Stress during a pregnancy..

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

I know of someone who's under a huge amount of stress during her pregnancy and I keep warning her to please relax the baby feels what your feeling and I even googled for her what could happen and no matter what I say she continues to let the BS get to her. I'm very worried over her and wish there was a way for me to help. Anyone know of a story about someone who was pregnant and who had a sick child because of this?

esf60 · August 2013

For G-d's sake, do not tell your stressed friend about people who were stressed during pregnancy and ended up with sick kids. Are you kidding?

ekruegerrn · August 2013

I'm not sure shaming her into your point of view is really helpful. Try being a good friend and be supportive instead. Some people deal with stress different than others. Let her and her doctor worry about her. You worry about yourself.

cherylnicole · August 2013

I started reading responses and basically loved everyone's posts and it's because they're all right. Stop freaking your friend out MORE. If she's stressed out the last thing she needs is you telling her how she's harming her baby.

Try taking her out for a pedi or something relaxing.

backoffunicorn · August 2013

I was incredibly stressed with work last week and if someone had told me to just calm down for the sake of my baby, I would've lost it. Try to let her be rather than stress her out more.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.

ekruegerrn · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:
I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.

Should you LET her continue???

Omg you are not her mother.

notkateanymore · August 2013

Well, you are certainly not helping her stress by making her feel bad. Lay off.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

ekruegerrn said:

Supergirl2013 said:
I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue???

Omg you are not her mother.

I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will
listen to.

utlawgirl · August 2013

So listen to her. Give her good advice if she asks for it. Then butt out. You telling her she's going to make her baby sick by stressing out is NOT helping.

malamutemommy · August 2013

It's her life. If she wants to chase after this guy, she's going to. Nothing you say is going to change her mind. Just try helping her de-stress herself. Don't try stressing her out more by saying she's harming her baby. That's not helpful, and is stressing her out more I'm sure.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

JaxxM said:
i personally stay out of baby-daddy boyfriend husband drama. its not your place to get involved... i would personally tell her i didnt want to hear about it anymore... Seems like she might be seeking out the drama and loving the attention.by telling people.

I don't think so. She is with a man who has been cheating and she refuses to just let him go. I don't know what else to say to her. I know she feels like its the end of the world right now and she is only 4 months long. I pray she finds the strength to try and move on for her own peace of mind and health.

hjweber · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue??? Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.

notkateanymore · August 2013

You know...I knew you sucked before, but wow. This is a new low, even for you. Shaming your friend into doing what you think is best basically because you seem bored and looking for drama. Get a fucking hobby.

swirl25 · August 2013

That really is the worst thing to tell your friend. It's great that you are worried and want to help her, but anxious/stressed people do not WANT to be stressed -- it's not something you can turn on and off like a switch. Telling her she will harm the baby if she doesn't chill out will only contribute to more stress for her. As for the baby daddy drama...."don't shoot the messenger" comes to mind. Be there for her if she needs to talk, but she has to want to change her own situation.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

hjweber said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ekruegerrn said:

Supergirl2013 said:
I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue???

Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will
listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.

Her mom is the type of person that says she will learn the hard way and will talk negatively about her man.

cherylnicole · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

i personally stay out of baby-daddy boyfriend husband drama. its not your place to get involved... i would personally tell her i didnt want to hear about it anymore... Seems like she might be seeking out the drama and loving the attention.by telling people.
I don't think so. She is with a man who has been cheating and she refuses to just let him go. I don't know what else to say to her. I know she feels like its the end of the world right now and she is only 4 months long. I pray she finds the strength to try and move on for her own peace of mind and health.

You shouldn't have to say anything else to her. You've given your opinion to her on the matter. From here on out you need to just be supportive of whatever decision she makes. It's not your place to reprimand her.

Be careful. I would probably just push you away if it were me. She doesn't need another mother in her life. It's not your place to tell her what's good for her. She'll figure it out on her own.

notkateanymore · August 2013

superspecialsnowflake said:

By your logic, stress is harmful to pregnant women and their babies.

You are stressing over your friend.

Therefore, it stands to reason that you should back off. You know- for the health and safety of you and your child.

and the karma of course.

hjweber · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

Supergirl2013 said:

I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue??? Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.
Her mom is the type of person that says she will learn the hard way and will talk negatively about her man.

It's still not your place to tell her to leave 'her man'.

lba0614 · August 2013

My mom and DH are always telling me to stop being so stressed. I have moments where it all just gets to me and I can tell my blood pressure goes up.

Well it DOES NOT help when they CONTINUOUSLY remind me that I'm stressed and that it isn't good for me or the baby!

Leave your friend alone. Take her for a spa day or something if you want to help her relax.

ekruegerrn · August 2013

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MEP923 · August 2013

KateMW said:

You know...I knew you sucked before, but wow. This is a new low, even for you. Shaming your friend into doing what you think is best basically because you seem bored and looking for drama. Get a fucking hobby.

RanFan28 · August 2013

Oh Supergirl...what exactly are you looking to get out of this? Drama is not Super...stop defending yourself.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

hjweber said:

Supergirl2013 said:

hjweber said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ekruegerrn said:

Supergirl2013 said:
I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue???

Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will
listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.
Her mom is the type of person that says she will learn the hard way and will talk negatively about her man.

It's still not your place to tell her to leave 'her man'. </blockquote

Again I'm not the only person who feels this way

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

superspecialsnowflake said:

KateMW said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

By your logic, stress is harmful to pregnant women and their babies.

You are stressing over your friend.

Therefore, it stands to reason that you should back off. You know- for the health and safety of you and your child.

and the karma of course.

LoL, she's all stocked up on karma according to her earlier post... she got a surprise stroller or something in the mail today.

That has nothing to do about my concern over a person. That's just ignorant on your part.

amberpro · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

hjweber said:

Supergirl2013 said:

hjweber said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ekruegerrn said:

Supergirl2013 said:
I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue???

Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will
listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.
Her mom is the type of person that says she will learn the hard way and will talk negatively about her man.

It's still not your place to tell her to leave 'her man'.

Honestly, it doesn't matter how many people feel that way. Everyone but her could feel that way and it means nothing. She's gonna do what she's gonna do. Be there for her if you're really her friend. Don't shove advice and don't give opinions unless she asks.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

KateMW said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

By your logic, stress is harmful to pregnant women and their babies.

You are stressing over your friend.

Therefore, it stands to reason that you should back off. You know- for the health and safety of you and your child.

and the karma of course.

I am concerned for her but I won't stress over someone who won't help themselves. It's not like I'm calling her or texting telling her every second of the day what to do. When she goes through her issues she's reaching out and asking what should she do but she never takes anyone's advice. I'm just afraid if this continues she can go into pre mature labor or even possibly miscarry. This is her first baby and the way she has been acting and speaking reckless anyone would be concerned.

KFED103 · August 2013

Um...sorry you can't control someone? I guess

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

I am not defending myself I am speaking about someone who is basically losing her mind and going crazy. If she continues to reach out to me then I'm not going to be fake or tell her what she wants to hear. As for taking her to a mani/pedi girl day she won't do any of that stuff. She's really making herself sick over this whole situation. If I say something I'm wrong and if I don't then I don't care enough for her. It's just one of those situations when the person has to find it in themselves to make a change but she is not strong enough to do that.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

KFED103 said:
Um...sorry you can't control someone? I guess

I don't want to control her, no one does. She feels her whole world is crumbling down and that she needs this man to support her and the baby. She has a lot of people in her life who will and can help her financially if need be but she is just so wrapped up in him. She is not independent and too dependent on him.

hnharden · August 2013

IMO you are probably stressing yourself out over worrying about her stressing out. Also, in my personal experience, you can't change someone until they themselves are ready to change. No matter what you say, no matter what 'proof' you give, no matter how many people you get to stand by you... if they are not ready to let go... they aren't going to. Just like with drug-addicts... they have to hit their rock bottom and want to change themselves.

lp0 · August 2013

So your plan is to find stories about sick babies and pregnant ladies to scare her into not stressing herself out? Gee what can go wrong with that plan?

notkateanymore · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Supergirl2013 said:

I am not stressing her out more no way, no how. She keeps putting herself and body through so much because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Everyone who cares about her is listening and trying to give her good advice but she wants to be a hard head and chase after a man who continues to disrespect her. So I should just let her continue down this unhealthy path she's putting herself and child through? I just don't want anything happening to her or her baby and I rather her be educated in the risks she's taking and not take it for granted.
Should you LET her continue??? Omg you are not her mother.
I'm not the only person who feels this way. Her own mother is concerned but she is the last person she will listen to.

So let her mother be the person to scold her for who she chooses to spend her life with. You be a supportive friend, if that's what you are. You don't have to support the relationship, just your friend.
Her mom is the type of person that says she will learn the hard way and will talk negatively about her man.

It's still not your place to tell her to leave 'her man'.

But you seem to be the only one stupid enough to bug her about it. LEAVE HER ALONE.

notkateanymore · August 2013

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6Bu96ALOw

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

KateMW said:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6Bu96ALOw</blockquote

Your the stupid one if you think it's all me when you don't even know this person.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

ColeRose said:
@Supergirl2013 the flag button ain't a dislike button k?

Aren't u a mod now?

2010weddinggal · August 2013

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

ColeRose said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:
@Supergirl2013 the flag button ain't a dislike button k?
Aren't u a mod now?

Yes and you are abusing the flag button. I don't see anything in this thread (that you flagged) that violates the community rules.

And your playing favorites. If I'm
Writing about something and someone else decides to take a dig at me that has nothing to do with the topic and is being catty then I can flag.

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

ColeRose said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:
@Supergirl2013 the flag button ain't a dislike button k?
Aren't u a mod now?

Yes and you are abusing the flag button. I don't see anything in this thread (that you flagged) that violates the community rules.
And your playing favorites. If I'm
Writing about something and someone else decides to take a dig at me that has nothing to do with the topic and is being catty then I can flag.

I am not playing favorites, you were abusing the flag button and the only person in this thread I see violating any rules. I am going to bed now bc 1:15am. </blockquote

I'm violating in my own thread? Clearly u aren't looking hard enough or at all GN

2010weddinggal · August 2013

Supergirl2013 said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Supergirl2013 said:

@Supergirl2013 the flag button ain't a dislike button k?
Aren't u a mod now?

Yes and you are abusing the flag button. I don't see anything in this thread (that you flagged) that violates the community rules.
And your playing favorites. If I'm Writing about something and someone else decides to take a dig at me that has nothing to do with the topic and is being catty then I can flag.

I am not playing favorites, you were abusing the flag button and the only person in this thread I see violating any rules. I am going to bed now bc 1:15am.

clearly you need a snickers so you can have a attiude adjustment just saying.....

Supergirl2013 · August 2013

2010weddinggal said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:

Supergirl2013 said:

ColeRose said:
@Supergirl2013 the flag button ain't a dislike button k?
Aren't u a mod now?

Yes and you are abusing the flag button. I don't see anything in this thread (that you flagged) that violates the community rules.
And your playing favorites. If I'm
Writing about something and someone else decides to take a dig at me that has nothing to do with the topic and is being catty then I can flag.

I am not playing favorites, you were abusing the flag button and the only person in this thread I see violating any rules. I am going to bed now bc 1:15am.

clearly you need a snickers so you can have a attiude adjustment just saying.....

And u should be commenting about the topic or minding your business. Just saying...

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