Would you look?

Emeraldeyed315 · August 2013

I had a "severe 2nd degree tear" ... I'm debating looking but am totally terrified I'll be scarred for life. WWYD?

henderson1026 · August 2013

I'm too curious, I'd be looking.

CelticWife · August 2013

Nope. I never looked at mine. DH did, but I was too squeamish. (I didn't watch my babies actually coming out either.)

Emeraldeyed315 · August 2013

CelticWife said:

Nope. I never looked at mine. DH did, but I was too squeamish. (I didn't watch my babies actually coming out either.)

I didn't watch...but it wasn't offered. I wouldn't have wanted to this time. I did look at the placenta after though.

Sascha3 · August 2013

I tore with my first when I was a teenager. I never looked. I was terrified. I wouldn't look in the mirror when I pushed her out either. But I did make my husband take pictures of my c section this time...gnarly!!!!

jessilee15 · August 2013

I'm a doctor (not OB!) I've seen postpartum patients, however, and I have no desire whatsoever to see mine. I also do not want a mirror during labor, or to see the placenta. And I have advised my husband that he is welcome to look, but he's agreed he doesn't want to. It's all pretty gross, honestly. I know it'll go back to looking normal, so I see no reason to have that image in my head

J&Jaggies06 · August 2013

Nope. I didn't look at my tear last time either. I knew it hurt so it couldn't look good so I just left it at that.

danal613 · August 2013

I didn't the first time and don't think i will this time either.

gnomely · August 2013

No. I didn't the first time, and I won't this time. I didn't look at C when she was crowning either. I just...I just can't.

I did look at the placenta though. It really wasn't that gross.

Moosesoar · August 2013

Yes, and then I would cry.

henderson1026 · August 2013

I might watch the crowning - I'll decide in the moment. I definitely want to see the placenta!

catskitch · August 2013

They asked me if I wanted a mirror when I was pushing to see the progress, as if it would help me along or something. I declined.

DH took a pic of the placenta...it didn't freak me out, but I don't know why he did it.

Ktbug613 · August 2013

I think my mind would make me think it hurts worse than it does if I look at it....I don't think I will.

I do sort of want to see the placenta though.

WashingtonQueen · August 2013

I tore pretty bad and I looked. It sucked but really NBD. You can't tell at all after it heals.

piperjayne · August 2013

I didn't look for several weeks PP and I only had a "scrape".

Ktbug613 · August 2013

seyah said:

The placenta is something I don't want to see. Mine is bilobal, so it probably is going to look really freaky (and have multiple pieces) anyway.

what is a bilobal placenta?

MommyAmes2 · August 2013

With DS the nurse got the mirror and said to look. I looked and screamed at her to take it away. Not something I want to watch. H watched our kids be born, I prefer to not. I didn't look at the placenta either. I only tore with DD and it was minor, only needing one stitch. So I never had any desire to look.

Fitzkitten · August 2013

I don't want to see anything except my baby..no mirrors.

FeetFirst · August 2013

I looked the week after while healing, I had an episiotomy at the last minute because DS head was so big doc ( who fully supported letting me tear natural) said if he did not help it might have gone 3rd degree. I could barely even make out the stitches to be honest. It was not gross to me.

I was glad the doctor ended up helping out too cause later the nurse says to me "I am glad you let him do that, it was going to be a bad tear!" YIKeS! Glad I had no mirror either!

janneann1127 · August 2013

I had between first degree & second-degree tear. I'll admit, I looked yesterday. I didn't see anything out of the ordinary.. I couldn't even see where the stitches were. Maybe that's because I haven't shaved in like three months…

Soleil3 · August 2013

Soleil3 · August 2013

FeetFirst said:

I looked the week after while healing, I had an episiotomy at the last minute because DS head was so big doc ( who fully supported letting me tear natural) said if he did not help it might have gone 3rd degree. I could barely even make out the stitches to be honest. It was not gross to me. I was glad the doctor ended up helping out too cause later the nurse says to me "I am glad you let him do that, it was going to be a bad tear!" YIKeS! Glad I had no mirror either!

Tears heal better than cuts

melosch · August 2013

I am amazed and totally fascinated that my body can grow and birth a little human!!!

I plan to use a mirror as baby is being born and cannot wait to see what my placenta looks like.

I don't think looking at my lady bits afterwards will be on the agenda...they'll be swollen, bruised and beat up, but I know they'll heal and be normal again eventually. No reason to remind me of the beating my body took more than necessary!

Ktbug613 · August 2013

seyah said:

Ktbug613 said:

seyah said:

The placenta is something I don't want to see. Mine is bilobal, so it probably is going to look really freaky (and have multiple pieces) anyway.

what is a bilobal placenta?

Sorry, bilobed. It is split into two separate lobes instead of being one big blob.

Thanks for the clarification

kmichln · August 2013

Definitely no desire to look. I had to have an episiotomy with DS. I was kind of afraid to look. Don't want to see anything to do with that. Just my sweet baby at the end.

BellaOso · August 2013

No way, no day.

I didn't look last time. I'm not looking this time. It all goes back to feeling and looking pretty normal so why look and get all bothered about it.

caramia582 · August 2013

Nope I didn't look the first time and won't this time.

MinnesotaMomma91 · August 2013

I didnt watch my birth. They showed me my placenta but to be honestly i was so out of it i dont remember it. And i did look at my lady parts pp. I didnt rip, but i still wish i hadnt looked

NiksMama · August 2013

Nope. I have no desire to see my post labor lady bits.

caramia582 · August 2013

Soleil3 said:

this gif made me pee a little... thanks!

Critter015 · August 2013

I had a 2nd degree tear with DD and never looked at it. I am so excited that I didn't tear this time but I'm still not looking. DH saw the tearing and the stiching up last time and was pretty freaked out by it.

nnikki10 · August 2013

I'm so not looking. I think seeing It might make me feel like it hurts worse, if that makes sense??

amarissa85 · August 2013

Nope. I had an epi and never looked down to see my stitches. EVER!

lindsayanne14 · August 2013

At this point I don't think I want to see any of it, during or after. I'm pretty Squimish and think it would be better if I didn't!

Alma Perdik · August 2013

I never even thought about this before this post I probably won't look it freaks me out thinking about how my lady parts are going to stretch for baby in the first place I don't want to actually see it happening. I will probably take a look at the placenta after its delivered though and no I won't be looking at and tears!

lydsyjane · August 2013

Placenta: yes. Post labor lady bits: no.

[Deleted User] · August 2013

I wouldn't.

TurtleMomma · August 2013

The mirror was extremely helpful for me during labor because it helped me keep my eyes open and focused. Will do it again.

I haven't looked at my lady parts yet, but I plan to. I didn't have any tearing, magically, just a few "skid marks".

lydsyjane · August 2013

TurtleMomma said:
The mirror was extremely helpful for me during labor because it helped me keep my eyes open and focused. Will do it again.

I haven't looked at my lady parts yet, but I plan to. I didn't have any tearing, magically, just a few "skid marks".

I would like to have a mirror but considering I'm doing a water birth I don't think that'd work too well..

Mom2bois85 · August 2013

I dunno I had a first degree and I looked and wish I hadn't...

kkay1982 · August 2013

Nope nope nope. I don't want to see him come out, I don't want to see the placenta and I don't want to see any tears.

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