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WhtRssnGrl · August 2013

It's Friday and I'm going to have a slow day at work, so let 'er rip!

JayandEmm · August 2013

I have one! I took ds to the pool yesterday, and it was pretty empty, only 2 other people. The only life gaurd on duty was this hot blonde guy that always talks to ds when he sees us. When ds and I got through swimming, we got out and sat on a bench in the shade to dry off; Hot blonde lifegaurd went over and sat with us and said hi to ds as usual. I don't usually talk much to him, but this time we actually had a conversation. I kept picking up on him subtly flirting, but I ignored it and continued on talking anyways, thinking maybe that's just his personality. He asked me if I wanted a soda, and I told him I didn't have cash since my purse was in the locker. He offered to buy it for me. I should have said no thanks, but I was sucked in by boyish good looks, I guess. Then he told me that when he talks to ds, he really just wanted to talk to me! I paused (too long) and told him I was flattered, but I was married.

FFC: I had to talk myself out of turning the car around and going back there. I'm a happily married woman, but I was tempted.

Then I fantasized about it all afternoon.

I'm not telling H.

brandyleighxx · August 2013

@JayandEmm - wow, what a way to start of the discussion!

Mine's pretty tame.... I'm ditching the monitor soon. His bedroom is right next to us and I can hear him if he cries without the monitor. I think the monitor makes me more paranoid.

CRey13 · August 2013

My family thinks I'm cold hearted but when D falls down I usually clap and cheer instead of rushing to his side and saying "oh no! My poor baby!"(grandma).

My way he doesn't cry unless he is truly hurt and then I tend to him as needed.

Cheerilee · August 2013

CRey13 said:
My family thinks I'm cold hearted but when D falls down I usually clap and cheer instead of rushing to his side and saying "oh no! My poor baby!"(grandma).

My way he doesn't cry unless he is truly hurt and then I tend to him as needed.

We don't clap and cheer, but we carry on as usual, talking to her and whatnot. If she cries, we know she's hurting.

DH's grandma freaks out if she so much as bumps her head lightly. She actually started crying because DD's fingers were slightly in the potato and onion box. She wasn't hurt at all.

I don't have anything, yet. It's 5:30am, I've been up since 5:00 but was up at 4:00 to feed DD. I'm too tired to function!

Crossingfingers · August 2013

Oh @CRey13 We don't make a big deal about it either. I was at a playground talking with another mom this spring and her 7 year old came over because he fell down and scraped his hand. She looked at it and said, "OOOh you even got a little blood! High Five!!" That my friend, is amazing parenting. And I'm not even being sarcastic.

SpruceGrouse · August 2013

CRey13 said:

My family thinks I'm cold hearted but when D falls down I usually clap and cheer instead of rushing to his side and saying "oh no! My poor baby!"(grandma). My way he doesn't cry unless he is truly hurt and then I tend to him as needed.

I do the same, I don't think it is cold hearted at all. I knew a kid that would fall and hardly bump his knee and it was as if he got his leg cut off, he screamed so loud that I went to him because I thought he was really hurt. When I got to him he said he was waiting for his mom and continued screaming. His mom ran to him so fast and looked panicked, scooped him up and told him she would put in a movie for him and get ice cream. I don't want my child to get that way. Also, when DS falls, he looks to me for a reaction and you can tell he is deciding if he should cry or not. If he is really hurt, I know it.

alrighthamilton · August 2013

This is so gross I still shudder thinking about it. We have a tiny little Chihuahua, Stevie, that we rescued about 5 years ago. We don't know how old he is but the vet thinks pretty old, like 13 or so. He has approximately 3 snaggly teeth left and because of this whatever he eats comes right back out, he picks it up again, it comes out, lather, rinse, repeat. It takes him like 10 minutes to eat a mouthful of food. I put Kate's highchair on a plastic tablecloth and then shake the excess food off when she's done eating. I always let Stevie graze on the floor leftovers before I do, and it takes him forever. Yesterday Kate was done eating, so I put her on the floor to play with her toys while I began cleaning up. I kept glancing at her from the kitchen, and she seemed content to just sit and play. I heard her laughing, and on closer inspection, I could see her sitting on the tablecloth with Stevie and picking up the food that had fallen out of his mouth, and popping it into her own mouth. Poor Stevie was just looking at her, like WTF? And then he'd take another mouthful. She would wait until he picked it up and only eat the pieces that had fallen out of his mouth. Another example of how I need to watch her better.

melmarie26 · August 2013

I miss a lot of our regulars. It's like, we need a one year Bumpie reunion!

Whenever people describe someone as "Salty or Crunchy", I always think about Crunch n Munch.

I've been using the phrase "all the ______" a heck of a lot more since our UO post yesterday.

I wanted to murder my DH this morning at 5am. He woke me up to help him find his keys bc he was late for work. Actually, the whole effing house was up at 5:15! He had a tone that insinuated that I did something with them. The house is destroyed. Clothes out of drawers and everything. Shit everywhere. Seriously. I asked where his 2 spare keys were.

He said, "on the same key chain."

My 10 year old daughter ended up finding them in an empty cardboard box. He put them on top and they fell inside.

I'm going to let his wet clothes sit in the washer today, tonight and get all funky. Just out of spite.

Dammit.

Crossingfingers · August 2013

When I found out I was pregnant with one of the kids I scheduled an abortion. Obviously I cancelled the appointment because I couldn't do it, but it still eats at me.

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

When I found out I was pregnant with one of the kids I scheduled an abortion. Obviously I cancelled the appointment because I couldn't do it, but it still eats at me.

wow. I'm in the grey area about abortion but thinking about things like this gives me chills.

Crossingfingers · August 2013

Baker_Bride said:

When I found out I was pregnant with one of the kids I scheduled an abortion. Obviously I cancelled the appointment because I couldn't do it, but it still eats at me.

wow. I'm in the grey area about abortion but thinking about things like this gives me chills.

*I'm in the grey area as well. I held a friend's hand when she went through it, but realized that it was not for me in that situation. Thank God.

gollywollypog · August 2013

We have some heavy fffcs today.

Mine : I married the wrong person.

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

gollywollypog said:
We have some heavy fffcs today.

Mine : I married the wrong person.

Oh, Hun. I'm sorry to read that.

bigbootyjudi · August 2013

gollywollypog said:

We have some heavy fffcs today. Mine : I married the wrong person.

I feel like this too sometimes, only I'm not married. Do you care to expand? Is there someone else you should have married? or just anyone else?

I grew up with my ex. We were best friends from when I was 6-15 years old, when we started dating. Those few years of dating were awesome, but we were young and he was two years older, so when he graduated and I was left behind in HS, things got a little choppy...too choppy for a 17 and an 19 year old who had never been in a serious relationship before. The last year or so of our relationship was awful, we broke up left and right, and after I miscarried, we broke up for good. But, I can't help but think of how it would have been if we would have just toughed it out. He truly was my best friend, knew everything about me, and when we weren't fighting, treated me like absolute gold. We fought about the dumbest things; high school things; he didn't call me soon enough, he said "k" in a reply to a text, stupid. He's married now with two kids and I still check out his FB sometimes, just to make sure he's doing alright.

I really feel like he was my "soulmate." We were just so close and had known each other so long. He was my first love...and maybe that's why I feel like that.

That's awful to admit.

Crossingfingers · August 2013

bigbootyjudi said:

gollywollypog said:

We have some heavy fffcs today. Mine : I married the wrong person.

I feel like this too sometimes, only I'm not married. Do you care to expand? Is there someone else you should have married? or just anyone else?

I grew up with my ex. We were best friends from when I was 6-15 years old, when we started dating. Those few years of dating were awesome, but we were young and he was two years older, so when he graduated and I was left behind in HS, things got a little choppy...too choppy for a 17 and an 19 year old who had never been in a serious relationship before. The last year or so of our relationship was awful, we broke up left and right, and after I miscarried, we broke up for good. But, I can't help but think of how it would have been if we would have just toughed it out. He truly was my best friend, knew everything about me, and when we weren't fighting, treated me like absolute gold. We fought about the dumbest things; high school things; he didn't call me soon enough, he said "k" in a reply to a text, stupid. He's married now with two kids and I still check out his FB sometimes, just to make sure he's doing alright.

I really feel like he was my "soulmate." We were just so close and had known each other so long. He was my first love...and maybe that's why I feel like that.

That's awful to admit.

These both make me a little sad. I know I married the wrong person the first time. I cried SO MUCH about feeling like a disappointment when I filed for divorce, but it ended up being *one of the best choices I ever made. I know he remarried the same year that I did and they don't have kids yet, but I hope he is as happy as I am now.

gollywollypog · August 2013

@bigbootyjudi, I'm sorry. That's really hard to admit. You have a tangible reminder.

For me, I don't have anyone else in mind. It's not that there's anyone else, any ex, that I feel would have been a "right" choice.

Things just aren't right. But it's the bed I made for myself, you know? I could write a novel, but I won't. I'm just pretty despairing of my marriage right now.

poppyseed1017 · August 2013

gollywollypog said:
We have some heavy fffcs today.

Mine : I married the wrong person.

Why do you think that?

I'm ovulating and want to bone every attractive man I see.

bigbootyjudi · August 2013

gollywollypog said:

@bigbootyjudi, I'm sorry. That's really hard to admit. You have a tangible reminder.
For me, I don't have anyone else in mind. It's not that there's anyone else, any ex, that I feel would have been a "right" choice.
Things just aren't right. But it's the bed I made for myself, you know? I could write a novel, but I won't. I'm just pretty despairing of my marriage right now.

I mean, I guess I just never really moved on. I thought we would get back together after we broke up, but he met his wife, and I never got that closure. I moved on and of course, love SO, but our relationship is different, obviously because he wasn't my best friend my entire life.

If you need to write a novel, go for it. Sometimes you just need to let it all out. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. (hugs!)

jodegaard · August 2013

Dang, you guys, these are heavy.

@gollywollypog, I'm so sorry. I wish I hadn't read that. My heart hurts for you. Is there more to that statement that you care to share?

jodegaard · August 2013

gollywollypog said:
@bigbootyjudi, I'm sorry. That's really hard to admit. You have a tangible reminder.
For me, I don't have anyone else in mind. It's not that there's anyone else, any ex, that I feel would have been a "right" choice.
Things just aren't right. But it's the bed I made for myself, you know? I could write a novel, but I won't. I'm just pretty despairing of my marriage right now.

Hugs!

WhtRssnGrl · August 2013

gollywollypog said:

@bigbootyjudi, I'm sorry. That's really hard to admit. You have a tangible reminder.
For me, I don't have anyone else in mind. It's not that there's anyone else, any ex, that I feel would have been a "right" choice.
Things just aren't right. But it's the bed I made for myself, you know? I could write a novel, but I won't. I'm just pretty despairing of my marriage right now.

I'm so sorry to read this. It makes me so sad. I have to admit that there are times I've thought the same thing.

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

I'm vaguely disappointed I'm not actually KU even though it would not be the right time for us. H was really
disappointed. It makes me want to take out my IUD...which may need to happen anyway because I'm feeling anemic with it even though I take plenty of iron. I can't seem to keep up with the blood loss.

poppyseed1017 · August 2013

I think it's totally normal to question how your life would have been different sometimes. GWP, does he know you feel this way? Do you think counseling would help?

AutumnLeaves2 · August 2013

Aww @gollywollypog, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Big hugs to you

sammiesjd414 · August 2013

These are pretty serious ones today. I hope that everyone finds what they are looking for or peace with what they have. I have been in relationships that just aren't right, and it weighs on you.

My FFFC (my first one) is that I could NEVER be a stay at home mum. I admire those of you who do it. I have had one day away from DD for the past two weeks and am losing my patience. I don't have another day away for another two weeks, and am dreading it a little. I want to love every minute with her, and truly don't want to go back to work full time, but I need a break more often. It makes me feel like I don't appreciate my daughter.

alrighthamilton · August 2013

I have another. Way lighter than the others posted on here. My mom is a gourmet cook/chef, not for her profession, but she's awesome at it. She made this delicious lemon curd/blueberry dessert with a pecan shortbread crust for someone's birthday at work and dropped off a mini one for us on her way in. I have already eaten half of it, and let Kate eat bites as well. And in a couple of hours, we are going to Ribfest where we will consume lots of fatty food, plus a beer or two. I have a wedding to attend tomorrow and my dress is pretty tight. I'm assuming I may only gain a pound or so after today and it won't show up by tomorrow. At least that's my hope.

Manda-Kay · August 2013

I put him in front of the TV in his pnp so he can watch Wheel of Fortune so I can do the dishes. I've done this for a week and have had a clean kitchen for a week. I've never had a clean kitchen for more than 2 days. It's a win-win. He loves watching the wheel go in a circle and I love not living like a slob (as much).

piphigirl · August 2013

brandyleighxx said:

Mine's pretty tame.... I'm ditching the monitor soon. His bedroom is right next to us and I can hear him if he cries without the monitor. I think the monitor makes me more paranoid.

Join the no monitor club! It's pretty awesome.

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

piphigirl said:

brandyleighxx said:

Mine's pretty tame.... I'm ditching the monitor soon. His bedroom is right next to us and I can hear him if he cries without the monitor. I think the monitor makes me more paranoid.

Join the no monitor club! It's pretty awesome.

I've never even used a monitor of any kind.
/:)

AggieDaner · August 2013

A few of these confessions make me heavy-hearted. Without overstepping my bounds or insinuating that I know better than you, may I suggest some of you take a look at the idea of the sunk cost fallacy? This article has kind of a mean title, but if you ignore it and read the info it sums up my thoughts pretty succinctly. You can't get the past years back no matter what you do, so maybe it would be good to really, really dig deep and analyze whether more time with your current partner will actually make your life happier and better, or whether you're (in essence) just throwing good money after bad.

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-the-sunk-cost-fallacy-makes-you-act-stupid.html

Again, this isn't trying to tell anyone to leave their spouse or partner, that's not my place. Maybe it will help you analyze your options a little more clearly? I hate to think of you guys feeling trapped in a life of disappointment and regret. :-(

piphigirl · August 2013

@Baker_Bride - We barely used ours. It was helpful when she was like 6 weeks-3 months and woke up mid-nap for us to put her paci back in. The we ditched the paci, I had to shush-pat through a few naps, and she didn't wake in the middle any more. We really had no use for the monitor.
Also, our house is tiny, so there's that.

piphigirl · August 2013

@Baker_Bride - Also, it's nice to know that someone I consider a good mom also doesn't have a monitor. I know people who have more than one video monitor in their child's bedroom PLUS one in the play room. They talk like it's the bare minimum precaution that any good parent would take, which makes me wonder.

Crossingfingers · August 2013

I never bought a monitor. My kids (and I) survived! Although I do think some of you get some pretty cute pictures and videos from them!

cedenton · August 2013

We have a video monitor, but I turn the sound off when we're in our bedroom, 2 feet from his nursery, We have a 3 story split level so we can't hear him if the TV is on and we're downstairs. We also use it if we're doing stuff outside in the yard or sitting on our patio or the neighbor's deck since he goes to bed at 7pm.

sammiesjd414 · August 2013

Becc77 said:
I have another. Way lighter than the others posted on here. My mom is a gourmet cook/chef, not for her profession, but she's awesome at it. She made this delicious lemon curd/blueberry dessert with a pecan shortbread crust for someone's birthday at work and dropped off a mini one for us on her way in. I have already eaten half of it, and let Kate eat bites as well. And in a couple of hours, we are going to Ribfest where we will consume lots of fatty food, plus a beer or two. I have a wedding to attend tomorrow and my dress is pretty tight. I'm assuming I may only gain a pound or so after today and it won't show up by tomorrow. At least that's my hope.</blockquote

I say go for it! Any extra weight won't show up by tomorrow, and you're teaching your daughter to share!

cedenton · August 2013

The video monitor was worth the $20 at the garage sale just for these pics!

Mrs. Rohde · August 2013

Holy cow these are some heavy FFCs. I'm so sorry girls! I've got one to add that's super shameful and one I completely regret. In college I was going through a rough patch. Not sure how it all started but I pulled an Officer and a Gentleman and had my roomie covinced I was KU. As well as my BFF and her mom who both came to "help me". It's sickening and I can't believe I did something like that. It was completely out of character and thankfully did not go on for very long before I sought help for my issue. The air was cleared and all was fine. It's been over 11 years but I am still disappointed with myself for behaving so ridiculously. I was convinced that when the time was right for me that I would never be able to get pregnant or worse because of what I did. Thankfully that was not the case but I still feel sick to my stomach if that situation is mentioned. Ugh. So stupid.

alrighthamilton · August 2013

Scout2005 said:

nobadwriting said:

@sammiesjd414 I used to think I wanted to SAH, but I actually did it for a month and realized I needed to work. I only work part time so I don't feel like I'm away too often. I love my job, and I like having a little extra money for DS. Kudos to all the SAHMs because it's hard.

I think working out of the home part time is the best of both worlds.

I WAH full time, and the kids are here with me, and honestly there are days where I just sit here and wonder WTF I was thinking.

I agree. I work 15 ish hours per week, 2 four hour days in the office and the rest from home whenever I can fit it in. There is no way I could work from home when I'm with Kate by myself. I love being able to keep my foot in the door in my career field, but having time at home with her. Also, having the little breaks during the week where I go into the office is great for my sanity.

CrazyDaisy8 · August 2013

I ate a 3lb bag of gummy ears over the last 24 hrs.

Cheerilee · August 2013

I think I was meant to marry someone else. My ex and I got along a lot better and had more in common, he was just a cheating bastard so I ended things. When DH and I hit bottom, I question if I was meant to be with my ex-roommate who is now married to a friend and having a baby they named after a Twilight character.

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