FFFC

msm261 · August 2013

My joke about the Challenge was wayyyy funnier so why should I give props when I wasn't. That should be read as a joke but it probably wasn't. I dunno maybe we would get along if I could learn how to be funny without offending. And learn to get your humor. I see us making it to the final challenge but not winning at this point.

mrsbhk22 · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:
Geez girl, you'd think you'd learn when I'm joking.

Stupid new bump broke my sarcasm font.

it's a joke not a dick, dont' take it so hard.

It's a joke not a dick. Don't take it so hard. BEST QUOTE EVER.

kbbgg · August 2013

I agreed with msm's point. Now I think she's kind of a zoltan.
FFFC: I told GG I was running to the store last night but really just drove around and stopped at a park to sit and smoke a cigarette in silence because I haven't had a minute alone this week. (I smoke on occasion after the minis are in bed or if im out with bffs. Always outside, and wash up afterwards. FFFC?) I usually get a lot of time to myself and this week I've lost my mind without that time.

Also, I don't really love chocolate.

msm261 · August 2013

kbbgg said:

I agreed with msm's point. Now I think she's kind of a zoltan. FFFC: I told GG I was running to the store last night but really just drove around and stopped at a park to sit and smoke a cigarette in silence because I haven't had a minute alone this week. (I smoke on occasion after the minis are in bed or if im out with bffs. Always outside, and wash up afterwards. FFFC?) I usually get a lot of time to myself and this week I've lost my mind without that time. Also, I don't really love chocolate.

Googled Zoltan. Nothing. Should I try urbandictionary? But thanks for agreeing initially. I think.

danabsd · August 2013

SpoofLeJones said:

danab_sd said:

SpoofLeJones said:

msm261 said:

Not drinking the hatorade. From lurking, I just figure I wouldn't like you. And today when I "put my foot in my mouth" it was no surprise to me that you jumped in the most condescendingly.. It's been entertaining.

Tell me about me. Am I cool? I must know. GUISE, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT ME NOW. Go ahead, I'm listening.

I've never seen a picture of your LO so I picture him as drunk baby. A part of me might actually be a little sad if I did see a picture and he didn't at all resemble drunk baby.

MY BABY IS A BOY. And he's not as cool as the one in my siggy, but I'll probably keep him anyways.

LOL. I super thought your had a girl. $:\$ ">

I fixed it.

msm261 · August 2013

As fun as this was, the car is ready. You can thank free wireless at Conicelli Honda for the contents of this thread. I will reiterate that it is okay that there is in fact a lurker who doesn't like Lois. I'll go back to lurkerdom til my kid starts doing something weirder than normal. Or you have a question about a kid that bites. Eff u eff u eff u ur cool eff u. I'm out.

Cheenomae · August 2013

msm261 said:

As fun as this was, the car is ready. You can thank free wireless at Conicelli Honda for the contents of this thread. I will reiterate that it is okay that there is in fact a lurker who doesn't like Lois. I'll go back to lurkerdom til my kid starts doing something weirder than normal. Or you have a question about a kid that bites. Eff u eff u eff u ur cool eff u. I'm out.

I do like your Challenge jokes and this for sure made me LOL.

miss50 · August 2013

on my way to work today i stopped by the library to pickup "Mindful Eating" while eating an a large cherry cheese danish.

::off to read 9 pages of confessions::

terri_doula2010 · August 2013

Stasi said:

msm261 said:

Stasi said:

LoisLayn23 said:

msm261 said:

I don't like the whole not trying but not preventing thing. If you are banging each other and not using protection then own it. There should be a better way to say it. Like "We are just having sex this month like a couple of 15 year olds who only received abstinence only education at school. So we will see how this works out for us in a few weeks." Then I'd like the concept better.

Yeah, I did own it. I thought I was pretty clear what we were doing.

:::shrugs::: we are not trying and not preventing. I mean, that's EXACLTY what we're doing. Humping and seeing what happens. We aren't pulling and praying. I'm just not getting obsessive about charting and only boning days 10-15 and then being irritable during the 2ww and crying over my negative pee stick.

Stop talking about me.

That's still trying to get pregnant. Just having a better mind set and not getting upset if it doesn't happen. I guess if people would leave out the not trying part and just we aren't preventing it would make more sense. And it's not just you personally. It's said by tons of people and it has always annoyed me, but maybe that's bc DH could walk past me in a towel when I'm off BC and I get knocked up.

I get where you're coming from...it is trying to get pregnant if you're sleeping with someone, not using protection, and know where babies come from

I'm just nervous because it took us 18 months to have Kate, and although it seems like the PCOS problems I was having aren't happening now, I worry that it's going to take forever again and then my kids will be further apart in age than I wished they would be.

Sounds pretty trivial typing it out like that, but we all have our shit right? ;;)

(I'm not caught up)

That doesn't sound trivial at all to me. It is your reality. I was basically NTNP when I got KU with DS...I was trying some things to fix my PCOS but I'd been told for almost 15 years that I'd never be able to conceive on my own so imagine my glee and suprise when I got KU without going through all the things so many have to go through to get pregnant.

With Hazel we were trying and when I got a postive OPK I was *so* excited that I called my mom and told her I was "a real girl."

MSM is out of line here, not you. Just because she has such an easy time getting KU that she doesn't understand everything that NTNP entails doesn't mean you should feel like your journey isn't as important.

terri_doula2010 · August 2013

msm261 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

msm261 said:

Stasi said:

LoisLayn23 said:

msm261 said:

I don't like the whole not trying but not preventing thing. If you are banging each other and not using protection then own it. There should be a better way to say it. Like "We are just having sex this month like a couple of 15 year olds who only received abstinence only education at school. So we will see how this works out for us in a few weeks." Then I'd like the concept better.

Yeah, I did own it. I thought I was pretty clear what we were doing.

:::shrugs::: we are not trying and not preventing. I mean, that's EXACLTY what we're doing. Humping and seeing what happens. We aren't pulling and praying. I'm just not getting obsessive about charting and only boning days 10-15 and then being irritable during the 2ww and crying over my negative pee stick.
Stop talking about me.

That's still trying to get pregnant. Just having a better mind set and not getting upset if it doesn't happen. I guess if people would leave out the not trying part and just we aren't preventing it would make more sense. And it's not just you personally. It's said by tons of people and it has always annoyed me, but maybe that's bc DH could walk past me in a towel when I'm off BC and I get knocked up.

Until you hop over to the TTGP board and you aren't trying if you aren't temping, charting, using OPKs, eating the right diet, testing at 9,10,11 dpo, and having an overall unhostile uterus.

If we were trying we'd be actively scheduling sex for days around ovulation and taking steps to increase our chances of conceiving. We're just having regular, married sex.

But I think we all understand that unprotected sex can result in a baby. So if you are fully letting semen in your vagina without contraceptives then you should assume you could get pregnant. To me this means you are trying to get pregnant. This is like saying I'm not sleeping but I'm not awake. And I think married sex is still married sex if you're preventing. Unless you ask the Duggars but that's a different thread.

But I think we all understand that you are being insensitive and should just stop.

And I have totally been in a place where I'm not sleeping but I'm not awake. If you haven't, that doesn't change the fact that I have.

Ignorance does not excuse acting rude.

Unem · August 2013

Poop nugget. I suck at this new site. Move along. Nothing to see here.

melody921 · August 2013

delaine0821 said:

I need to talk to DH about how overwhelmed I am trying to keep up with the house, the bills, the kids and all of the other stuff I'm dealing with but I keep finding a reason not to. It has been going on for months and I'm afraid he will take it the wrong way. He does help if I ask him ten times. I just need him to do it the first or second time. Or, even better, just do it without even involving me. That would be heaven.

Do men do this? My DH is great about things like doing the dishes, and he will obviously take care of the kids. But when it comes to things that stress me out around the house, it's like he doesn't even see the mess.

melody921 · August 2013

auroraloo said:

KellersPrag said:

I still don't have my daughter's birth certificate.

I've never ordered one. I don't really have a need for it right now and it's one more thing I'd have to keep track of. If I need one, I can go to any service center and have one in a snap. Is that weird? Why would I need it?

To get a passport?

terri_doula2010 · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

msm261 said:

What I meant by that is if I don't prevent, I get pregnant. It's not meant to be a brag or insensitive--it's just how my body works. So I could never say we're not trying bc if I went off bc and had sex, I'd probably be KTFU faster than I'd want to be. I do apologize if that was taken the wrong way by anyone trying. Or not trying. Or trying only on the second Sunday of months ending in ber. You guys can try or not try however you want. I just don't like at phrase.
Some of us could easily NTNP and not get pregnant from our husband's towel for months.

I did that for years with my Ex. BC messed me up so much that I went a few years without and didn't use condoms (didn't realize until it got worse that the reason condoms bothered me is a latex allergy), didn't PnP. Didn't get KU. I never WANTED to get KU by him, and we counted my infertility as enough BC. Apparently being incredibly unhappy in the marriage plus some level of infertility equals BC.

terri_doula2010 · August 2013

Banich4eva said:

Stasi said:

They've blocked After 6 and Zappos at work. I'm pissed I can't shop for shoes.

I'm even more scared that The Bump will be next...then I'll dies!

If I couldn't shop for shoes I would be really bored.

I chose to keep being able to run over wearing heels, so my shoe shopping is really boring...lots of "granny" shoes. The shoes that are cute, but good for my feet are so so expensive, so I've been relying more on discount sites and amazon...

Any good suggestions for shoe shopping sites?

I would love recommmendations for cute and good for feet shoes!! Please tag me so maybe I'll see it. Or a new post for shoes for me. I'm worth it, right????

terri_doula2010 · August 2013

I'd love to be able to have sex with reckless abandon and not get pregnant. I'm just saying its hard for me to relate to NTNP bc I could never do that. I'm sure there's other ladies here who would also get KTFU "not trying" rather quickly. I'm fighting semantics here (I don't like a phrase) while others are upset with how quickly someone could get KTFU not trying. There's tons of women like me. Have you not seen the amount of reality shows relating to unplanned pregnancies? They weren't trying either and somehow managed to conceive.

This is going to show up as still quoting because my computer doesn't like me. Whatevs.

You have changed your tune a little. When you first started in this thread it didn't sound like semantics. It sounded insensitive. I don't think anyone here was offended that you can get KU so easily. Good for you. It sounded like you were belittling the process other people go through. And you kept it up even after people explained repeatedly what NTNP means and how different it is from trying (I love the afternoon couch nap analogy, whoever that was).

msm261 · August 2013

Okay I'm home. And I was thinking about this thread in the way home. I think I'm a little too much tosh.0 and not enough Oprah for this board; however, I stand by my opinion that it is a stupid phrase. I think some people say it as a protective layer. Like if they they aren't pregnant by such and such time they can say to friends and family that "we weren't trying though." It has a relation to the kid that says they didn't study for a test when they did so if they do fail they can say well I told you I didn't study. This doesn't mean that ALL people who say they are NTNP would be sad or upset if they didn't get pregnant or that ALL people use it as protection. I know you guys all hate personal stories, but in the past couple years I've heard that phrase used too liberally. Nearly all those couple were KTFU within a few months. A blessing for sure. When DH and I were trying we just didn't say anything to anyone. That's our style. Some people I know blast on FB they are ttc. I just don't like the phrase. You can love it and say it the UPS man for all I care. But if you say it to me, I get ever so slightly annoyed. Now please go through all my previous posts and copy and paste all the contractions bc regs like to do that too. But that is how I feel about that PHRASE at this current moment.

msm261 · August 2013

And I never woulda beat a dead horse but I'm being chastised for something that happen six pages ago and then turned into an online feud to pass the time. I know a movie thingy of something hitting a horse is in my near future. Oh yeah, a gift or something.

melody921 · August 2013

MRoxy0628 said:

I still have anxiety every time I leave LO with anyone other than my husband for more than an hour. (P&R)
Me too. Except for her daycare provider, but she's been with her for 6 months. Here are a couple of my FFFC (if these even qualify as such): I don't like shopping for shoes. I much prefer clothes. It's probably because I have big feet, am tall and hate heels. I don't think I'd have grandparents watch my child, even if they were available to.

Neither would I. I like that we pay for a service so if we're dissatisfied with something we can speak up without it ruining a family relationship. And I like that the kids get to interact with other LOs.

melody921 · August 2013

thechimichanga said:

Afunky6 said:

msm261 said:

Stasi said:

LoisLayn23 said:

msm261 said:

I don't like the whole not trying but not preventing thing. If you are banging each other and not using protection then own it. There should be a better way to say it. Like "We are just having sex this month like a couple of 15 year olds who only received abstinence only education at school. So we will see how this works out for us in a few weeks." Then I'd like the concept better.

Yeah, I did own it. I thought I was pretty clear what we were doing.

:::shrugs::: we are not trying and not preventing. I mean, that's EXACLTY what we're doing. Humping and seeing what happens. We aren't pulling and praying. I'm just not getting obsessive about charting and only boning days 10-15 and then being irritable during the 2ww and crying over my negative pee stick.

Stop talking about me.

That's still trying to get pregnant. Just having a better mind set and not getting upset if it doesn't happen. I guess if people would leave out the not trying part and just we aren't preventing it would make more sense. And it's not just you personally. It's said by tons of people and it has always annoyed me, but maybe that's bc DH could walk past me in a towel when I'm off BC and I get knocked up.

/dead )

I'm the same way lol.

You have one kid.

lmao

msm261 · August 2013

IndigoVader said:

msm261 said:

Okay I'm home. And I was thinking about this thread in the way home. I think I'm a little too much tosh.0 and not enough Oprah for this board; however, I stand by my opinion that it is a stupid phrase. I think some people say it as a protective layer. Like if they they aren't pregnant by such and such time they can say to friends and family that "we weren't trying though." It has a relation to the kid that says they didn't study for a test when they did so if they do fail they can say well I told you I didn't study. This doesn't mean that ALL people who say they are NTNP would be sad or upset if they didn't get pregnant or that ALL people use it as protection. I know you guys all hate personal stories, but in the past couple years I've heard that phrase used too liberally. Nearly all those couple were KTFU within a few months. A blessing for sure. When DH and I were trying we just didn't say anything to anyone. That's our style. Some people I know blast on FB they are ttc. I just don't like the phrase. You can love it and say it the UPS man for all I care. But if you say it to me, I get ever so slightly annoyed. Now please go through all my previous posts and copy and paste all the contractions bc regs like to do that too. But that is how I feel about that PHRASE at this current moment.

FWIW, I like Tosh.O and HATE Oprah. I'm not sure that's even a point here..... :-S

I like turtles.

Stasi · August 2013

terri_doula2010 said:

Stasi said:

I get where you're coming from...it is trying to get pregnant if you're sleeping with someone, not using protection, and know where babies come from

I'm just nervous because it took us 18 months to have Kate, and although it seems like the PCOS problems I was having aren't happening now, I worry that it's going to take forever again and then my kids will be further apart in age than I wished they would be.

Sounds pretty trivial typing it out like that, but we all have our shit right? ;;)

(I'm not caught up)

That doesn't sound trivial at all to me. It is your reality. I was basically NTNP when I got KU with DS...I was trying some things to fix my PCOS but I'd been told for almost 15 years that I'd never be able to conceive on my own so imagine my glee and suprise when I got KU without going through all the things so many have to go through to get pregnant.

With Hazel we were trying and when I got a postive OPK I was *so* excited that I called my mom and told her I was "a real girl."

MSM is out of line here, not you. Just because she has such an easy time getting KU that she doesn't understand everything that NTNP entails doesn't mean you should feel like your journey isn't as important.

Thanks @terri_doula2010 that's a really nice thing to say

I try to downplay it, but it is tough..and my brain does play tricks on me because last time we tried to have a baby, it was hard on my and my DH. So, FX this time

As for shoes...I go to the Walking Company for sandals and such. Naots are my go to, they are cute (enough for me) and last a long time. I also like Salt Waters and LOVE Kork Ease for something that's a little dressier.

jbBeans · August 2013

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive.

But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different.

So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all.

:ar!

jbBeans · August 2013

Fine. Rora, you can stay. IV, give me some chocolate and we'll call it good. Spoof, the memory of peen will always give you a pass. Everyone else--I accept "tokens of appreciation" in USD, CAD, alcohol and chocolate.

msm261 · August 2013

auroraloo said:

jbBeans said:

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive. But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different. So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all. :ar!

Hey, I agreed with cheese before you did. I suck for not having C's birth cert, don't I? Damnit.

I probably came off as insensitive bc I don't see how me saying I get pregnant easily on a board where everyone has a baby was that horrible. You all got pregnant somehow bc you have a Baby (or else you wouldn't be at Sept 2012). So I made a joke tongue in cheek about my ability to get pregnant easily hence why I think you are either trying or not trying. No grey area. I think it would probably be considered insensitive to say not to take a joke like a dick. What if someone on here's husband has ED!? I can see If I went on a board where people are childless or cannot get pregnant, but by the grace of god we all did. So I really wasn't trying to make people feel self conscious. And for the record if you are NTNP, I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

msm261 · August 2013

mands629 said:

So, who won the netbattle? Chimi/Lois/Spoof or MSM? I came back after walking away because this debate hit me hard. Personally, I think it's a draw and at the end you're just flinging shit back and forth. FFS, it's like you both are in grade school yelling that the other has koodies and "I'm rubber you're glue whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you." Grow up people! It sucks how mommy wars and defensive everyone (and I mean everyone here) gets about their TTA/TTC/NTNP/TTTC/IF issues here. Add that to the growing list of mommy wars: Working moms vs SAHM, BF vs FF, c/s vs no drugs in the delivery room. Life is messy. Not everyone can get KU walking by their H. Not everyone wants a baby and actively tries to prevent it but ends up with them anyways. Not everyone can get pregnant "normally" (however you define "normally" and IF). Not everyone can can eloquently say something online. Not everyone reads the same thing the same way. And not everyone always want to know what is going on with Mirask's vag. Both sides of this debate have passion, but you were still flinging mud making it so neither one is in the "right."

After basically lurking for years let me have my 15 minutes. At this point, it's just kinda fun and I have no desire to move my ass from the couch. I really don't care anymore, but we are moving so DH took back the cable boxes. Thank goodness for Internet right? I haven't sat like this for 3 ish years. I need entertainment at the expense of others. That was also tongue in cheek. Just that last sentence. To be clear.

msm261 · August 2013

msm261 said:

auroraloo said:

jbBeans said:

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive. But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different. So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all. :ar!
Hey, I agreed with cheese before you did. I suck for not having C's birth cert, don't I? Damnit.

I probably came off as insensitive bc I don't see how me saying I get pregnant easily on a board where everyone has a baby was that horrible. You all got pregnant somehow bc you have a Baby (or else you wouldn't be at Sept 2012). So I made a joke tongue in cheek about my ability to get pregnant easily hence why I think you are either trying or not trying. No grey area. I think it would probably be considered insensitive to say not to take a joke like a dick. What if someone on here's husband has ED!? I can see If I went on a board where people are childless or cannot get pregnant, but by the grace of god we all did. So I really wasn't trying to make people feel self conscious. And for the record if you are NTNP, I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

It's not what you say it's how you say it.

Says the pot.

msm261 · August 2013

If I only knew how to post those movie gift things. Everyone picture your fave one here. Oh yeah I'm funny yeah.

jbBeans · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:
Does anyone else think that you can read things much differently if you have the first 10 pages to form an opinion? I was just thinking about this in Rachel's thread about sanctimommies. I read it after the fact and with 25 replies and my opinion is different than most of the ones before mine. Maybe having some context and some other replies makes you think differently.

Maybe that could've happened here before it got all intense?

Yes, I do think this can happen. Sometimes I think we can misinterpret or have a knee-jerk reaction, perhaps influenced by a personal sensitivity, and then we reconsider when we see other reactions that are different from ours.

msm261 · August 2013

Not trying at all. I guess I'm not trying currently preventing.

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msm261 · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

Not trying at all. I guess I'm not trying currently preventing.

Is this a joke I'm supposed to laugh at? I'm just trying to learn about you so we're on the same page since you know me already.

That's a defense mechanism when you realize what I said might make others on this board think I was funny or right or not On your side. So you ask me a question like you seriously don't know to make me feel stupid. But you cannot make me feel stupid without my own consent (yes I know the real quote is inferior). I guess my FFFC is I don't like your posting style. Which in all likelihood means I'd probably either not like you in real life or actually have a similar personality to you. I think we don't like things in others we see in ourselves. Whoa deep.

msm261 · August 2013

cheeseandrice said:

This:

movie thingy
gift
oh.
predictable

wasn't passive aggressive?

And unless I'm wrong. That's what I said. Not how I said it.

msm261 · August 2013

Omg you said it's not what I said it is how I said it. Then you posted things I said. That's confuse-balls.

msm261 · August 2013

I'll say it bc I don't care about my bump popularity. You seem to like to use sarcasm and condescending tones whenever you get the chance. It doesn't matter really the topic or what was said, you just enjoy to say mean funny-ish Comebacks. Witty even at times. No one calls you out though bc on the bump I've noticed that people that post a lot rarely get called out. Too many people assume you have a ton of allies and don't want to soil their reputation. I don't care. I don't like your posting style. You don't have to like mine either. I don't know who YOU actually are though. So all things considered if I met I you at a park we might get along. The horror.

BPer · August 2013

msm261 said:

auroraloo said:

jbBeans said:

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive. But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different. So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all. :ar!

Hey, I agreed with cheese before you did. I suck for not having C's birth cert, don't I? Damnit.

I probably came off as insensitive bc I don't see how me saying I get pregnant easily on a board where everyone has a baby was that horrible. You all got pregnant somehow bc you have a Baby (or else you wouldn't be at Sept 2012). So I made a joke tongue in cheek about my ability to get pregnant easily hence why I think you are either trying or not trying. No grey area. I think it would probably be considered insensitive to say not to take a joke like a dick. What if someone on here's husband has ED!? I can see If I went on a board where people are childless or cannot get pregnant, but by the grace of god we all did. So I really wasn't trying to make people feel self conscious. And for the record if you are NTNP, I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

Not true. There's at least one woman on this board who adopted her September baby. Again, it's HOW you say things.

msm261 · August 2013

Until 430. Kids come home. What a drag.

msm261 · August 2013

msm261 said:

auroraloo said:

jbBeans said:

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive. But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different. So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all. :ar!

Hey, I agreed with cheese before you did. I suck for not having C's birth cert, don't I? Damnit.

I probably came off as insensitive bc I don't see how me saying I get pregnant easily on a board where everyone has a baby was that horrible. You all got pregnant somehow bc you have a Baby (or else you wouldn't be at Sept 2012). So I made a joke tongue in cheek about my ability to get pregnant easily hence why I think you are either trying or not trying. No grey area. I think it would probably be considered insensitive to say not to take a joke like a dick. What if someone on here's husband has ED!? I can see If I went on a board where people are childless or cannot get pregnant, but by the grace of god we all did. So I really wasn't trying to make people feel self conscious. And for the record if you are NTNP, I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

Not true. There's at least one woman on this board who adopted her September baby. Again, it's HOW you say things.

And who made you the offended police? ASK her personally if I offended her. She's not even here to defend herself either way ffs.

Hyaline · August 2013

msm261 said:

auroraloo said:

jbBeans said:

Holy Hannah. This thread is absurd. And yet, I'll share my opinion. I think Msm (who has definitely been around for a while, by the way--no alliepony reincarnation here so put away the pitchforks) stated a lame, semantics-based FFFC/more like a UO followed up by a joke that some found offensive. Then she did a fairly terrible job defending her point and assuring us that she wasn't trying to be insensitive. But I agree with cheese that while yes, a lot of women here have struggled with fertility issues and so it's decent for everyone to be sensitive to that, it's also not really fair to not let others talk about their own reality which might be very different. So in other words, everyone in this thread sucked except for cheese. And I'm the person who's more awesome than everyone and gets to grade you all. :ar!

Hey, I agreed with cheese before you did. I suck for not having C's birth cert, don't I? Damnit.

I probably came off as insensitive bc I don't see how me saying I get pregnant easily on a board where everyone has a baby was that horrible. You all got pregnant somehow bc you have a Baby (or else you wouldn't be at Sept 2012). So I made a joke tongue in cheek about my ability to get pregnant easily hence why I think you are either trying or not trying. No grey area. I think it would probably be considered insensitive to say not to take a joke like a dick. What if someone on here's husband has ED!? I can see If I went on a board where people are childless or cannot get pregnant, but by the grace of god we all did. So I really wasn't trying to make people feel self conscious. And for the record if you are NTNP, I hope you get the outcome you're hoping for.

Point the first: I believe we actually have at least one adopted bebs here on S12 (Crene? though I think she's currently expecting, too). Regardless, it's not like you couldn't still face fertility issues or have a difficult time with issues you faced in the past. Honestly, I didn't think much of what you'd said up to now was that offensive, but this kinda is. "You have your baby, so get over it" is not very nice.

And here's the thing I think maybe you don't get about the NTNP mentality--at least what mine was--I wasn't hoping for any outcome at all! Does that help the phrase make any more sense to you? Can we call it the que sera, sera clause?

msm261 · August 2013

Why am I not blasting anyone else? Other ppl said things to me and I considered their opinions bc they said it in a respectful manner. She begins convos craptastically. That's a word like confuse balls for ya.

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