"Get some decency! Who pulls out their tit and breastfeeds?"

MrsC88 · August 2013

My blood is boiling. Seriously.

A "friend" on facebook (she's the ex girlfriend of one of my good friends, and I never removed her from my friends list) posted this yesterday:

"First of all, you should not have a newborn baby THAT close to the action at a demolition Derby. Second of all, get some decency! Who pulls out their tit and breastfeeds!? Jesus."

Can you believe that?! I'm seriously so mad I could spit. Here's my response:

"Quite frankly, I pull out my tit and breastfeed - as you so eloquently put it. There is nothing indecent about feeding your infant wherever he or she happens to be hungry. My 3 month old doesn't just get hungry when I'm at home, and I sure don't deny him food when he's hungry. By law, breastfeeding mothers do not have to cover themselves. That doesn't mean I tear off my shirt in public, wave it around, throw my bra into a crowd and scream "look at me! I'm breastfeeding!" - of course not. I'm discreet and show only enough skin as necessary, which really isn't a lot of skin. Breastfeeding is not sexual. It is not indecent. It is simply the most natural way to feed an infant, and mothers should never be put in a position to have to cover themselves or apologize for feeding their child."

What do you think, did I overreact? Did I respond appropriately? I didn't respond to change the poster's mind, I responded because hopefully if another mother who struggles with public breastfeeding happens to read it, she will have some reassurance that there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeding in public. Know what I mean?

LPetra · August 2013

I would be livid by the post as well. It blows my mind that people actually think this way! I think you responded perfectly. Interested to see how she responds, or what others say.

kelly422 · August 2013

Nice response. Definitely time to delete that ignorant woman!

[Deleted User] · August 2013

I don't think you over-reacted, and I think your response was great.

Smartie26 · August 2013

Your reply was perfect. I want to e-punch that twat!

musicalmama5 · August 2013

Great response! It was very educational.:)

Hilaboo86 · August 2013

I think you did great. It wasn't outlandish. Good job.

MrsC88 · August 2013

She did reply, I can't copy it word for word because I deleted her from my friends list. But essentially, it was her saying she's not against breastfeeding in public, but you should cover up with a blanket because she doesn't want to walk past someone with their "whole boob out". She kept insisting that there was a discreet way to breastfeed, and "yanking out your whole boob" is offensive and disgusting. She said "it's not dinner for baby and a show for everyone else". I deleted her from my friends list because I don't have time for such immaturity. Oh, and I'll add that she is not a mother, so she has absolutely no experience with breastfeeding a child, so she really has no idea what it's like. She's also very immature.

Again, I didn't respond to change her mind - she has a lot of growing up to do. I responded because hopefully if a mother reads what I wrote, she'll find some reassurance and comfort in the fact that breastfeeding in public is nothing to be ashamed of. Who knows if it'll work, but it made me feel better.

bullybutt · August 2013

Yeah, I wouldn't have responded with that much courtesy either. I would have taken every opportunity to dig at her ignorance. I would love to hear what her (and others) responses were to your reply as well. But I'm sure she didn't have much to say after that!