I am livid

Andrewsgal · August 2013

Warning this could get long

So my kids have been in Atlanta with my inlaws since Sunday. They all flew home today. They were in their way to our house from the airport. We got a call about an hour ago an MIL wants permission to spank DD. So of course we say HELL NO. I ask to speak with DD because she is upset and I will calm her down. MIL hangs up on me. I call he back and she says they won't go anywhere until we let her spank DD. I say fine stay there we are on our way to pick her up.

We get to the parking lot to meet them and DD is a crying mess. She keeps saying Nana is going to hurt me. I get her calmed down, and get both the kids loaded into the car. DH gets their stuff.

MIL asks if we want to know what happened. DH says this is not a good time to talk because everyone is too upset. MIL says and I quote "that is why you are raising such a stupid brat"

Holy shit I hit the fan. We left and I texted her that they were no longer welcome at our house.

Sorry for typos. I am still shaking and on my mobile.

Deblondie1 · August 2013

Whoa! Holy shit I would I have lost it on her too. Good for you for not resorting to violence. What was YH's reaction?

Andrewsgal · August 2013

He told them to get a hotel. Right now he is just unbelievably angry. This is actually his step mom.

Andrewsgal · August 2013

No it's always been rocky but they have always been amazing over the top grandparents and my kids love them. I am so sad she thinks my DD is a brat. She is suposed to love her.

Deblondie1 · August 2013

How horrible. I can't imagine any 'infraction' would justify spanking or her reaction. I'm so sorry.

notreallyirish · August 2013

Did your DD hear? That is awful. So sorry.

meglew · August 2013

Wow.

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AimeeL85 · August 2013

OMG. These people sound like LUNATICS! Whether someone believes in spanking or not, they do not sound normal. I feel so bad for your DD sitting there thinking they were going to hurt her. That is seriously unbelievable. Has your DD told you anything about what happened?

LoriLee14 · August 2013

yeah, I want to know the whole story because I am curious. I have never understood why people feel the need to spank someone else's child. especially if they knew you were against it

roxy_jj · August 2013

I don't even have words. I would be livid too.

LoveBug0516 · August 2013

That is disgusting! How on earth did she think it was appropriate to spank your daughter? I can't imagine saying "nope, we aren't leaving until I can!" How is that behavior not bratty? One positive I see is that she called and asked. It could have been worse if she spanked and she told you afterwards. I still want to know what your DD did to warrant your whack job MILs reaction.

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

Omg! The spanking is one thing, that remark just blew me away. What the eff?! Who calls a kid that?

Minipenguin · August 2013

She keeps saying Nana is going to hurt me.

That makes me so sad. Omg. Your poor dd. What could possibly have happened to be that bad? I'm sorry.

notkateanymore · August 2013

I couldn't even imagine. I would have probably gotten in her face and quiet talked...which is when you know I'm livid. I'm sorry DD had to deal with that. Did she hear her call her a brat?

nekorayne · August 2013

My mouth is hanging open and for some reason I want to cry!!! This is horrible of her! I feed so bad for you DD. ::hugs:: you did the right thing and so did your DH. I'm so mad for you! How can she say that about a little girl! And not just any little girl, her granddaughter!

penguingrrl · August 2013

WTF??? I'm glad you got her. Are you positive she didn't spank first then call?

Andrewsgal · August 2013

I just got the whole story from DD and DS. Evidentially DD was helping DS close the cup holder on his carseat she caught his finger and it started bleeding. He yelled you did that on purpose (which he does when he gets hurt). He was crying and DD yelled it was an accident. I guess they were yelling back and forth and MIL wanted to spank DD for hurting DS. Even though they both admit it was an accident.

penguingrrl · August 2013

Oh for fucks sake. Wanting to beat a child for accidentally hurting her brother than fighting with him when they're overtired from traveling? Has this woman ever met a child before?

MountaineerMomma · August 2013

I have no words. What on the hell kind of behavior could warrant her 1) spanking your child or 2) calling her names!? I'm proud of you, because I'm pretty sure I would have totally lost it on her. Your poor dd.

Andrewsgal · August 2013

And bonus it was 6:00 when we picked them up they has not eaten since 10:00!!'

Andrewsgal · August 2013

Oh yes this is totally on them. I don't think this can be fixed!

kristen714 · August 2013

Wow! My heart started beating fast just reading this. I am really sorry your MIL completely overstepped and overreacted. I see lots of hugs in store for your DD tonight.

heaven81906 · August 2013

Wow that's terrible! I'm so glad you were able to get there and get your daughter out of that situation. My nana took my brother, 2 and I, 6 to the beach and told me to take him into the ocean alone. A wave knocked us both over and he lost his hat. I will never forget how she yelled at me; said my parents were going to be very angry when she told them. They were very angry but not at me! I hope your daughter didn't hear what she said about her.

My heart goes out to you and your little girl.

Lurker coming out of hiding by the way.

littlemomma10 · August 2013

Just reading your post made me mad!! I have no idea how I would handle that, but I know it wouldn't be pretty! I simply can not imagine a grandparent acting that way. So sorry for you and your DD!

Andrewsgal · August 2013

Oh and Emma seems no worse for the wear that girl is tough as nails. She also came home and I had totally redone her room into her quote "the one I always dreamed about zebra room" so I think that helped.

LoveBug0516 · August 2013

That makes it even worse. "You hurt your brother so now I hurt you..." Ugh I'm sorry this happened. I don't know how you or your DD can move on but I hope you all do what's best for you.

mexinugget · August 2013

wow that's crazy!!

jennip68 · August 2013

Oh, hellz no. Good for you...stand up for your kiddos!

MomIn2013 · August 2013

Yeah, for fuck's sake is about right. She sounds like a very poor excuse for a caregiver and I wouldn't leave my children in her care again. So sorry this happened, hope your DD isn't too upset by it.

kristen714 · August 2013

Glad she had a fun surprise waiting for her!

ETA Her new room.

jnksmom · August 2013

That is ridiculous. Let me hit you for accidentally hurting your brother. That makes perfect sense. Who doesnt feed young kids or themselves for that matter for 8 hours?? What the hell is wrong with people? I am sorry you had to deal with that. Glad DD is doing ok and loved her new room!

dairygirl19 · August 2013

WTH? That's horrible.

WTF does that?

I hope you never have to deal with her again.

It's sad she didn't have the common sense to know that overtired overtraveled kids fight and not feeding them for 8 hours doesn't help either. I can't even imagine. My own kid is a mess without food after 2 hours and a trip to Target.

Notwifezilla7 · August 2013

Have they gotten back into touch with you yet?

(You know, to apologize for being douchebags?)

This is beyond out of control. I would have a very hard time accepting anything but on the knees groveling for an apology because this is completely fucked up on all levels.

emeraldanchor · August 2013

Oh my goodness. I can't imagine. I just can't. Your poor kids for having to go through that! I would definitely be as upset as you are. I'm glad your dd seems to be okay though.

jak554 · August 2013

I don't blame you, this would make my blood boil and for an accident if all things. I hope my ILs do ask me on spanking and not do it without my permission (that I'd never give). H remembered FIL spanked him with a paddle for leaving his bike outside in the backyard against the fence instead of in the shed (wtf) and I hope he doesn't want to discipline DS for something stupid.

SallyAnneS · August 2013

Omg that is terrible. Seriously how could that have made sense in her mind, you hrt your brother soni willnhurt you. Digusting. And then to sit on the side of the road waiting for you to come pick them up. Your poor dd.

I don't know how you will ever be able to trust them again and your dd must be so shaken up. Good for you for remaining some what cool in the situation. Just terrible. (Sorry for typos)