getting excited and wanting to be involved in everything baby.

I work with a segment of the population who would be so pumped just to have their baby daddys acknowledge their babies, let alone a MIL who wants to be around and help.

My MIL can be as overbearing and annoying as can be, but at the end of the day, she loves my son and would give a lung for him. I'm grateful for that.

zou bisou · August 2013

Whenever anyone quotes the (in)famous line, "Baby showers are to welcome a woman to motherhood" I wonder what their evidence for that is. It looks like pure opinion to me.

nicholssquared · August 2013

superspecialsnowflake said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

nicholssquared said:

Actually, I have a UO. I don't like PSL. Or starbucks. There, I said it.

ETA: And I don't get why there are like 3 or four threads circulating about them. Seriously? Who cares that much?

Come on now... You can't relate to being super excited that a beloved seasonal food is now available again? Even if you don't like PSL or Starbucks, surely you can at least understand the concept of being excited about them. It's like the craze at McDonalds when the McRib and Shamrock shakes come around. I don't like either of those things, but I don't side eye people who get excited about them.

Hmm...I'm seriously going to give this some thought now. I don't really like fast food, but maybe I could think of a "seasonal" food that I get excited about. Mainly, I just like food...all the time. Maybe that's why I don't get the appeal?

Several different threads AWing over if it's available in their area yet or not? I can't think of a single food I'd get that excited about. Sorry, it seems as if people are obsessed.
Yes, exactly - it's an obsession. Hence the joy. No need to apologize for calling us obsessed - we know we are and we're not sorry we love it!

Some seasonal things events/foods to think about:
Some people go ape sh!t for "peeps" around Easter.
Girl Scout Cookies
That favorite holiday dish that only gets served once per year
One of my favs: Edy's Peppermint Ice cream (only out around Christmas. That + Hot Fudge = Crack.)
If you want to think outside of food, think about the season premiere or finale of your favorite TV show. You know, the one where you make your week's plans around watching it and time stops when it's on. Then you want to talk about it with all the people you know watch the show. Same concept.
Seriously, I'm trying not to become ragey about all the "I'm sick of hearing about PSL" posts. Guise, it'll be done in a week. Once everyone has had their first PSL of the season, all this will go away. Let us have our fun. Don't be a buzzkill.

But, but....I like being a buzzkill.

lba0614 · August 2013

Wow it's only 10am where I'm at and theres already five pages holy crap.

I haven't gone through even the first page yet, but I'll go ahead and do mine now anyway.

I think the whole sex vs gender debate is stupid. I get it, trust me, no need to explain the logic to me. I just think it's stupid that people get so bent out of shape over one word vs the other. I use gender just because I think it's a nicer word (yeah I'm a weirdo for that I'm aware lol). But yeah, I just think people ought to get over it. No one is TRYING to be offensive by using gender instead of sex, and it's just one of those things people want to complain about anyway. Sheesh.

Mrbatesisinnocent · August 2013

RMR13 said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.

I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...
This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.
My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.
It's only a filler name if there is no meaning behind it. My middle name is Marie because it sounds nice,making it a filler name. If it was for my grandma Marie(who doesn't exist) it would not be a filler name.

But then how could she determine it was a filler name? I really doubt she's had a meaningful conversation with every individual or the parents of the individual to find out if their name had some sort of meaning that happened to have a name she determined to be "filler". And onewayticket's comment about Jamie Lynn Spears solidified that in my mind. I'm pretty confident that the likely scenario did not go something like "Hi Mrs. Spears. This is onewayticket and I just had a question for you. Did you name Jamie Lynn after someone special? or did you just slap Lynn on her since it had a nice ring to it?" {also as a side note, I just googled Jaime Lynn's name and I did not know her mother's name was Lynne so I bet that may have been a factor}

It's just too generalized. If her UO was "I think names should have some significant meaning rather than just sounding good" I could have said great - that's an opinion, not one I definitely agree with, but it's an opinion, rather than some judgy blanket statement implying that anyone who has some sort of common name is a filler name.

onewayticket · August 2013

Heaven802002 said:

My nose ring is cool as shit. I've had it for almost 17yrs, I have never once regretted it & it has never held me back professionally.

I'm so jealous. I've always wanted a nose ring but I already have a little mole on my nose so it wouldn't look right. I used to have my tongue, labret and belly button pierced.

I still have my belly button pierced. My BB is an outie now so it looks pretty silly but I am still hanging on! DH always tells me I look ridiculous.

onewayticket · August 2013

Mrbatesisinnocent said:

RMR13 said:

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

TXmamatobe said:

I don’t like ‘filler’ middle names. I won’t list any that I believe fit into that category as not to overly offend anyone – my middle name could be considered a filler so I feel like I can say this without too much shame.

I am not sure I understand what "filler" middle names means...
This makes me think "Lynn" or "Ann" as in Jamie Lynn Spears.
My middle name is Lynn and it's significant. My middle name is after my mother and she was named after her grandmother. I think this is just a judgy judge post in disguise. My LO's middle name would fall into MamaHanna's filler name category, but she will be named after my neice. I think it's probably a very small handful of people out there that simply slap a name on their kid. It's usually one of the most thought about issues a parent thinks about while pregnant. I eye rolled hard when reading this one.
It's only a filler name if there is no meaning behind it. My middle name is Marie because it sounds nice,making it a filler name. If it was for my grandma Marie(who doesn't exist) it would not be a filler name.
But then how could she determine it was a filler name? I really doubt she's had a meaningful conversation with every individual or the parents of the individual to find out if their name had some sort of meaning that happened to have a name she determined to be "filler". And onewayticket's comment about Jamie Lynn Spears solidified that in my mind. I'm pretty confident that the likely scenario did not go something like "Hi Mrs. Spears. This is onewayticket and I just had a question for you. Did you name Jamie Lynn after someone special? or did you just slap Lynn on her since it had a nice ring to it?" {also as a side note, I just googled Jaime Lynn's name and I did not know her mother's name was Lynne so I bet that may have been a factor}

It's just too generalized. If her UO was "I think names should have some significant meaning rather than just sounding good" I could have said great - that's an opinion, not one I definitely agree with, but it's an opinion, rather than some judgy blanket statement implying that anyone who has some sort of common name is a filler name.

Those names just sound like filler to me. It has nothing to do with meaning/ no meaning. I just don't really like those names... Sandra Lynn, Barbara Ann, Mary Sue. Just NMS. To each their own.

nicholssquared · August 2013

lba0614 said:

Wow it's only 10am where I'm at and theres already five pages holy crap.

I haven't gone through even the first page yet, but I'll go ahead and do mine now anyway.

I think the whole sex vs gender debate is stupid. I get it, trust me, no need to explain the logic to me. I just think it's stupid that people get so bent out of shape over one word vs the other. I use gender just because I think it's a nicer word (yeah I'm a weirdo for that I'm aware lol). But yeah, I just think people ought to get over it. No one is TRYING to be offensive by using gender instead of sex, and it's just one of those things people want to complain about anyway. Sheesh.

That's kinda like saying "I think I should be able to use the word retard if I want to. I'm aware it's offense, but meh..."

It may be NBD to you, but it is a big deal to the people to whom it references. Saying that you're aware, but you're still going to say what offends people makes you look inconsiderate. How difficult is it to say "sex" instead of "gender"? Actually, it's phonetically easier to say "sex"...

Honestly, I am a very hard person to offend, so stuff like this is all purely hypothetical to me. I just don't see why anyone would go out of their way to be offensive when they don't have to be. It doesn't make any sense to me...

bishesbcrazy · August 2013

Ashleynh5 said:

lba0614 said:
Wow it's only 10am where I'm at and theres already five pages holy crap.

I haven't gone through even the first page yet, but I'll go ahead and do mine now anyway.

I think the whole sex vs gender debate is stupid. I get it, trust me, no need to explain the logic to me. I just think it's stupid that people get so bent out of shape over one word vs the other. I use gender just because I think it's a nicer word (yeah I'm a weirdo for that I'm aware lol). But yeah, I just think people ought to get over it. No one is TRYING to be offensive by using gender instead of sex, and it's just one of those things people want to complain about anyway. Sheesh.

Did ya really have to bring this up? Gah.

Oh Sweet Baby Jesus, please let's not have this debate again.

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MEP923 · August 2013

gwinnygirl said:

lba0614 said:

Wow it's only 10am where I'm at and theres already five pages holy crap.

I haven't gone through even the first page yet, but I'll go ahead and do mine now anyway.

I think the whole sex vs gender debate is stupid. I get it, trust me, no need to explain the logic to me. I just think it's stupid that people get so bent out of shape over one word vs the other. I use gender just because I think it's a nicer word (yeah I'm a weirdo for that I'm aware lol). But yeah, I just think people ought to get over it. No one is TRYING to be offensive by using gender instead of sex, and it's just one of those things people want to complain about anyway. Sheesh.

Oh. This again. How long was our streak with this, a month?

I will make sure to inform my trans friends that they should get over trying to explain why they find using the words interchangeably offensive.

I don't get bringing this up. This hasn't been much of a debate since first trimester. You say you don't get it and it's a stupid argument then why drag it out of the shadows? And as Gwinny said, it doesn't offend you but it does offend some and you are never going to change those people's mind so just leave it alone.

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