UO Thursday

love4b · August 2013

CoffeeMonster19 said:

skidderdo said:

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

I hate when people think Google can replace a medical education, residency, and years of clinical experience. I get it, YES, you do "know" your child better than me. But I "know" about health, illness, development and wellness better than Google and Joe Shmoe's Ridiculous Opinions website. I think healthcare needs to be absolutely a TEAM effort, with each side listening careful and being open/honest.

I think blindly following everything that one's pediatrician says is just as dangerous as relying on Google alone. I think it's possible and important to be an educated parent and keep in mind that poor and outdated advice is out there, even from medical professionals.

Totally agree. It think that until you've had an experience (or more than one) where the doctor was completely wrong, it's really easy to buy into the whole 'doctor knows best' idea. Doctors are human - for the most part, they're really hard working, overtired humans who don't have time to spend hours reading medical studies because they're busy saving people's lives. It's all about balance - be as well-informed as possible and work with a doctor who listens to you. It's totally a team effort. I'm of the mindset that you DO know your own body and your baby better than anyone - even a doctor - and if something's off, it's worth investigating.

MKC12/22/2006 · August 2013

I don't think it's my "job" to get dinner on the table just because I'm home for the summer. I do have something ready to eat sometimes, but other times DH picks up something, grills, etc. I would rather spend my time playing with my cute baby while I can instead of having to ignore him while I cook. That said, DS seems to need a lot more attention than some of my friend's babies, so maybe if he was content on his own longer I would cook more!

NicoleSB80 · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

suedell said:

My uo- thank you notes that are just a pic of the kid and a generic thanks for the gift printed on the card. I took the time to get you a gift and it just feels so ungrateful. Maybe I am old fashioned but I always write a personal thank you for every gift I get.

My mother would kill me if I didn't write personal thank yous for EVERY gift given to me and LO. I'd sooner die than skip this. Email doesn't count. You need a pen and a stamp.

My
Mother is still confirming that I wrote thanks for her friends and family who bought baby gifts. They were done MONTHS ago but she has to be sure cause I would surely go to hell if one person was missed.

JSS1002 · August 2013

Grace0609 said:

Apparently I am the basis for lots of people's UO's, so this is more like a FFFC for me:

I sometimes don't shower if I am going to be home with my kids all day and not planning on going anywhere. And I enjoy just being lazy like that.

AND, gasp!, my kids sometimes have boogers on their faces, have wet diapers and look dirty. Yep, they're 3mo, 2yo and 4yo, and I don't have the energy to change them every time they get dirty, and my 2yo throws a tantrum when I change his diaper, so I try to minimize the diaper changes.

No, CHOOSING to have a lazy day and not shower is totally different than "ZOMG, having a baby is so hard, you have no idea, I mean, I don't even get time to shower." THAT"s what bugs me.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

letranger said:

I thibk it is silly that WMs think they know what SAHMs life is like because they had a maternity leave.

I'm confused. Isn't staying at home for 3 months being a SAHM for 3 months? Or no because I have a planned return to work? I would absolutely say that I was a SAHM with my 2 kids. DH is off every summer and is a SAHD during that time....or is he not? I guess don't get what you're saying here.

CanukMam · August 2013

letranger said:
I thibk it is silly that WMs think they know what SAHMs life is like because they had a maternity leave.

Are you talking the 6 WK 'maternity leave' you guys get in the US because in Canada we get 1 year and I think I have a pretty good idea what its like to be a SAHM by that point.

MKC12/22/2006 · August 2013

CanukMam said:

letranger said:
I thibk it is silly that WMs think they know what SAHMs life is like because they had a maternity leave.
Are you talking the 6 WK 'maternity leave' you guys get in the US because in Canada we get 1 year and I think I have a pretty good idea what its like to be a SAHM by that point.

Yes- I'm home for 5 months due to lucky timing and being a teacher. I'd say I know what it's like to SAH, and I also am pretty sure it's not for me! Props to those that can and want to, though.

CoachAP · August 2013

xtineelaine said:

Another example...We haven't had our 4 mo checkup yet but if he recommends starting cereal I am not going to because of the research I have done. Edit: I just wanted to add I wouldn't blindly follow advice from anyone, even if I was paying then a lot of money.

That's my point - maybe you should find a pediatrician who's views are in line with yours. you pay alot of money to see him and for this advice and his experiences.

on a different topic, was your research was about cereal not being nutritional/ beneficial and therefore are choosing to not give it to your child? If so how will you know if you LO is allergic to oats/wheats/barley/rice, etc. Pretty important to find that out before jumping to table food that may be made with these products. So, again that might just be an example of where i would trust my pediatrician's advice based on his years of experience.

wiggles527 · August 2013

I don't think wikipedia is a reliable source of information for anything and I roll my eyes whenever I see people site it

kittaywhiskers · August 2013

Grace0609 said:

Apparently I am the basis for lots of people's UO's, so this is more like a FFFC for me:
I sometimes don't shower if I am going to be home with my kids all day and not planning on going anywhere. And I enjoy just being lazy like that.
AND, gasp!, my kids sometimes have boogers on their faces, have wet diapers and look dirty. Yep, they're 3mo, 2yo and 4yo, and I don't have the energy to change them every time they get dirty, and my 2yo throws a tantrum when I change his diaper, so I try to minimize the diaper changes.

I don't think that's so bad. I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I can't stand not having a shower so I drape a towel across my body and hold LO and we shower together. When I finish cleaning her I hand her off to daddy or lay her in her rock n play next to the shower in her towel so I can clean myself (I don't like the harsh chemicals touching her so I wash her first). I know lots of people disagree with that method so maybe my UO is I think it's ok to shower with LO. The towel creates enough friction and I know she will never slip out of my hands.

EDIT: It's humid where I live and we have no AC so that attributes to me dying for showers every day. I don't want to smell like an Amish person LOL.

lilbit0910 · August 2013

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

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KLL22 · August 2013

cece2682 said:

My unpopular opinion is that I hate unpopular opinion posts lol too negative for me

Speaking of @BDCRAM unpopular opinion.....

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

JSS1002 · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

That sounds a lot more to me like the other mom being insecure or upset about something in her own life.

the whole EBF vs FF conversation is so old and tired to me, I'm totally bored with it. Feed your kid. The end.

lilbit0910 · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

That is uncalled for on your friend's part. My issue is when EBF moms blatantly act like they are better than us FF moms. For example i have a friend on IG whom ONLY post about breast feeding and how she is super mom. To each their own just stop rubbing it in all our faces. You never know if someone out there tried to BF and was unable to for xyz reasons.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

OhSewCrafty said:

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

That sounds a lot more to me like the other mom being insecure or upset about something in her own life.

the whole EBF vs FF conversation is so old and tired to me, I'm totally bored with it. Feed your kid. The end.

Agreed and agreed. But to that Mom, for reasons completely out of my control, I was gloating. You just can't win. :-/

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

lilbit0910 said:

OhSewCrafty said:

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

That is uncalled for on your friend's part. My issue is when EBF moms blatantly act like they are better than us FF moms. For example i have a friend on IG whom ONLY post about breast feeding and how she is super mom. To each their own just stop rubbing it in all our faces. You never know if someone out there tried to BF and was unable to for xyz reasons.

See, that's not cool. I mean, there is nothing wrong with being proud of yourself for getting over issues and succeeding (I was damn proud that I was able to breastfeed my preemie son after exclusively pumping in the NICU for 2 weeks) but its what you do with that pride. Don't throw it around where it could hurt others.

Kate_C · August 2013

Switching gears, I think the lyrics in that Robin Thicke song "Blurred Lines" are seriously offensive. I don't understand why that song gets so much play on the radio.

JSS1002 · August 2013

Kate_C said:

Switching gears, I think the lyrics in that Robin Thicke song "Blurred Lines" are seriously offensive. I don't understand why that song gets so much play on the radio.

God, and that is so frustrating because if you ignore the lyrics, IT IS SUCH A CATCHY SONG. But I agree -- I mean, it is basically about date rape. Bad enough that it gets so much radio-play, but it is also the theme song for some TV ad (can't remember what).

JSS1002 · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

JSS1002 said:

OhSewCrafty said:

lilbit0910 said:

I hate when EBF moms try and boast about being so much better than FF moms. I mean to each their own but you are not baby jesus LMFAOOO . ( none of you ladies of course).

another pet peeve is when my child-free acquaintances boast about how much they do NOT want or like kids. again to each their own but soooo annoying!!!! lol

As an EBF Mom, I hate when people assume that when I talk about BFing that I'm gloating. (And I'm totally not talking about you! It just links to your UO.) A friend called me "boob nazi" because I BF in public -- as if I was only doing it to rub it in people's faces. Another time, I was visiting friends and said "I think G is hungry, gotta go feed her" and the response from someone in the room was, "I get it, I get it....you breastfeed. Hooray for you, super Mom."

HUH?!?!

That sounds a lot more to me like the other mom being insecure or upset about something in her own life.

the whole EBF vs FF conversation is so old and tired to me, I'm totally bored with it. Feed your kid. The end.

Agreed and agreed. But to that Mom, for reasons completely out of my control, I was gloating. You just can't win. :-/

ALso agreed; she clearly had a chip on her shoulder about something. Not your fault/problem.

JSS1002 · August 2013

In GENERAL, I cannot stand the "mommy martyrdom" that is so so so prevalent among mothers... I don't really even know how else to explain it, but you know it when you see it.

NicoleSB80 · August 2013

Grace0609 said:
Apparently I am the basis for lots of people's UO's, so this is more like a FFFC for me:
I sometimes don't shower if I am going to be home with my kids all day and not planning on going anywhere. And I enjoy just being lazy like that.
AND, gasp!, my kids sometimes have boogers on their faces, have wet diapers and look dirty. Yep, they're 3mo, 2yo and 4yo, and I don't have the energy to change them every time they get dirty, and my 2yo throws a tantrum when I change his diaper, so I try to minimize the diaper changes.

I shower everyday but rarely get dressed, do makeup or take my hair down from a ponytail.

Also, my kid is naked (with diaper) 90% of the time.

xtineelaine · August 2013

CoachAP said:

xtineelaine said:

Another example...We haven't had our 4 mo checkup yet but if he recommends starting cereal I am not going to because of the research I have done.

Edit: I just wanted to add I wouldn't blindly follow advice from anyone, even if I was paying then a lot of money.

That's my point - maybe you should find a pediatrician who's views are in line with yours. you pay alot of money to see him and for this advice and his experiences.

on a different topic, was your research was about cereal not being nutritional/ beneficial and therefore are choosing to not give it to your child? If so how will you know if you LO is allergic to oats/wheats/barley/rice, etc. Pretty important to find that out before jumping to table food that may be made with these products. So, again that might just be an example of where i would trust my pediatrician's advice based on his years of experience.

Unfortunately my first 3 choices of pediatricians Medicaid panels were full so I went with who I was assigned to. I like the office because it is clean and the staff is friendly. I am fortunate however that I have a very healthy lo and only need to see him for immunizations.

I am choosing to skip cereals at 4 months because of the WHO recommendations to wait to start foods until 6 months. I am going to start with something like avacado. Like a pp said, if you space out new foods you can detect an allergy.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

Kate_C said:

Switching gears, I think the lyrics in that Robin Thicke song "Blurred Lines" are seriously offensive. I don't understand why that song gets so much play on the radio.

God, and that is so frustrating because if you ignore the lyrics, IT IS SUCH A CATCHY SONG. But I agree -- I mean, it is basically about date rape. Bad enough that it gets so much radio-play, but it is also the theme song for some TV ad (can't remember what).

I have never heard that song.

FrecklesInside · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

I agree! I've showered every day since LO was born (except maybe once or twice when I didn't feel like it). I put her in the bathroom in her RnP while I shower. I don't get why it is so hard. Some mamas have fussier babies who don't want to be put down and that makes it more difficult, but you can still put them in the RnP for 5 minutes or take them in the shower with you (I know some people are uncomfortable with this, but I've showered with LO and she is 100% secure).

My UO: I really struggle to understand surrogacy. I can't comprehend carrying a child and then just being able to give him/her up. I am especially confused by it when the child will be in the surrogate mother's life. Wouldn't you always know in your heart that it is your child? I understand that it is a selfless act to help others who are struggling to have children on their own, but I still really struggle with the concept and act.

ETA: I'm focusing more so on traditional surrogacy where the surrogate is genetically the mother, not gestational surrogacy. I feel the same way about both, but when talking about knowing the child is yours, I'm speaking of traditional surrogacy.

Kate_C · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:
JSS1002 said:

Kate_C said:

Switching gears, I think the lyrics in that Robin Thicke song "Blurred Lines" are seriously offensive. I don't understand why that song gets so much play on the radio.

God, and that is so frustrating because if you ignore the lyrics, IT IS SUCH A CATCHY SONG. But I agree -- I mean, it is basically about date rape. Bad enough that it gets so much radio-play, but it is also the theme song for some TV ad (can't remember what).

I have never heard that song.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3461215
Addresses the "rapey" nature of the song

FutureMrsCAF · August 2013

@OhSewCrafty I've never heard this song either! I kind of live in a music bubble and I like it in here lol.

skidderdo · August 2013

Kate_C said:

OhSewCrafty said:
JSS1002 said:

Kate_C said:

Switching gears, I think the lyrics in that Robin Thicke song "Blurred Lines" are seriously offensive. I don't understand why that song gets so much play on the radio.

God, and that is so frustrating because if you ignore the lyrics, IT IS SUCH A CATCHY SONG. But I agree -- I mean, it is basically about date rape. Bad enough that it gets so much radio-play, but it is also the theme song for some TV ad (can't remember what).

I have never heard that song.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3461215
Addresses the "rapey" nature of the song

Yikes. I give that song an F. Just terrible. That guy should be slapped. ::::glad to be an NPR nerd::::

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

New UO. Blurred Lines is terrible! I don't understand what is catchy about it and he's full of shit if he says its not about objectifying women.

ClandestineX · August 2013

I dislike it when people treat the internet like a high school yard. I dislike it when grown women make fun of other women and their situation, no matter how crazy it sounds.

I guess it is my old school ways, treat others with respect. Oh my.

Arguments aren't bullying. Disagreements aren't bullying. Making fun of someone for doing something they wouldn't do is bullying. Making fun of someone spelling and calling them names is bullying.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

ClandestineX said:

I dislike it when people treat the internet like a high school yard. I dislike it when grown women make fun of other women and their situation, no matter how crazy it sounds.

I guess it is my old school ways, treat others with respect. Oh my.

Arguments aren't bullying. Disagreements aren't bullying. Making fun of someone for doing something they wouldn't do is bullying. Making fun of someone spelling and calling them names is bullying.

I guess what confuses me is when someone posts something that is tounge in cheek, sarcastic, or silly and people respond with silly gifs or old jokes or what have you, why suddenly everyone gets sensitive. If you're (the general you) going to post something crazy, there is a certain amount of crazy you should expect back. Very, very rarely have I seen a genuine post from a poster get out of control. More often than not, its the trolls, MUD, or just plain AW/weird stuff that gets negative responses.

That being said, name calling and flaming for absolutely no reason isn't appropriate.

ClandestineX · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

ClandestineX said:

I dislike it when people treat the internet like a high school yard. I dislike it when grown women make fun of other women and their situation, no matter how crazy it sounds.

I guess it is my old school ways, treat others with respect. Oh my.

Arguments aren't bullying. Disagreements aren't bullying. Making fun of someone for doing something they wouldn't do is bullying. Making fun of someone spelling and calling them names is bullying.

I guess what confuses me is when someone posts something that is tounge in cheek, sarcastic, or silly and people respond with silly gifs or old jokes or what have you, why suddenly everyone gets sensitive. If you're (the general you) going to post something crazy, there is a certain amount of crazy you should expect back. Very, very rarely have I seen a genuine post from a poster get out of control. More often than not, its the trolls, MUD, or just plain AW/weird stuff that gets negative responses.

That being said, name calling and flaming for absolutely no reason isn't appropriate.

Each person has a level of crazy. What she posted in her original post wasn't crazy. Sure, to some it sounded like it was bragging a bit. To her, she honestly didn't see it that way. What she wrote about being a stripper or whatever, why was that even brought up in the conversation? Like I said to her original problem.. people judge, you just have to keep going. That was all that needed to be said, but nope. This, that, and the other needed to be brought up.. then ridiculed back and forth among one another for almost five pages. Then being made fun of for spelling, being called dumb for not being able to quote or spell right. None of that was necessary.

She wasn't a troll, she wasn't a fake account. it wasn't made up.

That being said, other posters get jumped on too because women on here want to take things literal so they can have a huge flaming thread going, because they are bored or maybe they like shit like that.

Whether or not you like someone, you do not need to stoop so low to call her names and make fun of what she did, being a stripper, for example. If her spelling is bad, perhaps correcting her in a respectful way would get somewhere, as well as quoting.

I do not know why it is so hard.. why it is looked down upon to be respectful to someone on the internet. This is not 4chan.

ClandestineX · August 2013

Grace0609 said:

@clandestinex This is The Bump. This is THE nicest, softest, cushy board that exists on The Bump. To the point there aren't really all that many interesting discussions that go on here. Please don't stiffle the wackiness that hit the board yesterday. We didn't talk about sleep or poop or spit up for a few minutes.

I am all for fun threads and threads that do not literally demean someone. What I saw yesterday was just sad, not in the sense of me being sad, but in the sense of how people who claim to be grown, acted.

I am glad we all stopped talking about sleep or poop or cereal, but I wouldn't trade it with what went on yesterday, at all. If you have to do that out of boredom then there is something wrong.

Kate_C · August 2013

ClandestineX said:

Grace0609 said:

@clandestinex This is The Bump. This is THE nicest, softest, cushy board that exists on The Bump. To the point there aren't really all that many interesting discussions that go on here. Please don't stiffle the wackiness that hit the board yesterday. We didn't talk about sleep or poop or spit up for a few minutes.

I am all for fun threads and threads that do not literally demean someone. What I saw yesterday was just sad, not in the sense of me being sad, but in the sense of how people who claim to be grown, acted.

I am glad we all stopped talking about sleep or poop or cereal, but I wouldn't trade it with what went on yesterday, at all. If you have to do that out of boredom then there is something wrong.

With the thread gone now, I can't look back but I don't think think the stripping thing was brought up to be mean. It was in response to something said about not working. I don't think anyone made fun of the fact that someone did that line of work. Everyone is entitled to earn a living. [I'm just jealous of people who have the body for that.]

But to get back to the point- there were admittedly some comments that were too personally insulting yesterday and I suspect those stemmed from a belief that it was MUD. The majority of it was just questioning the perceived inconsistencies in the stories. Most of us lead comparatively boring lives and have a hard time fathoming some of those experiences, KWIM?

The people involved appear to have handled it and moved on though so why are we still going over it?

P.S. for those with paragraph issues on apple devices: hard return twice.

kittaywhiskers · August 2013

ClandestineX said:

OhSewCrafty said:

ClandestineX said:

I dislike it when people treat the internet like a high school yard. I dislike it when grown women make fun of other women and their situation, no matter how crazy it sounds.

I guess it is my old school ways, treat others with respect. Oh my.

Arguments aren't bullying. Disagreements aren't bullying. Making fun of someone for doing something they wouldn't do is bullying. Making fun of someone spelling and calling them names is bullying.

I guess what confuses me is when someone posts something that is tounge in cheek, sarcastic, or silly and people respond with silly gifs or old jokes or what have you, why suddenly everyone gets sensitive. If you're (the general you) going to post something crazy, there is a certain amount of crazy you should expect back. Very, very rarely have I seen a genuine post from a poster get out of control. More often than not, its the trolls, MUD, or just plain AW/weird stuff that gets negative responses.

That being said, name calling and flaming for absolutely no reason isn't appropriate.

Each person has a level of crazy. What she posted in her original post wasn't crazy. Sure, to some it sounded like it was bragging a bit. To her, she honestly didn't see it that way. What she wrote about being a stripper or whatever, why was that even brought up in the conversation? Like I said to her original problem.. people judge, you just have to keep going. That was all that needed to be said, but nope. This, that, and the other needed to be brought up.. then ridiculed back and forth among one another for almost five pages. Then being made fun of for spelling, being called dumb for not being able to quote or spell right. None of that was necessary.

She wasn't a troll, she wasn't a fake account. it wasn't made up.

That being said, other posters get jumped on too because women on here want to take things literal so they can have a huge flaming thread going, because they are bored or maybe they like shit like that.

Whether or not you like someone, you do not need to stoop so low to call her names and make fun of what she did, being a stripper, for example. If her spelling is bad, perhaps correcting her in a respectful way would get somewhere, as well as quoting.

I do not know why it is so hard.. why it is looked down upon to be respectful to someone on the internet. This is not 4chan.

It's hard to not think she's a stripper when she's 19, her baby daddy is a 45 year old lawyer buying her jags and then she runs to whine about it on the internet. I feel bad for her because of her naivety in her situation but someone speaking their opinion isn't bullying. The thread got nasty when she started name calling herself.

love4b · August 2013

Grace0609 said:

@clandestinex This is The Bump. This is THE nicest, softest, cushy board that exists on The Bump. To the point there aren't really all that many interesting discussions that go on here. Please don't stiffle the wackiness that hit the board yesterday. We didn't talk about sleep or poop or spit up for a few minutes.

I am all for fun threads and threads that do not literally demean someone. What I saw yesterday was just sad, not in the sense of me being sad, but in the sense of how people who claim to be grown, acted.

I am glad we all stopped talking about sleep or poop or cereal, but I wouldn't trade it with what went on yesterday, at all. If you have to do that out of boredom then there is something wrong.
With the thread gone now, I can't look back but I don't think think the stripping thing was brought up to be mean. It was in response to something said about not working. I don't think anyone made fun of the fact that someone did that line of work. Everyone is entitled to earn a living. [I'm just jealous of people who have the body for that.] But to get back to the point- there were admittedly some comments that were too personally insulting yesterday and I suspect those stemmed from a belief that it was MUD. The majority of it was just questioning the perceived inconsistencies in the stories. Most of us lead comparatively boring lives and have a hard time fathoming some of those experiences, KWIM? The people involved appear to have handled it and moved on though so why are we still going over it? P.S. for those with paragraph issues on apple devices: hard return twice.

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love4b · August 2013

Nope. Still no separate paragraphs.

love4b · August 2013

Separate paragraphs test using soft return command...

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

ClandestineX said:

OhSewCrafty said:

ClandestineX said:

I dislike it when people treat the internet like a high school yard. I dislike it when grown women make fun of other women and their situation, no matter how crazy it sounds.

I guess it is my old school ways, treat others with respect. Oh my.

Arguments aren't bullying. Disagreements aren't bullying. Making fun of someone for doing something they wouldn't do is bullying. Making fun of someone spelling and calling them names is bullying.

I guess what confuses me is when someone posts something that is tounge in cheek, sarcastic, or silly and people respond with silly gifs or old jokes or what have you, why suddenly everyone gets sensitive. If you're (the general you) going to post something crazy, there is a certain amount of crazy you should expect back. Very, very rarely have I seen a genuine post from a poster get out of control. More often than not, its the trolls, MUD, or just plain AW/weird stuff that gets negative responses.

That being said, name calling and flaming for absolutely no reason isn't appropriate.

Each person has a level of crazy. What she posted in her original post wasn't crazy. Sure, to some it sounded like it was bragging a bit. To her, she honestly didn't see it that way. What she wrote about being a stripper or whatever, why was that even brought up in the conversation? Like I said to her original problem.. people judge, you just have to keep going. That was all that needed to be said, but nope. This, that, and the other needed to be brought up.. then ridiculed back and forth among one another for almost five pages. Then being made fun of for spelling, being called dumb for not being able to quote or spell right. None of that was necessary.

She wasn't a troll, she wasn't a fake account. it wasn't made up.

That being said, other posters get jumped on too because women on here want to take things literal so they can have a huge flaming thread going, because they are bored or maybe they like shit like that.

Whether or not you like someone, you do not need to stoop so low to call her names and make fun of what she did, being a stripper, for example. If her spelling is bad, perhaps correcting her in a respectful way would get somewhere, as well as quoting.

I do not know why it is so hard.. why it is looked down upon to be respectful to someone on the internet. This is not 4chan.

I wasn't referring to any post or poster specifically. If you were referring to yesterday's posts, my response wasn't in reference to that specifically.

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