Facebook group?

ChuggingWater · August 2013

sugarland726 said:

Oh and I'd also like to suggest the possibility that we don't even need to switch to FB. While the white screen is still awful here, posting is significantly easier and with the addition of a love it button, it's more similar to FB. The lurker issue would not be fixed though.

This. I am liking it.

People, you can still have your anonymity while disclosing a little about yourselves.

Sure, if someone followed every.single.one of my posts, and know me outside of TB, they might recognize me. By and large, you can still use internet safety and participate.

ashleywiz · August 2013

Dang- I'm late for the party. I'm in a FB group of mommies from my HS and I quite like it. The only thing I don't like are rando girls I never spoke to in HS now all of a sudden thinking they need to "friend" me. Yeahhhh I'll talk about kids with you, but you don't need to creep on me, HA!

I really don't mind this format at all, as a matter of fact I kind of like it, because then it is a little more "private," granted my pictures and my name are all over, but you'd have to really be looking for me specifically to find me. I really only post to this board so it's very unlikely that other people I know are on here (though one gf from HS has my same due date, so it IS possible).

As far as lurkers-- it would be easier to keep them away if it were a private page, that being said, I think we do a pretty good job of letting them know creep-o status isn't cool (Yeah, that means you OP).

jldubb0626 · August 2013

sugarland726 said:

cyndilouwho77 said:

I am not sure though how you would keep a lurker off of the page...if they ask to be put on how do you say no?

Not to be a smart ass, but you just say no. I'm not at all concerned about hurting someone's feelings compared with guarding the privacy of the members of the group. I say that as an admin of a FB group. Those girls trust me to not let anyone in without discussing it first. I take that seriously. We will just need to establish ground rules when the FB group is opened, and have some admins who are extremely present and watching the group very closely for the first few weeks.

Completely agree. I admin on my FB group and it's taken very seriously. We have some guidelines we follow when adding memebers to the group and all of us admins must agree on someone before we allow them to join. I take my "job" as an admin seriously because my fellow moms in the group depend on me to. We've told many a lurker they couldn't join.

mommahags · August 2013

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light

sugarland726 said:

Oh and I'd also like to suggest the possibility that we don't even need to switch to FB. While the white screen is still awful here, posting is significantly easier and with the addition of a love it button, it's more similar to FB. The lurker issue would not be fixed though.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light

I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

nbbride06 · August 2013

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light

I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

There's already a FB group for Jan 2014? Seriously?

ChuggingWater · August 2013

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

Preach it.

I'm already creating my excel doc of people and there are two categories.

COgirl29 · August 2013

I think a FB group down the road maybe - but not yet. I only use TB on my iPhone - I have never once logged in from my computer - and I don't find it impossible at all??? I may not be able to search for posts but it's not life or death. I think the mobile app works just fine.

Mommasay0 · August 2013

@runrun26.2 I was an April 11 on TB but never joined the FB group, I ended up having my son at the end of March tho. I wish I would have joined the FB group tho

lolinshag · August 2013

Maybe we should start a thread (like an announcement?) Where we each ask "what do I do that drives you insane?" Or "how can I be a better bumpie?" I worry that I have offended someone and didnt know it!

Example: I used to post the tender heart kumbya stuff saying oh don't pick on ______, or can't we all just get along. This was because I was afraid our board would turn out like the one for DD. Now I know enough about you ladies that I don't think we will become all super bitches to each other. Guess you can say I have seen the light, haha.

FB would be great for posting pics and such because mobile bumping sucks, but I totally agree that we need to wait a while longer.

twobluelines · August 2013

I am of two minds. I like this format better for threads than facebook. I don't know if I would like to have to weed through a lot of the junk in my news feeds to find out what is up. But I agree that it would be nice to weed out some of the crap.

I recognize that I am a low level poster because I have a need to read through all of the posts before I reply and often my point has already been made by the time I get to the end.

DamnPrecious · August 2013

ChuggingWater said:

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

Preach it.

I'm already creating my excel doc of people and there are two categories.

Shit, now I'm paranoid I'm in the "Hate This Bitch" category. :-SS

sugarland726 · August 2013

ChuggingWater said:

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

Preach it.

I'm already creating my excel doc of people and there are two categories.

Fingers crossed I make the cut! Also, like I didn't like you already, you do Excel spreadsheets too? Love it. Are there colors? Formulas? Conditional formatting?

SunflowersBride · August 2013

COgirl29 said:

I think a FB group down the road maybe - but not yet. I only use TB on my iPhone - I have never once logged in from my computer - and I don't find it impossible at all??? I may not be able to search for posts but it's not life or death. I think the mobile app works just fine.

I agree. I use TB on my iPhone and iPad and haven't found it difficult at all. I go to the mobile site though and don't use the app, so maybe that's the difference?

mommahags · August 2013

A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it. B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

COgirl29 · August 2013

mommahags said:
A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it.
B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

I can think of a big one right away. My username on the bump isn't my full name and my profile doesn't have my city and state.

ccip82 · August 2013

mommahags said:

A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it. B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

I think the spreadsheet was more or less an exaggeration, but I think many people recognize who the regular or established posters are.

I completely agree with jdubb, I would not want to join a FB with a bunch of women who would be potential strangers to me. I am not saying you have to post multiple times a day by any means, but at least post a handful of times a week and make an effort. What I think is BSC, is people who do not understand this...

aessary03 · August 2013

He he

sugarland726 · August 2013

mommahags said:

A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it. B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

It is confusing to me why you can't understand that while you may know us, we don't know you. And a bunch of people who just happen to be due in the same month is not exactly a voucher of non-crazy. So freaking sue me if I don't want people to know my real name. Yes, I clearly must be bat shit crazy.

Saltina11 · August 2013

I think the Excel spreadsheet thing was just a joke...

ChuggingWater · August 2013

ccip82 said:

mommahags said:

A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it. B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

I think the spreadsheet was more or less an exaggeration, but I think many people recognize who the regular or established posters are.

Uh, yea. Exaggeration. Goodness.

Mobile isn't that difficult.

Hey, look! I'm posting from there right now!

jldubb0626 · August 2013

mommahags said:

A. I didn't say anything g about an existing FB group. If there is one, I don't know about it. B. I read posts, but don't post much because its difficult while mobile, and I don't have much time during the day. I didn't realize you guys were so exclusive. A spreadsheet for who makes the cut for a FB group is absolutely BSC. There is seriously no difference between FB and TB in terms of privacy, unless your profile is totally open. Not sure why some of you can't figure that out.

jldubb0626 said:

mommahags said:

the bump is freaking impossible while mobile & I don't get on the actual computer much/if any since my toddler likes to "help" type. I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you will all finally see the FB light
I'm going to be blunt here, but this is exactly why I wouldn't join right now. You've admitted to not liking TB for your own reasons, which is fine. But the ONLY reason you found your way back here today is because it was brought up on the already created FB group and you decided to add your 2 cents. You haven't been here to support us, you don't participate in the daily conversations and I didn't even realize you had posted here before until I looked at your profile. BTW - outside of today the last time you participated on this page was almost 3 months ago. Why would I expose myself to you on FB if I haven't even been given a chance to "know" you? I'm hoping that when the ladies I "know" decide to migrate to FB, a new group is created because it would bother me to join an already established group of women that I haven't even been exposed to since my BFP.

A. Then do you mind explaining how you came about this thread? Because you said, and I quote, " I only even saw this thread because one of the girls mentioned it since I've been asking her when you all will finally see the FB light". Unless you know someone IRL who is in this group, it clearly sounds like you're referencing being a part of another group. I assumed FB since you clearly don't like TB.

B. It's not exclusive to want to be fimilar with the people you join a FB group with. Yes, FB privacy is good, but you're still revealing your full name and profile picture, AT A MINIMUM. How you don't see why people wouldn't want a lurker like you to have that information, then you are clearly BSC.

And C. If you truly lurked enough to "know" us and be comfortable in a FB group with us, you would have picked up that the excel spreadsheet was sarcasm.

wedbliss5 · August 2013

jldubb0626 said:

And C. If you truly lurked enough to "know" us and be comfortable in a FB group with us, you would have picked up that the excel spreadsheet was sarcasm.

This, above ANYTHING else!

SweetPeaKate · August 2013

Thanks for correcting me ladies.

I guess I just wasn't paying attention enough, which doesn't surprise me. @aprilbridezilla19

aprilbridezilla19 said:

I'm on the original j12 FB group & I love it! We did have a couple crazies, but the group as a whole has been so awesome. And there were almost 200 of us, so I'd say that's more than a small portion We gave people plenty of time to join, but some didn't want to and later made their own group.
I'm sorry you didn't feel like anyone could relate-it seems like there were a lot of preemies on our board. I'm sure we all would have loved to hear from you

SweetPeaKate said:

My BMB with DS (Jan12) had huge discussions and arguments over FB groups. I forget when they attempted to start them, but it was a disaster. They closed the group with only a small portion of TB posters joining and then whoever was left had to start another one or deal with very few postings if any here on TB. People stopped posting here because they either posted on FB or felt like they had been left behind. I never joined in because I wasn't ready plus DS was born at 30 weeks and I didn't feel like I really belonged because I wasn't pregnant anymore and no one could share feelings or answer questions for me.

I'm part of the original group too. And it was close to 200. By the time we decided to close it was because the group had really meshed and shared a lot and it was a couple months later. I remember a lot of time that people could join too so it wasn't open for only a day or week. I know that it was formed in August/September because I joined after I failed my 1 hour glucose test.

audrinia · August 2013

I haven't been on the bump in at least a month. I actually logged on today to see if this group has started a fb group yet. I am on Facebook constantly. My July 2012 fb group is awesome. I joined it around 12 or 13 weeks. At the peak it was around 300 girls. Now it's a little over 200. The group is secret and you have to be invite to join, it doesn't show up in your newsfeed. We are all really close. One of my best friends now is another mom I met from that board. The admins go through the group once a month and delete everyone who wasn't an active poster in the past month.

PBP2002 · August 2013

So... what I'm gathering from this post is there isn't a Facebook group then?

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